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iunno if i want it
me && my boyfriend have bein having sex for a while now, well now im sorta wishing i would have waited.
i love having sex with him, && pleasing him. And we are comfortable with everything and we're trying to talk about everything more openly now.
&& before sex he always asks if im sure and everything, and normally i am, but afterward i kinda wish we hadnt, but sometimes i dont.
how do i tell him a want to slow it down every now and then??
Thanx n advance
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ok babe your bf seems really nice and caring as he asks you so you can just tell him
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If you are comfortable enough to have sex with him, you should be comfortable enough talking about this with him. If you're not, then whether you are happy you had sex or not, it was a mistake. Talk before you strip, and think before you talk.
Just sit him down and talk to him. He asks you if you're sure you want to do this for a reason, and he obviously cares for you to some degree, right? Try this:
"Hey (his name). I've been meaning to talk to you about something. (Then take his hand) I wanna take things slower, I think maybe sex was just a big jump from what we used to do and I'd rather go back and cross that bridge again slower. I should've told you before, and I'm sorry."
If you'd like, you don't even have to bring it up until he brings up sex and I know it's tempting so just ask God for endurance and strength to do this right. Go through your life at your own pace.
I know everybody thinks parents are dorky about the sex topic, but they say to wait for marriage for a reason; because in most cases you'll get a disease or get pregnant before you're ready and regret it. Plus you're just supposed to wait. You don't know what you're doing if you're a fourteen year old girl with a two year old kid let's say because you had early sex. Or you could get a disease & die. :(
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Its perfectly normal for anyone to regret or wish they hadn't gone so far after they've done it but its fine if you want to slow it down.
Just sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel, that you love doing it and all but you just want to slow it down for a while. He'll understand. The only way to tell him is to say how you feel and just explain to him what you want to do. When you start to feel more comfortable again, then you can continue to develop the sexual aspect of your relationship. If anythings uncomfortable for you in your relationship dont be afraid to tell your partner.
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You seriously have to sit down with him & flat out tell him. A relationship includes two people. So, if one person is uncomfortable with something, they have to let their bf/gf know. Plus, if you guys have been dating for awhile, he should want you comfortable with everything. Obviously if you're asking this question, you aren't exactly ready to keep having sex. There are a lot of risks with have sex such as pregnancy & STDS. If you are ready for any of those things, then it would be okay to continue on with having sex with your boyfriend. Obviously you are having some doubts, which should be a huge stop sign telling you to slow it down a bit or stop it. Explain to him exactly how you feel. He shouldn't get mad/upset. He should be more concerned. If he does seem mad or not too concerned about it, you should really reconsider things with him then. It would be better for you to just say how you feel rather than hinting at it. You don't want any confusion.
-hope that helped!♥
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