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my friend is annoying and wants to change
ok well i have this friend named jen and she is generally really annoying. ive known her since 2nd grade and shes always been like this. people pretend to like her and stuff and a lot of her friends think that she is really annoying and wish she would shut up. shes nice tho and people dont wanna be mean to her. problem is we're starting high school soon and she will not have any friends the way this is going. shes an only child, kinda rich, really spoiled, and a wannabe prep. she brings up the stupidest jokes that are not funny, she has an obsession with school-as in if there is a test its all she talks about, laughs too much, and is very stalkerish. she wants to be my bff but im like the total opposite. guess you could say ima tomboy, i dont like shopping much-[shes obsessed with name brands] and i like hanging out with guys mostly. my friends think shes so annoying and so do i but how can she change this. she knows that she has a problem and wants me to help her with it. uhh i dont want her to be like a loner or anything cuz shes nice and stuff. thanx =]
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I'm only answering this because your friend actually WANTS to change. It seems that her main problem is that she talks to freakin' much, no? Advise her to be a listener, instead of a talker. Actually LISTEN to what people are talking about and join in to their conversation instead of starting your own. Stuff like that. Tell her to stop being stalkerish, because that could get her into trouble. O
therwise, there's not much else YOU can do. She has to do it on her own. But she shouldn't have to completely change herself to be liked. Maybe YOU should all stop judging her so much, you know? She probably just wants some true friends that won't judge her for being [and I quote] "an only child, kinda rich, really spoiled, and a wannabe prep". Who cares how much money she has or if she's an only child? And there's no such thing as laughing too much. Well, like funerals and church, yeah you should stop. But she's probably just a happy person! If you stop analyzing her like this, maybe she'll be able to find some friends that won't judge her.
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One of my 'close' friends is exactly like that expect shes the baby of the family so she gets whatever she wants. You need to sit down and talk to her about how annoying she gets. Tell her some things she can change. She probably likes attention alot because her parents have given her so much of it so the reason why she does all those things is to get people to notice her. Tell her people will pay attention to her and like her if she just calms down a bit and acts a little less clingy. Tell her straight out the kind of things she can improve on. In highschool if she doesn't change, she'll find people who are exactly like her to be friends with. But she has gone to you for help so try your best to help her out. She probably looks up to you thats why she's asked you to help her. She can be interested in brand names and shopping but the stalkerish part is just a bit much. If you don't want to be Bff's then tell her she's just to full on and needs to just relax a little. Just be honest with her about whats annoying people but give her some positives to like that she is a nice person and stuff. Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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Just sort of (in a nice way) point it out to her when she's doing it. Tell her that she just needs to be chill and stop trying so hard.
When your with a group of people, just let her know when she's doing something that they might not necessarily like. You don't have to be best friends with her, but I'm sure she appreciates having someone like you to help her.
A lot of people go through this stage, but eventually she will come into her own and stop being so obnoxious. Until then, your help would probably be appreciated.
Sit her down and let her know all the things she does that could be founs annoying and tell her that she's a really nice person and that you think she would have a lot more friends if she didn't act like this.
She sounds like a good girl. She can't be too far gone. I'm sure with your help, she will grow out of it.
Good Luck!
Sarah
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Teacher her by showing her. If she is annoying you let her know, so she will learn that that particular thing she is doing is annoying.
Like if she is talking about a store too much be like OK thats enough. We dont want to hear about it. Basically what im saying is be blunt with her. And when she sees that your fed up she will change herself.
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