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Okay well im a 14/f and i have a friend- ex friend now- but she texted me and was like i tolled everyone your secret! - and my secret is that im a lezbian- and she is the only one i tolled and i thought she was just kidding but she wasn't she tolled like veryone i know and so now everyone is like Oh god you are a lez sick your perverted , do you have a girlfriend , you should die lezbians and gay people shouldn't be aloud on earth ext.... but its starting to get to me and i dont know what to do can you help me??
love,
Stressed out!
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wow. that is a really l mean thing to do... but don't let it get to you. so what if your lesbian. thats okay, peoples should love and respect you for who you are. and if they don't then I don't believe they are your true friends. I think you should take pride in who you are and not worry about what other people say. you will find people who will respect you for who you are. you don't need people to tell you who you are. I think you should be comfortable being who you want to be. don't worry what others say about you. be yourself.
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Of course it's getting to you. You had a friend that you considered trustworthy, and she totally abused your trust. And now people at school are using it against you.
Unfortunately, there is probably very little you can do to make others stop reacting like this - and depending on your school, they may not help, either.
People can be cruel, and tend to focus on differences in other people. This is especially true when it's a difference they feel uncomfortable with. They may feel confused about their own sexuality, making assumptions based on religious thinking or their parents, etc. None of this is your fault.
The one thing you DO have control over in this situation is how you react. Think carefully about what feels best for you.
It may sound trite, but there will be a time when you are not surrounded by small minded, fearful, and bullying people. University is typically a time when people open their minds a bit, and university (depending where you go, of course!) is so much larger than high school you can CHOOSE to be surrounded by people you enjoy.
It's hard enough feeling comfortable and confident with your sexuality without other people judging you, but in ten years time you won't know these people anymore. For right now, you are perfect and wonderful as you are - and no matter how hurtful the comments of others can be, you still have YOU.
I wish you the best.
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Ok, to start out with people who don't deserve to be on this planet, 2tammy2 is probably the most hypocritical person I've seen on this site. You were being nice giving her a 2. I would get her banned. I would keep going but I don't want a perma-ban.
Now on to the ADVICE part of my ramblings...
Listen, at your age, people are very self concious. Everyone is going through a phase and are only looking out for themselves. By even admitting to yourself that you are a lesbian shows that you have way more maturity than anyone else your age. The next time they upset you, remember that you are better than them. Don't let it get to you. Be proud of who you are, because I know that you CANNOT help it. Anyone that is worth your time will accept you for who you are and won't care about dumb things like sexuality that aren't important. Think of it as an oppourtunity to find your real friends, which is hard for most to do in highschool.
Good Luck!
Sarah
Oh, and Tammy, please correct your own grammer before you correct others. No one will take you seriously if they can't read what you write.
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Wow, well this friend, is a terrible person.
I honestly despise people like her.
But you don't need to stress out,
that is what she wants you to do.
You've just got to be confident.
Who cares what this loser says to you?
She's the sick one who shouldn't be allowed on this earth. I mean, if this is how she treats people, especially her 'friends', she's an awful person. Just try not to let it bother you.
Just because you're a lesbian dosen't make you any better or worse than the next person, lesbian or not.
And hey, it might come back around to her,
kharma works in mysterious ways =]
<3 Laura.
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first things first, its not tolled its told, also how can you be really sure your a lesbian when your 14 ppl including my hormones change all the time especially during my period, maybe your friend told everyone when shes actually insecure about herself? maybe you should be there for her just not tell her any secrets?
Ok and as told by the famous: Domonic Monaghan if you havent heard about him you must live in a box, anyway he used to go to school in spiderman costumes and stuff and the average person would say that other kids would make fun of him, but no, he said and its true that we (kids) make fun of weakness if somone is nervous or not proud of who they are then others will attack it and make you feel like crap, so if you really are and choose to be a lesbian(you dont HAVE to be a lesbian if you dont want, you are the boss of your life) be proud of it its your life not theirs so just pretend like the rumors she is spreading dosent bother you and pretty soon she'll stop, soz this is long
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OK hun this is tough,
But i am going to tell you right now that worrying about these people is not worth your time. they are not your real friends if they are going to hate you because of who you are. there is no problem in loving who you want to love. Even though it is hard you shouldnt worry about what those other people think of you and know that you are not sick or percerted. These people are not your real friends if they cant love you for who you really are. Please understand that you are normal and you are not a horrible person so just ignore those people, and dont be afraid to stand up for yourself or just walk away if need be. they are just afraid of new things and things that arent common, and hey maybe some of them are just hiding behind their own fealings
so jsut know that if they are going to rag on you because of who you love they are worthless and just not worth the time
hope this helps, message me if you want to talk more i am always here! :)
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Be proud of who you are. You are you- and no one is like you. So what if you're a lesbian! They can all go die, seriously.. they are jerks and THEY don't deserve to be on Earth. You can't change who you are- so if people want to criticize that- screw them.
And your ex-friend needs to get a life.
--Jack
(15/m)
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