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Answers from introverts only, please.
I'm an introvert, and I just got back from a four-day trip with a friend of mine. We spent a lot of time together on the trip and I didn't have a moment to myself. Now that we're both back home (we don't live together, but nearby), I really need a break. Not only was I with this friend the whole time, I saw a side of him I'd rather not see (angry, mean, critical, selfish, proud). Although I know he can be a really good person and I want to remain friends with him, I need space now and I also kind of want to distance myself from him since I've seen this side. The problem is that he thinks the trip has made us closer and he's not the easiest person to talk to.
He's very, very confrontational over the most trivial things. He keeps inviting me over for meals and asking if I want to hang out, even though we just got back yesterday... I need some ideas on how to distance myself in the most peaceful way possible.
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You tell him you need a break, Be honest
You could say that you want to relax for a day or two as you just got back from vacation.
I am the perfect example of an introvert. I know exactly what you mean..
Introverts generally stick with people they feel comfortable around and many times those people are immediate family.
If I were in your shoes I would probably say 'I had a great time but I feel the need to relax now. I'll give you a call ad maybe we can plan something soon'
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I believe you should tell him that you need some space right now. Always stand up for yourself! It might be hard sometimes, but ultimately it'll make you feel so good! If you don't tell him, you might feel smothered and start hating him, and that won't be good for either of you. I used to be very afraid to stand up for myself in abusive relationships, and the results were awful. If you tell it to him in a nice way, he'll probably understand, and if he doesn't, I don't think it will be a good idea to continue with this friendship. Good luck and treat yourself during your time alone! You deserve it :)
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