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I am a person who loves meeting people and giving them advice at their most vulnerable moments. I don't don't give advice for anything rather than my want and need to help people. I just feel happy when someone feels clear or has weight lifted off their shoulders when i give them advice. I am not saying I am perfect or mother Teresa but I can say that with life you get knowledge and the power to give someone advice on something using both your heart and mind. I have a wide range of advice I give because I believe that anyone with a soul can find someone else that needs help an answer. Technology,love,and limitless troubles are something that I love helping with. Whether someone is 14 or 45...I don't care. People are who they are. They are not perfect because they are indeed human. With that I know I have a lot of advice to give.advice
Or do you just drink the lemonade and eat vegetables & fruits? It says no solid foods are allowed to be eaten and supplements. Does that mean I just drink lemonade with pepper all day?
Like I have told others the only thing you can consume during the master cleanse is the lemonade. I advise you to READ the book which is only like five dollars to get. IT is worth it in the long run because you are saving yourself from the pain. There are rules for starting the diet as well as ending it.......do some research.
Can I eat apples and stuff?
No! On the master cleanse, you can only drink the lemonade. I think that you should buy the book so you can be clear on what you can do. Starting it and ending the master cleanse has steps. Please get the book to avoid pain. It is only 2 to 5 bucks. Be careful.
hey, so i've known this girl since 1st grade we have always been very close, bestfriends. but then when i hit beginnging of 6th grade i was going through some trauma in my life, only later did i realize what was happening, that i was depressed, and only later, exactly a year later did i see a therapist. Family problems. horrible family problems. I got worse. i slit my wrists at one point. actually a year and half into it. thats when it all hit me. and i drank some and smoked a little. And would have meltdowns, and panick attacks. It was pretty bad. i was losing friends. I was losing respect. i was losing the will to live. I was losing to see the beauty in life, but to see the uglynes curupt the world. it was all very hard to handle at such a young age. and i think i took it worst out of my family. i am currently still with the same therapist. it has helped me alot. through the course of a year, gradually i have changed. And change is always hard, so is growth. So let me be clear and honest and hopefully you will take the time to read the rest of this. Well up until this big divorce of my parents, it was breaking up my family as well, as to why it was so horrible.Anyway up until that point that it had happened, i had always been the happy fun, funny, outragoues loyal friend, and didnt give a f*** what you thought about me. No, i wasnt a bully, i was a great friend to my friends, and an entertainer at that. i always have been. But i would not let anyone tear me down or cross me, i was confident but not cocky, stable but not an overachiever, you get it, just a fun person to want to be around, popular,etc. So my bff Kara and i were great friends. and Kara and Ann were bffs too, so were just the perfect trio. It was so much fun, and great having best friends i could rely on, and have fun with. Back then i never looked at it twice, not saying i took it for granted, but never really looked at it under a microscope. So as i said my depression was from beginning of 6 grade to end of 7th grade. i am going into eighth grade soon. So i became this keep to myself. shut off from the world, shallow person. for a long time. It had hit so dramatically because i was always the kid growing up with a big family and love, and now this; this just destroyed me, and my rep. I beat myslef down. Because i fell in the populatry group. self-esteem was a big part of me, an di was losing it under my feet. And worst of all was that i didnt even see my best friend slipping away. We are currently friends but not like we were before, nothing like that. And so theres this girl Taylor, and she was very much like me, as i described. only diference is that she is very bossy and controlling and shit. you'd think we'd have this amazing friendship or bond,wrong. We've had some complications in the past, i wanted to move past it, so i said i was sorry for anything i did, we moved on. But she cant seem to get past it, Fuck it, fuck her, i say im not waiting around the clock for her to be my friend. I dont need her. So basically she saw me and kara were not as close, and she jumped on it. She became the new me between her and kara and ann. It was devastating, if i had been seeing a therapist longer i probly would have been more concerned about my friends than my split family at the time. But now they are all best friends. I want to have a best friend again. I want to be there for her and vise versa. I know we went throught phases this year but i defintily dont think it was permanent. She is used to me being my funny self and when she didnt see that, she had a new friend. i know it sounds bad, but she is a really good person. she is still my friend, but i need her, she has changed but not drastically like me, but shes not mean or anything. So anyway my therapist said call her you'll never know if you dont call her. So she changed phones. I asked her a couple weeks ago on chat if she changed numbers. she said yes, and gave me another number. The voicemail went to a regualr answering machine. I called this other one this girl gave me, it was some kid's, so thats not it. I tryed her old one, and it rang and rang, but went to HER voicemail with her name and everything. I left several messages a few weeks ago, like everyother day, and texted her. she never repsonded. So whats happening is she just blowing me off or did she really changed numbers? so i figured i dont just want to wait around, so my therapist posting something on her fb wall, so she'll see it. i did and basically said call me tonight or tomorrow. so i mean hopefully she'll call me back. I dont know if its because of taylor that she saying dont call her back, i dont think that'd be the case. and i dont think shes on vacation. i just want to tell her i have changed and i am not JUST their yet but i am a work in progress and will get back to my happy place soon, im determined. and i want to get her back, shes my friend, and no one is gonna take her away from me, i say its time for taylor to get a taste of her own med and back off. i was too depressed to defend myself. And now that im back im ready to get her back. and hopefuly she'll get the memo. Soooo what do you think about the phone calls, and the friendship, and whats going on here? it would make me so happy to tell what i said before, nothing negative just positive and be able to have the amazing chemistry and bond and sisterly love for one another. i realze she really does mean something to me. And i need your help and opinion on the situation. Write as much as you can. I know its baby steps and all and i am one to jump the gun but i am willing to do anything; because i realized all you need is love and friendship in your lifetime. and i am young but i very mature for my age and i know what i want. i want to show her this though i am also that girl she once knew that knows how to have a good time. Because she hasnt seen me happy in a long time. whats the best thing to do here? and dont say move on or she isnt a good friend. not happeining! thanksssss sooo muchhh!
Some people have the saying friendship comes and goes but that is if they are not working at it. Some people have setbacks like you have and are willing to get back to their original state for the sake of friendship which makes you the great person you are.
I know you really care about your friends and that is why I am going to tell you these advices.
First of all............The girl who Took your spot in the best friends trio IS NOT you therefore WILL NEVER take your place. You said it YOURSELF and that is why I am telling you this. She can try but she will never come close to this. If you don't want to be friends with her then just be friends with KARA AND ANN.
Second of all.............BABY STEPS. Don't expect to be best friends in a day. What I advice you is to tell the truth and nothing more. Tell why you were distant.
Thirdly.........The phone. You don't know what happens to Kara because you are not her. She could of had her phone taken away or lost it. The point is if you believe that she hasn't changed....there is no reason for her to do something like ignoring or giving you the wrong phone number.
I think that with good time you will find yourself again but it might not be the same person you are expecting. You have been through so much....don't be surprised at your strength and agility in certain situations.
What I ask you though as another person in the world with experience is don't just find Kara and Ann as friends.......find some other people. They make you strong and happy. I am not saying ditch anyone but gather another group of FRIENDS not BEST FRIENDS. Trust me when I say they are also important.
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Friendship never ends......unless you want it to
I do my own nails because having them done costs too much how can I keep my French tip polish on longer?
You should make them stronger. There are green tea clear nail polish which are cheap that you can buy. Trust me when I say that you will see the difference in a couple of days.
hey :) I'm sorry if this is too long. I just need some advice. Thanks.
I hadn't seen my boyfriend since last Sunday. He told me to go to his house today and i went. I went at 6pm. we stayed there having a good time. Then his friend came over. After an hour passed his friend said he had to go to the park to be with his friends which are girls too. My boyfriend told me he was going to walk me so he told his friend to go with him. I felt very disappointed at this because i went to be with him but he decided to go to the park and just stay stay with his friends. When they were walking me my boyfriend friend turned in a street and he called him and told him to walk me to my house because he was going to the park with him too. I really don't know what to think. He pulled me over and he asked why am i mad, i told him i was okay. He said he wanted to be cool with me not arguing then he asked for a kiss and whatever i gave it to him and then left to my friends house because at least she had time for me. I really love him but i don't know what to do :( I'm just disappointed.
In relationship.......there are disappointments and I know it hurts.
Nobody wants to be a distant girlfriend or a clingy one which you are neither.
I believe that you should tell your boyfriend how you feel so you would understand. He is just a guy and he doesn't know how you feel sometimes. I know what you are thinking and don't worry.....he won't do anything drastic because you told him how you felt.
Just tell him the TRUTH. Honesty is one of THE MOST IMPORTANT thing in a relationship.
soo ive been dating this guy for the past few months. and this is our 3rd time dating( i broke up with him everytime) my friends want me to break up with him but i just tell them to back off and stay out of our relationship. he makes me soo mad sometimes. all he wants to do is talk about baseball and wanting to sleep with me. he claims he "loves me" and every time he says he does i feel guilty saying it back so i joke around and say who doesnt??
my friends have told me they are concerned about us because when hes around me hes always touching me and rubbing up on me. we walk home from school together. i have to turn befor he does. we hung and kiss befor i leave but every day he trys to stick his tunge down my throat. we have a very complicated relationship. i do care about him but i just feel bad that im dating him again. the only reason why im dating him this time is because he was begging me and asking to "take him back" every day.
i dont really know what im trying to say. i just dont know if i should just still date him cause i do truly care about him or break up with him. i need help! please help! thanks!
There is not such thing as a perfect guy but there is such a thing as a horrible boyfriend. I am not saying your boyfriend is a horrible one but I think he might be a bad one FOR U in certain situations. Some of these situations occur a lot which is why i advise you to think CAREFULLY.
I am not you therefore I will not tell you to break up with him because I don't have the feelings you have for him.
First of all....it seems YOUR boyfriend seems to care more about baseball then YOU. A relationship is 2 people not 2 people and a sport. I know how it feels to talk to a guy and get bored because ALL he talks about is sports!!!! It is INFURIATING that you think about killing yourself. When you find the one....you will have the conversation that bind you and make your relationship interesting. I don't see that in your relationship. With that there is more of a chance of failure.
Secondly.....SEX SEX SEX SEX.........doesn't make a relationship!!! I understand HE IS A GUY but its too much. DO NOT.I REPEAT DO NOT have SEX because you want to keep your boyfriend. No offense but it seems to be the REAL reason he is with you. i COMMEND your friends for trying to make you break up with him but then again...They are not u!!
With that ask yourself WHAT attracted him to you and HOW you made a relationship. List something that made you so interested in the first place ignoring LOOKS and other things......think about what made you choose him as a partner.
After that just think and make your decision. Whatever you decide........will be whatever you want. Don't listen to anybody but yourself but I ask you to think about all the bad things and the GOOD things that have happened with him and just try to see which ways the most. :) GOOD LUCK
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me and my boyfriend of a year and a half recently broke up. He told me he lost feelings and we just got boring, and also feels like since he has only experienced 3 girls (hes 20) and went right from his last relationship of 2 years (got cheated on many times) to me and him he feels like he needs to see and experience what else is out there. We broke up over a month ago. The last time we talked face to face was a little over 2 weeks ago. He saw me out the other night with another guy and it hit him hard. He is begging, and i mean begging for me back, spilling his complete heart out (hes not a guy to show emotions at all). He swears he will be there and do everything and he has acknowldged on his own everything he needs to fix without me saying anything
Now im smart, i know guys can be selfish and say whatever they can to get you back and its sad that a guy has to see me out with someone else to realize what i mean.
But i also do know that although its rare some guys can be very sincere and truely realize what they've done. My question is, is there any way to tell? Any advice for how to get back into the relationship and make it perfect without rushing it, and anything else that could help me?
i've been ignoring his calls and texts, and i just dont know how i should handle this cause i do not want to get hurt again
Guys...Girls......they are both human and sometimes they make mistakes.
I am not going to tell you what you want to hear so if you can't handle it then leave.
I bet that you are a beautiful women who deserves the right man but the question is....Is he even right for you????
jEALOUSY my friend is never good and his jealousy led him to ask for you to come back.
It is sincere but not in the right situation. For HIM to come back.....her had to BE JEALOUS.
If you get back with him....it might end good but what happens when he gets bored???? Your guy wants excitement in his relationships like jealousy........and such and it might hurt you badly which is why I tell you to be cautious.
To tell if a guy is sincere is impossible!!!! You are not a mind reader!!!!! You just have to be able to trust that person and know them well. If you can't tell if this guy is being sincere or not......then you shouldn't think about it.
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Okay..look the thing is i went out with a guy in my school and we dated for around a year...throughout the year there were many issues and finally we have moved quite apart from each other..we would hopefully be going to different universities...I am a very sensitive person and i got really close to him..If you ask me i am still not over him..though i hate him for all that he did to me..the way he took me for granted but i cant change any of that..I just need to accept it..now the thing is a week ago..my mother read some of my previous messages in my phone and she has found out about it...I belong to Pakistan and my parents are very strict on all this..She made me sit and asked me about him..I denied it and left the room..I cant tell her the truth because it will be really heart breaking for both of us..I don even know which messages ahs she read...how much ahs she found out....I cant face all that..telling her what happened between us..Since then she has not asked me again..but i keep crying because i fear in the coming days she will order me to tell her what was going on ...and i cant..I feel terrible...I dono what to do..It feels as if i am trapped at my place...everything i do shows my mothers distrust in it...please help me..I am nineteen years old..I need your advice asap
I know how you feel. I had a best friend go through this. Although she is Indian and not from Pakistan...............let me tell you how to deal with it.
You are 19!!!! not 14. You are a legal adult therefore can do what you please..I suggest telling your mother the truth. I know it's the last thing you would think about doing but it's right. A huge weight will be lifted off your shoulders. I know it doesn't make sense now but later on you will have someone else in your life and have to stand up to your mom. It's better to do it now when the trouble weight only an ounce then later when it weights a ton.
I know you are hurt and I am sensitive too but you know what????.............you got something great out of this relationship. Memories and a lesson :)......Now you should start anew. You might not like it but it feels great after a week of standing up to your mom and your past. With that.I wish you a good luck.
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Relationships are hard......THATS why you have to work for it
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On the bottom half of my two front teeth, I have these white spots or stains. My mom says that I have them because of flouride and swallowing toothpaste when I was younger. They never bothered me because I had braces for 7 years and you couldnt see them. But now they are really noticable and I absolutely hate them.
If I try to whiten my teeth, sometimes they blend in but other times theyll really stick out, so now I just brush my teeth with baking soda before the paste to try to make the rest of the teeth whiter.
So my question is, is there anything I can do to fix thix or make them less noticable myself? Im a teen mom with two working parents, so I hate taking the time to go to dentists/doctors unless its urgent. If the only way is to go.to the dentists, what should I ask them to do?
Thanks :)
These white spots are primarily caused by.......Braces!! Trust me when I say I know how you feel. I had this problem and these spots are not just spots to tell you the truth. When you have braces..there are certain places that is covered so when the braces come off...that spot is vulnerable. Due to this...you are prone to getting cavities and such. What i did was baking soda treatment. Baking soda is very cheap at like 85 cents at kroger or whatever. I made a paste of it with water and i brushed it on my teeth. After that I brushed with toothpaste and now my spots are gone after a couple of days of treatment.
Hi, i'm 13 and my birthday is coming up and i'm turning 14! I'm so excited and i cant think of a theme for my party!:/ I am inviting boys and girls. I am planning for the girls to spend the night and the boys to go home after a while. i would like to have a theme involving the colors blue and green. i have absolutely no idea what to do!! i want to have the party at my house. last year i just had friends come over to spend the night it was really boring. i'm hoping for this year to be fun and exciting for everyone. please help. thanks!
MOVIE NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!! You should have a movie night with movies EVERYONE will like. I remember I ordered pizzas and Chinese takeout for my 14 birthday. Anyway I chose these cool movies which everyone thought was cool and the party was a smash. I also bought ice cream so everyone can have dessert. What I did that was cool was that I had toppings for the dessert so people can choose what they want like crushed waffle cones...white chocolate. That part was loved by both sides. :)
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HAPPY soon to be 14th Birthday
well today i was talkn to my boyfriend on fb and he sent me a link .. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwD0xJrmtSM your a bitch by bowling for soup he posted it on my wall and i dont get it so i think he was calling me a bitch and that reallly upset me i wanted to go off but i waited 3yrs for him and i really dont anna mess this up ..what can i do to make this better?
I think he called you a bitch but in an affectionate way.....the song says ignoring the bitch...........that he loves you anyway and that he never wants for you to go away. Basically he's telling you're human with flaws like singing bad or something else but he still loves you anyway no matter what you are. I wouldn't take it a bad way....in fact i think it's cute. You have a cool boyfriend lol.
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Hey there. I'm a 20 year old female. I'm about 5'7 and 175 pounds. Apparently i hide it well because a lot of people say i only look like i'm 145-150. I've noticed the past couple months i've gained about 30 pounds. I do have a problem with over eating. I cant help it i feel like its out of control. I've stopped eating fast food completely this past month and the scale cant tell. I even cut out soda and have been drinking water. My problem is that if i dont have the "engorged" feeling i want to keep eating. Even if i'm not starving hungry any sudden signs of i can fit food in my stomach ill eat. I do have a YMCA gym membership but i find it hard to get motivation to go. My husband is deployed and i want to get in better shape for when he comes home in November but once again no motivation. Any advice on how i can tackle this issue? I'm desperate! Thanks! and i do rate
I HAVE THE SAME problem. Let me tell you...it's not easy but I have managed to turn around. At the most i reached about 208 pounds but starting a month ago....I have managed to burn almost 15 pounds off. I had a problem with over eating as well. What my parents did was get me a YMCA membership and i can't go. I find it hard to just go because i just dont feel like it.
I have great advice to give you.
1. Don't do those horrible crazy diets.
2. You colon shall be you're best friend...so clean it. I found it easy ti shed pounds after cleaning out toxins.......hydrotherapy is not a bad idea.
3. RESEARCH. I found so much valuable info online about food. Internet shall also be you're best friend. I found free calorie counters that monitor progress. Stats show that people who count calories are twice as much likely to shed pounds.
4. Share with a friend. Don't do this alone. Tell someone. I believe that it's very important so you won't get discouraged.
5. Find FUN exercise. I found DDR which is like a dancing arrow game and i shed almost a 1000 calories a day with that thing. If it's fun....you can actually look forward to exercise.
6. WATER.....helps you during exercise and weight loss.
I believe you can find the rest on your own.
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How do I stop my mother-in-law from trying to control how I raise my son?
AHHH. I can say I have heard of these occasions more than a million times. What she needs to know is that HE is your son...no HERS. She already had children so she needs to back off. I'm not saying kill her but set some rules. Tell her that you can raise your son and if you need help...you will ask her because she does indeed have been through it. I mean it kind of hurts when grandparents realize their kids have grown up and have their own kids. Although she can't raise your son......make her a part of his life. If you take him to the park or on a stroll...do it with her. Make her feel part of it. She feels lonely and doing this will make it easier. Also......get your husband to talk to her if this doesn't work. Someday he needs to stand up to his mom............if he already did...then you're golden.
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hey guys! ok so yesterday i hit my sister cuz she was pissin me off (im 13 and shes almost 12) so my mom screamed really loud 4 us 2 come dowstairs. and from what i remember, (my mind has accumulated a habit of forgetting the nasty things my mom says and does 2 me. its actually a good thing so that way im not so sad) my mom told us 2 sit down and she started tellingmy sister and i how it was all our fault and then she went on to start criticizing us us like she always does. so i looked @ the ground and rolled my eyes thinking and hoping she did not see. but she did. before i could process what was happening, my body had instinctively curled up into a tight ball. as my mother was screaming and hitting and pulling my hair so hard i was positive it would rip out of my scalp. i was so scared i was crying uncontrollably and she didnt care. she kept yelling at me and my sis. and then she told me to look at her while she was talking. so i did. and before i knew it, she charged at me again and began screaming and pulling my hair and hitting me. she screamed "don't f***ing glare at me b**ch! how does it feel to be hitby someone bigger than you?" is this abuse? or merely dicipline? explain. thanks in advance. kisses!
There is a thin line between love and hate as there is a thin line between abuse and discipline.
In my point of view....It's abuse!!!!! Discipline is a hit not so much pain that your hair is falling out from being pulled. Look I know you love your mother but she needs to know that she can't do that.
Abuse is also not physical either. It is also verbal which by what she said is what you're having too.
I think it is awful what parents do to get attention but let me give you some advice. Looking at this situation....I can see it's not normal for you're mother. (She might of been stressed and etc.) Although I am saying this I am not happy with her decisions of discipline.
If this happens again...tell me. What's important is you and your sister. Like I said there is a thin line between abuse and discipline.
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We want to do a party for a 15 year old but she really doesn't care about things so we don't know what topic type party we should give her.
You don't!! You let them throw it. In fact this builds a great relationship. If you throw it.....then it has a high chance of burning and crashing.
Your fifteen year old might not care about anything according to you but ask them.
Trust me when i say all teens have something they love. As long as you support what they want........there will be no problems. You need to find a common ground.
Here is what you do???? tell them that they ca do whatever they want under a budget and rules ofcourse and ask them what they want.
Getting what they want is far better than guessing what they want.
hi, i stumbled upon a question about losing weight that you answered recently. you said you lost 40 lbs in 3.5 mos! i want to know what i can do to do just the same! i'm 5'7" and im currently around 170, i wanted to drop 30lbs in around 2-3 mos. if you could help me, that'd be great. thank you in advance.
First of all you need to be dedicated!!!!!!!
Here are some tips
Walk everyday
stay off fatty foods.....(everybody has a bad addiction to something like cookies,fries, and etc) find yours and cut
DO NOT weight yourself everyday because no change equals discourage. Once a week is good for you.
Find something fun to do that makes it easy for you to exercise like t.v. or music. Trust me when i say it really helps you in the long run. For me music excites me when i jog so i don't lag like i did before music.
Share the diet with someone you know you can trust. They will help you and give you support which doubles the success rate.
SODA.....get away from it!!! water shall be your bff until you reach your goal. Don't do coke zero or diet because they are more dangerous than regular soda.
Find great exercises if you want to tone abs and such.........google is an awesome place to start as well as youtube.
Another information i have is no comparable to other info sites.
Good Luck with your weight loss!!1
What are some fun sleepover games for two people?
Truth or dare
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This site i believe has some fun games!!
http://thepajamacompany.com/blog/sleepover-fun/
Enjoy your sleep-over!!!
I'm 5'5" and weigh 145
Can I lose 20 pounds before august 25th?
I do workout and eat healthy and drink water
i think you can. You should
Drink lots of water
more walking
more intensity in execises
Eat every 2 hours....not snack
exercise more than what u eat in calories
count calories
If you are serious...i know great tips other than these. I lost 40 pounds in 3 and a half months doing these healthy methods.
I'm 11 yrs old and I love kids. I have taken care of my lil sister who is 9 and took care of my 3 yr old cousin. I'm pretty mature and an honor roll student. I already have a trillion ideas to entertain kids with?
Do you think I'm good babysitting material?
Yes you do!!! Anyone can see that. our grades show responsibility. As for taking care of kids.that shows experience. What i suggest you do is take classes like CPR. This way people can trust you with their kids if you have it in your resume.
I've had boyfriends and guys who liked me that I liked and there's a guy that I like that likes me too. I'm a 13 year old girl and I really like him. we text a lot and stuff and I wanna kiss him:) ive never made out or kissed anyone before. he has. he barely knew the girl and wished he hadnt kissed her. He said he wished he kissed me, he would of and that he would date me but he knows I don't want a boyfriend. Is there something wrong with me for not wanting to date the boy I like that likes me back? but any tips and or advice on kissing really would help. :)
If you like the guy and he likes you....there is no problem sweety. The reason you are afraid to date him is because you're nervous. He really like you and wants to kiss you...so do it naturally.If you like him..then it will come and your feelings towards each-other will engage the kiss. Don't be afraid because everyone is nervous about their first kiss. Just take it one step at a time.
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