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hello world. i really want to help people. you can open up to me. i wont judge you. unless your really mean. it makes me feel good to help other people. its cliche to say music is my life so ill just say that it is really important to me. i really dont like where i live. i have some experiences that help me to make other's lives easier when they find that theyre going through them. if that makes any sense =P. i like making friends. uh well ask me whatever you want!

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So I was talking to this guy from my high school on Facebook and he said: Ahah.. Yu shud be by my bestfriendd
Me: Uhh...okay? Haha
Him: Ya know fbs
Him: :)

I have and idea of what"fbs" means, but I don't want to reply and be wrong, or ask what it means and feel stupid. Thank you in advance!

just ask him what he means by fbs!

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First off, I'm getting a small apartment with my best friend next year when we are college sophomores. I'm looking for a low maintenance dog, with minimal shedding and easy to house train. Affectionate but okay while we're in class and such... I was thinking a beagle but it apparently is hard to train, so any suggestions are appreciated

cocker spaniel

i have a cockerspaniel/poodle mix and hes amazing. perfect dog

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plz give me a idea for easy suside

dont give up! you will be upsetting so many people. suicide will be painful no matter what. it will be even more painful for everyone around you. you can make it through. things get better

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im a girl. and im 14 :p okay so, ill start rom the beginning. in April i dated this guy Magilla (ehh, code name). he was my first love and i dated him for three months.he left me because i wouldnt have sex with him. and i was so heart broken. id have alot of good friends that helped me. one of them was Jonny. Jonny at that time had a girlfriend that he was with for a whole year. so he was there for me through everything. so when school started again in August, Jonny helped me get to most of my classes and i started to really like him. and i knew he did too. me and Jonny would always get high together and have the most funnest time ever when we hung out :)he was like me brother. but i always felt like hed use me becase when his girlfriend wasnt there hed treat me like i was his gf. and i didnt like that. him and his gf broke up last week (its October now)and he asked me out. but......i dont like him as much as he likes me. being in a relationship with him is so different from us just being friends. his kiss dosent feel right. nor when we cuddle. im so confused. i wanna leave him but i know we wont have the same friendship we had befor. help? :(

i have your answer:

if it does not feel right, it isnt right. the only reason to stay in a relationship is if you are happy, and if you are unsatisfied then you should find a way out. dont lead him too deep into it because you will end up hurting him in the end. whenever a break up occurs, a friendship is lost, and it is better to end things now rather than later because it will become more and more destructive. the sooner you end it, the greater the chance of restoring your friendship. good luck, and continue to keep a good lookout for the nice guys out there; the ones who are in it for your personality.

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I am nine and this is my first spelling bee and have no clue how to practice. I am scared but excited.I NEED TIPS!!!!!!P.S please right back

ask your parents to take out a dictionary and quiz you on random words. dont be too nervous its no biggie! good luck

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On a day to day basis, i use eyeliner, and id say i dress fine. either ill wear boots with jeans/leggings and a top or on a comfortable day just a sweatshirt and pants. ive never had an issue with getting guys or talking to them, and im often told im very good looking. first of all, i COMPLETELY disagree. i constantly feel like im ugly or there is something wrong with me. no matter how many times i hear i am not, i will always feel ugly and out of place. also, i feel like maybe i dont come off as very girly. i really want to become more of a girly person but i dont know what i can really do. i wear make up jewelry and nail polish. i just don't think im flirty as a person, so i come off less feminine. is it true that guys are much more attracted to flirty girls? although people tell me im very attractive, i dont really think i catch people's eyes. i feel like im never checked out by guys at school and noone ever really tries for my number. i know this q is really stupid and annoying, but i just wonder. how can i feel better, look better, and be better?

adfds

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what does it mean after a couple of times a guy kisses you on the lips and says right after you pull back "get the picture". does it mean that he likes me?im 14 and i'm a girl

preeeetty sure hes trying to tell you he likes you. be up front with him about it. if hes trying to be subtle about something and it isnt working, thats his issue and he has to face it haha.

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15/f almost 16

So I've been friends with this guy for 2 years. This year we have been getting really close. So he's a good friend. The thing is he is 18. I know its not a big age difference. I like him alot. The thing is him going to college. I've liked him for over a year now. He doesn't know. I don't exactly know what I'm asking but I need something.
We flirt all the time and I'm best friends with his sister so I hang out at his house.
He tells me alot about himself and past stuff so we really know each other and all that.
I just don't know if there could be more. Since he's going to college I guess it wouldn't work anyway right?
So what should I do? Should I get over him? If I should, how? I'm always gonna see this guy, I practically live with his family. We talk online and everything too. So even when he's gone its not like I'm completely losing him either...so it won't be easy. Any ideas??

take it from me, college relationships are hard, and its so easy to get hurt. at this point, its gonna be hard since you like him anyway, but feelings might fade if hes gone and you dont see him as much. to be honest, i think you should just leave it alone since its so close to next year

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ok, so im 14 and i really want a boyfriend but im not sure if im ready. i feel totally ready but then when i see guys in person and talk to them, i can't imagine kissing them because i feel nervous and sort of not ready. it's like an easier said than done thing, you know? so, am i ready or what's up with me?

the first time is always really nerve racking, no matter how old or the situation, but after the first or second time its not so bad :) do it with someone you really like and its extra special. theres no pressure to do it, just go at your own pace

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Okay well im a young kid, so i really dont like my green vegtables. my mom says i will like them when im older, but i just dont know! i dont even like seafood. is there something wrong with me?! please hellpp!

hehehhh :] this is cute.

as you get older your pallet will develop. You will discover you like some things and not others. things will become more clear as you grow up. theres nothing wrong with you dont worry aha

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I am 13 and want to have sex with my girlfriend. She said that she is ready. Should I do it. And it is legal i searched it, the legal age is 13. Should Ii avoid the vagina because of STD's. Please Help!!!!!!!

13.

you may think you are old and mature now, but in a few years you will understand that right now you are not ready, and neither is she. i can tell your not ready because your asking if you should avoid the vagina. kiddo, if you are having sex, you cant quite avoid the vagina. give yourself a couple of years. find a girl who you TRULY LOVE. your going to end up with std's in a few years if you start having sex now. sorry if anything i said was harsh i just truly believe you should not be having sex at that age! most people start towards the end of high school, beginning of college. not in 7th or 8th grade. PLEASE DONT. bye!

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when you poke your armpit, is it supposed to hurt? bc it always does for like there are hard lumps there.

not supposed to hurt, my friend had these bumps there and she had to get them removed. if it on the skin go to a dermatologist. if not, then see your usual doctor about it. check it out before it gets worse !

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ok this is going to sound completely and totally psycho but whatever. so 1st of all, im so in love with my boyfriend. but he really cant deal with life anymore.

hes bipolar, hears voices, has depression and a bunch of other problems. but you would never know any of this because he is the class clown and captain of the football team. he always acts really animated and pretends to be the happiest guy in the world. but hes not.

i really love him so much but he wants to commit suicide so bad. ive talked to him about it and stopped him countless times. but now hes at the point where hes at peace with dying and is ready to go. i would be devastated if he did this and i would probably take my own life. i cry about this every night and i cant stand to think about it. but this is what he wants to do and i know it is.

the only reasons hes not doing it because he doesnt want to hurt me, and hes afraid of going to hell. but heres the thing, i had this completely psycho thought of killing him. out of love, but still. i was gonna go over one day and give him a hug and kiss him, then hold a gun to his back and shoot him. i know it soundsss completely crazy, but then it would save him from going to hell, and i would go instead. and he would not worry about me being sad, because i was the one to do it and i would just put the gun to my head next anyway. i dont know if i could bring myself to kill the love of my life, but the thought that he would finally be happy and in a better place than he is at now, makes me wanna do it. but i still think i sound completely psycho so can someone help me out with this. i dont wanna kill my boy. thankssssssss

BAD IDEA.
just dont. please.

if you both can just get past this bump neither of you will go to hell. neither of you will be dead. you will have a complete full happy life together. why kill both of you when you have a chance of being happy together in the future?

also, if your boy REALLY wanted to kill himself, and he was sure, then he'd do it. he probably isnt completely sure of that choice despite if says so or not. you might not think hes unsure, but chances are he has some doubts.

DONT DO IT.

for me?!

things may suck for him now, but itll improve with time . remind him that. get him a therapist. suicide is the worst way out.

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is it possible for two people to be together in the future if they see eachother once a month now?

yess it is, but it definitely takes trust on both sides, and a lot of effort. you also must be prepared for the pain you feel with the distance. and if you break up, its harder to stay friends, because you probably wont see each other again. if your willing to deal with these things, then its completely possible.

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whats a really cute happy love song? preferably from a band and not country. thank you!!!! just tell me your favorite love songs :) i'll rate ♥

1,2,3,4- plain white t's
getting into you- relient k
smother me- the used
hanging by a moment-lifehouse
must have done something right- relient k

any chase coy songs

dashboard confessional has a bunch of good ones like hands down

any taylor swift feels good when your thinking about a boy :]
i know its country, but its so damn goood!

i have morrre if you like these
hope i helped

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My best friend used to be obese, and I have always been thinner. During the last year or so though, he started working out and eating healthier has lost it all. Now we kinda switched and I don't like it. How do I deal with this? How did this happen?

the only way youll feel better about yourself is if you control your health. if you dont think you need to then dont. or if you think youll be too thin then dont. but if you treat your body right you should feel better, even if your not as skinny as your friend. it feels good to be in control

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15/f
Im going to a party this week and i know there's going to be drinking. im scared if i get drunk ill let my secrets out that i dont want people to know. will that happen? even as small as they might be?

thaanks

lol welll it depends on how drunk you get. the more you drink, the less you have control over your thoughts. i mean your not randomly going to just be like "OH HI EVERYONE I WEAR GRANNY PANTIES" . maybe if someone like provokes you youll spill something, but honestly whose going to be asking you if you wear granny panties? if you get the picture. i think youll be fine. dont get too out of control and havve a good time lol.

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okay, well there is this boy josh that told me he liked me well idk what to do, because he first went out with my sister but they are long gone done with each other, and like i started hanging out with him at the skating rink and he has been an absolute sweetheart. He already told me he loved me and when we were skating i didnt have the hang of it and he helped me he actually held my hand and everything, And a couple days ago we went again and he sat by me the whole time until i would get upp.
So a little after time passed he asked me for a kiss and i liked him so much i couldnt resist so i did and it met so much.
I just dont know what to do.
please help me!

in my opinion, family definitely comes first. explain how you feel about him. show you care, and explain how much this would mean to you. ask her for her permission. if she says no, you have to accept it, as much as you may not want to. also, if she says yes and you two are close, maybe you should ask her what his problems are. is he really as perfect as he comes off to be?

hope i helped, and if you follow my advice, i hope she lets you get with this guy :]

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FEMALE
Alright. Soo, I don't shave "down there" or anything.
If a guy was to finger me, would he be be turned off? Like, would he think it's gross, or freak out, or be totally repulsed or something?

I'm not saying a guy is going to do that to me. I am only curious.

if a guy truely cares about you, if he likes that or not wouldnt matter to him. [he still might be turned off but he would still like finger you haa]

but yeah most guys like it shaven. there definitely are guys who dont but your more likely to find a guy that does.

guys have to expect that girls have hair down there, because at a certain age they know girls have gone through puberty. but many assume that all girls shave, but they wouldnt be like freaked out if you did have hair haha.

my opinion, shave it off :] once i did i thought it was worth the extra two seconds in the shower lmaoo

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so i dated this guy for about 2 years.. i was in love with him. about 7 months ago he broke up with me. i was obviuosly crushed ive never been through more pain in my life! after we broke up we would still talk and he told me he still had a lot of feelings for me but he didnt know if he wanted to be with me or not. just about 2 months ago he told me he still LOVED me, but he actually just went away to college and he said he didnt know if it would work being an hour away. well about a month ago he got a girlfriend. it shocked me so much because we had still been talking and he told me he still loved me about 3 weeks before he started dating this girl. and the even bigger shocker was that it wasnt even somebody from his college, it was a girl from my town! it confused me, i cried really hard abuot it because why would he date her but he couldnt date me?! obviously i'm extremly angry about the situation and i hate him. i do. but for some reason my feelings are still here. i think about him all the time, and i dont want him i really dont beacuse he makes me so mad that he kept me hanging on for 7months for nothing, but hes still on my mind all the damn time! am i ever going to get over this? not being cocky but im a really pretty girl, and i meet a lot of guys but i havent been interested in any of them. its like this whole situation has a chain on me and i cant get out of it! im soo overtaken by it. i go out all the damn time, but in the end its all on my mind. its been a month and its still here lingering.. i just want help with how to get this off my mind, besides "go out" or "date somebody else" because i do go out, and i wish i could date somebody but im not interested in anyone else its nuts!

ok well, first, it seems to me that he may still love you, but he wants to explore other people which is completely normal. and trust me, i see where youre coming from because last year i had a similar situation. for me, i stopped liking him, but i missed him. and YES i can promise you that one day you will not care about him as much. even if you dont think you will, you will. once you find someone, that person will matter more, and you will forget him. try not to talk to him tooo much, but being friendly is fine. you cant force him out of your mind, but if you keep yourself busy, it helps. try to be around people whose company you enjoy as often as possible. listening to music that reminds you about him DOESNT HELP hahha take it from me. make new friends, itll replace thoughts of him. i really hope im helping cause i really see where youre coming from and i know how haunting it is. just remember, things will change! good luck

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