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So I know that my parents love me and want the best for me. So ya Im not the best person, but I try. When I do bad in college classes my dad says its my fault, not because its hard for me, "I'm just lazy" he says. My room is semi messy and my dad keeps saying that I will end up like these lonely isolated people we know. I have picked up housework but he still does not acknowledge it. Of course my brother is perfect smart, party dude... He always compares me to him. It really does not help for my self confidence. Sorry just venting. What can I do? I can't talk to him because he sees himself as perfect. (link)
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Being who I am I would tell my father to go shove it and cuss him out but that is bad advice. I would not talk to him about it because I would not be able to keep my temper under control. I am hot headed. What you should do is ignore it if u dont want to talk to him or your mom about it. I ignore my parents when they become annoing. Try to talk with your dad.
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i looked it up on google, and it seems like a shit idea, but people have told me to give it a chance before i do anything, because its not one that will send the police. could anyone list the questions they ask, cos i don't want to give away too much about myself, and if they think im in 'danger' will they track me down, cos i need to know, otherwise i won't bother calling them.
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Suicide is very serious. I think you should call. If you have a part of you that does not want to die hold on to that.
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My boyfriend and I have just started going out, as of a few weeks. And I just found out that I won't be able to see him until end of august. I'm going to be at volleyball nationals the entire month of June, and then he is a camp counselor and will be working from July until august. I truly believe that I love him and I can't take my mind off him. He's so amazing. I'm already crying because I know how tough this will be and I don't think I can endure it. He won't even be able to text or talk on the phone that much. I honestly think I'll go crazy...
I need advice on what to do. How do I make myself feel happy? I don't want to forget about him and I don't want to get together with another guy. But I don't want our time apart to ruin my summer. Even though it kinda already has. What do I do???
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Try to make the best of it. I have been in a similar position and what I did was mope around all year. Thats right a year. But if I made it you can make it. I am still waiting. It may seem like forever. Just make the best of what time you have left. Go and keep your mind off things. But all I want to do was mope. But not good idea. Make the best of your summer and go back to him
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So im an offensive lineman for my football team and im basically the the entire line, im the only one on the team that is athletic, strong and fast. The thing is though is that Im not quite sure I want to play. Ive been working out since January and no one thinks i dont like football because i was encourage other ppl to play and im just like the prototypical jock, so quitting football would be ridiculously hard, and my coach would be pissed becasue the talked to me and said i hav a good chance to play for teams like USC, Miami, Penn State, etc. I know that would be awesome but its not my "love". I love throwign shot put, I just have this great camraderie with my teamates and im currently number 1 in the state for my class (sophmore). Also the other thing is, is that my track coach is extremely supportive and truly cares about where things are going with me(the ideal coach. My football coach always seems like he is worried about himself like if i get this kid into a big school it'll make me look good and if i keep doing it i'll get a shot and coaching some college, blah blah blah. My track coach cares about my team so much that he turned down an offer from a D1 track college right down the street.
Now if I were to go about quitting football and breaking the news to my coach how do you suggest I do it in a formal matter where its just not, I dont want to play? (link)
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Its really just none of your coaches buisness. You should follow your dream or love as u put it. And you may need to break it down easy then just leave. Or dont show up for practice. Would tht get u in trouble? Tell him and just walk out if he starts with profanity yelling and stuff like that. Good luck
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Hey,Okay so my mum and dad just started renting a pub
its owned by this reallyy nice local family who are fairly well off. see the father is a polititan and his eldest son just got elected.
anywho,so the youngest son is 17 and reallyy good looking and nice..there was a big party on last saturday night after his brother got elected and i had to work behind the bar everytime he came up to it he smiled at me,I Kept catching his eye all night too.
my mum told me today that the other day he asked her who I was that he thought I was nice & pretty ,my mum didnt let on I was his daughter though and she said oh "thats jess,shes only 15 though"
she said he laughed then and said that wouldnt bother him considering hes only 17 and that he thinks im nice
then mum goes "shes my daughter" and he obviously got all embarassed.
anyway my problem really is that i really like him and hes coming in to help clear the office overhead and mum asked me to help so basicly itl just be the two of us up there working all day..im worried about what to talk to him about?I dont wanna say something stupid or look like an idiot.
and do you think he likes me?(my friend said she thinks he does but like weve never properly even talked and i find it hard to believe how he could like me he could probably have anyone)
or what mum said scared him off?,should i even try start something with him or am I just kinda running away with the idea that something will happen and being naive
sorry if this seems stupid but id aprciate any advice or opinions on what I should do and how to go about it! i sometimes get nervous and mess stuff up when i really like someone and I dont know how to not!
thanks for any help,
sorry if this is long! =)
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You should get to know him better. Yea you could ask for his number or just give him yours. I think that it is better to ask if he likes you. Its better then not knowing. But dont make a big deal about it. Maybe he does like you. But dont expect him to say yes. It will get your hopes. Dont expect no it will bum u out. expect nothing. expect only a reply. does that me sence?
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okay so whoever manages to solve this one deserves a gold medal. ill try to make this as short as possible.
ive been dating my bf for 3 and 1/2 months and im VERY affectionate, hopeless romantic, etc. I realized he isnt. and last night i found out why.
see what he would do is tell me he loves me and wants to be with me, but then he wouldnt really show it too much. i could tell he was holding back. A LOT. he didnt really show me his true feelings. i always was patient with him because i knew hes been through a lot. but last night i found out just the extent of his experiences in love. he dated this girl that really MESSED him up. he loved her so much and was happiest when he was with her, but then she did the worst thing imaginable. worse than cheating. however even after the incident he still wanted to be with her. eventually she cut him off completely and i dint think he ever had closure with her. he hates her now but i think deep down he still loves her. and the thing is he doesn't want to have anything to do with her, and he always tells me he cant believe im real, that no one has ever treating him like i do, but at the same time i still feel like he cant be completely true with me or love me to the fullest because he doesn't wanna suffer like he did again. i don't know how to help him, and the thing is there is a quite big age gap between us me being 18 and him being 26. i haven't gone through half the stuff he has and because of that he still sees me as young, and kinda naive, and therefore unable to understand what hes been through, and hes right i cant FEEL it, but i understand it, i could cry for him thats how much it affects me. but he tells me not to worry and just be happy. i just wish i could help him get over this horrible girl/incident that happened to him, but hes not really letting me. we cant really have an amazing relationship if hes not letting himself open up again. hes just so affected by it....what can i do???? (link)
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Okay. He probably does like you a lot but he is afraid to let anybody in. I mean maybe he is afraid if he gets to close to you and later on you leave. Talk to him about it, ask him if he trust you and loves you. If he wont talk to you maybe you should forget about the girl and be happy you are with him. Just let him know your not going to leave him and that he can trust you. Tell him you trust him and how you feel about him. But in the end maybe it would be best to end it if it does not go anywhere.
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I am 13 and want to have sex with my girlfriend. She said that she is ready. Should I do it. And it is legal i searched it, the legal age is 13. Should Ii avoid the vagina because of STD's. Please Help!!!!!!! (link)
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If this is yours and hers first time then a std is not an issue. What is an issue is you both may regret it later. Another issue is starting out this early is a bad thing. If you are already having intercoarse how many partners would you have at 18? Also just because you avoid a vagina does not mean you will not get an std. You must use protection. This is a decision you two have to make and i don't think it is a good idea. But what I think may not matter to you.
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I don't know what's wrong with me. I didn't used to be like this, but my mind is really changing. I always assume the very worst of every situation now. I get stressed over everything, I'm afraid to go anywhere because I'm scared of bad things happening, and if I get the mildest headache I start to think that I'm going to die. My stomach hurts all the time and I just want to sleep. It's been really bad like this for about seven months now. I've always been a worrier but it's never been this bad. I don't feel safe anywhere except in my home. And I'm about to move! I can't imagine how horrible it will be once I move. I let my mind take over and my thoughts get carried away and I think all kinds of negative things. Not to mention, I can be really shy and paranoid and awkward. I never used to be. I don't know why it just all of a sudden started. How can I get over this? Anything at all? (link)
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I have the same problem. You could tell your dr and meditate. I am not a dr so dont take this as a diagnosis but it could be a panic disorder. Have you had a panic attack. Talk to your dr. Don't let it intefear with your life. take deep breaths and count to three between them. Hope this helps.
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I've written a novel series that I'm attempting to get published. And well, I included a character like a person who I had a falling out with a while back, and well, I'm kinda taking this chance to tell this friend that I will still be their friend, regardless.
Bad idea, or good? (link)
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You should try it. Maybe you should just tell your friend that you are sorry.
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hi ive been liking a girl that i known since the 6th grade now im in the 8th grade and im wondering how to make her fall in love with her me and her have been very good friends since then but i want to be more than friends with her.
what should i do? (link)
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That is tricky. First you can not make somebody fall in love with you. Okay if you tell she may not feel the same way but would still want to be friends. I don't know if she would just wan't to end the friendship cause you love her. She may even say it back. Can you go on with her not knowing? Can you stay friends with her just because she does not feel the sameway. Try telling her. Its better then not knowing right? Hope things work out.
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Hey people.
I'm in my final year of high school, going to university (hopefully) next year to study english. I want to be a writer and i know i have to read a lot of different kinds of books before i can make one myself. I'm into fantasy (as in supernatural things) and classic literature but I never know what books are good or not.
I get most of the classic books from penguin classics and I've liked all of them. I want books that are challenging without it being impossible. I also love fantasy literature but a lot of fantasy books look...cliche or amateurish. Kate Forsyth's 'Witches of Eilanan' and 'Rhiannons ride' were the kind of books i loved reading when i was about 14, and now they're a little too simple for me.
I want to read some more vampire books (a part from Twilight) to give me different ideas for a horror/fantasy novel. I don't mind romance but usually incorporated within a classic or fantasy book.
What i'm asking is, What are some great fantasy books? Some really amazing ones. Sci-Fi is, O.K but i prefer just fantasy. And they don't have to be modern fantasy, some good old ones are fine too :) (like Frankenstein, Turn of the screw (gothic novels))
p.s I'm not into harry potter or lord of the rings. OHH and if you know any other novels that are just great in themselves no matter what kind of genre they are, type it down :)
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A good series of books are house of night novels by P.C Cast and her daughter Kristen. Its about vampires. Reasearch witchcraft and wicca and use your imagination with that. Reasearch urban legands and mytholigy. Demonic beings, vampires, witches, and spirits are all very cool. Oh and wicca has nothing to do with the supernatural it would just be really cool to creat a world of witches and to have a little knowlege of what they really are.
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so for all of you that answered to my previous post: "Should i tell him the truth?" i finally spoke to him today at school right before class at the end of the day. so i went up to him and said: "hey, can i talk to you for a minute?" then he said: "sure" so i said: okay, i don't mean to sound annoying but about that msg i sent you on msn about prom, i didn't mean to say it like that." then he said smiling: it's okay, it's okay, who cares. then i said: no, i only said that because i didn't want to look desperate. but i didn't mean it." then he said: it's okay. then i said(blushing): i know this might not matter to you,(then i put my hands to my face and said "omg") then he smiled and said: "this must be hard for you to say" then i laughed and said: i'm gonna be honest with you, but you were the one that made my night" then he was smiling for the whole time then i said: i know you don't like me like that but i just wanted to be honest so yea...then he kept smiling then he said: ok well thanx...have a nice day, then i said: okay, thanx you too. so i guess i have to get over him for real this time:( i just don't know how i'm going to get over him (link)
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You don't have to get over him. I have a friend with a similar problem but it seems like he may like you. Not trying to give you false hope. Maybe he dose not like you. Try to talk to him some more. Maybe you two could atleast be friends.
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chris saw me and thought i was cute so asked jim for my number right. & jims asked me to hang out before but i said no. so during class one day jim called me over and was like whats good with you and chris, and i said nothing because i didnt like him like that. later that day jim texted me asking, is the same reason you wont hang out with me, go for chris? and i was like no youre a man whore. (from what ive been told) so then me and jim were talking the whole day and he said he'd go out with me he'd just have to get to know me & hangout more.. i told him i dont do hookups.so called me two days ago and we talked on the phone for two hours. so yesterday i texted him "trying" to start a conversation and jim gives me gay one words answers, and i tried again today but once again one word answers. im so confused, idk what to do but i told him i'd tutor him on tuesday so supposly were hanging out that day. should i stop texting him and wait till he texts me? does it seem like this boy even likes me? haha (link)
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You should give jim a chance. You don't have to do anything with him. When you text him it is possible that he is busy or he just does not want to talk. I dont know what is in his head so I dont know. If you like him then tell him. Get to know him a little more
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okay so we broke up like a little over a month ago and i've been talking to his sister and she says that he has no social life since we broke up, and he's been being mean to his friends and stuff and he was doing better with me (he had a social life with my friends-guys&girls too but now they kinda don't like him cuz he dumped me). the last month while we were dating he would lie to me and tell me "his mom wouldn't let him go out" or "he had homework" and he never used to do this for like the first 6 months we were together. she says hes lazy but he still likes me. i guess what i'm saying is that i miss who he used to be...we were planning on hanging out when school is over, so my question is, do you think i can get him back the way he used to be during the first 6 months? how? things were perfect last summer and i want them to be this summer too. and please don't tell me to just move on, if worst comes to worst i know that i can. i just want to give this a shot because i do miss who he was. thanks so much. 17/f hes 17. (link)
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You can not make somebody change. Maybe he has something else on his mind. I mean you should talk to him. Why did he break up with you. There could be a lot of reasons why he is acting different. Try to talk to him and just take it from there. I know what it feels like when somebody tells you to move on. Don't move on until you know what happend and if he still likes you. Maybe there is still hope.
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Okay guys will be uys i understand that.
Why do guys always say they love a girl but really there just playing her. i dont understand any of that.
guys your advice would help me..
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Forget the guy. Not all guys are like that. At that age there are probably a lot of imature guys. The guy may confuse love with lust. I don't know what he did but if he cheated on you then forget him and move on. If you had sex with him (which would be a really bad idea at your age) you are just as much responcible for allowing it. You should not let somebody talk you into sex and blame him.Say no! You most likely will not find real love until your older, more mature, and have a better idea of what love is.
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ok so i have been friends and a little more than friends with this girl. for like 7 to 8 years. we have talked about dating but for some odd reason things always get in the way... right now i am in college and i see her on the weekends. which is great but its not enough time to spend with her and build a solid boyfriend / girlfriend relationship. i was offered a management position at a very well known company but the problem is that she doesn't want me to take it because then we wont see each other at all!!! a part of me wants to take the job but then the other part of me is saying that she means way too much to me to not see her... tell me what would you do if you were in my situation??? (link)
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Okay, you need to follow your heart. If you love her you should not take the job. Love is a beautiful thing. I don't think you should take the job, unless you would rather have that job then be with her. What is more important to you. Her or this job?
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