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Do I tell my boyfriend his partying bothers me?
I am a mom of two. I don't go out partying if I go out with just adults I dont go to a bar. My boyfriend works late he gets off around 10 we dont live together he has health issues and some stress do to the health issues. In the month he's gone to the bar 4 times twice this week. He called last night and asked if I cares and I thought it didnt bother me. I trust him we talk on the phone hours every days. I guess i just hate the fact him being at the bar till closed he was celebrating a co workers promotion. Do i tell him how i feel or just suck it up
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If you're asking whether or not it's all right that he goes to bars, I think it is, especially when it involves celebrating with a friend/co-worker. That is, of course, only if drinking doesn't worsen his health issues. I see nothing wrong with it and it speaks nothing of his ability to be responsible.
On the other hand, I still think you should tell him. Your feelings are valid and you shouldn't be ashamed of them. You feel what you feel for a reason. Try to be thorough and explain exactly why it bothers you. Is it because you don't want him to drink? Is it because you feel left out? Since he asked you if it was all right, it sounds like he's a reasonable person who certainly values your opinion.
So I would tell him. If you try to just suck it up, you might be able to get over something like this, but at the same time you might risk these feelings building up. Afterall, you felt strongly enough to ask on this site, so it must really be bothering you. Letting feelings like this fester is what causes people to have intense arguments that are unnecessary.
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