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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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Okay, So my friend told me she got pregnant but
she's still a virgin.
Can you really get pregnant even though your a
virgin?

Yes, unfortunately, that is possible.

All you need to become pregnant is for sperm to come into contact with the vagina. While it's very unlikely to happen, there have been cases where it does.

Her boyfriend could have masturbated then fingered her without wiping the semen off of his fingers. They could have had "outercourse" (term from 40 Year Old Virgin) and she could have become pregnant from that.

Any time sperm enters the vagina, a female can become pregnant. These days, kids do so many various sexual activities that the chances of becoming pregnant without having had intercourse is more likely.

"Don't be a fool, wrap that tool!"

okay so im 17 years old and im 5'3 in height. i weigh 111 pounds and everyone says this is a good weight a healthy weight but i still feel fat?! i mean i know im not fat, and honestly i think my body looks pretty good i just have a lot of fat on my stomach! but not really anywhere else? why do i have so much fat on my stomach?! i used to have a really flat stomach but then i gained 3 pounds since it got cold outside and it seems like it all went to my stomach!! how do i get rid of this ugly fat stomach?! is there any excersizes i can do or food that can make stomach fat go away?

Anything that will work your abs should help you to tone your stomach.
Stomach "fat" is such a pain!
Anything like jogging, push ups, sit ups, crunches, and lunges should help.

Obviously your not fat, your BMI is perfect. It's just that you want to get toned, right? Ahh, good luck. It's going to take a little while for your body to tighten up, but it will happen if you excercise regularly. Also, make sure to get a lot of water, fruits, and veggies. Those will all help, too!

There is this guy I like I told him I liked him, he freaked (He has a girlfriend). We would "talk" but he would not look. Then a week later we start "talking" again. In class I overheard him say "I'll just be nice to her" to one of his female friends. That hurt,but then later in the week I overhear him saying "I'd screw her" to the same group of friends. What is his problem?

Usually, I would say that it's a great thing... you sharing your feelings with him. HOWEVER, he is in a committed relationship. Unfortunately, you did freak him out - he doesn't want to think there is someone else out there. He cares about his girlfriend, that's why he freaked out! He doesn't hate you... he just doesn't want anyone to think he's going to cheat.
When someone likes a person in a relationship, it can be very mysterious for them to hang out & be friends because it looks like cheating, even if it isn't. That's probably why he said he'd tolerate you.

About "screwing" you... that's just guy talk. Not that it's morally okay or appropriate, but that's all it is. He shouldn't be saying that if he has a girlfriend, but he's just trying to show that it doesn't bother him or weird him out.

It's always great to tell someone when you have a crush on them because you never know whether or not it will work if you don't try; however, if the person is in a relationship, it's best to just let them be and try getting over the crush.

my girlfriend and i have been going out for nearly 7 months now. we're both 16 and we're both virgins (she was actually my first girlfriend ever, first kiss, first everything. she gave me mono right away, lol). neither she nor i have ever had any genital sores of any kind before. we've been having off and on oral sex for about 4 months now.

Last week we tried having outercourse for the first time. we only did it for about 10-15 seconds at a time and before we did it, we wiped any pre-cum off of my penis. we were very careful despite the fact that we didn't use a condom. there was no penetration.

A few days after this occured, she felt some irritation down there and we checked it 2 days after that. she has a white sore roughly 1/8 to 3/16 of an inch in diameter on one of her labia majora just one. its painful to the touch. theres no fluid in it, and i can't be popped. it doesn't really look like anything on the internet. I don't get cold sores so it can't be that either. we're baffled. what could this be?

it might also be some kind reaction to an antibiotic she's been taking for a bladder infection. she got hives and headaches, but theres nothing like this noted or heard of in the side effects. is this a possibility?

There's a chance it could be a possibility, but she should really have it checked out by her physician.

If her mom doesn't know you two are "sexually active", then she can just tell her mom that she has a sore & thinks it may have something to do with her infection & she'd like to see the doctor.

If you two are each others firsts, then I don't see how it can be an STD. You didn't use a condom, so it can't be an allergy to latex...

Anyway, none of us are doctors, and even if we were, it wouldn't be that legal to diagnose her over the internet. It could be serious, or it could be nothing. You guys will never know unless she sees a doctor.

Okay, so my friend hooked up with this guy. I don't know him very well, but I know his cousin.

Friend= "Lyn" (She's one of my close friends too)
Friend's bf= "Mike"
Friend's bf's cousin who is also my friend= "Brendon"

(Obviously fake names)

Okay, so Lyn hooked up with Mike and now they are boyfriend and girlfriend. I am friends with Brendon. Anyway, Lyn told me about her and Mike being official. I started talking to Brendon about it, because he and Mike are pretty close. Mike didn't tell Brendon, and got pretty mad at me (I'm not in contact with him, so he told me through Lyn) He said I shouldn't have spread it, because it's no one else's business.

I apologised several times, and told him how I only told Brendon, because they are cousins and close, so I assumed he would have known. I also told him I had no intention on spreading it or telling everyone, I just was discussing it with Brendon because I thought he would have known. Mike doesn't care and is still mad at me for 'gossiping'

What should I do? I'm thinking of just letting it cool down and wait until he does tell the news to people. I'm not friends with Mike, so I'm not too bothered. I just feel uncomfortable that he's really mad with me over a tiny mistake.

Lyn didn't care at all, she was just concerned that Mike got mad at me for telling Brendon.

I share Lyn's opinion - why would Mike care if you told Brendon about it... If Mike likes Lyn, he should be happy that he's dating her & should want to spread it around.

There really isn't much of a reason for Mike to be upset about it.
Anyway, all you can really do is just let him cool down and chill out. You already apologized for your gossip, so you don't have anything else to do.

It's not that big of a deal, really. He just needs to put on his big boy pants and grow up.

My period's late by like, a month.
Is there a way to make it come faster?
Because I'm getting really annoyed waiting around.

Your period is a biological occurrence - there is no way to slow it down, speed it up, etc.

Going on birth control can help to regulate it, but there isn't anything you can do to make it come just because it's late. Maybe you just skipped it this month - that can happen sometimes.

hey so i think i wanna do the talent show this year but i need a good song to sing...does anyone have any good ones? im 16/f..if that matters.

I'm not sure what genre you enjoy, but have you thought about Taylor Swift songs?

A lot of her songs are amazing, especially for what you want because she wrote them around that age. She has a beautiful voice, and if you're good at singing, it shouldn't be too difficult to do any of her songs.

I'm 16 years old, and my boyfriend is the same age. We have been dating for four months. He is not really into any sports, and when we are together we usually watch movies. My question is, what would be a good thing to get him for Christmas? Because I literally am at a loss as to what teenage guys would want.
We were flipping through channels once, and we watched part of this really funny movie. It has been an inside joke ever since. Would it be cute to get him that movie on DVD?
Thanks for any suggestions.

I think the DVD would be a great idea. Who doesn't like a gift that will cause a good laugh.

A group of friends & I have a HUGE inside joke about a vibrator (very long story), so I got one of my guy friends a vibrator for Christmas and each night it ends up in someone's dorm under a chair or mattress, haha.

Also, if he pays a lot when you guys go out, treat him to dinner, a movie, a game of bowling, minigolf, etc... whatever you guys usually do when you go out.

Or, to go along with the movie, go to blockbuster & buy a bucket of popcorn & some candies that he likes... it's small, not too expensive, but it's nice.

I have never gotten fingered, only when i was drunk and i was told that i screamed (that obviously wasnt my control tho) i know my boyfriend is going to finger me next time we chill but, i want it to feel good and not hurt. So i have been tryiing to figner myself but it hurts so bad. Now im scard it will hurt when my boyfrend does it! i dont want it to! how to i loosen my tightness? like how do i make it so when i figner myself it doesnt hurt so it wont hurt when he does

The feelings that come with being fingered are kind of the same feeling that come with having sex.

If you aren't ready, don't want it, or are not relaxed while it is happening, then it won't feel good.

Fingering only feels good if you want it and are relaxed and ready.
Sex only feels good if you want it and are relaxed and ready.

If you're not relaxed while it's happening, it's going to hurt.

Alright. I'm 15. I'm making out for the first time this weekend. Sadly It's my first time.

How do i make out?
what do i do when he gives me hickeys
& im havin dry sex . anything to no about it?

I know this doesn't seem like it will help, but it's the truth...

Making out comes naturally. I was so extremely nervous the first time I was going to make out with a boy, but it really does just *happen*.

I wouldn't suggest letting him give you hickeys just because they look trashy. If you get a hickey, cover it up with makeup and keep your hair down. I wouldn't show them off because they're not all that attractive (even if they are fun to receive).

As for dry sex - as long as both of you are wearing clothes, you'll be fine. I've never done it, so I can't give you any tips.
Just remember, pregnancy is only possible if sperm enters your vagina. If he jacks off, gets sperm on his hands, and then fingers you, there is an extremely small chance it could cause pregnancy. Don't be dumb. If you do anything, use a condom. If he touches himself then wants to touch you, have him wash his hands.

For now, I would stick to making out. If you start out doing things like dry sex, he's going to want/expect more. Don't let him think you'll do anything. Have fun, but not too much fun. :)

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18/f

Where can i find Twilight Merchendise in Toronto?
I've looked everywhere.

15/F

If you have a Hot Topic, there will definitely be tons of Twilight stuff there.
Most big bookstores will have Twilight merchandise.
Most punk related shops would probably have it.

Hot Topic will definitely carry Twilight merchandise.

F/15
I've failed 9th grade so I'm in my second year of it. I'm currently taking
health and pe 9, english 9, intro to design I, world history and geography part II, biology, and geometry. I know FOR SURE that I want to be a psychologist. I just hope I turn out to actually be one!
But I was wondering what classes I should take next year? I definitely want to sign up for psychology I.

Without knowing the courses your school offers, it would be very difficult for any of us to suggest courses to you.

Any psychology related courses would be good. Sociology classes would be helpful, too. Other than that, you can do is speak with your guidance councilor. If you tell them what career you want, your councilor should know exactly which classes to take.
What you may have to do your senior year is take a few classes at a junior college. Most of those credits would transfer over, and you could even possibly begin college having as many credits as a second semester sophomore. I'm not sure if they just offer that where I live, but I'm pretty sure high school seniors can take up to 2 classes per semester at a community college. At my high school, juniors were allowed to do the same.
That way you can get a feel for college classes, for the major you want (psych), and you can earn up some credits for when you go to college.

As for high school courses, like I said, we don't know what is offered at your school, but your guidance councilor does. Speak with your councilor, and he/she should be able to help with your schedule.

is there anyway, besides online surveys that i could make money at home???

None that are as simple as online surveys.

You could:
Play the lottery
Become an author
Become an artist
Create a website

^Each option, as you can see, costs money.

There aren't many ways to make money without spending it.

If you're an adult, go get yourself a real job.
If you're at least 16, find yourself a job
If you're 13-15, try babysitting, working as a bagger in a grocery store or a dishwasher in a restaurant. Find something that will not only pay you, but teach you work ethic.

If you are an adult, there are "real jobs" that allow you to work out of the house, you just have to know how to look for them.

i am a rookie on computer ,,i use aim messenger alot to chat in rooms, how do i put a picture in my profile aim name profile? thks wesley

I'm sorry...
With your spelling and grammar mistakes, I am unable to understand what exactly your question is asking. I understand you want help with placing your picture somewhere in your AIM profile, but where exactly you want it placed, I am confused.

Do you want it in your buddy info? As far as I've always known, that isn't possible. I haven't used AIM in ages, so I'm not quite sure how that works.

If you have any technology related questions, I suggest asking your question to theymos, he tends to know all about computers and technology.

Alright, so im trying out for our school musical pretty soon, but i have no clue what song i should sing! it has to be a song from another musical! any suggestions?

You could try one of the songs from any of the three High School Musical movies or even from Camp Rock. Those seem to be very popular right now.

Or if you're older and aren't into those, you could try a song from the musical Rent. Those songs are good, too.

It really depends on your vocal ranges and what character you're looking to play because you'll want to try out with a song similar (in vocal ranges) to the type you would be singing in musical your school is performing.

around what amount of money would be considered expensive for college? inexpensive or reasonable?

thanks!

Expensive would be roughly $30,000+ for one year.
$13,000-$17,000 is reasonable but getting close to costly (if in state).

Where I attend school (a very nice 4-year university) is under $10,000 for tuition & room&board. If I were to include books and meals, it costs me between $11,000-$12,000.
Where I go is definitely considered reasonably cheap, especially for a nice school.

Anything under $15,000 could technically be considered reasonable and rather cheap for a nice college.
In-state schools are always cheaper than out of state schools (unless you're looking at private colleges - those are the same and usually in the high $30,000).

hey. let me give you some background information on myself. i was always a little bit of a chubby girl. not really because i use to eat like a pig or anything like that. i would excersise, and i really didn't watch what i ate that much. i would go to mcdonalds and stuff and i really wouldn't think about it. well, to make a long story short, after trying so many diets and putting so much work into my body, i got very thin, and i look fantastic. i am now weighing 95 pounds of pure muscle. I don't mean to brag or anything, but I really do look great and it's just that i'm very proud of myself because i worked so hard to get here. but, i did go a little crazy. i started to become a bit anorexic, counting calories obsessively. i started eating no more than 600-800 calories a day. along with this calorie intake, i would do spinning and strength training every day. i go to the gym every day (or atleast 5-6 days a week), and atleast 2 or 3 of those days, i do spinning. i've been getting a little better about the calories, because i started to feel really sick. my hands would get really cold, and i was really tired. i would stare off into space and i lost consciousness a little bit. i knew that it wasn't right, but i just didn't want to lose everything i had worked so hard for. but, i've been getting better because i've realized that i'm not going to gain weight by eating things that are low fat. it's not about calories. it's about healthy foods. if i eat fish and chicken and fat free yogurt i'm not gonna gain weight, especially with all the excersise i do. i'm not going to get fat by eating fruits and vegetables, that i was cutting out to save calories. so, basically, i increased my calorie intake a little bit, but sometimes i feel kind of guilty, and i just want someone to tell me that it's ok and that i'm doing the right thing. (i haven't gotten my period in like 3 months). but, i can't ask my mom to tell me, because she gets mad whenever i mention food because she's so concerned with my situation.

like today, this is what i had
Breakfast: gritz (100-calorie quaker oatmeal pack)
Snack: sliced pineapple
Lunch: lemon chicken and1/2 cup of mashed potatoes
Snack: non-fat greek drained yogurt
Dinner: 1 drumstick chicken (baked) , 1 chicken wing (baked), 1/2 cup of rice, 1/2 cup chopped carrots, watermelon slice

i know i overdid the dinner a little bit but I was STARVING when I got home after my workout. i don't know why. but, anyway, would someone just show a little support for me? you have no idea how much I would appreciate it just to hear that i'm doing good.

Thanks
=)

Take it from someone who has been there. I was diagnosed with anorexia somewhere between the 4th and 5th grade, so I know what it is like to obsess.

You are doing GREAT! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I understand how difficult it is to go from being overweight to obsessed with getting rid of it all - obsessing over calories, working out, wondering if drinking that water to "fill you up" will make you gain water weight. Wondering if eating one calorie more than usual will make you fat, etc.

You are on the right track! You did NOT overeat at dinner time - that's a GREAT amount to be eating!! You want more calories at breakfast because breakfast kick starts your metabolism and gives you energy for the day. Your snacks, lunch, and dinner are perfect meals. They're healthy, filling, and delicious!

The amount of calories you were getting (600-800) are horrifyingly low! I don't know the exact number of calories a person is supposed to get, but I'm fairly certain that it's well over 1000.

As for working out - I go almost daily. There's nothing wrong with working out as long as your calorie intake is healthy in how it matches the type of workout you get.

If you need positive reinforcement in person (which I strongly suggest because it's MUCH better to help overcome your problem), I suggest speaking with a school counselor or finding anyone who knows what you're going through!

Good luck, and you're doing GREAT! Keep up the fantastic work!

Not sure what category to write this under. Buttt, I'm a sopohmore in highschoool. Not the problem. The problem is this year ain't lookin so hot. So, I talk to a social worker at my school once a week. Sure she helps, & I don't talk face to face. I write in this notebook I give her, then she asks certain questions, then I answer. It helps TONS. But I need to know more things to write about. I'll write about my day stuff at home, I'll even throw in quotes. But what are other things I can talk about in there so I can talk to her longer & Have more different things to write about. I'm different when I talk to her, I'm happy for the few minutes I talk to her with. So, my main question is, What all should I write about?

You're currently writing about your day, your home life, and you'll toss in quotes... but do you ever just write about you?

Write exactly what you're feeling at the moment. Write what is frustrating you, what is making you happy, what made you laugh, cry, smile, scream, run, etc. that moment, day, week, etc.

You're happy because someone is expressing interest in you and caring about you - caring about why you feel a certain way and someone who wants you to improve.

You can write anything? Write a poem or a short story. Write an essay about how you feel after speaking with her and why you think you feel that way.
For me, opening up is important in getting help for oneself.

I know this is totally off topic, but if you're ever having a really bad or really good day, write down every emotion you felt and WHY. The most important thing when writing about your feelings is discovering the triggers so you can know how to stay away from the negative triggers, revolve around the positive triggers, and deal with any negative triggers that are in the way and won't ever disappear.

As for your journal, the only thing I can think to add are lyrics, your own writings if you write, your actual feelings rather than just day-to-day habits.

Not quite sure what to give - the only journals I have ever kept were strictly personal.

I (think) that i really want to work with kids. I am a senior in high school and i am going to college next year. I'm not really sure what i want to do yet though. I deffinatly don't want to be a teacher, or go into medicine. I dont partiularly want to go to graduate school (although ii might). Also, i want to find a job with a high salary (i know that that isn't a good criteria to go by but still).

I have heard Child Life Specialist which sounds interesting and so i am looking into that further.

any other ideas would be greatly appreciated!

You could look into child psychiatry (or is it psychology... one can give medicine & the other cannot, I believe).

Some day care centers bring in the big $$ while others do not, so you'd have to look into that.

Basically, most jobs that deal with kids (other than "medical" positions) don't pay much money.

If you are really into working with kids, you could get a business major with an early childhood education minor & open up your own day care center or come up with some ideas and open your own business. Keep in mind the customer if you were to ever open up your own day care - extend your hours later than most places... be available from 7am-7pm - that would help majority of working parents. Don't be the most expensive place around because there are single parents who need help, too... cut a break for single parents...
I know you didn't say you actually wanted to do that, but I thought I'd toss out a few pointers for it anyway.

You could try being a lawyer for cases specific to children - kind of like being a lawyer that deals with social work. I would just suggest a social worker, but they get paid much less than teachers.
A teacher with a masters degree and a few years under his/her belt makes roughly $30,000. I'll be teaching special education, so I'll get a little more than that.

A child life specialist gets roughly $43,000/year for that position, so I'm not quite sure what you consider high paying - I was thinking over $60,000, but I guess not?

Anyway, I hope this gives you a few ideas.

okay, so I am flying from South Africa to Dubai and then India, it is my first time flying. So I don't really know the rules and regulations and stuff like that, like apparently, you're only allowed 100ml of ANY liquid with you, and they count the container, not the liquid inside. is this true? and what about if I have no liquids in my hand luggage, only in my bags that are going into the cargo? and the thing about putting medication and all sorts in see-through bags, is it just medicines or other things, like?
just little tips and things i have to know..

thank you.

If you have items like that and they aren't carry on, then they don't have to be a specific amount (As far as I know). If you're checking them to where they go under the plan, it's fine.

BUT, if you are carrying it on, then you can only have a certain amount. Anything like medication would probably be better off in ziplock bags just so they can see what it is. My sister & I had some things when we were flying out of NY, and they guards made up go buy ziplock bags or we had to toss our stuff. I wasn't going to waste money on bags, so I tossed my stuff - I didn't find it important enough to keep.

Your smartest option is to look up the website for whichever airport you're flying out of and read up their rules/regulations online. That, or you could call up there and make sure.
Better safe than sorry!

http://www.beststuff.com/categories/travelleisure/airline/flying-dry-navigating-the-rules-of-carry-on-liquids.html

There's a link that may help you some.

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