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I am 13 and want to have sex with my girlfriend. She said that she is ready. Should I do it. And it is legal i searched it, the legal age is 13. Should Ii avoid the vagina because of STD's. Please Help!!!!!!!
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You shouldn't have sex at all. No matter how 'ready' you think you are, you're wrong. Sex is an adult decision that comes with adult consequences. You are in no way an adult.
Sex can bring on a lot of complications such as pregnancy or STDs & AIDS if you're not careful. Your partner and yourself may be virgins, but there is always a chance that either of you can have an STD or AIDS through birth.
If you're not ready for a child or a sexually transmitted disease, you should probably refrain from sex. You're a child yourself and shouldn't be thinking about having sex anyways. This is a stupid idea and I wouldn't go through with it if I were you. Sex is to be between people who love each other, and I can guarantee that if you decide to go through with this, you'll regret it almost 100% after & you'll wish that you waited.
So grow up & wait. Sex shouldn't be rushed, especially when you're 13. Besides, you have plenty of time to have sex. Why don't you worry about school & yourself first? There's no need to rush to grow up.
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No, you should to it.
It is NOT legal in the U.S.
Yes, you should avoid sex because of STDs.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Why do you want to have sex now? Why now? Why not 5 years later? Have you thought about and discussed with your gf what you are going to do if you get her pregnant? Seriously, you need to ask yourself these things. Also, if she does get pregnant, how are YOU going to support it? Are you adult enough to quit school and get a job and work full time to support a wife and a child because a child in a 2 parent family is what's best. Are you in this for a long term relationship? What is YOUR idea of a long term relationship? A year, 6 months? How long? Then discuss with her what how long you see yourself in the relationship and then ask her how long she sees herself. PLEASE PLEASE, think these questions over and discuss them with her first.
Also, there are lots of other ways to express love without sex. I encourage you to obstain from sex and find better ways to express your feelings towards one another. Besides, just because you both "feel" you are ready, doesn't make it so. Haven't there been times your emotions (feelings) have fooled you and caused you to act irrationally?
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13.
you may think you are old and mature now, but in a few years you will understand that right now you are not ready, and neither is she. i can tell your not ready because your asking if you should avoid the vagina. kiddo, if you are having sex, you cant quite avoid the vagina. give yourself a couple of years. find a girl who you TRULY LOVE. your going to end up with std's in a few years if you start having sex now. sorry if anything i said was harsh i just truly believe you should not be having sex at that age! most people start towards the end of high school, beginning of college. not in 7th or 8th grade. PLEASE DONT. bye!
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Okay, you CLEARLY are not mature enough to have sex. Enjoy your youth. What you're experiencing is hormones. Everyone has them, so learn how to control yours.
And really? You say that you 'researched' the age, huh? Well, according to this chart:
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Nowhere could I find that 13 year olds can have sex. So, you would be having sex illegally.
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if i was in your situation i wouldn't. you're too young for this yet. did you talk about what would happen if she were to get pregnant? there's always a chance no matter how much protection you use. would you take the chance of being at father at 13 just for a few minutes of pleasure? just think about it. and if you're asking if you should here then you're obviously not ready, when you're ready you won't need to ask anyone because you'll be sure. what's the rush to lose your virginity? wait for someone you love and been with for awhile who deserves it.
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If this is yours and hers first time then a std is not an issue. What is an issue is you both may regret it later. Another issue is starting out this early is a bad thing. If you are already having intercoarse how many partners would you have at 18? Also just because you avoid a vagina does not mean you will not get an std. You must use protection. This is a decision you two have to make and i don't think it is a good idea. But what I think may not matter to you.
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