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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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^my forum, liven it up a little?

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i have a 2nd degree burn on my hand from touching a hot grill. there is a line of white blisters across my hand. ive had cold water on it for a few hours but the pain still will not stop unless i keep icy water on it.
does any know how i can realive the pain?

Get Neosporin [or the generic equivalent] plus pain relief. I burned by hand [it was only first-degree though] from grabbing the grate from a gas grill- I lack common sense. Anyways, I used that stuff and it really does help with the pain, and it'll keep you from getting an infection, heals faster, and makes scars less noticeable.


If it doesn't start healing soon, gets worse, or oozes or anything like that, see a doctor. You don't want to get an infection or worse.

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My whole family is filled with clean freaks. Basically, we are the family with perfectly clean carpets, no dust or mold anywhere. You could eat off the floor.
Anyway, my Mom usually does the cleaning & today she was cleaning the bathrooms with all her cleaning stuff. She got really dizzy & had to sit down & she was crying. I want to help but I have the same symptoms. She had brain surgery last summer so now she's super paranoid about headaches & dizzyness.
My question is how can we prevent this happening in the future? Is there anything we should or should not use?
We mostly use lysol products with bleach [I think] but no actual bleach or chlorine.
Thanks a lot!

Open all the windows when you're cleaning. Pretty much anyone will get dizzy after inhaling Lysol long enough. Any cleaner, really, should be used with really good ventilation, even if it's winter. Just turn the heat off in the room you're cleaning.


It's possible that you just inhaled more than usual, and that's why you both had the symptoms. If you normally pour the cleaner in a bucket with water [to dilute it, like floor cleaner] try mixing it outside. The worst of the fumes won't linger in your house that way. And turn on a fan or two- it'll keep the air circulating :)

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i went from filling in my push up bra perfectly until barely being able to fit in it. about a month or a month in a half ago, i could fill it out, but now i cant. is there any way my boobs could of shrank?

Losing weight is the biggest [ha] thing that could cause your bust to shrink.


Another hihgly likely thing- your bra could have stretched. Especially if you throw them in the dryer, bras stretch out over time and lose their elastic-ness. The straps often loosen themselves, from the weight of your breasts stretching them down. Try re-adjsuting the straps if you have that option :)

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For facebook can you make a picture that someone else tagged you in your default picture? if so, how? thanks.

Save the picture to your computer [right click] then upload it yourself. That way if they delete that picture, you can still use it :)

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does everyone get those letters saying they were invited to national student leadership conference or can become a pageant winner?

The leadership ones are often mailed to you after you're nominated by a teacher. I can tell you that conferences run by the CYLC [you might have gotten an invite to the NYLSC]- THOSE are legit and they're a great experience.


As for the pageant ones, they're usually mailed to you from the mailing list of magazines like Seventeen, CosmoGirl, and teenVogue.

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what is lichen?

second question: do you know any REALLY GOOD dermatologist out there in america or someher else? please hellp i need one

Lichen's that green stuff that grows on rocks.


As for a dermatologist, there's a lot of great ones. Ask your regular doctor to refer you to someone. If you live in the Massachusetts area and/or don't mind driving to Worcester, I can give you the name and number of mine. He's been my derm for about six, maybe seven years now, and I trust him an awful lot :)

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was there ever a case in which the movie was better than the book?

No, but it's really a matter of opinion. I've always loved reading, and especially with long books (like Harry Potter) a LOT of details are left out for the sake of time, and the plot is often lacking.


When I read this question, two movies came to mind as coming CLOSE to being ALMOST as good as the book- Charlotte's Web and Holes. The directors/writers did an excellent job of staying true to the books, and I didn't feel as though anything significant was missing, a feeling I get with just about every other movie adaptation. Even then, I still preferred the books :D

hope that answered your question!

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hey, you answered my question about the fish before. so i had another question.

you said no tap water and no distilled water. and to let the tap water sit out for a week. but i think i may be getting it tomorrow. so what should i do on the water situation?

thnx in advance. again.

Buy a gallon of water at the supermarket. If you have to, use regular tap water but let it sit overnight. Your fish should be okay with the tap water, it's only an issue if you have disgusting water [as in, brown or green or something equally nasty]. Sitting overnight is actually enough, I let it sit for week mainly because I can, and there was a time last year where the water company had to put a massive amount of chlorine for like, a month. Okay now I'm rambling. Tap water is fine, just don't like, fill the tank from the tap and dump your fish in 2 seconds later, you know?


I only say no distilled because it will literally make your fish explode. [theory of osmosis and all that other fun science stuff] Any other bottled water will be fine too, so long as it isn't chilled :)

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my boyfriend's mother just died from huntingtons disease. he also has this. he has seen a lot of people die in his life. i would like to make a cd of songs telling him how sorry i am for his loss, and letting him know i love him and am there for him. does anyone have any song suggestions? please and thank you, it means a lot. 15/F

I'd put a bunch of his favorite [kinda upbeat] songs on there. A lot of songs that are like what you described, they make you feel worse right after someone dies- I found this out the hard way. Make him a happy playlist for now, and just tell him striaght up that you're there for him, and that you love him. It's the best thing to hear. Don't be all "I'm so sorry" every three seconds- it reminds him of what happened. Again, coming from someone who knows what it's like to lose someone close.


If you want songs that are about death.dying/things like that, use songs like Tears in Heaven by Eric Clapton and Radios in Heaven by Plain White T's. Christmas music makes me upset these days- too hard to explain. Songs affect people different ways.


If you REALLY wanted to do something nice, go for a walk with him, or just hang out together somewhere, and talk about ANYTHING but his mother [unless he wants to but I doubt it]. It really helps. Oh and go to the wake and the funeral with him. He could use the support.

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its like an upbeat song with " guys name " and jane like i think dick and jane and sounds like a tamberine in the background, i dont know anymore to it :-/ i was hoping someone can help?

I thought of... ugh, I don't know the actual title, but it's by John Mellancamp and I think it's called "Jack and Diane". Lyrics:
[http://www.metrolyrics.com/lyrics/32400/John_Mellencamp/Jack_And_Diane]


Can't think of anything else off the top of my head. Try checking the website of a classic rock station and listen to the "recently played" items. I listen to WROR, classic hits of the 60s,70s, and 80s,-[www.wror.com]- that site might be able to help you out too.


Good luck figuring it out! Stuff like that drives me crazy. There's no way Google could have worked here, so I don't mind helping you out a little :)

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okay so i am going to be getting a chinese fighting fish pretty soon.

i know they need some special things.
but im not sure what.
does anyone know what they need?
thnx in advance.

Don't put two in the same tank. You can actually put two females together and they'll be like, "whatever" and won't fight. Bad thing about that? The only way to be sure they're not both males IS to put them in the same tank. So yeah, separate tanks!


Feed them twice a day. Change the water every week if you can, USE ONLY WATER THAT ISN'T FROM THE TAP! and NEVER use distilled. What I do, I take a gallon container, fill it with tap water, and let it sit for like, a week before I use it. That way, all the contamanants get out [I dunno how it works, but it does, my cousin used this method for her frogs]. Plus, it's the same temperature so it won't shock the fish.


Clean the tank/vase with hot water. If it stinks [and it will, trust me] it's okay to use Windex, as long as you rinse it. Soap will kill your fish, so don't use the kitchen sponge!


That's basically all there is to it. Oh, and name your fish so it doesn't have an identity crisis, either :D

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I wanna get a hard-start for next year where were going to be learning basic algebra.
We satrted at the end of last year and it was So over my head i got soo confused with just stuff like
x(-4)=7
I just made that up by the way adn would that be 11?

So i was wondering if anyone could be nice and make some hard problems I dont want my family to know because they'd make fun of me..

Thanks!

This site is great for what you want:
[http://www.phschool.com/atschool/ph_algebra/Algebra1/Student_Area/ALG1_S_BK_index.html]

You can get practice problems, the lessons are explained, and everything.


The one you made up, no it wouldn't be 11. You'd distribute, so you'd have -4x=7. Then you'd divide by negative four on both sides, so you'd end up with x= -7/4. Remember PEMDAS, or the order of operations? Parentheses, Exponents, Multiply&Divide, Add&Subtract? Well, when you're simplifying expressions like 4x+3=15, you do it all in reverse. First you'd subtract 3 from both sides, THEN you'd divide.


If all that went over your head, don't worry. You haven't even taken Algebra yet. Teachers explain things different ways, so ask more than one if you're stuck. Mr. Smith won't get mad if you ask Mrs. Jones for help, they all work for the same department. Don't be afraid to ask for extra help, and ask a student to explain things to you. They think on the same level as you, if that makes sense...


Oh, and don't be ashamed of wanting to get a head start. Be proud that you care enough about your education! :)

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um i ordered the magazine from some offer thing.. like it said to put my teen vogue card in along with 10 bucks and send it to them thru the business reply mail thingie, so i did and i still havent recieved my teen vogue thing yet. it says like i get a whole free year of it.. im not sure if i did something wrong. i mean i wrote my return address.. well in colored pencil but it was like dark green so you could read it. and i didnt put a stamp on it cuz im in north america. and it says the mail is first class so im wondering if they got the mail or what happened? i mean i didnt know if i put the teen vogue card thing in it.. what does it even look like? instead i peeled off a sticker and put it inside the envelope along with the paper that had the offer on it (10 bucks for a free year of vogue and a cute new bag).. im not sure if thats the teen vogue card? well i sent that thing like about 2-3 weeks ago and i still havent gotten anything yet. im worried cause i dont like losing money like that and i really wanted the teen vogue thing. so whats the whole deal? is it just like late to come to me or like.... i dunno but please reply!!!!

13/f

It can take up to 10 weeks before you get concerned. Subscriptions can sometimes take awhile to process. What you wrote in shouldn't be a problem, but in the future use pen. After about 2 months, call them and ask what's up with your subscription. But for now, don't worry about it. And you'll get the free stuff, too. What is it now, a bag? I love those. The makeup's good too; I've gotten both. Just be patient. If you need to read the magazine NOW, read it at a library. :)

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how do u figure out ur original lock code

It's usually the last 4 digits in your phone number. Or whatever your voicemail password is.


Also try "0000" and "1234". If that's still not working, you can bring it in to any store that's your carrier, and prove that you're the owner of the phone. Then they can reset it for you.

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Maroon 5 is coming in concert in awhile! I really want to go but in the song "makes me wonder" they use the f- word a lot, and my mom doesnt like that. do artists usually say these things in concerts during their songs?

thx!

Yeah. They might swear in between songs, but Maroon5 strikes me as a "classier" band than, say, Green Day. And I don't mean that as an insult to either band, for the record. I love them both. A band's not gonna censor a concert, no way. Explain to your mom that you're not three years old, that you hear these things anyway, and it's not every word in the song. Play a few songs from their old album; that should convince her that they're a decent band for you to see live :D


hope you get to go... you're lucky to have the chance!

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how much does one text cost?

Ten cents. Certain plans are fiften though. I think that's just the pay-as-you-go old plans, though. I've always seen it as 10. Remember that you'll get charged for received AND sent, not just sent. If you're "IN" [extra $10 a month] you get unlimited texting to Verizon, and 500 to other networks. :)

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okay im sortof freaking out a bit.
my friend alex gave me a condom as a joke.
obviously im not going to use it, i'm too young.
so i hid it in my purse.
i woke up this morning to my mom looking around my room!
i think she was about to read my diary or something.
but now i'm SO scared she'll find the condom.
i didntg know what to do so i opened the condom and threw it into the road.
but now what do i do with the rapper?
wont they find it in the garbage?
aah! please help!

Set it on fire. Burning things is always fun.

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How do I put a picture or icon in my aim profile?

IN your profile? You can't, unless you have a buddy4u or something of the sort. But you could put a URL to one. The direct link, the one that ends in .jpg .bmp .png, etc. If you're talking about changing your ICON, I'm not sure about the new AIM because I don't ever use it, but in the old one you go to Edit Options -> Edit Preferences-> Expressions.

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my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him?

Everyone grieves differently. When my grandfather died in April, all I wanted to do for awhile was cry and wallow in my own misery. It sounds awful and depressing, but it was the best way for me to deal. The next few days are going to be really hard for your friend. Funeral arrangements, the wake[s], it's SO stressful you can't even imagine. Espeically if the wake is open-casket. That makes the whole experience even more real, like "oh my God he's really dead oh my God". If you knew his grandpa at all- go to the wake. It'll mean a lot to your friend, and obviously his family.


Just let him know that you're there for him when he's ready to talk. Do things like you always do, and not just because you feel bad. Spend a little extra time with him, though. Oh, and if he says something like "I wish I was dead" he doean't mean it. It's just how you feel when you hear something like that. Don't say "I know how you feel" say something like "This is sucha difficult time for you and I'm so sorry for your loss". What you say isn't as important as HOW you say it, and your actions mean a lot too. Oh, and if no one's sent over his favorite food yet, send a nice big platter of it if you can. Stuffing your face sometimes helps in the greiving process.

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ive been having some horible headaches, around mostly near my temles and occasionaly my whole head.

does any body have any head ache remedies, that will sooth my head ache.

take into consideration that i have already taken two tablets of ibuprofen which half the time dont work for me.

i also have knots in my neck.

and im leaving for europe tomorrrow, so i need things i can do with easy access things, and maybe even a few that are good to do whole on an 11 hour plane ride. thanks a bunch

Oooh, Headaches are always fun... not! I have chronic migranes, so I know a thing or two.


Okay. Try taking three tablets [600mg] instead of two [400mg]. Theoretically it's an overdose, but it's less than prescription strength. My doctor told me to do it. As long as you don't exceed the 8 or 9 tablets a day, you're fine. Just don't make it an hourly habit, you could hurt yourself. Some people also find that half a dose of Tylenol, and half a dose of Motrin works. Try that, unless you're allergic to Tylenol [acetaminophen]


As for things that don't involve medicine, make sure you're drinking enough water [good luck with that on a plane]. Rub your temples hard [but not too hard] with your hands/fingers. It helps a lot. Icepacks if you have access to them- they shrink blood vessels a bit & alleviates pain. Take a nap- easy on an 11-hour flight. Chew gum, read a book, bring an iPod, watch the inflight movie. Anything to distract you from the fact that you have a headache.


If headaches become a daily or near-daily occurence for you, talk to your doctor about them. You could have chronic migranes or something of the sort, in which case they can prescribe stronger things for you.

Hope it goes away before your trip.. headaches suck! :)


EDIT: Yea, I'd see a doctor, just to be on the safe side. It could be a number of things, but it's probably just migranes. More people get them than you might think. And like I said, they can prescribe you stuff that prevents them, or pills that are stronger, non-addicting, and work better than OTC stuff. :)

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