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I am 13 and want to have sex with my girlfriend. She said that she is ready. Should I do it. And it is legal i searched it, the legal age is 13. Should Ii avoid the vagina because of STD's. Please Help!!!!!!! (link)
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Why do you want to have sex now? Why now? Why not 5 years later? Have you thought about and discussed with your gf what you are going to do if you get her pregnant? Seriously, you need to ask yourself these things. Also, if she does get pregnant, how are YOU going to support it? Are you adult enough to quit school and get a job and work full time to support a wife and a child because a child in a 2 parent family is what's best. Are you in this for a long term relationship? What is YOUR idea of a long term relationship? A year, 6 months? How long? Then discuss with her what how long you see yourself in the relationship and then ask her how long she sees herself. PLEASE PLEASE, think these questions over and discuss them with her first.
Also, there are lots of other ways to express love without sex. I encourage you to obstain from sex and find better ways to express your feelings towards one another. Besides, just because you both "feel" you are ready, doesn't make it so. Haven't there been times your emotions (feelings) have fooled you and caused you to act irrationally?
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okay so whoever manages to solve this one deserves a gold medal. ill try to make this as short as possible.
ive been dating my bf for 3 and 1/2 months and im VERY affectionate, hopeless romantic, etc. I realized he isnt. and last night i found out why.
see what he would do is tell me he loves me and wants to be with me, but then he wouldnt really show it too much. i could tell he was holding back. A LOT. he didnt really show me his true feelings. i always was patient with him because i knew hes been through a lot. but last night i found out just the extent of his experiences in love. he dated this girl that really MESSED him up. he loved her so much and was happiest when he was with her, but then she did the worst thing imaginable. worse than cheating. however even after the incident he still wanted to be with her. eventually she cut him off completely and i dint think he ever had closure with her. he hates her now but i think deep down he still loves her. and the thing is he doesn't want to have anything to do with her, and he always tells me he cant believe im real, that no one has ever treating him like i do, but at the same time i still feel like he cant be completely true with me or love me to the fullest because he doesn't wanna suffer like he did again. i don't know how to help him, and the thing is there is a quite big age gap between us me being 18 and him being 26. i haven't gone through half the stuff he has and because of that he still sees me as young, and kinda naive, and therefore unable to understand what hes been through, and hes right i cant FEEL it, but i understand it, i could cry for him thats how much it affects me. but he tells me not to worry and just be happy. i just wish i could help him get over this horrible girl/incident that happened to him, but hes not really letting me. we cant really have an amazing relationship if hes not letting himself open up again. hes just so affected by it....what can i do???? (link)
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Ok, you know what.. I'm just going to tell you like it is. He's just not that into you. If he was that into you, he'd walk through fire to bring you a glass of water. Stop it with all the guessing or trying to figure him out. He's simply not THAT into you. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with YOU. He's got issues. Why waste time begging, pleading and cajoling a man with such emotional baggage into doing what he should be doing as a man and that's adoring you the way you deserve. Yes, you love him but it takes more than love baby. Don't settle for 2nd best.
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ok this is a little wierd for me so please be open minded about this, i have a 13 year old daughter and well i need to know the age that girls start have periods i'm her father and only parent and i just don't know these things about girls, and also she said that she wanted to know what sex felt like and that someone told her that it would hurt at 13 years old, but i told her that she shouldn't think about things like that that she should wait until she got married but still she asked and it deserves an answer so i kinda need a womans advice on this because i'm clueless on either part, so please help, thanks (link)
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At your daughter's age, she should start carrying a sanitary pad around with her all the time, just in case she starts her period. You also want to tell her that a week of bleeding is normal but if it goes on for like 2 weeks, that's something she should tell you so you can take her to the doctor. My friends daughter had that happen to her. Anyway, the first time for a girl usually hurts a bit and sometimes there is a tiny bit of bleeding.
Your best bet dad is to be honest with her and fake being comfortable talking about it. lol. You need to tell her just like it is, that boys that age are more interested in her girly parts than her and make sure you say "I'm telling you this as a guy and not just your dad. I know what goes through guys minds at that age." Take her on practice dates. The respect you show her is how a guy should treat her. Please don't be a parent that assumes all kids are going to do it so just let them. Kids really do want their parents to be their parents. They might gripe and complain, but in the long run they'll respect you.
Also, let her know she's welcome to come and talk to you about ANYTHING. If you just blow her off with "you shouldn't be thinking about that" she'll go and get her info from someone else and that someone else may not be reliable.
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Okay guys will be uys i understand that.
Why do guys always say they love a girl but really there just playing her. i dont understand any of that.
guys your advice would help me..
13/f (link)
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First of all guys that age don't really "like" girls the way girls like boys. Boys like what's in a girls shirt and what's in her pants. They may think she's nice, pretty, whatever, but it's really what's under your shirt and in your pants they want. At your age, it's not love but lust. It feels great, it's strong and powerful and romantic and all of that.. but that's not real love. And guys tell a girl what they think the girl wants to hear so a guy can score. Heck.. I'm in my mid 30's and men at MY age are still doing that. It doesn't end. If a guy says all these wonderful things, say thank you but don't put out, not even an inch. If he is a decent guy and truly just likes spending time with you, he'll respect your wishes and not make a move or pressure you. Girls today act like they aren't something worthy of being pursued. But you are. Let a guy "chase" you and don't just give yourself away. And guys are going to treat you the way you allow them to treat you. If you treat yourself and your body with respect and limits, then they will respect you. Because if a guy treats you like a jerk, you'll have enough respect for yourself you tell that jerk to kiss off!
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Do you aways know when the condom breaks? Me and my boyfriend do it like once every weekend and he pulls out (with the condom on) and cums outside me into the condom, just incase it broke i dont want his cum in me. we check the condom everytime after and it hasnt broken. BUt my question is, do you always know when it breaks? If there was no leakage, does that mean I'm okay and shouldnt worry? (link)
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Condoms can have microscopic holes in them that can allow sperm out of them without a condom breaking. You should use at least 2 forms of birth control. Use a spermicide along with a condom.
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My best friend is a guy.
he and his girl friend like to do things together.
(sexual like)
But she's always saying, i can't get sexual unless you get me horny.
and he asked me what ways could he dot hat.
and i have no idea.
so help?!
(rubbing teqniches,etc)
thanks! (link)
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You should tell him to ask her. It's important that he and her talk about these things and learn these things together. If neither of them can discuss this with each other, they don't need to be having sex. Isn't that half the fun, discovering one another?
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I am 13 years old and I'm everybody says I have kankles. They say wow why are you so skinny and then you just have kankles. Also they say my calfs don't fit my body because I'm skinny and then my calfs are fat. I don't know why I have kankles when I skateboard everyday for like 3 hours or more and I go to the gym every day and I play basketball for an hour a day. So I don't understand why I have kankles and the rest of my body is skinny. Mabey it's just like a trait from my parents and I can't fix it. Please help. (link)
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Your body is going to change a lot. And as you get older, you'll find some people like them, some won't. Just like there will be things about some people you like and other things you won't. You are fine just the way you are.
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17 yr old girl.
I was just reading in your archives about the girl who had the guy put the sticker pic of his face on her toilet paper as a practical joke, and that hit home for me, because I had a guy play the same joke on me.
I didn't get mad or anything, as a matter of fact, I kinda thought it was funny in a weird way, but one thing made me really uncomfortable about that, and I wanted to know your opinion about it-what's the proper way to respond to that joke, in terms of what you do with the picture? I sat there and thought and thought about that...part of me thought that since he chose to stick the sticker pic on toilet paper then I should honor his choice and use it, plus that might teach him a lesson...but then I thought that's really mean, and plus it might hurt. But then I thought, obviously I don't want to keep it since it's toilet paper, and then I thought should I trash it or flush it? Both ways seemed to have definite advantages.
Also, I felt really uncomfortable about seeing him after I came out of the bathroom...I mean, if I did end up using it, should I tell him? If I tell him, what's the nicest way to break the news to him? What if he asks for the picture back or something?
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LOL... you should totally TP his house with it. lol
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i am 19 and pregnant but i am in college only in my first year. i am with the person i love but he does not go to college. i want to have the baby but me and him have no money and no way to provide for the baby? what should i do? (link)
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Adoption. You and your bf were not mature responsible adults enough to use birth control, multiple forms of birth control. And yet you think you are responsible enough for another human being? What sort of life will this child have? You have the ability to give this child a wonderful gift, 2 parents that will be able to love and SUPPORT this child. Besides.. if you think your bf is going to marry you, I doubt it. If he wasn't willing to marry you before you got pregnant, chances are he's not going to marry you because you are pregnant. And even if he did, that's not a good foundation for a marriage, one that your child would grow up in and seeing which isn't going to be a good example for your child and you'll probably end up in divorce which would cause even further emotional pain and trauma for the child. Give the child to a loving stable adult married couple, give the gift of life.
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seven months pregnant was with the dad but we split up a still love him and want to be with him ut a dont think he feels the same way a feel like am on my own with the pregnancy a just want him to see how much a care for him when am with him a feel like crying cant even talk to him a just feel imbaresd what should a do??? (link)
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A) would you want your daughter to be with a man who'd walk out on her if she was pregnant? NO. So why are you settling for less? You will be an example to any child you have. If you settle for less, then that's all you're going to get. He left. He doesn't want you or the responsibility of a child. Period. There is not convincing him. Trust me, been there, done that. Better he be gone now than have him wait a few years after the kid has bonded and then have the child's heart REALLY broken.
B) you are by no means going to be a good parent to this child. Although you may love this baby, be honest with yourself. There is no way you're going to be able to get a job with that spelling, not one that is going to pay you much of anything. You can't provide for yourself, much less another human being. You are more concerned about a loser guy than what's best for this baby, that should tell you something in and of it's self. That child deserves to have a mother and a father who both want it and can take care of it. Give the baby up for adoption.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 ½ months. If we didn’t break up sometime last year, we’d be dating for over a year. Lately, I’ve felt that he’s been kind of distant. We used to be so passionate about each other, but now we’re acting more like friends. We rarely ever kiss and we haven’t had sex in two months. I miss the old spark that used to be there, and I love my boyfriend to death. I think he still loves me, too, but I just think he’s getting bored or something. Lately, I have been a little depressed, because of all this. And we got into a fight the other day because whenever I see him, I down his vibe with my vibe. Ive been trying to make it better, but I still sense a little distance in his voice, and the way he looks at me. He’s also been getting on the computer more and drawing a lot more when I come over, leaving me with nothing to do. What can I do to take us back to the way things were? (link)
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I have found that when one person in a relationship gets bored, it's because they have become boring. You as a woman have far more power in your hands to turn your relationship around dear. When's the last time YOU surprised your man with a candle lit dinner, even if it's just subway sandwiches on a blanket watching the sunset and some lit candles? With men, the more you put in, the more you'll get out. That's only if he is truly a good guy. So I'm assuming he's a good guy. you need to smile sweetly, flirt with him! People often forget to be playful and flirtatious once they've been with someone once in awhile. You have the power to make him feel like your "man." Once you start putting more of an effort into bringing back the spark, you'll notice a change. Then in a nice happy quiet moment, just tell him, "honey, I need you to do something for me. Just once a month, I need something romantic. Can you do that for me my man?" and then nibble his earlob or kiss his neck. Try it. You'll be surprised. :)
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my bf is 17 and when he gets an erection his penis is bent over to the right hes insecure about it i told him not to worry its normal isnt it? (link)
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Yes, it is but it could make sex painful for him.
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Aiight. I will try to keep this as simple as possible I guess. So, I am a 16 year old female (will be turning 17 in less than a week,) and I have been dating this guy for over a year now. I had previously dated him before, blah blah backround. So now; My dilemma. My mother (I swear,) is a decendant of Hitler or something, and blatently refuses to allow me to date him (though I am?). She refuses to accept his existence, when I do not even like her own boyfriend who lives in my house that much, and I try to respect him. She will not even give this kid a chance even if he tried. So, is there any way to try to talk to her, because I have on other occasions and she just refuses to listen and doesn't care. All she does is call him a loser because he doesn't go to school, but he is homeschooled? Yes I drive, yes I try to see him. But if I get caught she makes me feel wicked guilty and I get grounded..for.. long periods of time.
Advice, please?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Is your mother, outside of this situation, a good mom? If so, a good mom isn't going to tell her daughter she can't date a guy unless it's for a good reason. Maybe she doesn't think YOU are mature enough to handle a relationship. Maybe she thinks you are too young to settle down with one guy and that's where it looks like it's going. You need to talk to you mom completely out of the heat of the moment. Find a nice quiet time when the two of you are alone and tell her you'd like to have an open, adult heart to heart conversation with her about your bf. Don't go be all defensive either. Just listen to what she has to say and although you may not like what she says, she's probably right.
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