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Am i a slut?
Im 13, I'm a girl , The story starts in year 9 (8th grade) when i first gave a hj , i was dating this guy for a week, 1 week later , when i was still dating this guy, i gave another guy a hand job during a R.S lesson.then me and this guy broke up.
a month ago i was peer pressured/begged/forced into giving a guy i had spoken to once a blow job , he hasn't spoken to me since.
today a guy friend came round and we were watching a movie and we started making out , he then put his hands down my pants and fingered me, i let him and he did it 9 times , i also gave him 3 hand jobs. I'm still 13 , I'm turning 14 soon . does this make me a slut?
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I don't like the word slut
However, I will say you are giving guys an opportunity to take advantage of you. Also, because you are allowing them to do these things you are giving yourself a bad reputation at such a young age.
If a guy wants a blow job, hand job and won't drop the subject instead of giving in, Tell them No. You are not an object, You are a person that has feelings. Boys this age don't think with their heads, They think with their pants. That's it and sometimes they will say and do anything to get what they want.
My best advice is to tone it down, Stop giving in so easily and try to say no. Instead of giving yourself a bad reputation learn to respect yourself.
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Frankly I don't like the word slut. I never use it and never have used it. What I think is you have gained a reputation of being easy which is a reputation you do not want or need.
You should not be using sex to get a date with a boy. Doing so shows the boys have a total lack of respect for you. Being pressured, begged and forced to give a someone a BJ is RAPE,sexual harassment and assault. All are a crimes and punishable under the law.
Never, never, never allow anyone to pressure you or force you to do anything sexually you don't want to do. NO mans NO and STOP means STOP. Once you say those two words, either one or both, and a boy continues to pressure or force you to give them some form of sex. Then in the loudest voice you have you scream RAPE.
You are way to young to be engaging in this type of sex play. The boys who are using you this way may be satisfied for now. But someday, and that day will come, a boy will want sexual intercourse. He will be bigger than you and he will forcibly get what he wants. If your real lucky he will only rape you. Most girls are not that lucky for once these boys realize what they have done they hurt the girl far worse.
You already have the reputation of being easy so getting the boys to respect you and to stop trying to get you to give them BJs or HJS or to allow them to finger you won't be easy. But you must stop. If they try to force you, you must yell rape. If a teacher or another adult intervenes you tell them what has happened.
Your probably thinking I don't know what I'm talking about. Well I wasn't born a father and grandfather. I was once your age and I was one of the boys who ran after the girls who had the reputations of being easy. So yes I talk from experience.
Now it is up to you. Slut is not a word I use or ever used even at your age. I do believe you have earned a reputation of being easy.
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You're only a slut if you feel like a slut. However you can easily get a slutty reputation if you keep letting boys use you. I was in a similar situation at 13 and when you get older, you'll look back and wonder how you could do that.
Just remember, its important to keep yourself happy and healthy, not the boys. If you feel nasty after hooking up, don't hook up. Boys will respect you more if you say no and you'll be able to get a quality guy instead of someone who is only into getting some.
Good luck! Please let me know what happens!
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You're not off to a good start. A "slut" may not be how you think of yourself, but it will be the reputation you acquire unless you change your ways.
Think hard about whether you want to be known as the girl who guys can use to get off with, and then toss aside. That's where you're going. In some ways, it may be too late to entirely salvage your reputation, but you can at least stop before it gets worse.
If you keep going down this path, you're going to end up with not just a reputation as a slut or a whore - you're going to end up with an STD or a pregnancy.
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