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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
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Lately I've been gaining a bit of weight. Im not sure why.. I just am. People in my family have commented about it, and it gets me mad, because I'm not like obese or anything.. or have fat hanging out anywhere (well i have a little bit of a pot belly, but it goes away pretty much when i hold my stomach in)and my thighs have grown a bit too. ahh! i dont want to get fat! i guess sometimes i just eat because i am bored, or i feel like i must have a full meal, like rice, fish, spinach, and a fruit, which is what i just ate for dinner. (im african btw) maybe i should get gum instead? but when i do i usually end up eating it all in a day. same with other foods.. i just finished like a pack of 20 cookies today, and in like 3 days i licked some chocolate spread... similar to nutella, so its like 90% gone. sometimes i feel like i cannot control it. its not that we have bad food at our house or go out often or anything. i just dont eat a the appropiate things, in the appropiate way, i think. how can i improve my fitness? I do basketball and some dance & volleyball (and school gym stuff) in the winter, but when im off the court, i can stil eat alot or something. ive tried running.. but now its become too cold for that and we cant have an exercise machine. in schoolnow we're doing fitness, so we're like firming our body and stuff, but not much since its only for middle school. I want to try cheerleading adn do more gymnastics in the spring (im also a dancer in a school play) and I'm not as flexible or anything as some of teh other girls.. so what are ways that like everyday or so I can do? Also any tips for my health? I mean.. dieting is stupid, but like, any helpful hints. :) thanks!
**from my title name, just guess what my play (actually a musical & a book!) is! lol
Keep all the bad foods in hard to reach places and most likely you'll not be tempted to reach for them because..well we're all lazy. Keep the fruits and veggies in an easy to reach place in the fridge and just munch on them. Keep them in your room each day..well don't let it go bad or anything. Also drink plenty of water. Each time you want to eat something, drink water and wait it out for ten FULL minutes. Most of the time, your cravings will be gone. And also turn off all the lights in the kitchen after 8pm...it'll make you not wanna get food.
Well at first my friend was asking me who i like but then i said i dont wanna tell her but im just gonna tell her bestfriend-shes my aquintance and my other friend is good friend. they are both good at keeping secrets but i didnt tell my other good friend because she used to like him so im unconfortable to tell her. But she doesnt know why i dont want to tell her. one day when i was trying to talk to my friend cause she didnt wanna talk to me cause i didnt tell her who i like and i tried to talk to her and i said"you hate me huh? you dont talk to me anymore i said it in a joking way and she was like" i dont hate you i just dont have anything to talk about" and i was like wtf and then when after lunch when i had a class with her she just said my name and said hi to me but that was it
what do you think about this situation? do you think shes mad at me for not telling who i like?
She's not mad at you but a little upset that you'd tell some other people while not telling her. She probably feels excluded and she's a good friend for not getting all mad at you for not telling her who you like. But I know how much it sucks to feel excluded like this and I think you should just tell her. She used to like him him. Key word: USED.
Just start off with a "I didn't wanna tell you who I liked before because you liked him and" you continue on.
Just tell her. It's not biggie. Ask her if she has a problem with that or if she still likes this guy at the end just to clarify things with her.
I have a friend...she's not exactly tone deaf..its just that she's not any good at singing unless she can hear someone else singing. For example..today she tried out for the talent show (i was one of the judges) and she sang My Heart Will Go On by Celine Dion..and the only time she was on pitch was when the backup people were singing with her...she sounds better when she can hear someone else doing the part as well..how on earth can i help her get past that? its VERY hard to get her to listen to me because she gets frustrated VERY easily and i cant seem to get her to understand that it takes TIME to be really good..any advice is helpful! Please and Thank You!
If you have a piano, play notes for her and have her try to sing to it in tune. If she gets it flat or sharp, just tell her and sing the note with her for 5sec then stop and have her hold this note for a while (yes, she can take breathes)
I have found myself falling for my best guy friend. I did not have these feelings a while back, but now I totally do. When I would hang around him, I'd act totally cool and casual, but now I find myself nervous. When we talked on the phone it was the worst. I'd never been so nervous! I really want to get my message out that I have feelings for him, but I don't want to straight forward tell him. I really think I have a chance, and there's even times when I feel like he has feelings for me too. How do I let him know, like how do I flirt with him? I'm SO confused!
-Fallen for her best guy friend.
Honey think of this: would you like to make your friendship awkward by expressing your feelings toward him, keep him as your friend for life, or just ruin the friendship by going out?
Guys are obtuse--most guys-- when it comes to hinting them that gils like them. For all they care you could be stripping in front of them and they still wouldn't get the clue that you like that =D
But really, if he only sees you as a really good friend (If you've stepped into the friend zone) and you hint that you like him and he finds out for sure, it's going to get really awkward. Also if you do go out with him, you're bound to break up and that would just wrekc the friendship. Just wait a while and sort out your feelings and make sure it's not your hormones that driving you to feel like you like this guy because it could be just an infatuation.
If you wanna flirt with him, give him hugs, link arms, suggest you guys go to the movies together (alone), talk on the phone to him a lot just like you're talking to your girl friends -just don't being to talk about the femal anatomy- and be yourself and confident.
Good luck
when your bestfriend does nothing but drugs, and you've known her your entire life and that comes to a big shock when you find out what she does.. how do you act? because maybe i overreacted. i have taken this seriously, and under a lot of consideration. I have done nothing but tried to help her stop, but all she does is lie and push me away. So when i try walking away she crys and says im the only true friend she has. What happens when you feel nothing but used, and you feel like there only keeping you around cause they know your the one who said they`d always be there?. And now a month later she tells me she is diagnosed with a personality disorder and boarder line bipolar. what do i do now? do i forget everything she has put me through because of this? ... im so lost, and confused, and depressed and i just need someone else to tell me im wrong, and if i am then let me know, because i have run out of things to do. the only offer i canh give to her is be her friend.. but its so hard for me too do.
"It's better to lose a friendship than the friend." This statment holds true for many people in life and you should consider it as you read on.
Drugs are addictive and hard to push aside in a snap. It may take more than friends and family and most likely she'll need treatment to become a non drug addict.
Tell her that if she doesn't straighten out her life, you'll have no choice but to report her actions to the counslor and her parents. Tell her that you're afraid to lose her. (Do some reasearch online and tell her the long term effects of drugs and the mortality rate from drug abuse) Tell her that and that if she gets mad at you, you 'd rather have her mad at you than lose her forever. Tell her that you'd risk the friendship for her life.
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I just realized, I have no clue how to study. I'm pretty much an all A student and I've never studied much. But now, test and exams are getting harder and I need to know how to study for high school. Exams are in three weeks and I have no idea how to best study for them! Any tips?
I'm a visual/audio learner if that helps. :/
Okay, so make flashcards for everything possible. Read what you're writing out loud. Re-read books or chapters that you have to and FOCUS. Take old quizzes to study for tests and quiz yourself with it. Also read the notes out loud. For exams, test yourself with tests and studyguides and answering them all on a seperate sheet of paper with the answers covered up.
Remember no distractions and focus on what you're doing. Don't got from the legislative branch to donuts...haha and take 5min breaks every 20min becasue you need to give your brain some rest. Your brain can only store up to 20min of what you've studied at a time.
guys wat do you like in a girl? like wat attracts you to a girl?
thx
I know, I know. I'm not a guy but let's not point out the obvious, okay? Haha from the many guy friends that I have..since I'm more of a tomboy than a girly girl..I pretty much know what the guys that I know prefer. But it varies a lot from guy to guy.
Some guys prefer the dumb blonde, clueless kind of girls while others prefer smart and intellectual girls. She like athletic and some don't. Some like girls they can "dominate" and some that wants just an equal relationship. Some like girls that are hot, cute, or slutty. Some hate it when a girl has low self confidence.
I know that...all of us being teenagers, they like a girl that is in shape, pretty, in the "in crowd", somewhat smart..not too smart but not stupid, nice and fun and that's about it.
But don't change yourself for a guy because then, the guy that likes you will like you for a fake.
hello, my name is Jackie. I am 14 years old. (haha I'll be 15 on the second) Well this kid Jordan, he's my friend but I like him as more than that. I thought he might feel the same way, or something more than a friendly thing for me. He would do things like, link arms when we walked, lie on my bed with me, lightly bump into me and stuff. He was advising me to go back out with my ex. (who he is friends with) and then it came out that he knows that I like him. Yet, he continued to advice me to go back out with the ex. This upset me, because I assumed that he doesn't like me. The next day he says to me in this kind of shy way "you make me smile" and now I'm extra confused. Do you HONOSTLY think that he likes me. (and again, please be honost, dont worry I'll rate well even if you say he doesn't like me)
thanks
*jackie*
Well, every guy is different just like every girl is different. These acts of his might be just his nature or he just sees you as a really good friend. But it can also mean that he really likes you. Not many guys who are straight likes to lie in bed with girls or link arms...he's straight, right? Haha. I think that he does like you.
The only way to find out for sure is for you to ask him yourself. Not through anyone else because he might be too shy to say yes to your friend or something.
The next time he suggests you go back with your ex, in a joking way say "What about you?" or something like that hinting him to ask you out although many guys that I know are seriously obtuse to any hints. Haha but good luck
There's this boy in my P.E. class(I'm in the 7th grade, and I just turned 13 last month), and he's constantly annoying me. At first, he just snuck up on me from behind and poked me on either side of my rib cage. Later that day he poked me once more and tried to two more times, but I dodged him. He kept calling out my name randomly in wierd voices, and I just gave him wierd looks.
Then, when out class was in the gym the next day, he kept on calling "lauren sucks!" during class. I just ignored him.
The the next day, he's friends with my best friend, Jenna. At break I'm hanging out with her and my other friend, karly, and he's standing with his friends near by. He turns around and says hi to Karly and Jenna, the turns to me, points, and says, "Look it's Lauren!"
I just raise my eye brows and he turns to his and nudges him, saying, "Hey! Look it's lauren!" I roll my eyes and say sarcastically, "No really? Where?"
Later that day, at P.E. (which is our last class) he poked me once more, and tried to throw pebbles at me. At first I didn't know he was aiming at me, but once he said 'ah, I missed!' I knew he was aiming at me. I turned at looked at him, and he threw another pebble then asked, "Did it hit you?" and I said no. He threw a couple more and none of them hit me.
When I was walking back to the number I'm supposed to stand on, he passes me and tries to steal my headband. I smiled and say playfully, "Oh! You like that ninja reflexes!" he shakes his head and says, "Ninja? Please..." He smiles and walks away.
Jenna says he likes me. But does he like me or is he just being immature. Another thing, I noticed he started to notice me when I go my new hair cut and started straightening my hair everyday.
Well, guys are all different just like us. It could be in hisnature to act this way, he's just immature or he likes you.
I know that I have a friend that constantly pokes me, picks me up, calls out my name randomly, touches my arm but he does NOT like me. He's just normally like that.
So there is only one way to know for sure is to ask him YOURSELF. which is easier said than done. HAving a friend ask can be inccorrect because he might not want to reveal to someone else that he does like you.
So well this is 7th grade, there is a big possiblity of him being just immature.
I liked this guy for about 2 years and it was very dramaful and very hearbreaking at times because he didnt have any intrest in me he used the dreaded mixed signals. I am starting to get over him and i am in what i call the "bitter" stage, where im just kind of bitter at him. But i can not act like im mad because this would be sensless and stupid. The problem is that he just started dating one of my really good friends. They have liked eachother for about 2 years and she knew that i liked him but ive assured her and everyone else i dont anymore so we dont talk about it at all anymore. even though there realationship shouldnt bother me it does. alot i guess and im just more bitter to him, but rather then being hostile toward im i just dont talk to him that much anymore. but he can def tell that i am and he is stating to do that terrible thing he does were when he sees im paying no attention he flirts and flirts, but i am holding back and doing fine. wat should i do about my bitterness? how do i let it go cause i feel like ive been here
Okay, you guys are ex's for a reason and if you want to go through that again, feel free to go back to him and flirt but he's taken.
There is no reason for you to resent him. Think of this as his gift for a better and less stressful life. And don't linger on him. Go out there and have fun with friends and meet new guys =]
ok so me and my bf have been together only for a little over 2 months (this is my first serious relationship). we go to the same school and everything and so we see eachother all the time and he's usually over at my house or i'm at his everynight. well at the beginning of the relationship, the subject of "love" was brought up (we had only been together for 2 weeks at the time) and we both agreed that we didn't want to say it until we knew for sure that it was real and to not say something we didn't mean because love is a very strong word that too many people are just throwing around. but i really do believe more than ever i am in love with him...and i want so badly to tell him...but i'm scared that if i do, he'll still not be ready for that and won't answer me which would be just horrible. and then even worse, i'm afraid i'd say it, but then get a feeling like i didn't mean it (i doubt that'd happen, but hey, it could). i get the vibe that he wants to say it too because after he kisses me and just looks at me, our eyes do all the talking and we both stumble for words...but when will i know that the time is right? i'm not so much scared to say it as i am waiting for his response...what should i do?
i'm 17 and he's almost 18
Woah slow down my dear. Love IS a strong word and peole are flaunting it around everyday even to their friends. He seems like a nice guy and you probably don't want to scare him off by saying "I love you" within 2months of the relationship. That's a little too early and there's still a lot of time in which you can decide whether you really love him or if it's just you being naive to say it.
Don't rush it and you have plenty of time to figure this out so don't make rash decisions, okay?
good luck
okay well one of my closest friends told me that she heard i was talking about her. And i know i wasnt saying what i was being accused of and that made me mad.. well i dont know what to do because there is really no way to show her that im not lieing.. if you have a way please tell me. i need all the help i can get.
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because asking questions through comments are hard to answer and for the questioner to read.
Tell her that when people are angry they say hurtful things that they don't mean and that's just what happened last year. Tell her that what you said about her was over a year ago and that she's the closest friend that you've ever had and you don't want to lose the friendship over some stupid rumor.
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Ask her where she got the information from and where she can base these "statements" off of. If she won't trust a close friend and get swept away a rumor, than she's not much of a friend. Tell her that she can't be accusing you of stuff that you didn't do especially if she has no solid foundation to base it off of.
I'm going to a lingerie party this weekend with my boyfriend and it Christmas themed. I'm wearing this with a santa hat -- http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=Holiday2002&category%5Fname=Corsets-Lingerie&product%5Fid=50640
So I have the outfit down but I need opinions on the shoes. I was either going to wear white heels or red heels. The red would match the santa hat and the white would match everything but i dont want to go overboard with the white. Youcould also say that if I wear the red ones, i wouldnt have enough red on to match well but i'd wear red earrings and a red necklace. What do yall think?
What about a greyish silvery strap heels? and wear silverish looking accessories or just go with the red. white heels...no
I need help. I do not know what to do and no matter what choise i make i will end up hurting someone. So heres the story of my life...
I Love this kid named Mark* and well he broke up with me planning on getting back together with me, and after 3 weeks this kid named Brad* asked me out and I said yes, dont get me wrong i do like him. But when it comes down to it, Mark is the one i want to be with. Mark and Brad are totally two different people. Mark is kind of bad ass... different, stubborn at times, knows what he wants and doesnt let people stomp all over him. And Brad well, hes sweet, caring, romantic, yeah sounds like the ideal guy right? BUT my heart keeps going mack to Mark and i like the bad ass kind of guy, and also mark has lied to me in the past and hurt me, but i just cant seem to let go of him... and i feel like if i leave brad i will be alone because i dont know if mark still likes me and even if he does i dont know if things could ever be the same again, and if i stay with Brad i feel like i am gonna hurt him for me being with him and wanting to be with mark... ahh i dont know im confused, I like brad i do... but i like mark more... but i guss i am trying to convinse myself that if i stay with brad my feeling for him will grow..... i dont know what to do.. any advise?
You've given Mark a chance and he blew it by lying to you then breaking up with you. He's going to be bad new in the long run and you probably don't want to get to personal with him. Brad on the othe hand seems sweet and nice. Give him the chance that you gave Mark and who knows, you may just find out that Brad is better than Mark
I had this friend who was my best friend who started hanging out with other people and dumped me and said she doesnt want to be my friend anymore. It hurt inside but i got over it. Now i miss her and want her back what should i do?
You have to understand that friends grow apart and that it's hard to find that one perfect friend that will last with you trhoughout your life.
You have to accept that she chose who she wanted to hang out with this year and that her interests may have changed.
I think you should just keep a slight friendship with her. You know, just say hi and stuff like that in the hallways, talk to her on IM. But don't force her to become your friend, get clingy or whiney or something like that. She's moved on and oyu can't linger in the past so go out, make friends and have fun =]
Im trying to be somewhat creative for my bf for this christmas (we've been together for well over a yr & a half by this point) so what i do give him i know he'll appreciate!
I've sewed him fleece PJ's, bought him cute boxers, and now i want to make him a CD with love songs that remind me of him
1) Anyone got any tips on songs?
2) Any other creative idea's (details wanted if possible)
Age would've helped but oh well XD
For love songs:
1. Songs from Moulin Rouge are FANTABULOUS
2. Haha I cheated. I don't know many love songs but here's a site:
http://www.wanderlist.com/modernlovesongs
type in modern love songs in google and it should give you sites
As for the gift...
If he's willing to do this on Christmas (if not, on Christmas Eve or after Christmas) rent a movie that you guys first saw together or recreate your first date or the first spot where you guys kissed together.
Also if he is into certain things, buy him gift cards like if he's into sports, buy him a gift card from Dick's and if he's into video games or electronic stuff, buy him a gift card from Circuit City and so on. Orrr just buy him something that he's been dying to get you.
You can also find a picture of you two together and put it in a picture frame that you made yourself...nothing cheesy just pretty and simple and give it to him along with the gift you already got him.
like, we were best friends, and after he asked me out he was so perfect, then he got grounded and got his phone taken away, ((for a REALLY long time)) and then i found out that he made out with 2 other girls, and then he still told me he loved me, though. and idk if he did really make out with them or not. Then one day in March Jordan told me Greg was cheating again with some fat chick,
and Greg came over to assure me that he wasn't cheating.
and then we went to this youth group and had oral in the car afterward, then my parents pissed me off and i tried to kill myself and wound up in the hospital,
and i guess he got a new gf when i was there,
and i didn't know about it, until my friend told me that he had a new gf, then i started going out with his neighbor,
but i just didnt feel the same way about jordan that i had felt about greg, and i kept having flashbacks and crying myself to sleep and i still do, and then my friend went to yell at greg,
and greg said that his parents made him break up with me but he didnt want to,
which i actually believe because i dont think his parents liked me too much, and then i fell back in love again,
and we started talking as friends again, then one day him and jordan called me and said that greg had a gf, but he told my other friend that he didnt have a gf,
and then one day he told me i was annoying and to leave him alone for awhile, and then he told one of my friends that he didnt want to be my friend because i cut, even though he does too,
and i just think he hates me because i give bad head, and then he told her that he wanted to get back with an ex, but he doesnt know that she knows me, and then he described 3 of his exes,
including me, then he imed me out of nowhere being all niice, and me and my friends would invite him in chats, and then the one day he told me to look at his myspace, so i did, and right there was a pic of some chick,
and under it it said this is my date for homecomming this weekend.
*sigh* and then he told my friend that he likes me, but his aprents won't let him go out with me. and then the other day he imed me, and i told him to call me sometme,
and he's like "yea like never" and i told him i hate him, and i put up an away message that said crying, and then he called me, and then he called me again, and said he was going to cedar point tomarrow and im like 'i should go' and hes like 'ur not going. it doesnt work that way' and then he said he was over his texting,
and if I texted him hed beat my ass because he knows where I live, and then hes like 'you would like that, though' and im just like 'stupid computer' and hes like 'yea you change the subject' and it sounded like he said 'fuck you' but i dont know if he did or not, and he hung up. and my friend asked him why he hung up, and hes like 'i kinda had to'
And then my friend was talking to him because she was gonna lead him on and break him down,
and he didn't know that she knew me, so she invited him into a chat room, and then invited me,
and I'm like "Greg why did you invite me?" and he's like "I didn't" And then he told her that he likes me, too.
But he's still kinda mean to me sometimes, and he hasn't told me himself that he likes me. But I guess we're friends, unless he's playing me, but all he ever talks about is cars.
He went out with my friend Kimmy, too, and she said that he tried to rape her on a golf course.
I have to act like I hate him when I'm around her.
Okay, this guy is a total a**. I think that your friend's news is more reliable than this guys considering that he's a hypocritical lying rude bastard.
Tell him to make up his mind among the many rude things he said and the few nice things he said. Tell him to tell you what his tru thoughts about you are and to tell you the frank answer even if it's brutal.
But most of all, I think you should just ignore him. He's constantly being bipolar, lying and cheat[ed] on you, being extremely rude to you and your friends. He has his own issues and until he can get them sorted out, you should let him hang solo
My friend is such a copy cat. she won't stop copying me! lik eyesterday i changed my myspace to a christmas theme and she did do and got like the same layout as me but mine had strips and hers didn't. then, me and this guy(mike) have been talking for awhile and she is purposly trying to lead him on and now shes ahead of me on his top eight and she thinks its all cool to lead him on. he is kind of a pervert so if he says something gross to me i say ew or that won't happen but she will go along with the pervish stuff. what should i do about her copying and her stealing everything i have? (she has stolen more then just a guy or attempted to) should i talk to the guy about her and shoul di talk to her? or just stay out of it?
Well, it is coming towards Christmas and who knows, she just happens to like that layout and thought of getting it first but never got around to it or something. And the Mike guy thing, if she likes him, let her like him but really...why would anyone like a perverted guy? What's so wrong about talking to the same people.
Just lay cool for a while and just change your layout and Mike isn't the only guy in the world. Better yet, mke your own layout...she's bound to not be able to steal that. As for the guy, talk to Mike and if she brags about being on his top 8--in spots before you, just say cool? or something like that as if you weren't that interested.
Just ignore her little acts of wanting to be like you and just lead a normal life. If she really really starts to get on your nerves--like start to wear the same clothing or whatever, tell her that you need your own individuality without sharing it with someone else. Tell her that you love her but not enough to let her do everything you do.
Ok, sorry if this is kind of long! I really appreciate any of you who will take the time to answer this, because i am really in a crisis.
Okay, well I have a boyfriend, he is a grade younger than me. But he is one of the best boyfriends i've ever had. He gives me hugs all the time, and he moves at my pace. And i am totally 100% positive that he likes me a lot. Theres no problem there whatsoever.
But the thing is, i am starting to miss my old boyfriend, who is my age.. that i have known for a longer time. I was going out with him about a year and a half ago. I still liked him when we broke up, but the reason we broke up was because my stupid friend (who i am not friends with anymore) told him that i wanted to break up. But i never told her that i wanted to break up with him, and i gave her no permission to break up with him for me. I later found out that the reason that she did this was because she liked him, and she was jealous, so she wanted to end our relationship. I bet you're asking why i didn't just go straighten things up with him back then. But the truth is, i was sorta shy until about a year ago. And we were both heartbroken when we broke up. He really cared about me and i really cared about him. My other friend recently told me that she would always ask him if he still liked me and he would say that he did. He always seemed really sad around me after that. It seemed like he really missed me, and i missed him too. I have wanted him back for so long now. But im not quite sure if he would still want me back. It seems like he still kind of likes me, but the only problem is that now, he also has a girlfriend. I don't want to interfere with him and his girlfriend at all, because i dont want any feelings to get hurt. But i think i am hurting myself inside just thinking about this. i really miss him, A LOT!
So yea, i have liked him this whole time pretty much, but now i am starting to like him even more. But i still love my boyfriend so much. like i would be sooo extremely sad if we broke up. But i guess i am at the point where, if the chance came, i would consider dumping him for the other guy. But i like them both so much. I am not sure how he feels about the girlfriend he has, but he probably likes her now. It really does seem like he likes me too though, and please don't say that either one is a bad boyfriend, because they both would never cheat on their girlfriends or intentionally do anything to hurt them. They are both such special people to me. I also talk to them all the time. I feel like a bad girlfriend to be acting like this. What should i do?!?! HELP pleeease!
We're all human and we have our flaws so don't feel bad. I say weigh the pros and cons for each of them.
Well, since you've already gone out with your ex, why don't you gve your current boyfriend a chance a little bit longer? If you're still having doubts, ask him if it's okay if you guys took a little break from each other (only if your ex is single)
I don't know. If you relaly feel guilty, just tell your current boyfriend that you think you're starting to like your ex again and you don't know what you're feeling and that both of them are equally important to you.
yeah i know i did the sn thing but he doesn't know it's me...now he is al sayin that he likes me looks like i've created another problem for myself...HELP
Wait, sorry but what question is this connected to? Sorry, I've answered one too many for my own good and now I'm getting them jumbled up and I don't want to give you an answer that makes no sense. Haha. Send me a brief summary of what questions you've asked earlier. Thanks =]