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I have 2 friends, Bailey and Lauren. Bailey is my best friend, and we literally do (or did) EVERYTHING together. We hung out so much that people began thinking we were sisters. If one of us is going somewhere, the other one is bound to follow. It was just a really strong relationship.
Then she started hanging out with Lauren. Lauren and me aren't really very close at all, in fact, the only reason we're friends is through Bailey. Deep inside I kind of dislike her, for personal reasons, mainly her attitude. But I get along with her for the sake of Bailey.
Anyways, Bailey and Lauren started hanging out a lot. And Bailey kind of forgot about me. Like, they would go over each other's houses everyday and not even invite me. Sometimes, when Bailey and I had plans, Lauren would whine and complain about us not inviting her and end up inviting herself over, yet, when they have plans, Lauren never mentions a word to me. Bailey's attitude sorta shifted to being like Lauren's, and it made me feel like I was losing a friend.
It really hurts going on the bus, too. Odd, isn't it? It's because ever since the beginning of the year, Bailey and I have ALWAYS sat together on the bus. We'd save it for each other and sit together. Just the other day, Bailey sat with me for about 2 minutes until Lauren was like, "SIT BY ME!!" So she just got up, while I was talking to her, and sat down with Lauren, and then they both started laughing.
Now, I don't know how strong their relationship is, but I know Lauren considers Bailey her best friend. And it makes me kind envious, you know? Bailey still calls me her best friend, but I always wonder if she's lying, just not to hurt my feelings. Because she's done that before, with another girl.
My mom and my friend said to just ignore her and she'll get annoyed with Lauren after a little bit (because she is already starting too) and come back to me. But I'm hesistant if that will work.
Usually I'm really very honest with Bailey. But how can I find the words to tell her how I feel? She'll just deny everything and laugh and ask me if I'm kidding, and say I'm her best friend of course. But I want a sincere and honest truth. Because I know our friendship is falling apart.
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Based on what you are writing, you have a problem with Lauren. You should sit her down when Lauren isnt there and talk to her. Letting out the truth ids always helpfull. Now, do what your heart is telling you to do. If you think you are losing your best friend, talk to her. If you think its just a hang out, leave her, she'll come crawling back soon enough. Im going through it right now. I have so many problems right now, im desperate to find everything out. So do as i say, and write back to me telling me if my advice worked for you or not.
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It's natural for friends to grow apart like this.... if Bailey is getting annoyed with Lauren, chances are that she'll stop hanging out with her so much fairly soon. I'm with your mom on this one.. be nice to both Lauren and Bailey when they're around, but try looking for some other people to hang out with every once in awhile. It never hurts to have more than one best friend. Maybe if Bailey sees you hanging out with someone else,she'll see how much she misses having you around.
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Thats so sad! aww!! its okay
i would ignore her and do the same thing back to her. and she will feel your feelings. like make friends with someone on your bus (if possibal) and like if she site by you be like OH "your new friends name" ill sit with you!!! while basily is talking to you,
she will get jellous, like you are. even though you think you hate lauren, you dont! you are jellous!!
So make a few new friends instead of tlaking to basily. dont talk to her at all. id do that. i have and the person came crawling back to me. it wored well.
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