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He hates me?
There is this guy I like I told him I liked him, he freaked (He has a girlfriend). We would "talk" but he would not look. Then a week later we start "talking" again. In class I overheard him say "I'll just be nice to her" to one of his female friends. That hurt,but then later in the week I overhear him saying "I'd screw her" to the same group of friends. What is his problem?
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im not sure what sebcheerleader2007 is trying to black mark men's names for, not all guys are like that... though ill be honest most often than not we do go off the rails every now and then and all that controls our mind is sex. (i try not to koz its not fair on the few nice girls that i have in my life) anyway i think he's just a little shallow... if all he can say is "I'd Screw her" after you said you liked him then he really really isnt in the same frame of mind that you are
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well. Look guyss are weird and stupidd. Maybe he changed his mind about youu.
And are you sure he was talking a bout you?! Or someone else? Because you might have been mistakingg.
But i kniw its like sexiest but guys ALWAYS do that.
So just keep talking to him and pretend nothing happened.
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The problem is that he's a guy under the age of 30. I know it sounds sexist, but that is simply the way men tend to come off to women until age 30. At that point more of them tend to develop feelings. Why this development takes so long to happen is still a medical mystery.
Now, for some advice. Stop talking to him. He does not seem to have the maturity to deal with this information in a positive and groovy way, so just drop him. You can do better. He's tied up in a relationship anyways, so let the girlfriend deal with the misogynistic tendencies of this guy and find yourself someone with more than half a brain. ^_^
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Usually, I would say that it's a great thing... you sharing your feelings with him. HOWEVER, he is in a committed relationship. Unfortunately, you did freak him out - he doesn't want to think there is someone else out there. He cares about his girlfriend, that's why he freaked out! He doesn't hate you... he just doesn't want anyone to think he's going to cheat.
When someone likes a person in a relationship, it can be very mysterious for them to hang out & be friends because it looks like cheating, even if it isn't. That's probably why he said he'd tolerate you.
About "screwing" you... that's just guy talk. Not that it's morally okay or appropriate, but that's all it is. He shouldn't be saying that if he has a girlfriend, but he's just trying to show that it doesn't bother him or weird him out.
It's always great to tell someone when you have a crush on them because you never know whether or not it will work if you don't try; however, if the person is in a relationship, it's best to just let them be and try getting over the crush.
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I don't think he hates you, but you've put him in a really awkward position. Guys with girlfriends should be off limits until they break up. He rightfully freaked out, and that is a sign that he is happy with who he has. Saying that he'll screw you might of been just some stupid macho pride game; a lot of guys talk much bigger than they are. Don't take him seriously. And certainly don't become the other woman. It's demeaning to everyone involved, especially you. If he ends up liking you in the future, he should be man enough to be with only you. If not, you need to find someone who respects women enough not to have multiple girlfriends at the same time. Leave him alone; he may eventually break up with his girlfriend and give you a chance, or, more probable, you may find someone better.
Good luck and much love!
~TD
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