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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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Okay so when I wear my contacts they make my eyes bloodshot because they cut off the air. Is there anthing I can do about it other than getting new ones? If not what type should
I use?

I don't have contacts yet, but my friend Jeff told me to get the Oxygenating ones. He says you can't really feel them at all. In the meantime, try wearing your contacts less often [if you have glasses, put those on when you get home] and use redness reducing eye drops.

okay so i have a weird question...are some people automatically attracted to younger guys/girls?? (not like really young but like 1 or 2yrs younger) becasue i tend to always like the guys in the grades below me...and for the most part all the guys that i know like me are in the grades below me

Nope, totally normal. I'm the oldest in my grade, so it's not too hard to like younger guys. It's possible that the guys that are two grades below you are more mature than the ones in your grade. Not an everyday thing, but no biggie. I wouldn't worry about it at all. As you get older [like, 20s and such] it'll matter even less. :)

Well ive been getting sick of my dark brown hair and my mom wont let me dye my hair. So maybe if i got a semi-permanent(sp?) hair dye she would let me.
*What brand should i get?
*Will a light shade of brown work with my dark brown hair?
*How long does it last?
*If i dont like it how do i get it out?

Thanks in advance. :]]

BTW- PLEASE know what your talking about =D

Any semi-permanent brand is good. But it wont work as good as a permanent dye would, especially on your hair. I have dark brown hair too, so I would know. I use permanent auburn dye, and the red washes out faster than you can say hairdye.

It'll last about a month- it'll start fading after about two weeks. If you dont like it, wash your hair a lot with clarifying shampoo, but still use conditioner!

Oh, and ask her [nicely] why she won't let you use permanent dye. Promise that you'll use a natural-looking color and she could even help you pick it out? Use only dark colored towels the first few days after you color, regardless of the kind of dye you use. Good luck!

I got this in feedback a few days ago- and I have no idea what it means. Can someone possibly explain it to me, or is this person just a complete idiot?

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=lauraxomichelle&mode=qview&q=494559

If that link doesn't work, go to my feedback and it's the top question that's rated a 1. Obviously you can tell who's asking this by the link I provided. Thanks to anyone who helps me :)

Cool, I answered my own question by accident!

Well I got these One a Day Flinstone vitamins and I was wondering what would happen if I took more than one? Would there be a lot of harm or fatal harm?

Cuz I remember my cousin had these long time ago and when she wasn't looking, I'd grab like a handful and shove them in my mouth because they taste so yummy and frankly I'm having a hard time right now trying to avoid that.

Serious problems happen when you take a LOT, like Jack mentioned half a bottle. Some people actually HAVE to take two or three a day, for something like an iron deficiency. I wouldn't recommend taking more than two or three, if that.

My best friend (D) told me not to long ago that she had sex when she was 12, now shes 14. I was shocked and disgusted too, because people always thought she was a whore. My other best friend told me that D told her that it happened more than once. Once in the bed, once in the shower, once on the beach, and once somewhere else, and a couple other times. This was all with her boyfriend (M). M died last year, and he was only 13. Anyway, she didn't tell me it happened all those times,because she knew I'd be even more disapointed I guess. When D told me about the first time, I told her I had lost respect for her. I think she is a whore. One time in class we were counting all the guys she dated, and I was naming random names and she would be like Yup. The total was 17. D turned 14 a few months ago. Would you agree that D is a whore? Also, would it be wrong to stop talking to her, because of that.

So what if she's dated 17 guys? As long as she wasn't dating more than one at a time, she's not a whore. Her standards may be low, sure. But she's by no means a whore. Undoubtedly, some of these guys she dated she was seeeing AFTER "M" died. It could be her way of greiving. So as I've already said, no she's not a whore. And even if she IS, that doesn't make her a horrible friend.

Why would you stop being best friends with a person just because she's had sex? That's a horrible thing to do! Her behaviour isn't rubbing off on you, right? And I'm sure you two have a great friendship otherwise. Your friendship is undoubtedly important to both of you. She could use your support. To answer your other question, no don't stop talking to her.

I am being made to go to a stupid after edding party of someone in my family i havent seen for years or even remember. i only own casual clothes like jeans and stuff. i dont wear skirts . what sorta thing shall i get or is there something i can throw together. Please help me !

Get something like dressy pants, maybe tan as opposed to black because it's a less depressing color [try to avoid black & all-white outfits for weddings]. A nice top to match it is good; you don't need anything too fancy; just don't wear a t-shirt or anything like that. As long as you look presentable, brush your hair and basic things like that- nobody's going to complain. Your family will just be happy that you went & made the effort.

i'm about to use the crest whitestrips classic kit. but i think i might have a cavity. it doesn't hurt and it's pretty small, but i'm really sure if it's a real cavity or not (as i've never had one before). is it safe to use the whitestrips even with this cavity, if it is one? it doesn't say anything on the insert in the package or online.

Yeah, it's safe. Teeth hurt sometimes as they grow in/shift. If you had a cavity, you probably wouldn't be able to touch your teeth at all. The whitestrips make your teeth sensitive. So look out for that.

If your tooth continues to hurt, see a dentist. It'll put your mind at ease & they'll be able to fix the problem, if you have one at all.

;D

hey. ok, well i'm 14/f. and i was reading the new issue or seventeen or something, and i read this article about runaways. and at the bottom of the article they gave a number for people who are thinking about running away, and it said that they did counsling and stuff. well, i've been thinking about calling that number, but will that number show up on my phone bill? because i don't want my parents to see the number, because it's a 1-800 number. now, i don't want you guys to tell me to not run away, because i don't think i will, but i will admit that i have thought about it before. i just want to know if it will show up on the bill. eaither on the home phone or cell phone. thanks. bye.

Cell phones don;t usually show a record of every phone number called, but your parents can request it if they're suspicious. A lot of those numbers don't show up on phone bills. Plus, if you use a cellphone [ assuming its not a prepaid ] at night, it won't even count against your minutes!

Hope everything works out, and I'm glad you're looking for advice and guidance as opposed to actually running away. This site's a good place to ask if you need another perspective. We're here to help you with just about ANYTHING, really!

my boyfriend and I are going to be cuddling up to a few movies tomorrow night and I just realized, I don't have popcorn. I don't have the money at this point to go buy a whole box for one night, does anyone know any good alternatives to eat during the movies?

i think i have some of the popcorn kernals, like, uncooked popcorn...how do you cook that right? it never works for me.

Anything crunchy. Or candy. Chips, pretzels, heck even dry cereal. Any good snack food that isn't excessively messy. Or sticky, in case it's kicked off the couch during scary parts. Try to avoid garlic or onions unless you don't mind kissing with skunk breath :P

As for making that popcorn:
[http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Popcorn-in-a-Pan]
[http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Popcorn]

Never actually tried either of those methods, but they make sense. Don't touch hot oil [duh] and remember that it doesn't boil in the pan when it's ready, like water does, it just gets reallly hot.

Have fun!

okay so i have some acne on my back, the pimples aren't like BIG they're just the little red dots, but there's a lot, and i want them gone so that i don't worry when i wear tank tops. it's like on my shoulders and on my back

i'm sorry if this grossed you ladies and gentleman out :/

15/f

Neutrogena Body Clear. Try it. It's not that expensive and it works pretty well for clearing up breakouts on your body. You can also use a spot treatment, if you're flexible enough to get it on your back. Or you could ask someone to out it on for you [ I'm willing to bet your mom wouldn't mind, or ask a close friend ]

Also, a lot of people have bacne. So don't worry about it so much and don't let it keep you from wearing tank tops! It's hot out!

I need help. I am 16 year old, 5'8 female who weighs in at 365 pounds. That's right. THREE HUNDRED And Sixty-Five Pounds. Now please, this is serious so don't comment about how fat I am and all that other bull because believe me, I know already. So I need to lose weight (obviously) not only because it is extremely unhealthy but also because I let my weight run my life. I am sick of worrying about wether or not my gut is hanging out or if my shirt will cover it. I am sick of worrying about wether or not I will fit into a desk at school. This is not a joke people. READ WHAT I'M WRITING I SOUND LIKE A FREAK!!!! :( I need motivation. I am completely unmotivated. I hate being what I am but that isn't enough to make me want to change. I don't know what to do anymore. It's gotten to the point where I think I look gross all the time. And I do!
I look so disgusting I could vomit. And it's all because I am FAT. Personally I think I have a gorgeous face but you can't see it or who I really am because I'm in this fat suit. :( I've been big all my life but I can't go on like this or I'll be in my 30's and weigh 600 pounds. That isn't even a human being anymore...It's an animal. :( Any thoughts or advice to get me motivated or, anything. Please, I am desperate.

Enlist the help of your doctors, get a nutritionist and a personal trainer, if you can afford one. You could truly benefit from all this help, and they can provide motivation too. Plus, your doctor can monitor your progress and make sure you're not losing weight too quickly or endangering your health, and adjust any medications you're on as your weight changes.

Motivation. I always found that it had to come from MYSELF, and not anyone else. Okay, all these eating dosorder specialists tell me this is bad. But I looked at girls in magazines. Not the pencil-thin ones; the ones that were athletic, a cheerleader's appearance [not scary-thin, but fit] and I wanted to work to look like that. I wanted to be comfortable with myself, and I told myself that losing the weight would allow me to achieve that goal. Shedding 30+ lbs for me, was a big deal. I felt so much more confident and secure with myself. See, the motivation people need to lose weight [or do ANYTHING, really] has to come from YOURSELF. No one else knows what you really want. You have to tell yourself that you can do it [ you can if you set your mind to it ] and it WILL happen. Do it for yourself, and not anyone else. And others WILL notice. Plus, this confidence will show on the outside, too. Another thing that helps. Don't look at yourself as "this is who I am". Look at yourself and think "Gosh, think of what I could become". Focus on other things you do well. Dance, paint, read, write. You've succeeded at everything else, why not losing weight, too? If you have the BELIEF that you can do something, you'll do it. Ok, now I'm repeating myself.

I wish you the best of luck :)

I have some stomach fat and It makes me feel unhealthy. What can I do to make it 'disappear'? I am 14/F. I want it to be a secret from my parents because they will be worried that they think I'm to fat and I'll go too thin. I'm planning to go on this loosing stomach fat within a month if that's possible. Any ideas?

You can't lose weight in just one area. Eat a balanced diet, and exercise everyday. Crunches don't make fat go away, but they work the muscles in that area, and can "tone" your stomach. Why do you need to hide exercising and bettering yourself from your parents? Explain to them that you're trying to improve your health and you're not starving yourself thin, you just want a more toned stomach.

i need help really fast.

whats the order of the four harry potter movies, so far. i know "order of the phoenix" is last.

can someone put in order for me...

the sorcerors stone
chamber of secrets
prizoner and azkaban
and goblet of fire

is that the order? thnx

Yeah, that's the order. You have it right. But it's spelled "Sorcerer" and in the UK it was the Philospoher's Stone, but only for the book. & it's "Prisoner of Azkaban" for number 3.

I'm a Harry Potter addict, by the way.

heyy
can anyone tell me what this song is?

http://www.myspace.com/hbreakerclothing

i've looked everywhere
google, letssingit.com, etc.

if you dont go it goes [here are parts of it]
"im just gunna let my life bleed on this letter"
"ill still love you when im gone"
"teardrops paint the faces"
"let my song sing on forever"

thank you :]

When I'm Gone By the Click Five.
That's song's pretty good.. I didn't actually believe Google at first.

[http://www.metrolyrics.com/when-im-gone-lyrics-click-five.html]

does anyone else think there should be a better way to organize the questions on this site? the new questions bump out the old ones and people who could have answered the question better may never get to see it and the user may have to retype it because it gets bumped out of their question list if they have more than a page or something.. help?

This should really be in the "Make Suggestions" tab.

I think we could benefit from a few new categories [too many end up in random weirdos]. But I think what we have works well, espeically with the new sidebar things. If you want to know which questions were asked more than an hour ago, just go to page two of questions and skim the questions until you find one you can answer. It takes a lot to keep this site running, so don't complain about it until you're the one writing the code and paying the server fees, you know?

I have both, A myspace and a facebook.

I have a few questions about them.

-1. Why does myspace always get bugs and facebook doesnt?

-2. Which is more safe, myspace or facebook?

-3. Why is Myspace copying everything in and out of facebook? Like, everything is the same!

-4. Is there any way possibal, [with application on facebook] to get a LAYOUT. like with colors, im so bored of the white and blue!

-5. Why do so many people send out ''whores'' on myspace? It's redicilious when I see layout sites posting "ADD HER! ADD HIM!" its so annoying!

-6. Why does it matter if you are in highschool to use eather website? As long as if you are a mature, teen.. notice how i said teen.. not a 9 year old that knows what they are doing arent they okay?

Thanks, these questions go though my head ALL the time when im on these websites.

1. Because it's more popular, and I think the way people add so many scripts and stuff, it's easier to hack into or something.

2. I'd say facebook, cause it doesn't have as much media attention & users. But both are perfectly safe if you have a brain in your head & use a teeny bit of common sense.

3. Because everyone copies everyone, and all the social netowrking sites want to have similar features so they don't lose users, a.k.a. "customers". It's the same reason Pepsi adds vanilla flavor to their cola when Coke made Coke Vanilla. They don't want to lose customers!

4. Not really. None I've heard of.

5. Because there's still people who think you need 9,726,465 fake online friends to be happy. Plus a lot are layout sites.

6. The 1% who abuse the site, meet strange men in dark alleys, and buy guns off myspace make everyone look bad. Really, use your common sense and you're fine. Having a Facebook won't get you raped in a dark alley, unless you tell someone you meet online to MEET you in that dark alley. COMMON SENSE. So many people lack it these days; it's pathetic!

ok well i have this friend named jen and she is generally really annoying. ive known her since 2nd grade and shes always been like this. people pretend to like her and stuff and a lot of her friends think that she is really annoying and wish she would shut up. shes nice tho and people dont wanna be mean to her. problem is we're starting high school soon and she will not have any friends the way this is going. shes an only child, kinda rich, really spoiled, and a wannabe prep. she brings up the stupidest jokes that are not funny, she has an obsession with school-as in if there is a test its all she talks about, laughs too much, and is very stalkerish. she wants to be my bff but im like the total opposite. guess you could say ima tomboy, i dont like shopping much-[shes obsessed with name brands] and i like hanging out with guys mostly. my friends think shes so annoying and so do i but how can she change this. she knows that she has a problem and wants me to help her with it. uhh i dont want her to be like a loner or anything cuz shes nice and stuff. thanx =]

I'm only answering this because your friend actually WANTS to change. It seems that her main problem is that she talks to freakin' much, no? Advise her to be a listener, instead of a talker. Actually LISTEN to what people are talking about and join in to their conversation instead of starting your own. Stuff like that. Tell her to stop being stalkerish, because that could get her into trouble. O

therwise, there's not much else YOU can do. She has to do it on her own. But she shouldn't have to completely change herself to be liked. Maybe YOU should all stop judging her so much, you know? She probably just wants some true friends that won't judge her for being [and I quote] "an only child, kinda rich, really spoiled, and a wannabe prep". Who cares how much money she has or if she's an only child? And there's no such thing as laughing too much. Well, like funerals and church, yeah you should stop. But she's probably just a happy person! If you stop analyzing her like this, maybe she'll be able to find some friends that won't judge her.

Anyone know some good songs about confusion? Please indicate the artist.

Institutionalized comes to mind. It's by Suicidal Tendences & Senses Fail did a cover. Oh and Crazy by Gnarls Barkley or however it's spelled. Even though that song makes my ears bleed sometimes, ha.

A lot of songs CONFUSE me; if that's what your looking for the list is five miles long. Hotel California [just recently figured that one out] - The Eagles. Etc. All those songs with double meanings could be about confusion, I guess.

This question is actually kinda confusing, haha. If my answer wasn't what you wanted, let me know in feedback & I'll try to help.

I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend( its only like 3 hours difference) we have been together for about 4 months and he wants me to meet his family for dinner. I am nervous as hell but how should I act? His family is REALLY REALLY close to one another too everyone knows everyones business.

I'd just be yourself. Anyone's gonna be nervous the first time they meet the parents. But it's actually not that big of a deal. He's probably been talking about you, so they already know a bit about you, I'd bet. Dress appropriately for the restaurant, and don't wear so much makeup you look like a clown. Talk to his parents like you would anyone else's parents. School, your friends, and hobbies are bound to be conversation starters. Good luck! :)

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