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she thinks i am rude!!!!
it all started yesterday. yesterday was a really bad day for me.. i mean we had to clean our entire house, and i couldnt even go out with my friend to see fireworks at some place, since we're not going anywhere for 4th of july, cause my mom has work, and my dad's busy as always. and i recently made a myspace, and i asked my friend (not her friend anymore i guess) if i could be on her top, and she said no, and then i asked what i should reply to her after she said that, and you guys at advicenators gave me advice and i took it and well.. this is what happened.
(by the way, i have been friends with this girl since like 4th grade, and she was more my friend during 5th and 6th grade but it changed during 7th. it was like she wasnt even interested in me sometimes... it got annoying but i didnt think that she didnt like me till she didnt invite me to her end of the year sleepover. i asked her if i was going and shes like "sorry its for close friends only" when some people she invited she didnt even know as long as i've known her! so it hurt.. and im real confused.)
me: hey (her name)! hows your summer? add me to your top? =]
her: umm...no your not going in my top
me: whatever, thats cool. by the way, why have you been acting kinda weird around me?
her: because, your rude. you piss me off alot and, you act as if the world loves you sometimes!!
now i dunno what to reply! cause what she said stuck in my head for the whole day. am i really rude? im usually nice to everyone, i dont even think i've ever been mean to her.. well i was mean to some girl because after a long time she just kept pissing me off, and i scribbled on her face in my yearbook. i didnt think people would find out but some of my friends saw it who didnt care, and this girl im talking about saw it and she didnt like it.. but it wasnt even about her and besides she doesnt know how that girl had been acting so i'd scribble on her face. i dont regret doing that, and it wasnt like i was gonna show them that i drew it, though they found out anyways... their problem.
and i dunno how i piss her off, and if i act like the world loves me.. doesnt that mean confidence? i dunno but maybe its cause im optimistic and stuff, but i really dont know cause nobody's ever said that to me before. :( what should i do? if im really rude or anything how can i fix it? and is this a friend i should really keep and how should i reply to that message without being "rude" or should i be rude?
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Obviously if you care about your behaviour, you can't be THAT rude.
But let's get something straight here, please.
It's not "their" problem if they see their face crossed out in your yearbook, that hurts just as much as her not adding you to her top or you not being invited. Think of it that way. And then it becomes your problem, according to your theory. Everything you say or do will come right back to you.
I think you're entitled to leave a rude message in this case, but I wouldn't. Don't sink that low. Just say this:
"I piss you off, and how is that? I asked to be at your top and wasn't invited to your party? Oh you're right, I shouldn't've done that, I'll try to be more perfect like you. =] But we all know I can't be."
That's rude but it's sugarcoated, I think it'd be best if it came from you, yourself.
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She obviously isnt that girl she was and you dont need someone like that in your life. What you did was your choice and even though you dont like this girl you didnt broadcast on the radio or anything so thats fine.Maybe its little things you do, that arent nessecily wrong, but she feels all uptight about things.
Accpet the fact you two are bnreakinbg away and are moulding into new people. Hang with others who will set you straight and lead you down the right path if you are doing wrong.
You don't need to say anything back to her because your are the better person and why waste your time on someone who obviously just dosnt care.....
dont be rude to her because then your are proving her point exactly but if you want to get your message across just say to her
that your done with her and you dont care you know who you are and you dont need someone so judgemental in your life who has no reason to call you rude.Just tell her you have a life and apparently you dont need her in it...but that part would be quyite rude
Just deal with the fact people change and not everyone loves you { not saying you think thay}
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well to be honest i don't think that she is a friend you want. but i know how it feels. it's like you want to keep her as a friend because you have known her for so long and you don't want things to change. but at the same time if she is stepping all over you, you shouldn't have to take that. if i were you i would respond with some thing like this:
hey i know things have been weird between us. i don't know what i did to make you mad. but don't you remember how things use to be between us? i mean think of all the fun we had. and are you really ready to give all of that up? because i don't want to but if happiness for you and me means we can't be friends then i will do it even if it hurts. i'm sorry for what ever i did. the balls in your court...
then i would send it. but do what ever you want to but always remember: things do not change, we change.
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Hey,I had the same problem so don't worry about it. So you want to keep this friend obviously and she means a lot to you. Get her by herself somewhere. Talking is the key to sucess.^^ Just ask her why she thinks your rude. Explain your actions to her. If she's friends with that girl you scribbled over then if you really want to keep the relationship apoligize to that girl. No matter how much she annoys you suck it up and say sorry. Tell your 6th grade friend that she should talk to you next time she gets annoye at you instead of buliding it up. If you guys are really friends then you should be able to get through anything. Just remember that not all people think things through before they react so she might even be feeling kind of harsh. Confront her and then swoop in and look like the person who took the highroad. No matter how badly you screw up she'll remember that day forever trust me. Hope all goes well. Ask me for more advice =). P.s. You might want to wait till school's over to scribble all over someone's face XD.
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I'll be honest from the way you're writing you don't actually come across as someone who is a rude person. Confidence is never a bad thing, there is such a thing as being over confident but I don't get this impression from you either. I'm not really sure what to make of this girl who is supposed to be your friend but she's making it clear she doesn't look at you in the same way you do at her. Other than asking her what it is you have done exactly and trying to resolve it (she was a bit vague so personally I think you deserve some answers) all you can really do is just move on. As for the whole picture thing - I don't think that's all that big a deal - if that's all it was that got her in the mood she is then she's making out to be Mother Teresa, which she's not.
As for whether or not you should be rude - I think it wouldn't be worth it. There's no reason to stoop to someone elses level just to get your point across. Be calm and just ask her how you were rude and what is it you do that pisses her off and just see what she says. From there you can see exactly what this is all about since thus far she's not really gone into any details so it could be about anything. Also, are you sure she's not upset about something you might have written about her or someone else on your myspace? Just incase it could be something on there that made her start acting the way she is.
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you aren't rude you just sound like a happy person. forget that girl even though its hard she's probably just jealous. if other people say the same thing though, ask them specifically what you are doing wrong. a good friend would tell you if you really were annoying...
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