it all started yesterday. yesterday was a really bad day for me.. i mean we had to clean our entire house, and i couldnt even go out with my friend to see fireworks at some place, since we're not going anywhere for 4th of july, cause my mom has work, and my dad's busy as always. and i recently made a myspace, and i asked my friend (not her friend anymore i guess) if i could be on her top, and she said no, and then i asked what i should reply to her after she said that, and you guys at advicenators gave me advice and i took it and well.. this is what happened.
(by the way, i have been friends with this girl since like 4th grade, and she was more my friend during 5th and 6th grade but it changed during 7th. it was like she wasnt even interested in me sometimes... it got annoying but i didnt think that she didnt like me till she didnt invite me to her end of the year sleepover. i asked her if i was going and shes like "sorry its for close friends only" when some people she invited she didnt even know as long as i've known her! so it hurt.. and im real confused.)
me: hey (her name)! hows your summer? add me to your top? =]
her: umm...no your not going in my top
me: whatever, thats cool. by the way, why have you been acting kinda weird around me?
her: because, your rude. you piss me off alot and, you act as if the world loves you sometimes!!
now i dunno what to reply! cause what she said stuck in my head for the whole day. am i really rude? im usually nice to everyone, i dont even think i've ever been mean to her.. well i was mean to some girl because after a long time she just kept pissing me off, and i scribbled on her face in my yearbook. i didnt think people would find out but some of my friends saw it who didnt care, and this girl im talking about saw it and she didnt like it.. but it wasnt even about her and besides she doesnt know how that girl had been acting so i'd scribble on her face. i dont regret doing that, and it wasnt like i was gonna show them that i drew it, though they found out anyways... their problem.
and i dunno how i piss her off, and if i act like the world loves me.. doesnt that mean confidence? i dunno but maybe its cause im optimistic and stuff, but i really dont know cause nobody's ever said that to me before. :( what should i do? if im really rude or anything how can i fix it? and is this a friend i should really keep and how should i reply to that message without being "rude" or should i be rude?
Obviously if you care about your behaviour, you can't be THAT rude.
But let's get something straight here, please.
It's not "their" problem if they see their face crossed out in your yearbook, that hurts just as much as her not adding you to her top or you not being invited. Think of it that way. And then it becomes your problem, according to your theory. Everything you say or do will come right back to you.
I think you're entitled to leave a rude message in this case, but I wouldn't. Don't sink that low. Just say this:
"I piss you off, and how is that? I asked to be at your top and wasn't invited to your party? Oh you're right, I shouldn't've done that, I'll try to be more perfect like you. =] But we all know I can't be."
That's rude but it's sugarcoated, I think it'd be best if it came from you, yourself.
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My best friend (D) told me not to long ago that she had sex when she was 12, now shes 14. I was shocked and disgusted too, because people always thought she was a whore. My other best friend told me that D told her that it happened more than once. Once in the bed, once in the shower, once on the beach, and once somewhere else, and a couple other times. This was all with her boyfriend (M). M died last year, and he was only 13. Anyway, she didn't tell me it happened all those times,because she knew I'd be even more disapointed I guess. When D told me about the first time, I told her I had lost respect for her. I think she is a whore. One time in class we were counting all the guys she dated, and I was naming random names and she would be like Yup. The total was 17. D turned 14 a few months ago. Would you agree that D is a whore? Also, would it be wrong to stop talking to her, because of that.
Chyea. She's a whore, alright.
A 12 year old girl running around having sex with her boyfriend. Did she tell you how her boyfriend died? Probably from AIDS which is caused by HIV, they're STDs.
And she lied to you about it, she kept the truth from you which is just as bad. I would avoid her, and not talk to her often. Don't let her influence you. :(
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ok my friend told me today that chris brown and channing tatum are gayy is that truee?
*Shrugs* I don't know but I hate rumors.
Doubt it.
And just so you know, this is an advice column, you don't need advice. You just wanna know if a rumor is true, don't take advantage of this website just google it if you must.
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me && my boyfriend have bein having sex for a while now, well now im sorta wishing i would have waited.
i love having sex with him, && pleasing him. And we are comfortable with everything and we're trying to talk about everything more openly now.
&& before sex he always asks if im sure and everything, and normally i am, but afterward i kinda wish we hadnt, but sometimes i dont.
how do i tell him a want to slow it down every now and then??
Thanx n advance
If you are comfortable enough to have sex with him, you should be comfortable enough talking about this with him. If you're not, then whether you are happy you had sex or not, it was a mistake. Talk before you strip, and think before you talk.
Just sit him down and talk to him. He asks you if you're sure you want to do this for a reason, and he obviously cares for you to some degree, right? Try this:
"Hey (his name). I've been meaning to talk to you about something. (Then take his hand) I wanna take things slower, I think maybe sex was just a big jump from what we used to do and I'd rather go back and cross that bridge again slower. I should've told you before, and I'm sorry."
If you'd like, you don't even have to bring it up until he brings up sex and I know it's tempting so just ask God for endurance and strength to do this right. Go through your life at your own pace.
I know everybody thinks parents are dorky about the sex topic, but they say to wait for marriage for a reason; because in most cases you'll get a disease or get pregnant before you're ready and regret it. Plus you're just supposed to wait. You don't know what you're doing if you're a fourteen year old girl with a two year old kid let's say because you had early sex. Or you could get a disease & die. :(
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