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Everyone Look Out! Shamu is in the Building!
I need help. I am 16 year old, 5'8 female who weighs in at 365 pounds. That's right. THREE HUNDRED And Sixty-Five Pounds. Now please, this is serious so don't comment about how fat I am and all that other bull because believe me, I know already. So I need to lose weight (obviously) not only because it is extremely unhealthy but also because I let my weight run my life. I am sick of worrying about wether or not my gut is hanging out or if my shirt will cover it. I am sick of worrying about wether or not I will fit into a desk at school. This is not a joke people. READ WHAT I'M WRITING I SOUND LIKE A FREAK!!!! :( I need motivation. I am completely unmotivated. I hate being what I am but that isn't enough to make me want to change. I don't know what to do anymore. It's gotten to the point where I think I look gross all the time. And I do!
I look so disgusting I could vomit. And it's all because I am FAT. Personally I think I have a gorgeous face but you can't see it or who I really am because I'm in this fat suit. :( I've been big all my life but I can't go on like this or I'll be in my 30's and weigh 600 pounds. That isn't even a human being anymore...It's an animal. :( Any thoughts or advice to get me motivated or, anything. Please, I am desperate.
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ok, first off-
you seem negitive =/ and sort of like you've lost hope.
GET THAT OUT OF YOUR HEAD ! =P
seriously, the first step is being positive.
as for motivation, think of how pretty you are =]. and think of how much MORE pretty you could be if you lost some weight.
i suggest putting more excersise into your life .. walking, jogging, and running ecspecially.
if possible- join a gym.
take aerobics.
oh! swimming aerobics works too!
is there a ymca around where you live?
if there is . .check out the programs they offer there.
they're often fun, with a low-stress atmosphere.
also .. dont eat after 7:00 pm..because you tend to gain more weight in the evening.
eat more healthy food- like salads, and lean meat.
cut out all junk food and sodas.
trust me.
its not as hard as you think it is.
stay positive =]
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I suggest buying "The Diet for Teenagers Only". Its a very good book with an EXCELLENT diet plan for teenage girls. i'm just starting it, actually.
Its at Barnes and Noble (if that store isn't near the area you live try Borders, or any other big book store) and its like $20? trust me, its worth it.
There's a lot of motivation speech type things there as well. and excersise routine that you can stick with.
Good Luck and I hope you find what you're looking for.
Remember, this book starts off small. once you go on this diet you will loose up to 5lbs the first week.
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Sweetie, you're beautiful don't let anything stand in your way of thinking that. Beauty is in your eyes, no one elses. Look at yourself in the mirror every morning and tell yourself you're beautiful and don't think of the negative. As for motivation, call up a friend or someone close to you and ask them to take a walk with you because you don't want to jump into exercise since your body isn't used to it yet. Gradually work your way to a jog and add distance every time. If you can't find someone who will do it with you, blast some upbeat music that will get you in the mood to move around. Maybe you can start being active by cleaning up around your house. Also, go to your doctor and ask them to give you a diet and exercise plan. Don't try to push weight loss, it will happen in time. If you can afford it get a personal trainer because they will definately get you into shape. Good luck and keep your chin up! :)
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I was obsessed with my weight for awhile and what motivated me was all the negative things. That's bad for your self esteem, but it got me somewhere. But I suggest you go to your doctor.
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Ok, I wasn't motivated to deal with weight either, but what I did was my parents and I got a membership with the YMCA and did a personal training session, got charts to fill out and keep track of what we were doing and when. I go way more than my parents do, but it took me a while to get into it. Generally the rule is that you have to repeat it a certain number of times to make it habit (it's either 14 or 21, I don't remember).
There are two things that go hand-in-hand in terms of weight loss and shaping up and those (as you probably know) are physical activity and eating right.
I haven't got a clue about what you eat, but the general idea is this: minimal junk and fast food, fruit and veggies, snacks are okay as long as they're apples or dried fruit instead of chips and candy. 5 small meals a day are ideal and a work-out plan is probably a necessity.
Any gym will work, obviously, so I'd talk to your parents about at least getting you a membership so you can work with different weights as well as do stationary bike, treadmill and other cardio machines. Another good thing that will help burn calories and is good for working out is swimming, if you're comfortable with that. Laps are excellent.
Also talk to your doctor and a nutritionist about eating, what's good and not, how much to start with for activity, what you can do on days that you can't get to the gym and even what family and friends can do to gently help you if you start to slip backwards.
Best of luck!
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Okay, obviously I'm not a doctor. But I suggest that you go to your doctor, & have him/her see what kind of condition you are to exercise. I'm going to tell you to work your butt off for 2 hours every day, when it's possible something could happen. (And I'm just taking percaution, nothing personal.) For whatever reason(s), I know what it feels like to be unmotivated. I've been there. PLENTY of times, believe me.
You just have to know what your goal is, and go for it. First of all, don't let other peoples' opinions get to you or bother you. You are who you are, and only you can control your [own] thoughts. Dieting isn't something to drop the pounds and just forget, it's a LIFESTYLE. And I wouldn't think of exercising as a way to burn calories, I'd think of it as a way to keep you healthy.
I suggest meeting people who feel the way you do, reguardless of the situation, & use them as inspirors.
Secondly, body-image is the key. I know and understand it's hard, but to build yourself up, you're going to have to get through the worst struggles first.
What you want-think about it. Think where you are now, and who you want to be. I'm not saying to develop some sort of eating disorder, or anything else. But let that motivate you, inspire you.
I'm not sure if that's what you're looking for, but if it is, I hope I helped. If you're interested in anything else I have to say (which I'm not so sure I give the best advice), let me know. I'd be happy to e-mail or whatever you want.
Jess♥
PS. Even though I may not have some sort of weight issue, I've struggled with a lot.
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Aww sweetie you ARE beautiful! EVERYONE is beautiful in there own way! What you need to do is tell your parents you want to lose weight. They can moniter what you eat and not buy anything to tempting. Because your 16, you should be alowd to go to a gym by yourself but it would help if you could find someone who wants to do it with you to make the experience a little more fun. Getting a personal trainer is definatly a good option. They make you do the exercise and force you to burn those calories! A nutritionist is advised to, to help with what you can and can't eat. It will take time but don't be discouraged if your not losing weight fast enough. Just keep telling yourself that you CAN do it! The point of having someone with you is to motivate you to excel. When i was losing weight, i would get so upset if i didn't lose any weight at all and even times when i would gain weight. It made me want to give up, but i kept going and as soon as you start to see a difference and notice you feel so fantastic! There is so many overweight people and they just need that push to help them to find the healthy person they deserve to be. Don't be afraid to do things because of your weight, just do it! As soon as you start losing weight and seeing a difference im telling you that you WILL be motivated and i felt alot happier that i was becoming physically the person i wanted. Good luck! and you will always be beautiful no matter what! Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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Enlist the help of your doctors, get a nutritionist and a personal trainer, if you can afford one. You could truly benefit from all this help, and they can provide motivation too. Plus, your doctor can monitor your progress and make sure you're not losing weight too quickly or endangering your health, and adjust any medications you're on as your weight changes.
Motivation. I always found that it had to come from MYSELF, and not anyone else. Okay, all these eating dosorder specialists tell me this is bad. But I looked at girls in magazines. Not the pencil-thin ones; the ones that were athletic, a cheerleader's appearance [not scary-thin, but fit] and I wanted to work to look like that. I wanted to be comfortable with myself, and I told myself that losing the weight would allow me to achieve that goal. Shedding 30+ lbs for me, was a big deal. I felt so much more confident and secure with myself. See, the motivation people need to lose weight [or do ANYTHING, really] has to come from YOURSELF. No one else knows what you really want. You have to tell yourself that you can do it [ you can if you set your mind to it ] and it WILL happen. Do it for yourself, and not anyone else. And others WILL notice. Plus, this confidence will show on the outside, too. Another thing that helps. Don't look at yourself as "this is who I am". Look at yourself and think "Gosh, think of what I could become". Focus on other things you do well. Dance, paint, read, write. You've succeeded at everything else, why not losing weight, too? If you have the BELIEF that you can do something, you'll do it. Ok, now I'm repeating myself.
I wish you the best of luck :)
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No one can really give you the advice you need for this one. I can tell you something good though. Go to a doctor and tell them everything you typed down. Im sure they can help you way better than any of us can.
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