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Am I being overly paranoid?
So me and my boyfriend were on our scool email chat and he tells me that he is going to see his ex-gf from like 3 years ago, this weekend. I am super paranoid and jealous. His mom hates me and suggested that he go to the thing that she will be at, and said "Katlyn will be there". I trust my boyfriend but I don't know this girl and I'm worried. Also she will be going to the same church camp as him and I am even more worried. Am I being overly jealous or paranoid? Or is this a normal reaction? Thanks
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Honestly you have normal feeling about your boyfriend's ex. Honestly I'm worried about the mom. Why does she hate you? If you trust your boyfriend, then he most likely won't cheat on you.
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I'd say your reaction is relevant. What is the reason for wanting to meet up with her? There should really be no reason to why a person would be I contact with an ex unless there were children involved. Exes are drama and added stress to a current relationship. Trust yourself if it doesnt feel rigt then it probably isnt
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welll i think that if he really likes or loves you then he wouldnt have a reason to do anything with this girl. its normal to have these thoughts, you say you trust him and thats good . just dont over think it becuase you will make youself crazy worrying . maybe talk to him about it , sometimes that might releave your paranoid feeeling .
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perfectly normal. i would be mad and worried too. has he invited you to go? if not he is probably wanting to have alone time with his ex. sorry. i hope its not that. talk to him about it.
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It sounds like you are fairly young, so it will probably be a little difficult. Having serious conversations at your age is often viewed at awkward and not worth the effort. I would get together with him, tell him what your concerns are, but reassure him that you trust him. If you say explicitly that you are placing your trust at him, it will gnaw at the back of his mind should he feel tempted to stray.
I would also make sure you establish some way to keep in touch while he is away both now and when he goes to camp. It would be better to speak on the phone than to chat online. Even better would be something like Skype where he can see you. It's easy to get detached from someone after a time apart, and if you don't see or hear them, it becomes even easier.
If his Mom doesn't like you, you may want to address that situation as well. If she is going to constantly try and push him towards other girls, you need to figure out what exactly she doesn't like about you, or you will constantly be in this situation. Adults can be harsh, but their concerns regarding their children's relationships are often valid. If it's something you can improve (bad habits, poor school performance, how you dress, etc.), maybe you could consider making some changes to appease her.
If it's something you can't or are unwilling to change, you may want to confront her directly. Calmly explain to her that you care about her son and would love it if she could grow to accept you more as a person. If you can do this without getting worked up, she will most likely view you as a mature individual and respect you more as a result.
Besides raging hormones, a lack of communication is a serious reason why teen relationships fail. It might be a little awkward to confront your doubts within the relationship, but ultimately the relationship will last longer and be more enjoyable if you choose to do so early on.
Take Care,
Sam
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Don't worry if your boyfriend wants to visit his ex, most failed relationships end with friendships. Also if it was 3 years ago he would of lost romantic interest by now, if you trust him and you love him you shouldn't be jealous! Trust me, I will be fine. If your really paranoid, ask him if he is excited and see his reaction. His answer mite make you feel more trust worthy. This is totally normal so don't worry! Hope this helped,but this is my first time with advice so...Anyway, thank you!
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I wouldn't consider it overly paranoid. Your feelings are perfectly normal, but if your boyfriend is truly trustworthy, you don't have anything to worry about. On the other hand, if you can't trust him, then he really isn't the kind of person you should be with.
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