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hi i asked...
im always sad inside , but no body knows cosz i dont show it... how can i get the emptiness in my heart to go away... signed , confused and lonely.

well i no whats bothering me inside.. its that my X boyfriend has gone out with at least 4 of my best friends.. and now hes going out with my closest one .. lets call her shelly - i think hes just using shelly but i really really still like him and i think im crazy for dumping him =\ i dont no how to tell him this .. can you PLEASE give me as much advice as possible..

signed , lonely - again .

You should ask your ex-bf if he really loves shelly, even though he will probably say yes. You should also talk to his friends before him though, and shelly of course. Ask as many people as possible, and if that doesn't work, try to get more evidence to why you think this, and check back with me to tell me whats happening. =)Julia

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By looking at your stats, I would think that we are about the same age. You don't have to answer this, and it's not anything personal...but what is your bra size? *remember* i would really like it if you answered it, but you don't have to. And my other question...can you list the bra sizes starting from smallest to largest. Thanks!I rate high if you give me good answers. (i also really like your music!) :)

i honestly really don't know the answer to the answer to both those questions...im sorry...how old are you?=)Julia

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What does it mean when you link a screename in aim?

it means that if you sign on to the screename you linked to your amni one, then it will sign both of u on

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about a month ago..my neck was very itchy..so i started 2 scratch it..nd it got 2 a lil scab..nd i would always peel off the dry skin..and now its like really big!..and dark nd wont go away..i keep puttin my clearasil ultra 3 day acne treatment..and well iono..i juss kant stop peeling tha scab and it just gets worse! any advice?

Try Neotrogeana Acne Spot Treatment. It really helps your skin, and like really fast without drying it up.=)Julia

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anybody know of good colors for braces

I like to get clear, cause they really are way less noticeable that way.=) Julia

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I have this friend in the 8th grade im in 7th and shes an only child and she thinks shes soo hot but shes dont wanna be rude but really ugly....she has this crush who has a boyfriend now and she thinks he likes her but he doesnt and shes just ugly im sorry but i cant help it I need help and shes always braging about her looks and clothes and voice and stuff.

friend dinial

It's time to move on. She obivously isn't a nice person, and you don't seem to enjoy her company, so it's best to slowly back away from her, and everything should be alirght.=)~Julia

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13/M and i have liked this one girl for about a year now and her and her bf (my friend) of about 1 year and a half just broke up. How long should i wait before i do anything and should i just drop hints. i'm a really good friend of hers and i dont want to do something at the wrong time.
p.s- i was thinking of sending her flowers w/ a card in them or something any good ideas greatly appreciated.

Make sure you are ready to sacrifice a friendship for something that may not work out. The flower idea is wonderful, you should go with that=)~Julia

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My mom seems to think that only black people wear brands such as Roccawear, Baby Phat and Ecko. I like the clothes and she wont let me wear them because on the websites the people who are modeling them happen to be black. So tell me really, do these brands are truly only worn by Africans?

No, actually I'm white and own some of those brands myself. People have been complaining that models are always white, so thats why, those models are black. But only Africans whear fubu;)~Julia

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So I'm just wondering...if you want to be a model and you are a girl, what are some basic requirements that most agencies want?

you need to have attitude, confidence, and good looks.

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im 14/f and i really want my belly button peirced! i finally got my mom to say yes its just my dad. he says he doesnt want me to get infected and thinks im too young but i told him id clean it alot and everything but he still doesnt know. how do i get him to say yess?? pleasee helpp

Check with your mom to make sure that you need your dads approval if she already said it was fine. I think the best thing to do is to do some research on it, to show that you really care enough, and that you have a point.

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where is a good place to get good highlights??

oh ok, try paul mitchell salon, put i dunno if that is near you cause texas is biigggggg

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ok...my ex b/f told me yesterday that he liked me again..hes a year younger then me and i dont see him that much anymore..we are supposed to go to the movies together on friday, but i dont want it to be akward for him...i dont mind that much cause i dont like him like that, but i dont know what to tell him...how do i make him feel better?

Maybe you could tell him your not ready to commit yourself again to somebody, but only if he asks. Otherwise, you shouldnt call him, but you can still be friends and stuff.

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MI go to Texas like, every summer. And two years ago my older cousin met a boy (let's call him ****). He hung out with us, and I didn't think much about him. This year they became A LOT closer. They love each other. And now that I think about it, **** is really hot and funny and nice. I LIKE him. And my cousin has him, what do I do??

You are jealous of your cousin and ****. Trust me, you really honestly truly don't like this person, and hopefully you will realize that. As people say, first impressions are lasting impressions...

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i like this guy.. and he likes me too.. well see he says that he likes me but he doesnt want to get together.. whats wrong with him!?!?

He may not be ready for a gf, and you if you really like him, can wait. Just because you aren't going out, doesnt't mean you can't talk.

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I have liked this boy from the moment I met him{which was 3rd grade and I'm in 8th now}. Well last year he was in my class and we talked a lot. It seemed like he liked me a little bit more than a friend. But in the Summer we had a festival and my friends went up to him and asked Would you ever consider going out with missy? He said no. But the girl who asked him goes to a different school and he had no clue who she was but my other friend went up with her. Well they had asked this infront of one of his friends too they said that he kind of smilied when he said no and he looked at the girl he didn't know gabby in a confused way then to my friend emmie like who is that girl and then to his friend and his friend elbowed him and he smilied. And they went away laughing. But later he told this guy that I liked him right in front of me and I rolled my eyes and he saw me. And this year one of his friends said that he did like me last year. But his friend nick knew that that i liked seth so idk if he just said that to make me feel better. But anyways I have tried so much to forget about him I've gotten other b/f's but it didn't work out because I liked him more than them. And he never comes online and i'm not gonna call him and tell him this. And hes not in my class this year. But what can I do? Do you think that he may of liked me?

Try talking to him not about the issue, but more just talking, like call him for homework, or ask him for a pen, and then if your walking like in the hall or something, then just say, I was wondering, did you like me last year? or something like that. Let him kinda know that you like him, and if he dosnt like you, explore more, if he isnt going to treat you right, you shouldnt like him.

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I have a twin brother and we are really close he's not spent much time with me lately and im scared i love him to death and if anything happend to him i would never forgive my self even if it wasnt my fault. He has thes friends lets call them bob and joe and they curse alot and thats not like my brother. I'm just worried. Somone pleez help me.

twin delama

Theres many things you can do try to make toyr brother stop. Try talking to him, and asking if anything is bothering him, and things like that. If he gets mad an raging like other teens, try to do simple things for him like say bye in the morning, or affectionate things to show you really care. But if nothing seems to work, you have to talk to your parents, and tell them whats bothering you, and what may be bothering your brother-Julia

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there is this guy who likes me ALOT, and i can tell he does whenever we're together, but then whenever we get around other people (only gurls) he kind starts flirting with them too. he doesnt flirt with them as much as he does with me at all, but still its the fact that he does flirt that makes me not like him as much.. is he just tryin to use me? or is he tryin to be nice to other people and just doesnt realize he's flirting?

He's probably just being nice, and how can you really tell he's flirting? Just because he makes conversation with another girl, does't qualify as flirting. But if he really acts like he likes these other girls, then you should talk to him if it bothers you. But, it shouldnt bother you at all if you don't like him. So think about it.-Julia

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This is so embarrassing but i feel like my breath smells really bad all the time... i brush and use listerine twice a day and still cant get rid of it. Is there any good products out there or any suggestions on what to do? I don't think gum would help that much.
Thanks
*Erica*

Maybe your breath doesn't really smell bad, you just think it does. If your really concerned, carry mints with you, and see your dentist cause it may be an infection. *JuLiA*

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My dad smokes. I try to make him stop by saying "please stop smoking dad" or "you should quit" or cough really loud when he lights up a cigarette. DAMN IT, I FUCKING HATE THE SMELL! He smokes when hes in the bathroom, i just hate it. When i cough and stuff around him he'll be like OH SHUT UP, YOU SHOULD BE USED TO IT ALREADY or YOUR OVERREACTING. and id be like, havent you ever heard of second hand smoke dad?? he doesn't care.. i mean hes a good dad but he needs to stop. i dont think he'd do that nicotene patch or gum thing. When i tell my mom about it, she'd be like, get used to it, or she'd do nothing about it. What should i do?

You need to sit down with your parents and have a sort of family meeting. If you have siblings, get them to come and express their feelings on your dads filthy habit. Tell them some basic facts about second hand smoke and things like that by going to www.ydouthink.com Share this with your family, and tell them your willing to do anything you can to help your dad stop.-Julia

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