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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Broke up two weeks ago with my bf of 1 1/2 years because we were arguing and I wanted to be his 1st priority, but I wasn't. So I spoke with him once during this 2 weeks, I called him! Okay, so the day we broke up, I had 4 guys start talking to me, some from my past, some new, and some I knew from school. Anyway, I hit it off with one of the guys and he asked me out and I accepted (too soon, I know)! Anyway, posted it on facebook that I was in a relationship and my ex blew up, calling me saying he wasnt over me and so on, for once he was the one crying. So, I love him with all my heart and I like this new guy, but of course he gives me too much attention. I texted my ex yesterday, and I made him mad. I know that everything will always be about him in his relationships, but I love him. I don't know what to do, help me, please!
1. Your ex is your ex for a reason
Why did you jump into a relationship with someone else if you aren't over your ex? That is unfair too your current boyfriend and it is never cool too lead someone on.
2. Your ex-boyfriends 'tears' are likely tears of jealousy and maybe even a guilt trip to get you to feel bad for him.
Why? You are in a new relationship and your ex blew up. Well, I will not argue in the aspect that two weeks is awful fast to be dating someone new when you were with the person for over a year. However he is wrong on his part because you two weren't dating, You broke up.
I honestly think you should be honest with your boyfriend and yourself now before you really cause chaos. Move on from the ex boyfriend. Stop texting him anserig his calls etc. If you want a meaningful relationship with someone then worry about you and your current boyfriend not old baggage.
My boyfriend who lives far away, recently got onto my im on my email. When I said hello, he said hi back but not like he usually does. When I asked him what was wrong he said "everything" . What can I do to cheer him up since i won't ever get to see him and i do not have a webcam. He's 15 and I'm 14 btw.
Thank you.
From experience long distant relationships are impossible to work out. The most honest answer I can give you is to talk to him about the reality side of it. You are both young and cannot waste your youth sitting and praying for something to happen when you are far apart. A long distant relationship is almost no different then an online relationship, It is a fantasy. Inless you both are comitted to seeing each other every weekend and making living arrangement in the near future then the best thing would be to let him go and stop prolonging pain. Be his friend from a distance but set boundaries. Being a friend means respecting him while he learns to except the truth as you will in time as well
I'm 13 and I loove Emo style or their music(BVB)
1st question is...I don't cut myself. Do I have to do it if I wanna be a real emo? And also I'm a cheerful person so, am I not Emo for that? I have nothing to be sad about in my life.
Why would you just go and cut yourself? If you like the 'Emo' style then go for it. 'Emo' does not mean you have to cut yourself. Infact cutting is related to depression and depression is related to mental disorders. Be a leader not a follower...
You should be who YOU are, Not what others say you should be. I do nt know where you got the cutting idea from but not every 'emo' cuts themselves and those that do? Need help to stop. It is not something they do to be cool or fit in...
Be yourself and stop worring what people think about you
Well,Im 14 and me and my boyfriend have already spoke about how we feel for eachother and how we want to spend our lives together,i know many say your too young to be thinking about it let alone discussing it,But we really love eachother and he said if we last a few more weeks he will propose to me. Honestly i don't know what to do,i mean i love him alot and weve been together for a while now but im not to sure how to react.i dont know wether to say yes so we have a long time to talk about our future or say no and deal with it when were a btit older.Any ideas?
Lets be realistic, You are not going to marry your boyfriend
At 14, Boys do not know what they want and most think with their pants not with their heads. Stop stressing and worry about marriage when you hit your 20's
I've posted an earlier question about being annoyed with the neighbour's kids because they keep coming over, and staying over at my house, and entering without knocking or anything.
Everyone has advised me earlier to speak to the parents, but I am extremely shy and I feel bad having to speak to the parents because I feel I shouldn't have to because 1) it might create animosity 2) i feel absolutely terrible
Just literally less than 5 minutes ago. I've had another experience that has me extremely annoyed.
You need to be firm, I read your last question as well.
Sometimes children need to be told in a firm way. My advice is if you do not already, Lock your doors. If you are uncomfortable with a direct approach towards the parents ten write a letter. Kids will never listen if there is no discipline.
If your doors are locked and they knock then do not answer. If you do not give them the attention they want then somewhere sooner or later they will get bored.
So I noticed this girl in my class that was pretty cute but I didn't talk to her at all for about 2 months. but as the semester went by I really didnt talk to to her until one day as I was heading to class she noticed me and asked me if I i was in her class and as we walked to class i made her laugh a couple of times than the next week i sat next to her and we talked more for the next couple of weeks I couldnt stop thinking about her and I couldnt wait to see her in class. I asked her if she wanted to exchange numbers and she gave it to me without hesitation but what was bizarre is that she only got my number i asked if she wanted mine but she said just text me and say its you. So I texted her and she texted right back and we talked but one day i asked her out to lunch she said that she couldn't because she had work so than a week later i asked her out to lunch and she said she couldn't because she had a final that day and would be out of town next week but she will let me know when shes back. So i text her again a week later asking her if she wanted to go out to lunch and go the movies after but she didnt text me back and its been more than a week so I dont know if i should wait for her to text me back or should I call or text her? Everytime i saw her in the campus she would smile and would be very happy to see me and one day i saw her going to her car and some dude was talking to her and when she saw me she completely ignored the guy talking to her and she smiled at me and said hey my friend who was with me that day whose good with relationships told me that he can tell that she likes me so i just wanted to add that and I want to text her but she said that she would let me know when shes back and she has the iphone 4 so when i texted her it was through imessage and said the text was delivered so she probably saw it. I texted her a couple of days ago and again she didnt text back the imessage was off though. but if anyone can help me that would be awesome!
You may be getting the wrong message, She could already be involved with someone. If she liked you she would make time to talk too you. Not everyone is big into texting but nobody goes two weeks leaving someone hanging unless they are not interested.
I need advice on how to commit suicide. I am 62 yo female soon to be divorced. We were previously involved in chapt 13 bankruptcy. Husband stole $16,000 of my money that was to pay house payment and b/r payments since 8/2011. I learned 2 mos. ago that mortgage co. had requested foreclosure on our home last 7/2011 of the b/r attorney. I knew nothing. Husband forged my name on document at b/r attorney to increase the b/r payment. When I confronted attorney, he threatened to fire me and I would have to start over and pay more money. Attorney separted the chapt. 13 and allowed husband to file chpt.7 owing no debts. I am now responsible for over $100,000 due to the joint debts and his business debts after attorney sent out notifications of objections to all husband's debtors with my name on them. House is now in full foreclosure. Husband approved for full VA disability last month--$3,000 per mo. plus $1,000 Social security retirement. He pays no bills except his cable. I cannot pay all these expenses although I work. He is abusive and has threatened to kill me, calls me names like "whore" and other names. Husband stole $67,000 from my brother's and my inheritance from our parents by forgery and embezzlement. We had 2 rental properties. They are now up for sale in hopes I will be able to get the bankruptcy off my back. But, real estate agent has made no effort or progress. Now I am soon to be homeless, no credit, no ability to pay all the bills, no future, no life, and no end in sight. Each day there is more bad news from someone. I have no way out. There is no one who can help me (I've talked with lawyers). Each day is more painful than the day before. I don't eat, sleep, can't think, can't make decisions, and pray for death day and night. I tried to cut my wrists but stopped because it hurt too much. On meds, but there is not enough medication to improve the amount of hurt and misery of each day that I live. This is a cancer of my soul with no healing or recovery--it's too late for me. The pain and misery is unbearable. Can someone please tell me how I can commit suicide with minimal pain? My life is already dead--only I'm still in pain and despair.
You start here
You take him to court and file embezzlement and forgery charges against him. If the lawyer isnt willing to help you then you find a new lawyer. Also, I would get a report from the bank and take it too the lawyer. After I would file a police report and get a restraining order on him
So im a 16 year old female and i just tried masturbating for the first time. i found that pillows and stuff like that dont work, only direct stimulation to my clit. at first it felt good but then i started to shake uncontrollably. i figured i was close to having an orgasm but i starting getting really uncomfortable. i thought masturbation was supposed to make you feel good not make you feel uncomfortable?
When you are new to exploring your body you may be uncomfortable the first few times. Masterbation is a completely normal and healthy thing. The reason for feeling uncomfortable is because you never done it before. There is nothing wrong with it, It is your body. Everyone does it we just don't always admit too it.
Am I Mental??? I'm Not Sure What To Say Cause Whatever I Do, Wherever I Go...I Keep Thinking Someone Is Watching Me..I Don't Know Who..And Its Not Like It Is Scaring Me Or Anything...It's Just That I Don't Know What To Think!!!
Paranoid
Paranoia can be caused from many things it eve can be related to mental illness as such...
Anxiety
Depression
ADD,ADHD
PSTD
Well this list could go on and on
No, I do not think you are mental. If it concerns you then you could see a doctor.
Ok so I'm 16 years old and yesterday I was with my boyfriend and we were "doing stuff" like we do a lot (fingering/blowjob or handjob) and I really love this boy so I figured I could try to get his penis inside me just cause I wanted to see what it felt like.. Me being stupid nd not thinking I let him put it in nd it just say there for like 10 seconds with out even doing anything.. But I'm worried because I got my period on Wednesday may 9 and it only lasted about 4 days nd yesterday I guess u could say I kinda had sex but it just sit in me for 10 seconds nd I told him to take it out because I got scared..he didn't cum but I'm worried about the pre cum? When I was giving him a bj before he inserted it I did kinda taste like saltyness so I figured that ws the pre cum... I had like a quarter siZe blood in my panties after but I'm just really nervous nd I stress out and get paranoid over the littlest things... What do you think?
You can not fall pregnant by giving someone a blowjob. Can you fall pregnant in 10 seconds with his penis inside or near your vagina? Yes. It takes one shot and if I were you I would smarten up and start using protection. A baby at 16 is not something you want
So me and my boyfriend were on our scool email chat and he tells me that he is going to see his ex-gf from like 3 years ago, this weekend. I am super paranoid and jealous. His mom hates me and suggested that he go to the thing that she will be at, and said "Katlyn will be there". I trust my boyfriend but I don't know this girl and I'm worried. Also she will be going to the same church camp as him and I am even more worried. Am I being overly jealous or paranoid? Or is this a normal reaction? Thanks
I'd say your reaction is relevant. What is the reason for wanting to meet up with her? There should really be no reason to why a person would be I contact with an ex unless there were children involved. Exes are drama and added stress to a current relationship. Trust yourself if it doesnt feel rigt then it probably isnt
My best friend said she saw some where that their are iphone chargers that are just like a pad that you set your phone and or ipod on and it charges it. is this so? and where could I find one? she wants it for her birthday at the end of the month
Yes, They sell them at any phone carrier store such as verizon, at&t etc. Mine was 83 bucks.
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there is this boy that keeps following me around, calling me names,and doing his freckin best to annoy the crap out of me.
he does this cause he asked me out and i refused.
i told a teacher but she wont do anything!?!
am wondering if i can print out warrent???
No, You can not print out a warrant. Also, I dont think you understand what a warrant is....
A warrant is a legal paper giving permission by the goverment or police to put someone under arrest.
You do not need a warrant. This is a problem that should be solved through the school. If the teacher will not do anything then talk to a counselor or a principal and let them handle it.
I am a 20 year old female. I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year. And basically he doesn't trust me and there's alot of jealousy in our relationship. I cheated on him once and he can't seem to look past it I'm finding out. He's gone alot and I don't have alot of friends that are girls so when he's gone I go out sometimes and he freaks out. I just read his phone the other day saying to his mom " she's going out again I can't believe her" " no mom she's a slut just like all
The rest noone ever treats me right" I am very committed and love him deeply our relationship is exclusive but now he thinks I cheated on him again because I went out and lied about who I went Out with. Of course he read my phone. Now he wants to break up with me and I'm wondering if it's even worth the fight to keep us together. I really thought he was the one but if there's no trust what is there?
Agreed with the other users, No trust or respect
1, You cheated and lied. This is the kill if a relationship. Yes, he is hurt and no longer trust you, Do you blame him? It does not matter if you cheated once it was wrong.
2, Reading someones phone isn't just childish but it shows lack of respect and insecurity. You both invaded each others privacy
Do both of you the favor and end it, Lesson learned
I am in an odd situation (to me anyway). I am going to start with a few months ago. I told my best friend that I had feelings for her but she said that she didn't feel the same. So I tried to move on from her and I thought I did.
So then this girl asked me out, she lives too far away for me to meet but we Skype everyday. So I've been going out with her for a month or two now (not counting the time I knew her before she asked me out)and I've recently realized that I still have feelings for my best friend.
I can't understand why I am feeling like this. I should have been over her ages ago. I don't believe that this is fair on my girlfriend. So why am I feeling like this? Should I tell anyone about this?
Simetimes it takes awhile to get over someone. As I have always said a relationship over the internet is not a relationship, It's a fantasy.
Sometimes in order to move on we need to find a real relationship where we can get to know that person. You're friend does not feel the same way you do and in time you will learn to except that. In the meantime I think you may want to look to meet someone you can have a real relationship with.
Alright let me first start out by giving you the basics ok my wife and I have been togather 6 years 5years married ,we have 3 kids she had two when we met but the dad was a loser in and out of prison and gangster deadbeat so I became there dad and loved every minute of it ,they were 5 and 2 when I met her we have one daughter together ,when I met my wife I knew she dated a couple bad guys but nothing I saw but just maybe low self esteem but I cared nothing alaming,we started dateng it was great she was fun,beautiful ,and so loving to me I was so happy she gave me attention like no other women did I loved it ,we were so into eachother that we slept togather the second time we hungout but i will say this was way out of character for me but before that we spent days talking on the phone just learning about eachother so when we got togather it was special cI've been with 9 and 3 one night stands when i was a teen like 16 after that I never had one I'm kinda a old fashioned love guy I guess ,its funny because I'm not being cocky but I'm a damn goodlooking guy and used to model I'm 6,3 in good shape ,good lover good size but junst always believed in being kinky with one girl and be faithful ,so. After we slept togather opened up and wanted to know if i was a cheater or if I was a player because she had been cheated on multiple times and and I told her no and that i was not the player type and I've been with 8 +her ,then she was all happy ,but then I asked the same she told me 10/11 and only a couple o.n.s. and not bisexual stuff no crazy stuff and I askedabout race ,3ways orgies she only admits to one 3way that night and I was like ok she sounds like me a girl that was a little wild as a teen but was smart as an adult .....so we started dateing and the sex was amazing she did everything and help i would wake up to her giving head :) she was so happy to have a guy like me ,she got pregnet then I a fewcmonths later I asked her to marry me then after marriage she changed ,sex gone head gone like every 3months gone....from twice daily to that?she was moody not sweet and when I went threw health issues she would say I'm not your nurse ? This went on for years me if i broght sex up she would make excuses then say go find someone else ??I'm like wtf ?so finally this summer iim at my breaking point and i find out she ran into an ex and I was with her at my old job a restaurant and she never told me ?and we went in there twice she never said a thing?then she ran into him twice talked but neve told me ?but in the past she alaways would ,then I find out hes black I'm not racest but again another lie and this guy is a guy she worked with and screwed for a year and he had a girlfriend and sthey all hung out ...shady **** ...then in the next days after confronting her all the lies just pored out ....she admitted to sleeping with at least 25 + guys a girl ,a,three some even two guys in one night ?!!! She had 18one night stands ?wow and admitted to sleeping with a drugdeaer and gangmembers meth adicts and the worst was she had two little kids ? And admitted to even sleeping with a guy after his friend had A LOT of drugs in the house ?and she hervfather was there visiting ?...now I know people will say the past is the past but I'm sorry I'm so hurt ....and knowing she would give these disgusting men what they wanted but her hansom faithful husband ??? Please the images are horrible
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I will say that she had an alcohol issue but she said she only did meth twice and to answer one persons question ..no I did NOT know any of this !!!and she has never cheated on me and barley drinks now and does not talk to any of these people ...but I'm hurt just knowing she completely lied to me and she knew I was a good guy and it hurt inside knowing these disgusting thugs ****** my wife ...and she did them the first night but in my marriage nothing.......I'm hurting inside o deep not sure I can go on
If your wife is telling the truth, Your marriage is doomed.
If you both are willing to try and work things out i would suggest giving marriage counseling a go.
Now in my honest opinion, Sounds like your wife may of lied to you more times then she admits. In my eyes cheating and having affairs shouldn't be tolorated.
Now your wife slept with numerous people, Perhaps she may have a sex addiction? Either way I think atthis point I'd get tested. Counseling is probably your last straw... That is if you still want to stick around.
I'm an introvert, and I just got back from a four-day trip with a friend of mine. We spent a lot of time together on the trip and I didn't have a moment to myself. Now that we're both back home (we don't live together, but nearby), I really need a break. Not only was I with this friend the whole time, I saw a side of him I'd rather not see (angry, mean, critical, selfish, proud). Although I know he can be a really good person and I want to remain friends with him, I need space now and I also kind of want to distance myself from him since I've seen this side. The problem is that he thinks the trip has made us closer and he's not the easiest person to talk to.
He's very, very confrontational over the most trivial things. He keeps inviting me over for meals and asking if I want to hang out, even though we just got back yesterday... I need some ideas on how to distance myself in the most peaceful way possible.
You tell him you need a break, Be honest
You could say that you want to relax for a day or two as you just got back from vacation.
I am the perfect example of an introvert. I know exactly what you mean..
Introverts generally stick with people they feel comfortable around and many times those people are immediate family.
If I were in your shoes I would probably say 'I had a great time but I feel the need to relax now. I'll give you a call ad maybe we can plan something soon'
My dog looks like she has ring worm on her nose in just one spot. What creams or treatments can i get on my won with out taking her to vet? From like cvs or something?
If your dog is sick then it needs to go to the vet. The vet can prescribe antibiotics. Call your vet and set up a payment plan
24/f
ok, to start off, im not sure if it was sex or rape.
i said yes to my boyfriend. he did NOT pressure me into it. later before it, i changed my mind, but i forgot to tell him. so we did and now i feel violated.
was it sex or rape????
It was not rape you consented. Rape is when you are forced. If you did not want to have sex then you need to tell him and be honest.
It was sex not rape
My husband bought his mom a perfume bottle last Mother's Day and it came along with a free tote. He gave his mother the perfume, and I got the tote!!! I checked online and figure it out that the tote was free!!! I asked him about it and he said he thought about me and gave me the tote! What should I do now? He didn't even look for a present for me but giving me that free tote from his mother's present!!!
Why would you confront him like that? It could of been worse he could of gotten you nothing.
Your reaction is a bit harsh, Maybe he thought you would of loved the tote. Also, Why the heck would you even go ad look up a gift someone gave you? This sounds like you do not apprechiate much.
If my partner gave me a gift I would love it, I'd be thanksful. I would not confront the person to make them feel bad. Times are tough maybe he didnt have the money. Even if he did that is just wrong to put him down like that. If you love him then except him. Do not kill his pride by knocking him to his knees. Say thank you, Tell him you love it and stop being selfish.
Thats shallow