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Is my best friend a w h o r e ?
My best friend (D) told me not to long ago that she had sex when she was 12, now shes 14. I was shocked and disgusted too, because people always thought she was a whore. My other best friend told me that D told her that it happened more than once. Once in the bed, once in the shower, once on the beach, and once somewhere else, and a couple other times. This was all with her boyfriend (M). M died last year, and he was only 13. Anyway, she didn't tell me it happened all those times,because she knew I'd be even more disapointed I guess. When D told me about the first time, I told her I had lost respect for her. I think she is a whore. One time in class we were counting all the guys she dated, and I was naming random names and she would be like Yup. The total was 17. D turned 14 a few months ago. Would you agree that D is a whore? Also, would it be wrong to stop talking to her, because of that.
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i dont think she is a whore unles she has done it with more guys other than (M)...but if she has only done it with (M) then i don't think that she is a whore.
but 12 is realy realy young to have sex even if those two had been going out for ages. but i don't think that you should stop talking to her, just try to move on with life and forget that she has had sex quite a few times, because it is her life and if she wants to do that with her life its her choice..just don;t follow in her footsteps.
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yess she may be a whore i mean having sex at 12??? that is a bit too young to be having sex...
but not talking to her is a bit much .. i have many friends that have had sex at 12 or 13 and im not TOO happy about it ...but i just forget i never heard it and get on with life... we can't get mad over our friends mistakes because it's none of our buisness what she does with her love life..
you can be concerned about the really bad things she does in her life ...
but her LOVE LIFE is hers and no can interfear with that ..
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As long as your bestfriend has only slept with M, I wouldn't necessarily consider her a whore. A whore is usually considered as someone who sleeps around with multiple boys at once, or someone who's "easy." I don't think you explained your bestfriend as either, right? Yes, 17 boys is a LOT of fellas. But as long as she didn't date two or more at once, I don't see what's wrong? You can't blame her for boys liking her. O_o Still, the age she started having sex disgusts me. As well as the number of times she had too. But despite it all, it's HER life and it's not like you'll be able to make those kind of decisions for her. And despite her sexual experience, it doesn't change her as a person, overrall. I bet if she hadn't told you about her past, you'd still have a great friendship, right?
It's ultimatly your decision, but I don't think that should have anything to do with yall's friendship.. Your friend confided in you with something that's really none of your business. I think you shouldn't label her as a whore, and start acting like a real best friend, but hey. Iuno.
Luckkkk.
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no, sorry i don't think that she is a whore. And maybe you should try to support her a little bit. I think that she might need a friend right now. She may have loved the guy she had sex with. Try talking to her, and see her point of view. Plus I agree with on of the other people, it's not like she had sex with most of her bf's. So if I were you, I'd try to talk to her.
Love,
Hailey_xx
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No, I do not agree with you. Your friend isn't a whore. The only way that she would be a whore is if she had sex with 17 guys all while dating someone else, or dated multiple people at once. If she hasn't, then she's not a whore & it's incredibly wrong of you to label her as one.
And no, you shouldn't stop talking to her because of this. So what if your friend has had sex & had boyfriends? It was bound to happen sometime so even if she did it years from now, are you still going to stop talking to her? Think about this -- how would you feel if you got drunk & your friend stopped talking to you because of it? You'd be upset, am I right? Exactly, so if it'd piss you off, don't do it to her. Your friend DOES have feelings, so that doesn't mean you can stomp all over them.
Although I'm a little disgusted with how early she's been having sex, I'm sure it doesn't take away from her personality or the person she is. If she's a nice girl & a good friend, then who gives a flying rats ass how many people she's dated? You should be a better friend to her & a little less shallow as well.
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No, I don't necessary agree.
There's a difference between dating and having sex. Since she has had sex with her boyfriend, I think it's a lot better than many guys. If she has done it a lot and hasn't gotten pregnant, she must be using some protection and she's being smart about it.
At that age, many girls date a lot of guys. it's not for real. I've known many girls who dated more than that. you take nothing seriously at that age, if you do then the guy usually doesn't and dumps you. it just seems like you want a boyfriend.. a cute funny guy to be around. so you go through a lot in middle school and stuff. My friends have dated many people and are virgins still. I can see why you lost you respect for her. Same thing happened to me with a friend.. it's shocking but it happens.. if she said she only had sex with her boyfriend.. She's really not being a whore.
If you think she's a bad person.. then you must think everyone else is one too. She told you something personal and trusted you with the information. So she must want you around as a friend. You seem like a really good friend and someone that will hold her together. If people keep putting her down and pushing her away, she might make other decisions bad for her. I'm sure there's other girls who aren't virgins but don't have a good friend to talk to about it. They don't want rejection. She's not really a whore unless she's on the streets having sex for money. She's not a slut either. I really don't think she's promiscuous/easy either.. I guess it's just my opinion. If she had sex with all those guys, then yeah she would be easy. But with one person.. i think it's not as bad as everyone makes it seem. yes the whole age thing is somewhat surprising.. younger ones are actual whores.
you should stick around though. you trusted you. you may not have much respect for her but as the years go by.. your opinion may change.
You will date people.. maybe more or less than others.. but it doesn't make you a whore unless you're sexually active with all of them.
I don't know. just my opinion. When i was in middle school, my best friend dated about 4 guys and everyone thought she was a whore. Things change..
It's your decision though.. what to think of her and what to do. You could stop talking to her for a while to gather your thoughts.. but those people need friends too.
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At 12 years old!? Wow... half of 12 year olds only are sprouting their first pubes! Anyways, I'm sorry shes a whore. That doesn't meen stop being her friend though, because that would make you a shitty friend. Lifes rough, but you only live it once so let the negative and pointless things slide, and remember that she IS your friend, not some prostitue running wild in the streets. If she needs help, help her. If she doesn't let her know that you're their for her. Just because shes premicious DOESN'T meen that shes a bad person. It's shocking, but I have a friend whois going down the same path, and however she has a few personality problems I'm there for her. Why? Because I'm her friend, and I don't care what people have to say about her, shes a good person, just foolish.
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Calling someone a whore is very subective. It's all in the eyes of the beholder. I can definatly see how she got that title, but it is HER life and HER body. You can give her your input, but when it comes down to it, she makes the decision. Just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean that she has to think the same way.
The reality of it is, she needs a friend like you that will be a positive influence in her life. Don't drop the friendship because of that. You will realize later on in life that that kind of thinking is hypocritical. Your her best friend, you should be there for her no mater what. It's her life so let her make her own decisions.
Best of Luck,
Sarah
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i would say she is a whore. i would understand if it was only once, b/c some guys are dicks, but all those times, come on now esp. if it was with another 12 year old. i dont think you should stop being friends with her. but if shes still having sex now. then slowly stop talking to her. find out if shes still doing it. then maybe try talking to her. hope i helped<3
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All the stuff your friend seems to be saying seems like she's making it up. If she's had sex I doubt she'd be telling everyone about it. I think she's just seeking attention and blowing everything out of proportion and exaggerating.
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well D doesnt really seem like a whore if all she was doing this with was one guy. if it was a bunch of diffrent guys then she would be but one guy not really. and to stop being her friend becasue of it is kind of wrong, if she is chnaging her personality thenyes but if no then she is still the same person you now? well hope i helped let me know how it goes
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A whore, in what we think is someone who sleeps around alot. This girl, even though it is shunned in our society, had sex at a young age. She obviously liked this guy alot and it was her choice wether she did it or not. I know people who have dated more than that many guys or slept with more than just one guy, but i dont hate them or have lost respect for them.
This girl is your friend. Your jugding who she is because of her own choices to be sexual or not. It hasnt changed her as a person. If she had never told her you wouldnt have had a problem with her.
I know it is hard to accept she could do something so young but cmon shes your friend and she is still a good person. I think it is wrong to stop talking to her because of that. Your basing your entire friendship on what she did with her boyfriend when that is none of your buisness. D is a whore in the way she has slept around but just becuase she is one doesnt make her a bad person.
I suggest you think about what kind of friend you are being here. How can you just lose respect for someone who has opened up to u and told you something that was THEIR buisness not yours.
I have a friend who makes some bad choices of sleeping around with alot of guys but she is still a fantastic girl. Its her choice what she does in her privacy and in her relationships and none of my buisness. I worry for her and if she asks me for advice on a guy i will tell her its not safe to be doing this but i cant stop her and im not going to hate her for what shes done because the fast is she still is the friend i have always adored and nothings going to change that.
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So what if she's dated 17 guys? As long as she wasn't dating more than one at a time, she's not a whore. Her standards may be low, sure. But she's by no means a whore. Undoubtedly, some of these guys she dated she was seeeing AFTER "M" died. It could be her way of greiving. So as I've already said, no she's not a whore. And even if she IS, that doesn't make her a horrible friend.
Why would you stop being best friends with a person just because she's had sex? That's a horrible thing to do! Her behaviour isn't rubbing off on you, right? And I'm sure you two have a great friendship otherwise. Your friendship is undoubtedly important to both of you. She could use your support. To answer your other question, no don't stop talking to her.
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I think she is a whore, simply because she's been having sex- AT 12 FRICKING YEARS OLD! She's disgusting. Having sex with 17 different guys by the time your not even 14 is just wrong. She's obviously very messed up, and I wouldn't blame you for not talking to her. If you don't want people like that in your life, you don't have to have them there. Go find some better friends.
--Jack
(15/m)
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i think maybe she likes all the attention on her. i have a friend like this and she wanted attention so that might be the case. i would tell her she needs 2 stop or your not gonna be her friend. i hope i helped
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Chyea. She's a whore, alright.
A 12 year old girl running around having sex with her boyfriend. Did she tell you how her boyfriend died? Probably from AIDS which is caused by HIV, they're STDs.
And she lied to you about it, she kept the truth from you which is just as bad. I would avoid her, and not talk to her often. Don't let her influence you. :(
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