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should i runaway from my mom for my dad who malested me?
my mother is constantly talking about my father and me because now she knows we talked after he malested me ....my dad says that i can runaway and come live with him but i am scared but on the other hand i want to get away from my motyher although i love her ahe is a pain in the a@! so im not sure if i should goim torn i have not seen my dad in almost three years and since i have not seen him i have not seen my brothers or sisters tell me what i should do please
Before i lose my mind!!!!!!
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I just want to add my HELL NOOOOOO!!!
If your dad wants to build a relationship with you, he can build it in the therapists office. He has a lot of proving to do before I would be in the same room alone with him.
As for your brothers and sisters, invite them to come and visit you at your Mom's.
Hey, give your mom a break. It's not easy to be a good parent, but I can tell you, if your angry with her because she is keeping you in line, she's doing her job and it's all because she loves you more than anything else in the world. Take her bitching as a compliment.
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Stay with your mother. She may be a pain in the ass, but she's your mother.
Your father molested you and who knows if it's safe to go and live with him. Of course he's going to tell you everything is fine, but that doesn't mean you should believe him.
Stay with your mom. Talk out your problems with her. But honestly, from what you said, your problems don't sound too bad with her.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Ok, so basically you know what you're going to do already. Either you want to be molested, or you want to stay safe.
I'm sorry but do you really prefer to be sexually abused rather than hearing some complaining from your mom?
So you want people to tell you what to do? Honestly if you can't make a clear decission about this by yourself, then how are you gonna do it in the future? And how can you be "torn"?? Your mom provides for you, she cares for you, she loves you, but once she says something, the first thing you want to go do is stay with the "father" who sexually harasses you and abusses you?
really?
Anyway if i were you i wouldn't even think of going to your father. If I had a "father" like that, i'd disown him. It's absolutely disgusting.
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you have got to be crazy. no. this is not a legitimate option. your mom's being a parent. parents have to be assholes. its their job. now put the worst mental image possible in your head of your father and what he did to you. now ask yourself, whats the smart thing to do? your sick fuck of a dad has ulterior motives, and I'll come out and say it "she looked great in a bathing suit back then, wonder what she looks like now...." let me be more vulgar, he's looking to tap that ass! listen sweetie, men are not like this, he is scum. animals don't even act like that, a real father would die before he let anything happen to his baby girl. This is disgusting, and I'm infuriated. report his ass, put him in prison, unless you're in a blue state where they have special prisons for diddlers and bad cops, he'll be in general pop. they'll fuck him up. the only thing in my mind worse than what he's done is genocide. I'm sorry that you had to grow up without a real male father figure, I'm sorry that this heinous shit happened to you, and most of all I'm sorry that I can't get my hands on him and torture the fuck out of him before I kill him. But please, for the love of god don't run away from your mother, she loves you more than you can understand now.
-Gunner.
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Why would you run back to someone who molested you? Whether he's your father or not, that's a really stupid idea.
He's done it before, and I would bet my life that he'll do it again. And what he's doing is illegal anyways. Asking you to run away? No. If he wants you in his life and in his custody, he has to fight for you through the court system.
Your mom may be a pain in the ass, but she's worth living with so that you're protected and safe. The obvious choice would be to stay with her rather than to go to your dad's so he can get in your pants again.
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Your Dad is dangerous.
I'm not saying that because he molested you. Obviously, that is a HUGE problem, but here is the even bigger problem:
Your Dad is telling you to break the law, to run away and probably get him in a LOT of trouble. Maybe even have him sent to jail for allowing, and encouraging you, a minor who is not in his custody, to run to him.
Think of how frightened your mother will be.
Think of what will happen to your brothers and sisters if your father is brought to court, or to jail.
Think of how stupid, selfish and wrong it is of your father to encourage you to do something that could hurt and endanger so many people.
Your father is dangerous, because he’s telling you to do something dangerous and dumb. He’s might also be dangerous because he’s molested you the past as well.
Don’t listen to him.
Try to get some counseling and outside adult help for you and your mom, but DON’T listen to him. His advice sucks, and he compltely wrong encourage you to run to him.
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