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I am a mom of two. I don't go out partying if I go out with just adults I dont go to a bar. My boyfriend works late he gets off around 10 we dont live together he has health issues and some stress do to the health issues. In the month he's gone to the bar 4 times twice this week. He called last night and asked if I cares and I thought it didnt bother me. I trust him we talk on the phone hours every days. I guess i just hate the fact him being at the bar till closed he was celebrating a co workers promotion. Do i tell him how i feel or just suck it up (link)
If you're asking whether or not it's all right that he goes to bars, I think it is, especially when it involves celebrating with a friend/co-worker. That is, of course, only if drinking doesn't worsen his health issues. I see nothing wrong with it and it speaks nothing of his ability to be responsible.

On the other hand, I still think you should tell him. Your feelings are valid and you shouldn't be ashamed of them. You feel what you feel for a reason. Try to be thorough and explain exactly why it bothers you. Is it because you don't want him to drink? Is it because you feel left out? Since he asked you if it was all right, it sounds like he's a reasonable person who certainly values your opinion.

So I would tell him. If you try to just suck it up, you might be able to get over something like this, but at the same time you might risk these feelings building up. Afterall, you felt strongly enough to ask on this site, so it must really be bothering you. Letting feelings like this fester is what causes people to have intense arguments that are unnecessary.


Personally knowing different people like him it is far more likely that he cannot hide his emotions, as you said, like a child. (link)
If I were to guess, I would say that he does. But that would just be a guess. I think it's definitely possible that he reacted that way because he likes you, but that isn't enough evidence to assume that he does. If you want to know for sure, I would look for other signs or just plain ask him. It seems like he likes you, but maybe he just can't hide his excitement over having a new friend's number. I don't think it's conclusive just yet.



So 2 weeks ago I started speaking to this girl on facebook and twice in person for little bit. she knows i like her and i caught her few times staring at me but recently i found out she has boyfriend because i ask her over facebook message how's her revison going for exams and what she did on weekend . . . .in reply she said she was working most of the time then was out for dinner with her bf. i told her i was gutted that she's not single. she replied back again but totally ignored the part i said i'm gutted shes not single.

so i was wondering if she wants me to stop speaking to her or just to see how i react? i mean there's no sign of her bf what so ever. no picture on facebook or anything (link)
It could be just to get a reaction, but this is unlikely. People don't always post things about their relationship on facebook. Some people don't want to and enjoy keeping private things to themselves, so this doesn't necessarily mean that her boyfriend is fictional.

People often don't talk about things when it makes them uncomfortable. She talks to you, so I wouldn't assume that she doesn't want to. It seems like she doesn't want to talk about your feelings for her specifically. You told her you liked her in more than one way, so I think you've done all you can in that department. She knows and is already in a relationship, so the ball is in her court, so to speak.

If you want to be a friend to her, then go right on ahead. If you just want a relationship, you'll have to understand that she doesn't seem to want the same thing.


In the beginning of this college semester, I became friends with a handicapped student. He is very sweet and I am glad we became friends; we get along very well. But my question is that I gave him my cell phone number recently and he seemed quite interested and proud that I gave it to him. I gave my number to another male friend that I had met, but he didn't have the same reaction. Does this mean anything? (link)
This could be a sign that he likes you, but this isn't at all conclusive. You mention that he's handicapped and I'm assuming mentally so. People who have a limited mental capacity can become excited over simple things, much like a child. Maybe he doesn't get phone numbers very often. It could just be a matter of this, so I wouldn't arrive at any conclusions about his feelings just yet.


Hello! I'm 16/female, just in case you needed that piece of information in order to answer.
Ok, so I've been realizing more and more that the people around me are getting depressed and thinking about killing themselves lately, and its making me really curious. Of course there are the common reasons, stress, depression, and schizophrenia, but what are all of the reasons why people commit suicide? Or self harm? I just want to know if I'm missing something here...

Don't worry, I'm not one of those dumbasses. I'm an extremely happy and grateful person. I'm just completely confused...

I appreciate all answers that come my way in advance, and have a wonderful day everyone :) (link)
They aren't dumbasses. People go through different problems and, occasionally, those problems effect them too heavily and they feel they've nothing to live for. You and I will never understand how that feels because we don't experience what they experience. Sometimes life is just too tragic for some people.

If you put much thought beyond our comfortable surroundings, the world is a tragedy. There's so much rape, disease, and poverty all over the world that we don't consider daily. And why should we, right? Thinking about how a good chunk of the world is living in a nightmare doesn't solve anything. Some people don't have a choice but to think about it. Some people naturally feel hurt by other people's pain to such a degree that the state of the world depresses them so much that they don't want to be apart of it.

And sometimes people are just depressed without reason. It has nothing to do with their circumstances or the condition anyone else lives in. They just wake up not wanting to be awake. It's a chemical imbalance and these people often require medication to stop the pain that they feel.

These are the three circumstances that I see often. Add to that, your young age and how emotional younger people tend to be and that could explain why this seems more prevalent to you.


there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged, My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her


now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Is this creepy? (link)
It's normal, but I wouldn't do this too often and if she's at all bothered by it, you need to stop.

Understand a few things:

1. Out of respectful for her feelings and the fact that she's in a relationship, you can't expect anything to come of it. I'm not saying you are and it's ok to find her and talk to her as long as she isn't bothered, but don't expect anything more.

2. You need to move forward. Other people have already covered this and they're right. Seeing her and talking to her feels nice, I'm sure, but it's not helping you in the long run. It makes her more difficult to get over.


I lied to a guy telling him I was 18 but I'm 17. I didn't think it would get to real, but now it has! Should I tell him my real age and risk the relationship, or just let it be I'll be turning 18 in May 2014. (link)
Telling him would be the considerate thing to do. If the relationship has any longevity, he's bound to find out anyway. It'll be far better that he find out now as opposed to later. It's a bad idea to let things like this fester.


Turning into an anal size queen. I go slow and use plenty lube. Is there long term risk of incontinence or other damage? (link)
There are the obvious issues, like being more susceptible to certain STD's, but I'm sure you're aware. You also run the risk of things like hemorrhoids and anal fissures, but these are largely the result of poor lubrication. UTI's can occur for you and your partner, but aren't all that common. Incontinence is indeed possible in the long run, like any of these other issues are possible, but not likely. Since you go slow and use plenty of lube, you should be fine.

Many people have anal sex almost exclusively for years or even decades without problems. Continue using plenty of lube and make sure it isn't painful and you should be fine.


I am friends with this guy for whom we have some recent history.
We were never official, but at one point, we became the center of each other's universe. We've begun to drift apart because he's "starting" to see someone else. Well, I guess he started to really date someone.

I was always the best friend that he had, and at most we were always there for each other.

I guess, what I wanted to say is, I really miss him. I also miss the way we were before. But I don't want to interfere with his relationship, and I don't want to lose him as my friend.

Right now, I am keeping myself at a safe distance with him. As much as I can, I am trying, to fight the struggle within me, to reach out to him, and demand.. no, BEG for his attention.

I know I really sound pathetic, but it's really hard for me. All the changes. And even the realization that he's seeing someone else.

I like him, and I guess I lost the chance already. I wanted to be as supportive and as a good friend as I can be. So I can't do it now and I don't know if I can do it. I can't see him just as a friend anymore. And at times that I'm seeing them, or just him, it always breaks my heart.

Cliche friend zoned. I know.
I just don't know what to do.
Please.. I don't know what to do.. (link)
It's hard to move on. I've been in similar situations where I had to accept that what I wanted wasn't there. It takes time and it's gradual, but it is indeed possible to get over someone who was the world to you.

You need closure. And I'd hate to say it, but the best way to get it is distance. And I don't mean growing distant and talking less. It could take a long period of not seeing him or talking to him at all. You require time for feelings to fade and they won't easily fade if you're constantly reminded of them.

I would talk to him about how you feel. If you decide to create even more distance and not communicate with him at all for a while, I would tell him why before you do.


20/f

I noticed that ever since I've been on birth control, my hips have gotten wider. I know because I have to go a size up in pants and I have always been slender. Recently, I started noticing that my upper body is getting bigger. I do not mean my breasts, I am not sure if my breasts are getting bigger but I have been noticing that I am starting to no longer fit in my regular size tops and I would need to go a size up.

I recently contacted my doctor and they said widening hips are not due to the birth control pills. I was thinking that maybe I was eating too much but I have always had a fast metabolism. But my doctor also said that the birth control that I am taking does not slow down my metabolism either.

I am slightly paranoid just because my coworker told me that she knew a girl that was taking birth control pills and she "blew up."

What exactly is going on with my body? (link)
I believe this to be a common misconception as a lot of women start taking the pill in their late teens/early twenties, which is when a lot of women's bodies usually undergo the stage of development where their breasts and hips grow larger.

When it comes to the pill, a few women do experience a little weight gain, but it's nothing significant and most women aren't affected. Usually, it's just water retention. This can cause a difference in one size, perhaps, but it's nothing to be alarmed about. If it's anything more, I don't think it's associated with the widening of your hips.

I think Razhie is right. It's likely a matter of your maturing body.


I am a 24 year old female and my dad died when I was 12 and I didn't really get to see him that much when he was alive because my parents got divorced when I was 3 and then when I turned the age 15 I felt like I always needed to have a man in my life constantly as soon as one relationship ended then not even a month later I was in another one and needless to say being in over 20 relationships since I was 15 got me into a bunch of trouble even though my stepdad has been in my life since I was 5 he never really played the part of a dad and now when I am 24 years I still feel that need that I always have to have a man in my life to feel complete and now my cousin is married to a man that is 38I am extremely close to not like intimate but I feel like he is more of a dad than my own stepdad and the other day I was really depressed about not having my dad around and he noticed I upset I was so he sat down beside me looked me in the eye and gave me a hug and said that he is not going to try to replace my real dad because he knows that he could never to that but if I wanted to I could consider him a dad a father figure and I could even call him dad if I wanted my cousin was in the room when all of this happened and she thanked her husband for doing that and for giving me a hug but the problem is that I don't know if it is okay for me to consider this man my dad or for him to be my father figure that I feel that I need to have in my life and to even call him my dad any opinions on this would be greatly appreciated . Thanks for any advice in advice . (link)
What I'm about to say is coming from a perspective that lacks a strong father figure. My dad was never really there and I never really had a strong, male presence.

This whole thing. I feel or hope that it is temporary. That's not to say needing a father figure is in any way a bad thing, I can understand wanting a father figure. Confiding in your cousin's husband as a father isn't wrong, support is great, but independence, where you don't need a father figure, is also a great thing. Regardless, I think using your cousin's husband to take the place of a father figure is fine.

Keep in mind that true bonds like this are indeed rare. Don't feel bad about it. Enjoy the support! And don't worry about any jealousy occurring. It won't necessarily occur and in the event where that's a situation that might happen, trust that a father figure is a very different bond from a husband. I don't think you have anything to worry about.


F/20
2013 has been a challenging year for me. It started out with my mother getting diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and lymphnode cancer. Even now she still might not make it. Each day I worry if she is okay and each treatment she has puts me in a state of fear not knowing if she can overcome the effects. Another weight is the guilt I have for getting an abortion earlier this year weighing on me. I know it was right but it still hurts. Now, Friday night my boyfriend picks me up from work and is quiet the whole way home. Doesn't say anything but rubs my leg and smiles at me sadly. We get home and he tells me my mother called and wants to speak with me. She tells me my grandfather is in kidney failure and will not make it to Thanksgiving. I finally broke and cried uncontrollably. I wanted to tell my boyfriend the pain I am feeling. I feel empty and alone. Sometimes when I can't handle it I close my eyes and pretend to disappear or don't exist. Sometimes when it is really quiet at home I lay down and close my eyes and zone out my mind until I stop thinking and feel like I am just floating Away from my worries. I feel alone like there is no one there who truly cares whether or not I am happy. My boyfriend is there for me but he isn't very emotionally connected. He will hold me while I cry but he never says much back or looks sympathetic. I try to be strong but somedays I feel like there is little keeping me here. I just don't know what to do anymore I just want to feel okay and stop feeling like I want to vanish. Is this depression? Or stress? Why do I feel so lonely? (link)
It'll take some time to feel better. I don't think you'll be able to pull yourself out of this feeling in an instant, but in time your feelings will hopefully improve. AspiMisfit has a lot of things right.

For instance, distractions. Keeping your mind occupied with things other than what's troubling you might help you cope.

Getting a conversation going with your boyfriend about your feelings might help him open up. If he doesn't say much, it could be that he simply doesn't know what to say. Like most of us, he can't feel what you're feeling and so he perhaps doesn't know how to respond to it. I'd ask him questions, reassure him that you love him, and hopefully gain some reassurance in the process.

A couple of things to keep in mind: These circumstances aren't within your ability to control. Things like giving your mother emotional support are all that can be done. Just be there for her. The pain of having an abortion can weigh heavily on people, but this is also something you can't control. I think, if you didn't think you were ready, you did the right thing. I'm glad you think so, too. In time, I think you'll feel better about it. Another thing to keep in mind is that when people are depressed, things effect them more heavily. You might feel more pain over things than usual and that's understandable and normal. The situation you are in is more stressful than what most people will probably ever go through.

Just be there for your mother and know that your boyfriend cares about you. Let people know how you feel so you aren't so alone with your thoughts. If all else fails, it might be a good idea to talk to a counselor or therapist, like AspiMisfit said, if you need help with coping with these situations.


Hello so I brok up with my bf because I thought I needed to focus on my education, I stopped liking him and now were friends but no he's dating my close friend and I dont why but I feel this were swollen feeling in my heart is this normal (link)
This is quite common and quite normal. Generally speaking, people have a fear of being replaced, left out. Just because romantic feelings aren't doesn't mean you're safe from the feeling that you're left out.

If this all happened relatively quickly, despite the fact that you broke up with him, there hasn't been much time apart, so there hasn't been enough time to gain a new perspective and closure.

It's normal and it'll take some time to get over, but I'm certain you will. I suggest trying to distract yourself with school, work, hobbies, going out with friends, whatever you feel like doing. If that doesn't work, try to make sure your feelings are known. It might help to talk to your friend about how you feel.


i've been a binge eater and bulimic for years, but i never recognized it. My best friend did and she tricked me and made me go to a shrink... it was confirmed there. After a long time, the shrink finally told me, that subconsciously i had started when i started realizing i was a lesbian. Around the time the shrink told me, i started falling in love with another best friend... a guy. Is this just a reaction where i don't accept the truth, and why am i so afraid to follow this when the guy had asked me out before? is it because i dated his sister?
i've been his best friend since i was two... i really do feel like i love him, because throughout the process finding the issues i was hiding, the best friend who found them for me left, but he stayed. i have confirmed over and over that i am a lesbian, but i feel like i only need his love to survive now.
I'm not that good girl, i have an attempted suicide on my list of things done, and am trying to play my problems down for everyone... but my friend is just confusing the process of finding myself.
Why and what is happening, and what do i do? (link)
From my perspective, I think an issue you might have is a need for an identity, like being a lesbian. In contrast to this, to my knowledge, sexuality can be very fluid. People can't necessarily control it, but that doesn't mean it doesn't change on occasion. You could be entirely attracted to women one day and find yourself attracted to a man the next. I've known people who have gone through this.

Another thing to consider is the variety of types of attraction. Are you certain you're physically attracted to this person? Or do you just emotionally identify with him? Emotional attachment can happen amongst people that are just friends as well.

If you're confident that you want to be with your best friend, I would follow through with these feelings.


I have been dating my boyfriend for about 2.5 years. Things were great when we first started dating, we were always together and enjoyed it. Lately we have been drifting apart and we hardly talk anymore,even though we live together. The less we talk the more i feel closer to my boss. At first I just enjoyed talking to my boss but lately I feel like there is something more between us. My boss constantly brings up my name during converstation with other coworkers.

I really love my boyfriend but when i try to explain how i feel that we are drifting apart he just hugs me and walks away or says "no we are not". (link)
There's a few things that come to mind.

1. Relationships are never perfect and it's normal for sparks to fade into a comfortable quietness. We have these thoughts of other people and relationships with them, but they're often superficial fantasies that involve none of the problems relationships will inevitably come with. My point is, there's always issues to work through with any relationship. If you left your boyfriend for your boss, you'd likely find all kinds of new issues with your boss. So if this is just a case of growing out of initial infatuation, I wouldn't leave your boyfriend over it.

2. On the other hand, people do change. The two of you might not be the same people you were two and a half years ago. If you really are growing incompatible, it might be time to call it quits.

3. Don't settle for "no we are not". He can speak for himself, but he cannot speak for you. He needs to understand exactly what you're feelings are when it comes to issues like this.

Do some deep thinking and find out what you really want. Then talk to your boyfriend about making that happen.


I need to know how to go about seeing a doctor. I'm 18, 19 in 3 months. I don't live with my parents and I have no income or health insurance. I need to see someone regarding my scoliosis because I have a pretty bad rib hump and I want to do something about it instead of having to hide under baggy clothes. I just don't know what to do, or where to go. I live in Medford Oregon if that helps.

Thank you for your time (link)
http://www.oregon.gov/oha/healthplan/Pages/app_benefits/main.aspx call the numbers on this site as soon as possible. You likely qualify for coverage because you're under 19.


I (24/f) have had a few serious relationships in my life, and they have been great - for the most part. I am in one right now with an amazing guy that I can see a future with. The problem is, I am always insecure, though I've hid it well with all my relationships including this one. If I don't get a text/call for hours, I get worried or suspicious. If my current bf is out and girls will be there, I get myself all worked up, feel sick to my stomach and it's all I think about. It's driving me insane, because I've never been cheated on/betrayed (to my knowledge) and have no reason not to trust my bf. I'm terrified I won't be able to hide it much longer, and it will ruin a wonderful relationship. How can I fix this? I'm exhausted from being so insecure. (link)
I don't think this is terribly uncommon. It's easy to over think situations and having it snowball into paranoia. If you've no reason to believe that anything wrong is going on, try to occupy your mind with something else. It won't be easy, but letting yourself dwell on things that aren't happening will prevent you from ever having a peace of mind.

If you can't do that, try sharing your feelings with him. Let him know that you trust him and these are just feelings that exist and you are dealing with. Maybe he'll provide you with added reassurance and that always helps.


I'm 13, and social situations are hard for me. My mom wanted me to be more involved, so I joined art club. I like drawing well enough, and I made a few friends, the majority of which are boys, all of which are a grade below me. I read often, and care little what others think of me, so when one of my friends expressed interest in me, it wasn't easy for me to ignore. I thought he might actually really like me, but he was, to say the least, very sexual. Art club is only once a week, but when he asked me out after five weeks, it was as though I couldn't say no. I almost wanted to, but I said yes. My others friends didn't like him, but I was momentarily blinded. For the last three weeks or so, he's been touching my leg, higher and higher up, and I want to tell him to quit, but it's like I'm not able to say anything. To be honest, I like it, but I also hate it. Still being honest-while I'm with him, I'd probably do whatever he wants. I may be really young, but we're all human, and a lot of the good feelings I have when he touches me are sexual. I want to tell him to stop, that I'm not his girlfriend anymore, to stop winking and saying he loves me. But speaking has never been my strong spot. I can write this and say what I want, but trying to say them, well, it never sounds right. My sister hates him, says he flirts with every girl, all the time, and I don't know if she's lying this time. The stuff he says, it's really inappropriate, and I wish I said I didn't want to go out with him. My question? I am not sure. Possibly: What's wrong with me? What should I do? What should I say? What color are bananas? Ignore that last one. (link)
What you want is very important. In fact, it's pretty much everything that matters when it comes to sexuality. If you aren't comfortable with it, you don't have to and probably shouldn't do anything.

Figure out exactly what you want to say to him and say it. It's really hard, but it's sooo much better than the alternative. If you have to, close your eyes or don't look at him when you say it. Rehearse what to say. Hell, write him a letter, email, phone call. All these things will be better for you than doing what you aren't yet comfortable doing.


I am a 48 year old single mother of 2 young adult children. I met him 5 years ago and the chemistry and connection was so intense from that moment. Here is my problem.......I am so in love with this man, but he tells me that he wants to have his own biological children. He actually broke up with me in 2009 because he felt he had to do this even though he agrees (and so does EVERYONE who knows us and sees us together) that we have this incredible bond. We eventually hooked up again, but we seem to be Best Friends with Benefits. We are amazing together on every level...emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. My kids adore him and he adores them. We are not a couple yet when we are together we do everything that couples do. He knows he can count on me for anything and visa versa. He tells me that I am amazing woman.....caring, honest, trusting, dependable, beautiful inside and out......but then WHY won't he go further with me? I know that I should ask him because I do not want to do this forever, but I am afraid that he will walk away for whatever reasons he has and then I will never see him again. So I am doing this because the alternative is worse......Losing Him. He knows that I go out and that the possibility of meeting someone is there, but yet he still makes no moves. I THINK THAT MAYBE IT IS BECAUSE HE KNOWS HE HAS MY HEART AND I WOULD NEVER WALK AWAY.He is building a house and sometimes he asks me..."So where should the his and hers closets go? Would you prefer the 2 sinks on the same counter or should we do them on separate counters? Hun, imagine being in the hot tub outside and then walking to the master bath in the jacuzzi bath?". He seems to talk about me in his short term future, but when he talks about his long term, I do not seem to be in it. He has NOT done any dating (not seriously anyway) as per his close friends. So HOW is he going to find "HER" and fall in love.....date her long enough to find out if she is HER.....marry HER and then hope that she can in fact have kids (I had infertility issues in my mid 20's)since he is now 48 and she would have to be at least in her early to mid 30's. I get asked out a lot by really nice men, but I compare the connection to him. And I won't settle. He has never been married and never had kids and his best friend is the same. His friend likes to go to vegas and they go together a lot and that bothers me. So, If I am "all that" then what is wrong? I actually told him that I would have his child via surrogate (he actually proposed that to me in October) and ever since I so-called his bluff, he has not mentioned it since although he cried when I told him I would do it for him and with him only!!!!!! I am stuck and don't know what to do. I would do anything for this man. He told me that he is afraid of losing people he loves......His dad(of a heart attack), his sister (of ALS) and then he says......"And I am afraid of losing you". That is the closest he has every come to saying that he loves me. When we make love there have been times when he gets tears in his eyes when he looks into my eyes right after. There are times we have cried together. What is he afraid of? Is it that he does not want to give up his batchelorhood.......go and come as he pleases.....not have to answer to anyone......Then why say to everyone who knows him that he wants to get married and have children? I have offered him all that. He has offered to take me to Vegas many, many times and many, many times since he has gone, but with his single friend who has a passion for strippers. He invites me to his best friends house for dinner and they have told me that he just does not allow just anyone into his life.....you have to be very special to be in it. They all adore me and think that I am the best thing that has ever happened to him. I do not want to lose him as that would be like grieving a death. When together, he is the one who reaches for my hand.....he is the one who reaches to kiss me......he is the one who holds me tight in bed as we fall asleep and kisses me gently through the night. Am I wasting my time? What is with all the confusing and mixed messages? But again, I am afraid to ask because he might feel pressure and walk away, although he once said he could not live without me in his life. People search a life time to find what we share,,,,,,,,,why would he not want to keep it forever? Why would he want another man to have all that I give to him Mind, Body and Soul??

Please help. (link)
What I'm gathering is you two are in a situation that's not satisfactory to you and he is showing no signs of developing it further. You could either wait and hope that he puts forth the effort to advance the relationship to where you want it, you can walk away (which doesn't seem to be an option), or you can bring up what you hope to get out of your relationship. The first option doesn't have a definite solution, but it's certainly the easiest. The second option is by far the most painful, but with the most certain outcome. And the third option, while scary, is the only one with complete understanding and honesty.

I would talk to him about it. Sure, you run the small risk of scaring him away, but it's the only thing you can do to fully represent yourself. And he needs to know exactly where you're coming from and where you want to go, otherwise you might be stuck wanting more indefinitely.


Hi! So I'm 13 and female. I'm in junior high and recently failing one of my grades. My school said my dad will have a meeting with 4 of my teachers (I'll be there) to see how I can get help with my grades.

Here's the problem - My dad likes to tell people how much of a horrible person I am. I used to give my dad trouble a few years ago (Telling him to shut up, etc.) and I stopped it a long time ago. But he tells people about it!

Here's an example: I went to a therapist about a disorder, and he just told her about it. And it had NOTHING to do with why I was in counseling!!

So I'm just worried that he'll tell my teachers of this. **Also, the meeting has nothing to do with behavior issues. It has to do with grades, but I'm just scared he'll say something.** (link)
The only way to change how your dad will act is to interact with him. Ask him not to bring up such things that will embarrass you.




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