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I wanna cut my wrists,I need help


Question Posted Wednesday May 23 2012, 1:34 am

I wanna cut my wrists,and all because my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore,I need help because I know it doesn't make any sense.

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Writeratheart answered Friday May 25 2012, 11:24 am:
I'm glad you asked for help before you did cut.
And I'm also proud of you for saying that you need it, and that it doesn't make sense.
But a lot of things don't. That's okay.
Sometimes when it hurts too much, we become numb. And then when we can't take that anymore, we want to hurt ourselves to feel something, anything.
It's like, "What did I do wrong? Why doesn't he love me anymore?"
Love doesn't really make sense, either.
But please, please remember the time when you didn't have him yet, when you weren't a couple, and the ones who loved you then.
Your friends. Your family.
Yourself.
Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in the love of others that we forget the best love? It comes from ourselves.
If you love yourself, you wouldn't cut. Because you don't want to hurt, right? You don't want to feel pain, to be sad. You want to be happy.
And I'm sure others wish you happiness too.
There are groups, and people who can help you. But the only person who can really make a difference is you.
I hope you find the strength and determination to get through this hard time. Try to be patient. Time is on your side.
I wish you all the best, and I hope this helps.

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alexisgirlie answered Thursday May 24 2012, 5:22 pm:
People who want to self harm are in really awful pain, but self harm is not the solution. It's really great that you realize that it's not normal and you need help. I congratulate you for being very smart and seeing beneath the pain. It's really painful what you're going through, and I suggest maybe you should have a talk with your boyfriend about this. If he really doesn't love or respect you anymore, than he doesn't deserve to be with a special person like you. You deserve your boyfriend's unwavering love, respect, support, and trust. If any of these is missing, there's something wrong with the relationship. My boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago, and I'm rolling in unbearable pain. I can understand what you feel when your boyfriend doesn't love you anymore, but it might not be true. I highly suggest you go get help for your self injurious ideation. Even if everything works out with your boyfriend, you need to learn the DBT skills of how to deal with pain without cutting. You'll be so happy you did. They are skills for life, and once you start applying them in everyday life, you'll be a new person! You'll know how to cope with things from losing $10 to losing a loved one. I'm studying them, and it really helps. Always believe in yourself, and don't let anyone treat you any lower than a queen ever! Because you are one! If you have any further questions about this, you can e-mail me at alexisgirlie@gmail.com. Good luck and feel better soon :)

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anonadvice answered Thursday May 24 2012, 4:48 pm:
Please don't do this. I have seen many people asking about this, but I really think it's a bad idea. You may feel that he doesn't love you, but this doesn't mean that no loves you! You just feel that way because your not with him any more, but he isn't worth it. Don't be sad or hurt yourself, this may not be the best thing to say but you should be mad! And getting over him, means you have won. You can show him that you don't need him, and that you can be happier without him! No need to feel alone, find some friends and rub it in his face that your over him. Go out partying with your friends and have the time of your life as a single girl. There will be plenty of other boys that you will want to be with you! Hope this helps, thanks.

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Sunshine answered Thursday May 24 2012, 4:35 pm:
Suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but he is so not worth it. You need to move on and live your life to be the most awesome person you can be. Some day you can look back and say, his loss.

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adviceman49 answered Thursday May 24 2012, 1:39 pm:
Cutting your wrists are not going to cause your boyfriend to love you any more or again or any less for that matter. All cutting your wrists will do, at the very least will scar you for life and ad worst if you cut in the wrong place kill you before help arrives.


Since I'm not sure what is your intention in cutting your wrist I'm going to error on the side of extreme caution. You need help. Help that we can't give you over the Internet.

Please do one of the following:

Call 911, tell them you are thinking of cutting your wrists. They will send help to you.

Go to the nearest hospital emergency room and tell them you want to cut your wrists, they will help you. You do not need any money or insurance for their help.

Go to the nearest Fire or Police Station, in the U.S. or Canada fire and police stations are safe havens for children. Tell the person on watch you are wanting to cut your wrists they will help you.

If you are reading this in school go to the health room and tell the nurse.

I do not want to trivialize your feelings. I know the hurt you feel is real. Broken hearts do mend. IF you and this boy were meant to be this would not be happening. Grieve for your lost love then go back out and find your true love. As my mother use to tell me; "there are plenty of fish in the sea so just go fishing." She was right; I found my true love and have been married to her for 40 years. Before that I had many a broken heart.

You boyfriend is not worth hurting or killing yourself over. He is the one who has truly lost something in this relationship for he lost you and their is no one else on this planet like you.

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