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Still Craving Sex With Aunt!!
Some time back, i asked you guys what to do about my sick and stupid fantasy of having sex with my aunt who is 31 years old and extremely beautiful.I was then 13 years old, i am now 14 years old and i still want to have sex with my aunt. I feel so dirty because she is my blood related aunt. I am scared to confront her because i am scared of the repercussions but i can not continue like this because every time i see her, i feel like raping her . Someone please help me!!!!!!!
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Ugh.
You know, I don't even care about the incest part of this at this point. Your attitude towards women in general is far worse.
Every time you see her you feel like raping her? What the fuck is wrong with you kid? What makes you think that's an acceptable sentiment to have in your own head, much less to say to other people in public?
Do your friends think that's cool? Do you sit around like a bunch of ignorant virgins and talk about how this or that girl is someone you'd totally rape if you could? Do you think it's fun to refer to women as objects who exist only for you to admire and fuck?
I get that you're a kid and you've probably been taught this is ok, but at 14 there really is no excuse. You've existed in a world with enough counter messages for you to pick up on the fact that rape is not fucking funny, it's not a cool way of expressing your attraction to someone, that in fact it makes you creepy as all fucking hell. It makes you pathetic, childish, disturbing, and disgusting.
And I'm a guy in his late 20s, just so you know. I'm double your age, I have kids, and if the one I have on the way is a daughter I plan to teach her to look at guys like you with utter disgust, to look at you as worthless and people to be avoided.
On the incest part, grow the fuck up. Keep your desires to yourself and try to get through your head that your aunt is not some perfect sex object but a person who deserves better from you than stupid sexual desire. Masturbate more, go watch some porn, replace your aunt with some other sexual fantasy by force of will. You start thinking about your aunt, you force yourself down another desirable path of thought. Find another fantasy that appeals to you and use that to shove your aunt out of your mind. Do this for as long as it takes to grow up and not have to deal with these feelings. If it takes a damn decade, keep at it and don't whine or feel sorry for yourself when it's hard. Plenty of people have difficult challenges when it comes to sex and their own lives and this one is minor by comparison to most.
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Theres two obvious reasons why you can't act upon it, she's your relative, and you are not the age of legal consent to have sex. An adult female would be commiting rape against you according to the law even if you were willing.
So if you are asking how to handle seeing her, like for the holidays and such, all I can think of is
that if you start avoiding attending functions where she is, then eventually family will be asking for an explanation of your behavior. You may just have to tell your dad or if you don't have one, your mom as to what you are struggling with. I'll explain why in a sec.
Lets say you're now an adult.Throughout your life, even as an adult, you will come up against women where your body has a sexual attraction to them and you can not act upon it because its a teacher, a co-worker, your boss, the neighbor, etc. You are going to need to learn to exercise self control because some females are just plain going to be off limits. When you feel these feelings, do your best to continue on with normal actions and when you find yourself begin to fantasize sexually, stop yourself and change your thought line. Force yourself to visualize something about the person that would kill your sexual attraction for the female, You'll figure out what works for you. A couple suggestions is the female covered with terrible herpes sores, (it helps to look up photos on the web to see how badly this can look) or another scenerio to imagine is the clothes coming off only to see that the female is a trans-gender person who still has their penis.
Imagine your aunt has come to your house for Christmas. It's going to take some practice to get good at controlling your thoughts. In the meanwhile, if someone close like dad knows whats up, and you are failing at controlling your thoughts and need some distance, you may have to abruptly leave the group to go to your room or if at someones house, out on the porch for a while.
It may be helpful to have a family member who knows what you are working on so if everyone is worried about your behavior this person can reassure everyone its nothing bad, just something that you are working through as a teen and sometimes you're overwhelmed and need your space. And if any relatives offer to go talk to you to try to help, your dad or whoever can stop that from happening.
I know, embarrassing to enlist the help of a dad or mom but as long as they know you are trying to work on this, they will understand you needing to remove yourself from the group.
Good luck dear! And Happy Holidays
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