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Is it possible to love someone whom I've never talked to before?


Question Posted Tuesday July 31 2012, 9:11 pm

I'm a high school girl who likes a guy one year older than me. He's in my band class, but we've never actually talked and I think he likes me. I admit that he has a really attractive body and a cute face, but I don't think it's only a physical infatuation because I've kind of picked up his personality from Facebook (his comments, statuses, his friends' comments,etc.) and he's so nice and mature and funny. I know this sounds kind of stalker-ish...-_- I always feel nervous around him and keep try to find out more about him like searching up his name on the soccer team roster or watching soccer games of his favorite teams that he liked on FB (im a soccer player too) and um..other stalkerish things haha. So, is it possible that I love him? and is there any way I can get to know him without being really awkward? Thanks a lot!

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Erinn_the_bamf answered Thursday August 2 2012, 12:51 am:
It may not only be a "physical infatuation", but it's still an infatuation. You don't love him. Love is much more complex than taking an interest in someone's hobbies based on what you saw on the internet.

Unlike the other response, I don't think you're a creep for Facebook stalking him. Any teenage girl that claims she's never Facebook stalked her love crush is a big, fat liar. It's what Facebook was created for (remember that scene in The Social Network when some rando asks Zuckerberg is the girl he likes is single and Zuckerberg has his epiphany to include relationship statuses on his website?). That being said, you're never going to date this kid if you're stalking him from afar and not interacting in the real world. At the very least, send him a facebook message to get the ball rolling if you aren't comfortable with speaking to him in person.

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Xui answered Wednesday August 1 2012, 2:48 am:
You can't love someone if you don't know them personally. Going by facebook post does not define who he is. It's just a comment and just a status which anyone can pretty much say anything on there anyway.

If you want to know so badly what he is like then you should try talking to him. I'll be upfront here but yes, I do think it's sort of weird that you are peeking in on his facebook. Try adding him instead? You can break the ice by messaging him and saying hi but you will never know unless you try. You both already have soccer in common so it's not like you both don't have ANYTHING to talk about.

I think maybe you are crushing on the kid but I definitely wouldn't call it love because you don't even know him. Someone can be attractive and have a sucky personality. Talk to him

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