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losing spark?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 ½ months. If we didn’t break up sometime last year, we’d be dating for over a year. Lately, I’ve felt that he’s been kind of distant. We used to be so passionate about each other, but now we’re acting more like friends. We rarely ever kiss and we haven’t had sex in two months. I miss the old spark that used to be there, and I love my boyfriend to death. I think he still loves me, too, but I just think he’s getting bored or something. Lately, I have been a little depressed, because of all this. And we got into a fight the other day because whenever I see him, I down his vibe with my vibe. Ive been trying to make it better, but I still sense a little distance in his voice, and the way he looks at me. He’s also been getting on the computer more and drawing a lot more when I come over, leaving me with nothing to do. What can I do to take us back to the way things were?
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Have you tried talking to him? I don't know if you have, but it might seriously help.
Take turns talking and try not to fight.
Maybe you can fix your problems.
--Jack
(17/m)
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You just need a some fireworks!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do something out of the ordinary. HJe has seen all your tricks so learn some new ones. A relationship has 3 Rs.
Right
RESPONSIBILTY
Respect
Do somthing so suprising that he drops that notebook or shuts of the computer just to be with the one he adores. You!!!
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I have found that when one person in a relationship gets bored, it's because they have become boring. You as a woman have far more power in your hands to turn your relationship around dear. When's the last time YOU surprised your man with a candle lit dinner, even if it's just subway sandwiches on a blanket watching the sunset and some lit candles? With men, the more you put in, the more you'll get out. That's only if he is truly a good guy. So I'm assuming he's a good guy. you need to smile sweetly, flirt with him! People often forget to be playful and flirtatious once they've been with someone once in awhile. You have the power to make him feel like your "man." Once you start putting more of an effort into bringing back the spark, you'll notice a change. Then in a nice happy quiet moment, just tell him, "honey, I need you to do something for me. Just once a month, I need something romantic. Can you do that for me my man?" and then nibble his earlob or kiss his neck. Try it. You'll be surprised. :)
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