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what to do ?
ok so i have been friends and a little more than friends with this girl. for like 7 to 8 years. we have talked about dating but for some odd reason things always get in the way... right now i am in college and i see her on the weekends. which is great but its not enough time to spend with her and build a solid boyfriend / girlfriend relationship. i was offered a management position at a very well known company but the problem is that she doesn't want me to take it because then we wont see each other at all!!! a part of me wants to take the job but then the other part of me is saying that she means way too much to me to not see her... tell me what would you do if you were in my situation???
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I would tell her that i cared for her very much and if you feel this way, that i love her. you should think about what is best for you. if you do take the job, ask her to wait for you. if she really likes you, she will wait. stay in contact (over the phone or e-mail) whatever works for you. don't forget about her if she does decide to wait for you. and if you fall for someone else, tell her that it is over, but let her down easy. obstacles may come in relationships, you need to find a way to get around them or through them.
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Okay, you need to follow your heart. If you love her you should not take the job. Love is a beautiful thing. I don't think you should take the job, unless you would rather have that job then be with her. What is more important to you. Her or this job?
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look man i think you should take the job if you had a brain in you , when you get the job you can try to get some time off to go see her and you can ask to work at home so you can see each other
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It is obvious that she loves you but she is afraid to express it. To be honest, they are other jobs but love is something that takes a while to get. If you take this job, you will most likely spend all of your time wondering what would have happened if I had stayed. I am a person who doesn't like to wonder but wants to know. Do you want to know to?
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I would take the job since you don't see much of each other now, are not in a relationship. It is still likely that you will remain friends since you have been for 7 years. And who knows, down the road you could end up dating. But the other side of this would be you not taking the job and missing out on this opportunity only to have things not work out with you and her.
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you know, there's a movie about this starring nicholas cage. dude, unless you guys get together time now, take the job. its not worth a career to keep dicking around waiting for it to happen. sorry dude, everything's got a time limit, and her time has run out.
-gunner
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I would take the job, too. You have had a friendship/relationship with her for so many years it is likely she will always be in your life. You guys will still get to see eachother, just not as much as you would like, and the distance may very well bring the two of you closer. You will still communicate, just on a rational level instead of a chemical one.
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Don't be a dummy, take the job.
It's not worth stalling your career for a 'friend', and that is all she is right now, and frankly, if you've known her this long and nothing has happened, it's a pretty safe bet that nothing is ever going to. You've both had ample opptertunities. If she really wanted to be with you, she would be, even just on the weekends.
It might hurt a bit, dissapointment and change always does, but you'll be a wealthier and happier person in the long run. So take the plunge, embrace the chance to grow and move on with your adult life: Take the job.
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