Hey. I'm 16 years old. I like to think I give good advice.. at least that's what I'm told. People come to me all the time for advice. Especially about relationships. So if you're looking for advice.. I'm your girl.
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my bf and i just started going out. his so cuute and sweet buut not really a good kisser like he opens his mouth too much and too wide and pretty much sticks his whole tounge in my mouth. what should i doooo? oohhh and i want to ask him to the christmas dance...its a turn around dance. i want it to be really cuute. any ideas?? thanks. :] 17/f (link)
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Hm, he will get better at kissing after practicing, but I was in your position before, and I know what it's like. Sit him down and say, "I'm gonna show you how I like to be kissed, then you show me what you like." Make it clear that you are going to lead, and he should just react to what you do and try to imitate it. Then lean in, kiss him softly and sweetly (or however you like it). After that, let him show you what he likes. Hope I helped.
If you have any other guy advice, message me.
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ok so like i have this really great friend and ive been her BFF since 2nd grade. I would do anything for her. But i just found out that shes moving. Because her parents are getting a divorce. Shes moving all the way across the country and her mom is telling her that she can visit once every 2 weeks and that im going to go fly to visit her. and then her mom has been going and telling my mom that its all a lie just to make my friend feel better. and it really hurts watching my BFF get soooooo happy over something thats never gonna happen. im wondering if i should tell her whats going on? any advice??? (link)
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In your situation, I'd either talk to your mom or her mom. It's not really your place to tell her that her mom was lying to her. That could cause problems. Try telling your mom or her mom that you know she is going to be very hurt, and she'd probably rather know the truth than be lied to like a fool.
Hope this helped. Let me know how it goes.
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Hi! :) my bf and I are both 18 and extremely happy with one another. We are also both born again Christians. I know he loves me and he knows that I love him, but he refuses to say the actual words "I love you". His reason? He doesn't want to ever say those three powerful words to more than one woman his entire life. (relationship wise...) he said that the person he days it to is the woman he will want to spend his life with. We have been going out for 3 months. I understand his reasoning and all...but I feel that if he feels something, then why not say it? Am I wrong? And when we talk about it he always tells me all this stuff EXCEPT I love you. He knows that I don't want to say it first too. He has told me to go ahead tho and say it first. In response to that I tell him that I don't want to because he won't say it back. He then would tell me that he is sure about our relationship but it's just gonna take him longer to say it. That basically means that, yes, he wouldn't tell me that he loves me back. :( so how long did it take for ur bf (or gf) to say it to u? Please help... Thank you in advance. (link)
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You're not wrong. But it definitely is based on opinion. Some people say "I love you" as often as they say "How are you". Others, like your boyfriend, believe it's only meant to be said to one person. Maybe he believes there's only one person out there he's meant to love. It might sound crazy but it's all mindset. I certainly understand that you yearn to hear him say those words. It kind of solidifies the relationship. But I think you need to respect his 'beliefs' or whatever it is. This will make him even more sure that he loves you.
Hope I helped.
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hey i am at my dads house and i have no friends and nothing to do so what can i do?sincerly,alwaysbored4ever (link)
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This is a fun question to answer...
Listen to music, watch funny youtube videos (I know a bunch of hilarious ones if you want me to list them), play video games, draw a picture, write a story, research random things on the internet, go for a walk, take sweet nature pictures, learn magic tricks or card tricks, watch tv, bake something, play online games, answer my questions, play a sport, get really good at something new, dance, eat.
Hope this gave you a few ideas...
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So i was dating this girl for like the last 3 weeks right? we went on like ten dates and we got really close. last thursday i took her out to lunch paid the bill, gave her a ride, made small talk and all that good stuff. We went to the park after and she told me that i made her crazy and she was starting to really like me... the next day when i textedd her she responded with the one word text messages, which she normally doesn't do, and like after the third message stopped talking to me. She won't return calls or text me anymore.. she just left today for honduras with her church. i dunno what happened, but maybe you could help? should i get over her and move on? or should i try to like "get her back"
Thanks
btw i'm a 16 y/o dude (link)
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im a 16 yr old girl. theres lots of personal things that can be going on in her life. at this point in everyones life, things change. there might be something you have no idea is going on. she might need some time to think.. for whatever reason. maybe she needs space. give her that time.. for whatever she needs it for. theres nothing you can do if shes no longer interested in you. on the other hand, she might appreciate that you gave her time and love you even more.
hope i helped..
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So my current boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now and he is so sweet and amazing. He always tells me he loves me, and I tell him I love him as well (because I do) but the other day he came over to my house and gave me a beautiful silver ring with a turquoise stone. He told me that it was a promise ring that we were going to be together forever and get married one day. But sometimes people say that and don't really mean it. How do I know he really really means it. Because I love him so much and I do want to marry him when I grow up. I have dated other guys and he is the only one who makes me feel this way. I just want to know if I am going to end up getting my heart broken. Does he really mean he wants to be with me? (link)
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youre fifteen years old. enough said.
[no one can make a promise like that.. especially when youre young and vulnerable]
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ok so i like this girl and we were supposed to hang out on saturday night but she said she has practice but doesnt kno what time i wanna ask her if she can do sumthin before or after but i dont want to be a pest. What should i do? (link)
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theres two possibilities depending on the type of girl..
1) shed be really excited that youre so anxious to hang with her.
2) if she wanted to hang out with you that bad, shed plan something before or after
im pretty sure she knows what time she has practice.. im not saying she doesnt like you. but i think you should not say anything and wait. she might say something to you first. either you ask her and she says yes or gets annoyed (50-50 chance here). or dont say anything and see if she says anyhting to you first.. if she does.. then shes def interested in you.
hope i helped..
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To make a long story short, I met this girl and we talked for about a half hour on Thursday night. I invited her (casually) to come hang out with a bunch of our friends (pretty casual). We ended up leaving the group last night and talked for a good 2 hours, then I asked her out for next weekend. She gave me kind of a strange answer, saying she had plans but she'd like to work around them, so I would consider that a yes. I texted her after I took her home and she responded with a good message. That's the situation, so here's my question. I was thinking about calling her and inviting her out for dinner but I don't know when. I don't want to seem really desperate but I also dont want to leave her hanging for awhile. Should I call her on Monday and see? How long should I wait? I'm not trying to play a stupid game with her or anything, just wondering when you girls like to be called. Plus it'd be weird to call her this weekend yet if we wouldn't do anything until the week. (link)
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good question. im a girl so hopefully i can help you out. give it a couple days.. if she texts you first.. then shes been thinking about you. if not, just wait a couple days and then start talking. if she sounds happy to talk to you, invite her to go out. if not, just keep talking, finish the conversation, and wait.
theres really no set time.. its hard for a guy to sound desperate. im hanging out with a guy now, and every night after we hang out he texts me and we talk.. then he makes new plans for us for the next day or the upcoming week. i really like that.. it shows me that hes interested in me and like to be around me.
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ok there is this guy that i think is pretty cute and well his locker is like 7 away form mine and his name is osama. tomorrow is our last day of school before winter break and i've been wanting to talk to him for a while now but i kept putting it off. we NEVER talked, he knows who i am bcz my friends talked to him n he said i was cute and he supposedly is gonna break up wit his gf cuz he likes me but umm idk, so far they're still together. my friend said i should just leave a note and give it so him saying 'hey im ..... call me sometime (number!) ... bye!' idk, he'll have 2 weeks to call so idk? wut should i write say do??????? (link)
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uhm how old is your friend? definitely dont do that. thats like asking for it. its pretty late right now.. its difficult to get a guys number from talking to him for one day. just bring up christmas break and ask him if hes excited.. then introduce yourself. dont leave a note.. thats creepy
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Ok so I've been going out with this guy for like a month. I don't see him alot. Mostly like once or twice a week. I really like him but I feel really nervous around him. My friends tell him to talk to me and he does. And I just don't know why. He will be like, "so how was your week?" I would say, "boring" or whatever else because nothing really happens. Then he will say what happened with him and I would be like, "oh..cool" Then I would make it all awkward. I don't feel as nervous as I did before but I've been thinking like, "what if he doesn't like me?" "what if he likes some other girl at his school" We don't go to the same school. Now his friend and I were talking and he said that my boyfriend told him that he thought I didn't like him. I told him I still do and so on. So now since I barely talk to him he is gonna think I don't like him and I'm gonna ruin everything. What am I supposed to do? I like him so much and he is like all I think about. Before I thought stuff like I bet he never even thinks about me and I'm here falling head over heels for him. But I guess not? I know he likes me but I am one of those girls who are really doubtful. Anyway to help me? Thanks! (link)
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I think that you shouldn't worry about whether or not you ruined it. You certainly didn't ruin anything. How do I know this? Because if he had feelings for you, he wouldn't stop talking to you just because he heard from someone that you might not like him anymore. If he's not talking to you.. it's because he doesn't want to be more than friends. Simple as that. You're young, you shouldn't worry too much about little things like this. Just go with the flow. There's lots of other guys out there. If he liked you, he would say more than just "how was your week" once in a while. Hope I helped..
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