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is it possible


Question Posted Saturday March 28 2009, 12:14 am

is it possible for two people to be together in the future if they see eachother once a month now?

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xemmiex3 answered Sunday March 29 2009, 5:46 pm:
yess it is, but it definitely takes trust on both sides, and a lot of effort. you also must be prepared for the pain you feel with the distance. and if you break up, its harder to stay friends, because you probably wont see each other again. if your willing to deal with these things, then its completely possible.

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WittyUsernameHere answered Sunday March 29 2009, 5:33 am:
My girlfriend and I got together 4 years ago, we were distance and could only see each other once a month.

About a year and a half ago we moved in together.

It was tough, you both have to want it, and be resolved to deal with whatever comes up as adultly as possible to get there, but its definitely possible.

How did we last? Every single day we reaffirmed that we wanted to make it work. Our relationship wasn't fate, meant to be, or any of that other fairy tale bullshit.

It was in the trenches 24/7 war. We fought the world and each other, but 4 years later it was worth every second.

If both of you don't want it that much, that you can look at each other even in the middle of a fight where you don't like each other in the moment, and remember that you're going to want to still be with this person tomorrow.

Thats hard as hell, but if you can find and nurture that, you can overcome anything together.

My recommendation, don't try to figure out if you can be together. Just try to make sure that you want to.

If six months, three months, a week down the road you realize you don't want to make this work anymore, re-evalute the relationship. Distance can't be maintained if both parties don't want it, and if one or the other of you doesn't want to find a way to make the two of you work, you wont. You have to handle issues as they come up, talk about whats going on in both of your heads, and if someone is pissed off, upset, or distant you both have to be willing to talk about why.

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Razhie answered Saturday March 28 2009, 1:30 pm:
Yes.

It also possible technically possible that the world might end tommorrow.

It's entirely possible. However, the younger you are, the less likely it is.

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thelaura answered Saturday March 28 2009, 10:51 am:
If you work at it, anything's possible.

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Uniq_The_Geek answered Saturday March 28 2009, 9:52 am:
Hi :]

Of course it's possible!! But TiNA is right, the relationship has to have honesty... trust.. and lots of love... It's hard to be apart from someone you love and only get to see them once a month, but I'm sure that if in the future you two decide to live together, you both will get to see the pros and cons of the relationship and co-habitation. Good luck and hope I helped!!

Uniq :]

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christina answered Saturday March 28 2009, 6:20 am:
It's possible, but seldom ever works. You have to really love & trust each other to persevere through the times where you're not physically together. But yes, it can be done.

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HotSauce answered Saturday March 28 2009, 6:14 am:
Of course, if there is enough love, commitment.. Friendship even. It's all about how the two of them feel about each other.
But of course there is always a possibility about such a thing.

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