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advice?
im lesbian,but i dont know how to tell all my family.
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Well, you can start by telling the one who will understand the most first. Then gradually tell the others. Just sit em' all down at dinner, and just tell em'.
As my aunt Lolo is always saying, life is only as hard as you make it.
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Please dont just take your lover,and come out and go "im a lesibian". That would kill your parents, i bet.
I'd probably wait for the right moment and tell somebody i trust the most between mom and dad or whoever takes care of you.
I'd say.
"Im going to tell you something"
Then they'd say whatever, you know.
Then tell them.
Brake it to them gently, specially of being a lesibian is something major to them.
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Introduce them to your lesbian friend, that should break it in easy enough.
Or, introduce them to your girlfriend until they get to know her and then say that in actual fact you are dating because you have deeper feelings for your friend and she feels the same. Then it seems like a natural progression to them.
Good luck
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You say you don't know how to tell ALL of your family; do you know how to tell any of them? If you feel it's time to let people know you're a lesbian, then congrats. It's a big, empowering step - but it can also cause some negative reactions.
It might be best to think of one specific (or more, if you've got them) person in your family who you feel very close to and know they would be okay with you being gay. Tell them about yourself, and then ask their opinion on how to tell the other people. It can really help to have another family member backing you up.
Remember that it will probably take your family some time to get used to - after all, it's taken you until now to know for sure who you are and want to share that info with other people. Just stay positive, have a few people that love and support you, and you'll be fine.
Best of luck.
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You don't necessarily have to tell them if you don't want to. You didn't specify, but my guess is that you're relatively young. Sexuality is something that you are discovering at this point and you can't be 100% sure that you are 100% lesbian even though you have certain feelings towards girls and everything. You could very easily date a girl and your parents would think that you were just really good friends. Try to stay open to the idea that you may not be completely lesbian. It would be silly if you told your family that you were a lesbian and then a year later your feelings changed and you really weren't a lesbian, or wasn't one anymore. If I was incorrect in guessing your age and you're in your mid 20's or older, your family doesn't really need to know everything about your personal life anymore and telling them just isn't necessary.
If you WANT to tell them, it's a different story. It would be best to tell them you'd like to talk to them about something, get them together and alone, and just say that you think you're a lesbian. Keep it simple and try not to let them get into a conversation about it. It's important to know how they feel about it, but you don't want them to make you uncomfortable or anything like that. Be understanding towards them because it may be hard for them to accept it.
I hope I helped and good luck!
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There are a ton of books on this subject. There is a section of Barnes and Noble specifically dedicated to gay people. I suggest you go on the web site and check it out.
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I think you'd find some pretty good websites, had you tried to Google this:
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