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Ugh!!!
Okay guys will be uys i understand that.
Why do guys always say they love a girl but really there just playing her. i dont understand any of that.
guys your advice would help me..
13/f
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I must respectfully disagree with the columnist below me.
Not all guys/men are like this. I'm certainly not. In fact, this is the exact reason I won't tell a girlfriend I love her for MANY months into a relationship [at least 12, though I've never reached that point]. I strive to be unlike most guys.
Sure, some will tell a girl they love her to get in her pants or to play her, but there are plenty of guys out there who won't do that.
Just wait, and you'll find the right guy; one who won't do this to you.
--Jack
(17/m)
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First of all guys that age don't really "like" girls the way girls like boys. Boys like what's in a girls shirt and what's in her pants. They may think she's nice, pretty, whatever, but it's really what's under your shirt and in your pants they want. At your age, it's not love but lust. It feels great, it's strong and powerful and romantic and all of that.. but that's not real love. And guys tell a girl what they think the girl wants to hear so a guy can score. Heck.. I'm in my mid 30's and men at MY age are still doing that. It doesn't end. If a guy says all these wonderful things, say thank you but don't put out, not even an inch. If he is a decent guy and truly just likes spending time with you, he'll respect your wishes and not make a move or pressure you. Girls today act like they aren't something worthy of being pursued. But you are. Let a guy "chase" you and don't just give yourself away. And guys are going to treat you the way you allow them to treat you. If you treat yourself and your body with respect and limits, then they will respect you. Because if a guy treats you like a jerk, you'll have enough respect for yourself you tell that jerk to kiss off!
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Forget the guy. Not all guys are like that. At that age there are probably a lot of imature guys. The guy may confuse love with lust. I don't know what he did but if he cheated on you then forget him and move on. If you had sex with him (which would be a really bad idea at your age) you are just as much responcible for allowing it. You should not let somebody talk you into sex and blame him.Say no! You most likely will not find real love until your older, more mature, and have a better idea of what love is.
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Well, you're pretty young and you know the guy rule for being young. Their maturity level is waay below that of a girl. If the guy who told you or a friend that and is around 14 or 15, I wouldn't be too keen on it. True love is something that is experienced in a mutual way and boys react differently than girls. At this age, when a guy says he loves you, it means he likes your attention. Not EVERY boy is like this but the general population is.
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ok ima guy im 14 years old and i only told one girl i loved her but i really didnt its not that we play you girl is that we cant interpret what love is when i told my ex that i loved her she toldme it was too soon but what you feel when you really like a person and you cant control is "love"
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This is the honest truth. A guy who is immature, picks one girl he can fall back on at all times while he has flings with others. If the fling doesn't work out he can always go back to who he had originally. If he is a true player, he will always call you baby or sweety so he can't mix up your names. They are afraid of a real commitment but they tell you what you want to hear so they can keep you. They do this because they always need a fall back person.
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Not all guys are "players". Though, at your age of 13, they are immature. I'm a girl, so I don't know what runs through their mind (or why for that matter), but like I said, not all guys are bad.
It gets better as you get older, I can tell you that much. I know a number of guys my age who aren't only looking to get in a girl's pants. As they get older, they (Well, most of them anyways. But there are exceptions to every rule...) will start looking for a real connection, an actual relationship and not just some random hook-up. But at 13, I don't think you should worry so much about it.
Spend time with friends and family. Focus on school and stuff. You're young and have PLENTY of time for guys.
-Laura (17-f)
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