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ok i was thinking of getting a ipod shuffle about how much songs does it hold how much does it cost and is it worth the money.
thanks (link)
I have the shuffle.
i dont like it at all i havnt even added over 50 songs on it.

then i have the nano and mini... dont get the mini because it has many problems.

the nano is really good (im listening to it now) but the sound isnt as good.

then my sister has the video - its really bad bc you look at a 3 inch screeen, then you go to the movie thearter and get blind from the like color. that the ipod doesnt have and it like does something it was on the news.

and my friend has the regular ipod- if you like alot of music get that.



the nanos better (=

good luck


hey 15/f
well im having a party tommorrow(not really just a few of my closest friends over- all girls) and i want to know if you guys have any ideas of what to do? we're real girly and besides truth or dare i wanted to know if any of you girls have anything you do with yoour friends when you hang out at your house? im basically looking for different things and as many as you can come up with? we're pretty much rated pg if you know what i mean?ill rate 5s for good stuff (link)
Humm... this one is hard.

- go outside
- truth or dare
- prank phone calls
- makeovers
- tell me about yourself hour
- listen to music & dance
- make a play HA
- turn off all of your lights in ur house (if its at night) and hide and play monster and hide in like closets and creep up on them and scare them its GREATT
- talk about guys ( ;
- go for a walk
- be hyper
- go on a trampoline if you have one
- play dress up
- hair-overs
- eat
- watch TV & movies

thats what i would do.

have fun at your party!


I have 2 friends, Bailey and Lauren. Bailey is my best friend, and we literally do (or did) EVERYTHING together. We hung out so much that people began thinking we were sisters. If one of us is going somewhere, the other one is bound to follow. It was just a really strong relationship.

Then she started hanging out with Lauren. Lauren and me aren't really very close at all, in fact, the only reason we're friends is through Bailey. Deep inside I kind of dislike her, for personal reasons, mainly her attitude. But I get along with her for the sake of Bailey.

Anyways, Bailey and Lauren started hanging out a lot. And Bailey kind of forgot about me. Like, they would go over each other's houses everyday and not even invite me. Sometimes, when Bailey and I had plans, Lauren would whine and complain about us not inviting her and end up inviting herself over, yet, when they have plans, Lauren never mentions a word to me. Bailey's attitude sorta shifted to being like Lauren's, and it made me feel like I was losing a friend.

It really hurts going on the bus, too. Odd, isn't it? It's because ever since the beginning of the year, Bailey and I have ALWAYS sat together on the bus. We'd save it for each other and sit together. Just the other day, Bailey sat with me for about 2 minutes until Lauren was like, "SIT BY ME!!" So she just got up, while I was talking to her, and sat down with Lauren, and then they both started laughing.

Now, I don't know how strong their relationship is, but I know Lauren considers Bailey her best friend. And it makes me kind envious, you know? Bailey still calls me her best friend, but I always wonder if she's lying, just not to hurt my feelings. Because she's done that before, with another girl.

My mom and my friend said to just ignore her and she'll get annoyed with Lauren after a little bit (because she is already starting too) and come back to me. But I'm hesistant if that will work.

Usually I'm really very honest with Bailey. But how can I find the words to tell her how I feel? She'll just deny everything and laugh and ask me if I'm kidding, and say I'm her best friend of course. But I want a sincere and honest truth. Because I know our friendship is falling apart. (link)
Thats so sad! aww!! its okay

i would ignore her and do the same thing back to her. and she will feel your feelings. like make friends with someone on your bus (if possibal) and like if she site by you be like OH "your new friends name" ill sit with you!!! while basily is talking to you,

she will get jellous, like you are. even though you think you hate lauren, you dont! you are jellous!!

So make a few new friends instead of tlaking to basily. dont talk to her at all. id do that. i have and the person came crawling back to me. it wored well.


I think I have a yeast infection. Its itchy down there a lot. My discharge is a normal color though. Do I need to get this checked out by a doctor? And how do I tell my mom? I'm 13. Do I just buy something like Monistat? And what if I use medication and I don't have a yeast infection?
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Yes, you need see a docter. It may be a Yeast infection.
Just tell you mom, whats going on. she may know more then me.


Can you fall out of love?

I mean ive been w/ my bf for a while now and its great! this last month however is kinda shaky. I feel myself NOT wanting to hang out w/ him. But i miss him.

Am i falling out of love or whats wrong?
how can i fix it? (link)
Will you could be.
I mean, You still care about him beacause you said you miss him.
Maybe its time you guys became closer?
Or try to a take a short break?
I mean you need to..
"Fallow your heart"


okay well for a snack everyday during one of my classes i eat fruit snacks because they are small, clean and dont leave my hands sticky at all. well i know that they arent that good for you and my doctor doesnt want me eating them anymore and i was looking for an alternative. any ideas

it has to be

~ crumb free
~ not stick
~ fit in my purse
~ not too expensive
~ somewhat filling (more than fruit snacks)
~ wont crumble in my purse
~ wont make my hands sticky
~ can't need refrigeration
~cant use a spoon or fork
~ cant be destracting or take a long time to eat
~ etc




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Why dont you try chewing gum? like a spearmint or something has ALOT of flavor and your stomach produces this like stuff that makes it take like food (dont swallow the gum tho)

maybe some peanuts or a chocolate bar.. hershys chocolate! mmmm yumm!


--- Edit ---

humm... why dont you try died fruit and put it in a little baggy? thats good for you.

or maybe a slice of moist bread.. not moist as in wet... but like it feels moist so it wont like get a crumby and crumble.

humm... whatelse?

oh right and my gum theory, sugar free gum, sugar free candy.

oOoOor...

little teddygrams in a baggy :) theyre bitesized and cheap- well in NY they are.

well good luck


Well, a girl in my school Sara's sister died last summer in a swimming pool accident ( the girl who dieds name was elizabeth but everyone called her boo), Sara and I never had any hard feelings against each other, Elizabeths best friend Sam, and I were becoming really good friends before it happend, and we were supposed to go to Elizabeths house, or Sams house and hang out 4 days after we all talked on the phone, but Elizabeth so happend to die only 2 days later. At that point in time, Sam and I never talked ever again.. Even thou I still would've loved to be friends with her. And then one day, on Sams Xanga, she wrote a huge entry about Elizabeth, and i posted a comment saying "I know how you feel, I lost my best friend too.. Its hard, but you learn to deal. But no matter what, you'll always miss her, all of us will RIP Boo 9.27.92 to 8.10.04" and sam got all defensive saying I had no idea how it felt, and I got very upset, and this all led to a huge fight, Sara and I got into a huge fight, which basicly ended with her saying that Boo hated me. Which I know wasnt true, but I feel horrible for some of the things I said to sara, and no matter how hard I try to appologize, its never enough, I dont know what to say for her to not hate me anymore, and it kills me. I dont want her to hate me.. I honestly have nothing against her, And I loved Boo, even if me and her werent 'best friends' ... Is there anything I can say to get sara to not hate me as much anymore? (link)
YAY YOU ARE MY FIRST ANSWER (that i answer) (=

Well one of my friends got mad, never believe someone who hates you never listen to them all they want to do is hurt you. i wrote a HUGE note and stuffed it in her locker / binder (or mail it to her) and be like:

Well first of all, i miss you, you were one of my best friends. I understand you are in the middle of this situation, im not making your life any worse. i want to help you. Even if you say 'Boo' hated me, i still love her to death & miss her.

Even if we are not friends at the moment - i still love you. but if you are going to 'dump' me from your mood swings, i dont think i want to go on with that kind of pressure on me.

Well thats all, good luck - love ya ('your name')

Thats all you say (= its that easy.

♥ oox




I'm turning 14 and for my birthday I'm having a dance. I've been going out with guy for a while now but we don't go to the same school so we haven't had any dances together. What are some good love songs that would be good for a first dance. I need as many as you can give me. This would mean a lot to me. This dance is really important. Thank you so much! I'LL RATE YOU!!!♥ (link)
You and Me - Life House
You're Still the One - Shania Twain
Amazed - Lonestar
It's Your Love - Faith Hill and Tim McGraw
Swing Life Away - Rise Against
Drops of Jupiter - Train
I Will Follow You Into the Dark - Death Cab for Cutie
Don't Wanna Miss a Thing - Aerosmith
Lack of Colour - Death Cab for Cutie
The Best Deceptions - Dashboard Confessional

I hope I helped:) have fun.


ok.. so I have known this guy for over a year..

i fell in love with him but we stopped talking during the summer because he moved to michigan... recently(about 6 weeks ago) he gave me a call and was so excited!!! i really do love him.. everything about him..were trying the long distance thing.. and thats been going on for 2 weeks.. but it's getting a little freaky because he is already planning our 6th month anniversery!! and he calls like 4 times a day.. im just annoyed i guess.. idk what to do!! he has even gotton a job so that he can pay for plane tickets to visit me!!
its just overwhelming.. happening so fast.. and it's hard to deal with it along with school, social, and family issues.. but he doesnt understand that.. i've tried having a mutual breakup but he is just like " no i will make it work!!" i need my space but he doesnt understand.. i just don't want to break his heart if i tell him.. && i know most advice would just be for me to talk to him about it and if he really loves me he'd understand.. but its not that easy.. this guy is difficult .. && i'm kind of avoiding him now... any suggestions on what i should do=/ thanks for your help (link)
OK. Let me review the facts;
1. He moved to Michigan 6 weeks ago
2. He calls you 4 times a day
3. He got a job to come back "home"
4. You need your space

This poor guy is VERY homesick. I read this on a kids pro after he moved recently...
"When I moved, you lost one friend. When I moved, I lost my life."
He sounds like he is not just trying to hold on to YOU. He is trying to hold on to what used to be his LIFE.

As far as you needing your space...wow...how much more space can you have when your bf isn't even around?
My advice is for you to continue being very considerate to his feelings right now. What you see as him pressuring you, is really him having a hard time adjusting to his new world. Just be patient and be there for him right now. (sounds like it's what you are already doing so keep it up) But don't look at it as a negative experience. Realize that what you are doing, is being an extrememly good friend to him right now.

Since he's not here, I don't see why you can't live a normal life here. Being "with" him doesn't mean you are "dead" socially. Go have fun. And pat yourself on the back for being such a good person. You may not realize it right now, but your kindness towards him right now will be something he remembers when he is a 40 yr old man with kids of his own. Not many people get the opportunity to make such an impact on another person's life. It's a huge compliment that he has turned to you during such a difficult time in his life.
You seem like an amazing person to me....keep it up but live your life. Love, Mrs S

PS - im me this weekend if you want to talk more about this. I'm traveling all week this week.


this is kinda gross but im 15/f and my bf is coming over tmo night to.. "play" lol. but i was wondering, do you really like eating girls out? doesnt it taste bad? it seems like it would be really gross, but ok

thanks!! (link)
honestly i love everything about it. licking sucking finding the perfect spot that just sendes her over the edge fingering the whole time. it's very very fun. i dont find anything gross about it.


over a period of time about 6 months i have become infatuatated with my colleugues wife. whenever i go to her house to see my collegue i keep staring at her. some times i feel she is also doing the same some times.i have definiteky seen her doing the same. I am 45yrs old happily married.she is about 40.I have a hunch that she wants me to make a move but i am not sure.i want to to take minimum of risk as the consequences are too much to bear.on other hand i feel a fling for a short time is not bad as we only live once.please help me (link)
keep your wang in your pants man. you only live once is right. do you want to ruin the thing you've spent so long living for and with? behave man.


I like the look of iPod minis 'cause they have a pink one but a couple of Q's...

1) Is an MP3 player better????
2) Are iPod mini's effective?
3) Are they easy-to-use?
4) Are they worth the money?
5) How many songs do they hold?
6) Can I get different headphones for them?
7) Do they ever freeze up like computers?

(link)
1) i personally think ipods are the BEST
2) And they are effective
3) Amazingly easy to use
4) totally worth the money (only 200, but you wont have to carry around cds anymore--or buy them cuz you get them from itunes for only a dollar a song)
5) hold around 1000 songs
6) yes
7) no


Is it uncommon for a 13-year-old girl to want love? (link)
no, its not.
I fele the same way accutally.


I have a really bad cramp right now. I've already taken medicine and it hasn't gone away. I can barly stand up for more then 30 seconds because I have such a bad cramp. My flow is also pretty heavy right now, is this making it worse?
What are something I can do to realive the pain? Please help me! (link)
excersize! that majorly reduces cramps. also masturbating is good lol =)


for girls- when ever i get my period i am fine during the day - my pads NEVER leak. however, when i go to bed, they very often do. it seems as though the pad just doesn't protect the back of my underwear for some reason...but only when i lie down! how can i prvent this...i have the kind of pads with wings, so i can't put it much farther back, can i? i know there are longer pads made, but is there anything i can do to prevent leaks for now with the pads i have? (i have tampons too, but isn't sleeping with them in too long of a itme period to keep the same one in?) anyways, what can i do? thanks! (link)
i leak very heavily at night too. right before you go to bed, put on a new one, so that it will stop some leaking. also use big pads.and also do NOT sleep with tampons in. it is extremely dangerous. there are some pads that are overnight, so i suggest using those


okay hey i bet you get this all the time but i wana know if
A. does it hurt when you have sex?
B. does it bleed?
C. if someone looks down there would they be able to tell you had sex?


thanks so much!!!! mucho lovee!!! (link)
a> could hurt depending on the size of his dick + the size of your vagina.
b> there COULD be blood. every girl is different
c> probably--your vagina will be strectched (so the next day it'll probably hurt)


im lesbian,but i dont know how to tell all my family. (link)
Please dont just take your lover,and come out and go "im a lesibian". That would kill your parents, i bet.
I'd probably wait for the right moment and tell somebody i trust the most between mom and dad or whoever takes care of you.
I'd say.
"Im going to tell you something"
Then they'd say whatever, you know.
Then tell them.
Brake it to them gently, specially of being a lesibian is something major to them.


I'm going to a dance this weekend and my top makes me look a tiny bit fat. It's this weekend so i don't have time to really work out n loose weight, i need a one night improvo sumtin or another that will make me look skinny...
my friend suggested like plastic wrap? it works but its noisy, you couldn't dance in that.
(i have a corset i mite wear as a joke with my friends but is there nething else?) silent ideas that will take of the extra 5 pounds for one night? THNX! (link)
I'd find something else.
No way is it, that you can loose 5 pounds that fast.
And theres no "Amaizng" way to perfect it.
I'd get something that suits you better.


okay well this might seem weird to some people..but i like my little brothers (younger by 2 years) best friend. his best friend is hot, sweet, smart, GORGEOUS...all that..but i think it might be a little weird. i mean were friends and all but the thing is i dont think anything would happen since we're a different age! first of all : do you think it is weird? 8th & 6th grade. And second of all: what are some things i can do to drop hints??

THANKS!! (link)
I dont think its weird.
8th and 6th graders go out, all the time at my school.
I'd flirt, you can check out www.myjellybean.com
for a flirting guide.


Im loading songs onto my iPod and I can't think of any songs that I like... do you know where I can find lists of songs? Either that, or can you tell me some songs that you like?
Thanks :) (link)
wow, if i was gunna name all the songs i liked
on here i woouldnt be aabble to list it in like 345973509734059735097345 pages! but i like any
songs from my chemical romance, fall out boy, senses fail, a heart welll ending, and motion
city soundtrack.




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