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how to say it...and if i should
ok so me and my bf have been together only for a little over 2 months (this is my first serious relationship). we go to the same school and everything and so we see eachother all the time and he's usually over at my house or i'm at his everynight. well at the beginning of the relationship, the subject of "love" was brought up (we had only been together for 2 weeks at the time) and we both agreed that we didn't want to say it until we knew for sure that it was real and to not say something we didn't mean because love is a very strong word that too many people are just throwing around. but i really do believe more than ever i am in love with him...and i want so badly to tell him...but i'm scared that if i do, he'll still not be ready for that and won't answer me which would be just horrible. and then even worse, i'm afraid i'd say it, but then get a feeling like i didn't mean it (i doubt that'd happen, but hey, it could). i get the vibe that he wants to say it too because after he kisses me and just looks at me, our eyes do all the talking and we both stumble for words...but when will i know that the time is right? i'm not so much scared to say it as i am waiting for his response...what should i do?
i'm 17 and he's almost 18
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You know what, I'm in almost the same situation. I've always believed that the Lbomb shouldn't be dropped until at least six months into a relationship, but my boyfriend dropped it about a month and a half into ours.
The thing is, we've been talking about getting married after we're both done university, and seriously discussing our future.
Remember that when you love someone, it means that you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Don't rush it, wait for him. That way you won't scare him off. You can love someone without saying it!
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It took me about 3 hours of very strong convincing by my boyfriend to realize that love is not a strong word. It is a strong feeling. People take it way out of context and put way too much meaning onto it. Don't look to the media to tell you what love is or when is the right time to say it. Look inside yourself. You are in love. You're 17 years old. I'm sure you have a good understanding of what love is and what it means. If you love someone tell them! It's not permanant. It's just an emotion. Like happiness or frustration. If you're frustrated and you feel like telling someone about it, you don't stop yourself from doing so just because you might not be frustrated later in the day. The same thing with love. It can always change. By telling each other that you love each other you're not committing yourselves for the rest of your lives. You're just expressing your feelings. It will bring you closer together and you won't be living a lie in your relationship. Having to hold them in like you are isn't good. Don't be afraid of something as beautiful as love. Being afraid of it could tear you two apart. Be honest and real with him. You might be surprised what you'll get back in return. Whether he agrees with you or not, he will feel absolutely wonderful knowing that you love him and there's nothing wrong with that. If he thinks you are moving too fast, tell him that it's not like you can slow down your feelings. They are just feelings and they can't be controlled. Only actions can be controlled. Just as long as you don't do anything different because of your feelings you relationship is still moving at the exact same pace. Nothing has really changed. It was very hard for me to say "I love you" for the first time to my boyfriend, but after I did, it felt so good. I had been causing myself so much stress over something that wasn't a big deal at all. It will be scary for you, but think of how you'll feel afterwards. No matter how he reacts, you'll feel so much relief and you can definitely convince him that there's nothing wrong with it. Good luck. :)
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Woah slow down my dear. Love IS a strong word and peole are flaunting it around everyday even to their friends. He seems like a nice guy and you probably don't want to scare him off by saying "I love you" within 2months of the relationship. That's a little too early and there's still a lot of time in which you can decide whether you really love him or if it's just you being naive to say it.
Don't rush it and you have plenty of time to figure this out so don't make rash decisions, okay?
good luck
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