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ok.. so I have known this guy for over a year..
i fell in love with him but we stopped talking during the summer because he moved to michigan... recently(about 6 weeks ago) he gave me a call and was so excited!!! i really do love him.. everything about him..were trying the long distance thing.. and thats been going on for 2 weeks.. but it's getting a little freaky because he is already planning our 6th month anniversery!! and he calls like 4 times a day.. im just annoyed i guess.. idk what to do!! he has even gotton a job so that he can pay for plane tickets to visit me!!
its just overwhelming.. happening so fast.. and it's hard to deal with it along with school, social, and family issues.. but he doesnt understand that.. i've tried having a mutual breakup but he is just like " no i will make it work!!" i need my space but he doesnt understand.. i just don't want to break his heart if i tell him.. && i know most advice would just be for me to talk to him about it and if he really loves me he'd understand.. but its not that easy.. this guy is difficult .. && i'm kind of avoiding him now... any suggestions on what i should do=/ thanks for your help
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OK. Let me review the facts;
1. He moved to Michigan 6 weeks ago
2. He calls you 4 times a day
3. He got a job to come back "home"
4. You need your space
This poor guy is VERY homesick. I read this on a kids pro after he moved recently...
"When I moved, you lost one friend. When I moved, I lost my life."
He sounds like he is not just trying to hold on to YOU. He is trying to hold on to what used to be his LIFE.
As far as you needing your space...wow...how much more space can you have when your bf isn't even around?
My advice is for you to continue being very considerate to his feelings right now. What you see as him pressuring you, is really him having a hard time adjusting to his new world. Just be patient and be there for him right now. (sounds like it's what you are already doing so keep it up) But don't look at it as a negative experience. Realize that what you are doing, is being an extrememly good friend to him right now.
Since he's not here, I don't see why you can't live a normal life here. Being "with" him doesn't mean you are "dead" socially. Go have fun. And pat yourself on the back for being such a good person. You may not realize it right now, but your kindness towards him right now will be something he remembers when he is a 40 yr old man with kids of his own. Not many people get the opportunity to make such an impact on another person's life. It's a huge compliment that he has turned to you during such a difficult time in his life.
You seem like an amazing person to me....keep it up but live your life. Love, Mrs S
PS - im me this weekend if you want to talk more about this. I'm traveling all week this week.
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