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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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18/f
I love eating. I eat more than three meals a day and they're usually very big meals. In between those, I'm nibbling on snacks, like health bars or chips and dip. I've gained at least twenty pounds in the past three months or so. I really hate this and I hate eating so much, but I feel like I can't stop. I've eaten so much that I've gotten sick and vomited, then ate right afterwards.
I don't know why I do this. I just love the taste of food, the smell of it. If I'm about to watch a show on TV, even if I'm not hungry, I'll go grab something to eat just so I have something to do while watching the show (That could have something to do with my ADD). I'm not bulimic or anything because I don't enjoy puking. It's only happened once anyway. I mean, I'm not outrageously overweight. I'm 5'2', 147 lbs. Is there anyway I can get control over this? Things to tell myself to stop eating so much?
If you are forcing yourself to puke your food up out of guilt of overeating then you are either in the beginning stages or have an eating disorder.
If you want to fix the problem, I would advise you to seek some help for this. Therapy would probably be your best option and second I don't think it would hurt to see a nutritionist who can help you will a meal planning. Eating right and eating portion sizes come with self control, You need to learn to eat with moderation not out of boredom or the love of food. My doctor always told me "Exercise more then you eat" This is a very motivate motto that actually helped me loose 15lbs.
Puking up your food isn't healthy and becoming bulimic can actually cause tooth decay, liver and kidney failure, hair loss, etc.
Now one other thing, Obviously you are concerned about the problem of puking up your food or you wouldn't of added that information. I highly advise against it and that you seek professional help. This is treatable, You can join planet fitness for 10 bucks a month if you have one near you as well.
Anyway onto the plan
If you drink soda, Switch to water instead. If water is too boring for you then you could go with flavored water. Drink tea instead of coffee
Stock up on protein (Fish, Chicken, Tuna, Almonds)
Avoid eating white rice (White rice is actually a big high on sugar) instead switch over to wild rice. If your a pasta lover do small portions of wheat pasta instead.
A tip: Eating with your other hand will actually help you to eat less.
When you grab a plate, Grab a small plate instead of a big one and try using a blue plate if possible. The color blue is actually known to help people eat smaller meals.
Another tip: This is well known in Europe but you can take a ribbon and tie it around your waist, When it becomes snug while eating then you know you've had enough.
Don't eat after 7:00pm, If you are very hungry and need a snack go for some fruit instead of ice cream, cookies etc.
Most of all, Avoid the caffeine!
I have been with my wife for 4 years. coming into this relationship I knew her bestfriend was her ex. That should of been a red flag for me, but as the years gone by I got to know her bestfriend and the more I got to know her the more I hated her. she seems to always have to top everything I do, from cooking, to baking, to decorating to the way we dress(just so you understand I'm a girl shes a girl we are all girls)the way we raise the kids everything is a compotition. Plus she always talks about herself and what shes doing and how she gets to go out and do this and that know we have young children and we can't do those thing almost like she rubbing it in our faces. The hard part is shes a huge part of my wife's family the sisters look at like a sister and the in-laws love her as a daughter and call her daughter their gran. see i'm the actual wife and I gave 2 grandchildren but i get treated like the outsider. she comes over almost everyday and doesn't know when to leave, she sleeps in my bed uses my shower. but when i try to say anything to my wife she lets me know how wrong i am and that she doesnt understand why i have such a problem with her and that i'm trying to put her in the middle and she won't choose. like today i packed a picnic to take to my wifes work so the kids and i can eat lunch with her but guess whose been there since early in the morning her bestie so now i have to make extra to feed her to. I just feel liek everywhere i go or anything i do her bestie has to be apart of it. they go and have lunch they talk on the phone for hours they tell each other eveything. my wife and i never go out and have lunch just the 2 of us, and she never opens up to me like that. not only that but she would never let me hang out with her at work like that. I don't know what to do. I don't think they are messing around but I want to be the one to be close to my wife not her. any advise?
You need to tell your wife what you told us. Tell her you feel you are being competed against and you feel it's starting to interfere with your marriage. Be upfront and honest about how you feel and why you feel the way you do. If you must you can also recommend marriage counseling.
You need to communicate, There also needs to be boundaries. If my husband and I were having a picnic and his best friend were around I would address the issue as
"I understand this is your best friend but I feel like we don't spend much time alone together and do things as a family and I feel like your friendship with ____ is interfering with that."
See how she reacts and what she says back. Communication goes a long way.
If you don't know whether they are messing around or not then you need to dig for the truth. Don't come off as making assumptions or accusing her just watch her actions and response to your concerns. If you must be straight forward then be so but save that part if it's really necessary. That part would just flat out ask if she still has feelings for her ex.
is it advisable to have sex with another girl if your virgin girlfriend is not ready.
If you have a girlfriend then you should be committed to her and her only. Having sex with other people while in a relationship is cheating. It's dishonest, disrespectful and wrong.
If you are not happy with your girlfriend then show her the respect to tell her and end the relationship.
When my ex and me met there was an amazing instant connection, he was everything Id ever wanted, completely perfect and we knew we were eachothers soulmates...I would have died for him. (Im 18 years to clarify) He took me out for meals, we had fun, spent everyday with eachother and for 7 amazing months were inseperable.
But 7 months in he got scared, I came back from a trip skiing and everything was re-ignited, he realised he loved me a lot and freaked out about me going to uni after my gap year (he was cheated on by his past 4 girlfriends) and said he wanted to get engaged after uni, but couldnt stand losing me to another guy there. I was devastated.
After he dumped me he slept with someone else (his choice, he was single), and came crying to me, saying he'd made a massive mistake and wanted what we had, he'd been an idiot.
I took him back, but it's not the same :/
He likes to keep his private life (me) and his social life (his friends) seperate.
He won't say he loves me because he's too scared of what it will mean.
We don't go out for meals anymore, its like Im a secret?
He always seems tired and never excited to see me...I only see him once a week for a few hours and I KNOW he has more time, he always used to make it for me.
I know he's being exclusive, but we're just stuck seeing eachother with him not acting like he really cares :( He says Im over emotional, and I do get upset about everything sometimes, but he used to cuddle me and tell me it'd be alright, and now he just gets angry :( He doesn't act romantic anymore and seems kind of bored with me :(
I'd still do anything for him, as I remember the guy he can be...I just don't understand what I should do? :(
Advice appreciated xx
If he can't appreciate you in every way, Then he can't appreciate you at all. If I were in your shoes, It would either be, you want to be with me and be proud to show our love or you simply don't want to be with me at all. If he loves you, wants to be with you then he should have no reason to hide you.
Now the brutal truth; You broke up, He slept with someone else. Although you may of been broken up at the time, He came between the love he had for you and put it aside for someone else. Now that you are both trying to rekindle the relationship he has to come to terms in trying to fix the connection he originally had with you. On the other behalf, He broke up with you, Slept with someone else, and you took him back after that. Although you were indeed not together at the time I don't see how that is much different then cheating in a way.
Now an example; When someone cheats and then their partner takes them back of course it's not going to be the same. You broke the connection with the person, You broke their trust and you betrayed them. Technically in a way this is the same thing between you and your boyfriend.
It sounds to me that this kid doesn't know what he wants, He is with you but he wants to keep you a "secret" encase all doesn't work out. So, basically what I'm implying here is that damage may of well be done.
So I met this guy in omegle, before you think that there are horny creepy dudes there, there's actually some nice trolls, so there he was, he kinda pulled one on me, but as we talked, it was getting really serious, like on religion and racial differences. It felt like we knew each other before. We became friends in Facebook, it was nice, it's like having a best friend talk to you, it wasn't awkward. But then there's this weird feeling of talking to someone you barely even know but you get along with each other so well, like stranger danger, so what should I do?
Don't give him your personal information, Although he may be a nice guy it's better to be safe then sorry. That's what I would do
Keep the friendship to a minimum with boundaries, No personal stuff.
I want to buy somehing but I don't want to get scammed and buy something of poor quality and not get my money back. I'm afraid maybe if I pay I won't get it or it won't be as good as it looked on the internet. What are the chances of gettin scammed on ebay or craigslist?
I would never buy anything off Craigslist or Ebay, They are the top two places people false advertise. If you want to buy something I would definitely stay away from the internet and buy it from someone you know or in a store.
My boyfriend cheated on me several times, i forgave him, i got pregnant and he asked me to abort saying that we are not ready, i refused and he broke up with me.he went back dating one of the girls he was 2 timing me with.later on he said that he can't be with me but that he will be there for the child eventhough he can't provide financially. I was devastated, depressed, and so hurt. i didn't know what to do and i didn't want the child to suffer, so out of fustration i had an abortion, but i told my him that i had a misscaraige. he felt for me and asked me back out again. i accepeted and we started dating later to find out that he was still involve with other women. i broke up with him and ever since now we have being on and off. he says he loves me, that am the love of his life and that we should be exclusive. recently i discovered that he is still involve with one girl and is chasing after other gilrs. i confronted him and he told me that he will set things straight with other girls an let them know that the past is the past and that he wants to concentrate on his future which is me. i don't know what to do,i love him so much,but i can't trust him,i have tried several to move on but its hard, i feel miserable without him. should i give him another chance?i am 23 and i want to be in a stable relationship with someone that i love so that i might end up marrying the person and carrying his childreen. A part of me wants to be in a relationship with him again, but the other part is afraid of getting hurt again. what can i do?
Another chance? Absolutely not
This man cheated on you, Lied and led you on. Also, From the sound of how you worded it, Sounds like he was inconsiderate of your feelings when he found out you were pregnant. This man didn't feel sympathy for you if you had a miscarriage by asking you out again. (I am deeply sorry you lost the child my condolences go out too you) but on his behalf he looked at it as he doesn't have to take responsibility anymore so he can just crawl back too you and date you.
Listen hun, When you refused to abort the child, He left you high and dry and dated someone else. When he found out that you had a miscarriage, He crawled back to you? That is 100% wrong!
This guy has proved he is nothing but an asshole on more then one occasion. You do not need him, You need to cut ties with him and focus on you. This man has hurt you once, He'll do it again as long as you allow him to hurt you. Also, You are miserable without him but you will be downright miserable with him as he is nothing but baggage and he will bring you down.
You owe it too yourself to find someone better, Go and be happy in your life and leave the toxic people behind. This man not only originally left you, He left your child also.
You are way better then that, Don't let some ass take advantage of that.
i went on a date with a really cute and older guy.
we got drinks- the first one he paid for and the second he culdnt afford and had to awkwardly ask me to pay for it myself.
he didnt mean anything by it it was a honest he couldnt afford to buy mea drink! hes a waiter and doesnt have a lot of money at moment, so its understandable- however i am still turned off.
OTHER than that we had an AWSOME time but i cant get over how he couldnt afford to pay for my 8$ drink.
i told him it was werid and he owes me.
am i weird for thinking this is such a red flag? i really like him but im insulted by how he asked me to pay!
Yeah, I would probably bring it up in a polite way.
The biggest issues here is how he didn't budget his money before he took you out on a date. It's almost like taking someone out to dinner and not having enough to pay for it, If you can't afford to dine out then you simply don't don't dine out in the first place. If I were in your shoes, I'd be offended. Yes, I'd probably also be a bit turned off as well.
Maybe it was an honest mistake but I fail to see how someone can "forget" that they don't have enough to take someone out. I suppose whether to keep dating him would depend on the guy, How much fun you really had with him and if it was really a n honest mistake. Either way, I'd bring it up politely but if happens again then it would be the end of it.
I been dating this guy for 5 months and im completly in love with him!! He has been by myside trough everything when j went to a mental.hospital he was there for.me when.i was sad and.crying.he would hold me and well hes my bff and even tough we have huge problems because hes 19 & im 15 my social worker told me that if.he comes at night and.sneaks into my room he would get a restraining.order against me and i know.my parents dont like him much because they believe it was his fault & blah blah blha well the point is that we been falling apart lately so he asked me to have an open relationship meaning that he can flirt and kiss other females.. when.he.told me that my heart broke in million of pieces and i started crying like hell it hurts a lot. His reasons for asking.for.an.open.realtionship was that we couldn't see each other that much Bcuz we live 30 minutes away and im never with him when.he needs me and that there was no point of staying faithfull if.i wasnt near him.. But now.Idk what.to do?!!!!! Should i stay with him and haven an open relationship? And.wait till i get a car and wait.till its only us again? Or be done with him? Or be in an open relationship and get revenge??!! Meaning by showing.him that i can be with as.many as guys as he.can be with girls.
My best advice is to dump him, Move on and meet someone who is your age and in a more convenient location for you. Seeking revenge on him is childish. It's not going to change anything but make matters worse for you and prove to him that he was right to move on to begin with. If a guy wants to have an open relationship then it in a way means he's moved on and is looking for someone else and there is no point in waiting around for him. This man is also simply too old for you, Fact is, He is an adult and you are still a minor in the eyes of the law.
erm well what does it mean when someone says 'The best thing we ever had, we took it for granted' ? pleaseee need to know what he meant.. thanku !
The best you thing you had, You took advantage of.
That's basically what he meant.
Hey if I give my boyfriend head and he has an std would it only be in my mouth?
If he has an STD it wouldn't be a very good idea to do anything until he is cleaned up. Like Adviceman said below, It all depends on what he has and where you touch yourself after.
13/f
ive been datin this boy since feb. and im friends with 3 of my bfs exs ive been friends with 1 of them since oct. and the 2 one since nov. and the 3 one since mar. is it right or wrong cause im not sure.
Any advise will be very thankful!!
You are entitled to be friends who whoever you wish to be friends with. It is wrong of your boyfriend to tell you who and who you can't hang out with. Your boyfriend is no longer dating these girls, He is dating you, so no it is not wrong.
If one of these girls decided to interfere with your relationship then maybe then it would be time to leave the friendship and focus on you and your boyfriend. People do get jealous, but your relationship isn't about THEM it's about YOU.
Hi, 20/m
I'm a small town boy, soon to be moving to a big city. I'm trying to look for a room in an apartment, and have been looking on craigslist.
I've never done this sort of thing before, and so I'm a bit confused.
Some of the pictures look like they've been taken off a website i.e. they look like billionaire penthouses. Are these scams? Is there any damage in contacting them?
Also, any other tips you could give me when searching for a place on craigslist? I.e. what to look for, what to avoid, how to tell if its fake/a scam?
Any help is much appreciated!
Thanks
Craigslist is most definitely not a website I would be looking for apartment. Yes, 9 times out of 10 things are scams, Items for sale are broken or damaged etc.
If you want an apartment my best advice is too look in your local newspaper for ads, Call places when you see a for rent sign outside. Try to find someone who is looking for a roommate etc.
Seriously, I can't even begin to tell you how much shit I hear about Craigslist. One of the biggest scams I recent recall is someone putting up an ad on a house that was for "sale" Guess what? The owner of the house was actually on vacation in Africa while someone just randomly started false advertising. Yeah, these type of scams are everywhere.
Check the papers you should have much better luck, Next if you see something that is interesting then call the number and schedule an appointment to view the place and bring a friend along with you.
This is regarding to the answer given above me; Maybe not all ads are scams. This wasn't what I was implying but it's better to be safe then sorry. Craigslist not only has a bad rep but a friend of mine got screwed paying $800 a month for an apartment that was the size of a small bedroom literally...Now he completely regrets the choice.
Anyway, Whatever you do just be careful! Happy hunting
Im 13, I'm a girl , The story starts in year 9 (8th grade) when i first gave a hj , i was dating this guy for a week, 1 week later , when i was still dating this guy, i gave another guy a hand job during a R.S lesson.then me and this guy broke up.
a month ago i was peer pressured/begged/forced into giving a guy i had spoken to once a blow job , he hasn't spoken to me since.
today a guy friend came round and we were watching a movie and we started making out , he then put his hands down my pants and fingered me, i let him and he did it 9 times , i also gave him 3 hand jobs. I'm still 13 , I'm turning 14 soon . does this make me a slut?
I don't like the word slut
However, I will say you are giving guys an opportunity to take advantage of you. Also, because you are allowing them to do these things you are giving yourself a bad reputation at such a young age.
If a guy wants a blow job, hand job and won't drop the subject instead of giving in, Tell them No. You are not an object, You are a person that has feelings. Boys this age don't think with their heads, They think with their pants. That's it and sometimes they will say and do anything to get what they want.
My best advice is to tone it down, Stop giving in so easily and try to say no. Instead of giving yourself a bad reputation learn to respect yourself.
if my teen daughter sends a picture of herself to a guy she knows in her underwear and bra, should i allow her a new cell phone or no?
I would always make sure she has a cellphone but I would monitor it, This does not mean she can have a cellphone SHE wants. As long as the phone does the job to stay in contact when she is out somewhere then there ya go. If I were her parent, I'd buy her a track phone or a phone that has no texting service on it and no camera. Seeing she has misused her cellphone I would buy her a simple phone that only has minutes to call when needed.
I completely agree with Flare, If she can't use a cellphone properly then she shouldn't even have one. Sending photos like that is not only very inappropriate but the person she is sending photo's too is in possession of child pornography if she is under the age of 18.
Hi I'm a female aged 27 from the UK. I was with this guy for 4 and a half years. The 1st 3 years were great. Then I moved over to the North East (where he lives) and things started to go down hill, I heard he was texting another girl and I accused him but he insisted he wasn't. We had a break for 3 mths but he begged me back.
I took him back and he bought his 1st house and asked me to move in. We were happy again and spent mths decorating the house. I moved out of my apartment and moved in. However he didn't and stayed at his parents up the road.
To cut a REALLy long story short he basically wasn't sleeping over with me nor did he move in. I split up with him and he has begged me for 8 mths to take him back doing crazy things like turning up at my school (I'm a teacher) attaching flowers to my car, crying alot (to name a few things!).
I recently found out he was seeing someone behind my back for a year!! He was still seeing me and I was letting him back in my life because he used to cry and make me feel sorry for him.
Me and the girl confronted him and he told me to foff and said that he wanted her when not 3 days ago he told me via email that he still loved me which she has seen! The 2nd girl also found out about a 3rd girl he slept with this year who is pregnant!!
He's blaming me for exposing the truth and hasn;t even said sorry for what he put me through. How do I move on from the lies, cheating and betrayal??
He's a complete waste of time
Lets face it, The guy was caught red handed. Nobody likes to admit they cheated or were wrong and therefore he is blaming you for making him look like a fool.
Honestly, Move on from him. The guy is pulling a sympathy card probably because he feels he needs someone else encase his little affair doesn't go as planned. He is a manipulator and he's good at it
Don't fall for his games, Do yourself a favor and move on from him. This guy is a poor excuse
I'm a high school girl who likes a guy one year older than me. He's in my band class, but we've never actually talked and I think he likes me. I admit that he has a really attractive body and a cute face, but I don't think it's only a physical infatuation because I've kind of picked up his personality from Facebook (his comments, statuses, his friends' comments,etc.) and he's so nice and mature and funny. I know this sounds kind of stalker-ish...-_- I always feel nervous around him and keep try to find out more about him like searching up his name on the soccer team roster or watching soccer games of his favorite teams that he liked on FB (im a soccer player too) and um..other stalkerish things haha. So, is it possible that I love him? and is there any way I can get to know him without being really awkward? Thanks a lot!
You can't love someone if you don't know them personally. Going by facebook post does not define who he is. It's just a comment and just a status which anyone can pretty much say anything on there anyway.
If you want to know so badly what he is like then you should try talking to him. I'll be upfront here but yes, I do think it's sort of weird that you are peeking in on his facebook. Try adding him instead? You can break the ice by messaging him and saying hi but you will never know unless you try. You both already have soccer in common so it's not like you both don't have ANYTHING to talk about.
I think maybe you are crushing on the kid but I definitely wouldn't call it love because you don't even know him. Someone can be attractive and have a sucky personality. Talk to him
I have always gone for gamer geeks, ever since I started dating at 18 years old. Right now I am dating a 22, technically 23 year-old man who seems to live an entire lifestyle that is dominated entirely by video games, so much so that it is unhealthy. I see a future with my current boyfriend and I like a lot of other qualities about him, he's committed to having a career in accounting, a field that is constantly growing even in this bad economy; he is extremely supportive, I went through a short period of time where my dad and I were not even talking, when I was going through that negative experience he offered me a shoulder to cry on and assured me that things would get better; I have fun with him when he is not attached to his computer playing the latest video game, he makes me laugh and we have a best friend relationship, as well as having a good romantic relationship; and I feel really good about our relationship. All of his qualities that peeve me about him, and I can tell will cause problems for him stem from the fact that he is addicted to playing video games.
During the summer time when my boyfriend is not in college he has no schedule, I have seen this and his mother has as well. I feel like this is partially because he will spend until 4 to 9:00 in the morning playing video games, which is fine when you are 18 or 19 years old. However my boyfriend is almost out of college, and from there is going to be working a full time job before he knows it. When that happens my boyfriend will be working the typical 9 to 5 work schedule that most Americans work. I have seen him sleep until 5:00 in the afternoon, there is nothing wrong with sleeping in, especially when you are working all day HOWEVER I think that 5 is kind of late to be starting your day off.
Having no schedule also means that my boyfriend always eats right before he goes to bed, which is bad especially when he does not make the healthiest food choices. For example I have seen him eat buffalo chicken wings at 4:45 in the morning, something that has a lot of calories and can also cause stomach problems. Since he eats at all kinds of times, makes unhealthy food choices, and does not burn calories he is 100 pounds overweight.
The fact that he is 100 pounds overweight affects our sex life, not to a point that is completely horrible and we do not have sex but he has NEVER taken his shirt off for me. One of those reasons is that he has always felt like I have a good body, I am 135 pounds and 5'4” (a healthy weight) and he is really negative about his. However the fact that my boyfriend does not take his shirt off means that there is only a point where is willing to get intimate with me, like what is underneath his shirt is a secret that he keeps from his girlfriend of over a year.
Also when you are sitting at your computer all day, you are not burning calories which means that you are only going to pack on more pounds. I am one of those people that is known for spending all day at her computer, and I do not really work out so maybe I should not really be saying anything. However I am worried that if he keeps on living this lifestyle he will die at only 40 years old.
My boyfriend told both his mother and me that he is going to start a drastic diet where he will lose weight, after his 23rd birthday ( his birthday is on the 31st). I am just hoping that he will be able to stick to this diet, because I have seen him go on diet after diet which he never stays on for particularly long.
My boyfriend's gaming addiction also causes problems with our relationship, like when I am spending time with him I feel like he brushes me off for his video games. Maybe he will lay in bed with me for the day, talking to me, and he always tries to schedule dates with me – take me to the movies and out to eat, however most of the time I feel like he is on the computer with his newest video game all the time. I also have discovered that even though he likes sleeping by me, he never goes to bed with me. Even on the nights that we have sex before I go to bed, my boyfriend will tell me that he has to go to bathroom and then he never comes back to bed, and I will find him on the computer.
I feel like it is hard for me to do anything for him, since a lot of time he is a state away from me; but if he continues this lifestyle it is seriously going to negatively impact him. My boyfriend's father was a heroin addict, his father died when my boyfriend was 15 years old after he had only seen him for four times in his life. I know that addiction runs in my boyfriend's family, which is why he has never even experimented with weed, but I feel like instead of heroin, like his father, my boyfriend is addicted to video games.
How exactly do I stop my boyfriend from slowly, unintentionally committing suicide, and negatively impacting his life, including his future?
If you both have a close relationship then you should have no problem talking about his habits and the way it affects you.
You could make plans, Maybe he is one of those guys that needs something to look forward too. My husband used to be big on video games a few years ago but I've worked with him to get him out of that.
We joined planet fitness, We work out together. We make plans to do things when we both aren't working. We are in our late 20's and a fairly active couple.
You need to come up with a plan, A routine that you both can work at.
I will explain how I did it, Maybe it will give you both some ideas.
I work and go to school part time, My husband works 2 jobs and gets 2 days off a week.
Every week we make a plans to do things on his day off. We go to the movies, zoo, gym, park etc. We always have something to look forward too. While we both have hectic schedules we will try to award each other with fun.
My advice, Talk to him. Let him know it bothers you he spends too much time on his video games. Maybe you could motivate him into joining a gym, You both could go together and be one another support. It's the summer and you both should be enjoying yourselves. If he isn't all for the gym try and find another active thing you both can enjoy. Going to the Zoo is fun and requires a lot of walking, I'm not sure if you both like to hike but that's another great thing to do. Check with your local college sometimes they offer community swimming for low prices.
I don't know much about his life from what you've said above but is he by any chance suffering from depression? If so I would suggest maybe he see a doctor where he can get himself help. Nobody should ever have to sit in misery. Life can be so much fun but we have to have goals. No matter the schedule always make sure you have ME and US time. When you talk to him just make sure you don't come out and attack him. Try to motivate him into doing something more active, Let him know that you are concerned for him and want to see him happy.
14/f
I was just wondering why people say not to shave or use hair removal creams on your upper lip. If it's bad then what are some other ways to get rid of it? And am I too young to worry about it? My mom says I am but guys make fun of me.
Do not shave the hair, It will grow back thicker, and faster.
Hair removal creams often don't work, Also I speak from experience they aren't always good for people will sensitive skin as it can irritate and cause rashes.
Your best bet is to leave it alone, If guys make a huge deal about it then screw them. Find someone who will appreciate you for who you are. If you are really looking to get rid of it a more natural way then look into getting it professionally waxed. They offer waxing treatment at salons or a place where you can get your hair cut offer waxing services for a decent price.
So I am 17 and just bought a new push up bra from Aerie. I actually bought two. I wore them continuously for a few days while on vacation, and now the sides of my breasts are killing me. The bra has pretty hard padding with rather abnormal contours. The bra offers little to no support. I had been doing crunches, sit ups, and yoga in this bra. Could that be what is causing the sides of my breasts to be so sore? (Just the sides). Also, most of the volume of my breasts is off to the sides. Help!
How is the fitting? Make sure the bra isn't too tight.
Also, It's recommended that you do not exercise in a regular bra. I would imagine it would be a bit uncomfortable! Try switching or buying a sports bra for when you work out and see if you notice a difference. :)
That very well could be the problem, I used to have the same thing happen to me then I switched over and boy what a relief!
Turned out for me the problem was the wire in the bra digging into my skin. I also noticed while working out that my bra would twist on the side which caused painful rashes.