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Q: can u masterbait while your on your period? as in "fingering"
yes you certainly can! Advice is to do it in the bath or shower to avoid mess :)

Q: What do guys think of girls watching porn? is it a total turn off or on? or neither?
In a way it doesn't really matter! You can do what you do in your own time and if he doesn't like it then its tough!
Women are just as entitled to watch porn as much as men and they might find it a turn off for men to watch it but it doesn't mean you should stop, it's not illegal or abnormal so as long as your comfortable with it, it doesnt really matter if a guy is turned on by it.

hope this wasn't totally irrelevant and helped in some way.

Q: Do you aways know when the condom breaks? Me and my boyfriend do it like once every weekend and he pulls out (with the condom on) and cums outside me into the condom, just incase it broke i dont want his cum in me. we check the condom everytime after and it hasnt broken. BUt my question is, do you always know when it breaks? If there was no leakage, does that mean I'm okay and shouldnt worry?
The best way to check is to fill the condom with water once you have finished and if there is no leakage you have less to worry about but again there is no 100%. Don't worry so much and just enjoy your sex life, if you are careful enough then you wont be caught out.
Good Luck

Q: I left my Sperms in my Girlfried ass. so i want to ask you that there is any any thing to worry???
there is any chance of pregnancy???
Don't worry you have nothing to worry about there is no chance she is pregnant unless you ejaculated in to her vagina.

Q: the cream that you use to get rid of stretch marks?
I usually use an oil called bio oil. It wont get rid of them completely but it fades them away considerably.

hope this helps

anniex

Q: i notice you answer A LOT of questions about sex and know a lot about it. how many times have you actually had it???? i'm just wondering. because you're only 16. don't you think you should wait until you're married?
*laughs a lot*
im actually 18 and i am in a committed relationship. i also read lots of magazines with lots of tips about sex.
also i feel that this is none of your business, i have not asked for advice on my sex life i smiply give advice to others. this site is about giving advice openly and not judging them which i dont. i feel it is not your place to be judging me as you dont know me.
thankyou for your concern, however, if i was worried about this i would ask for advice rather than give it.

Q: Ok this might sound like a very ODD question but when me and my boyfriend are like making out or something, not even getting hot and heavy, i tend to get REALLY wet really fast, then by the time we do start getting hot and heavy and he wants to do something, its kinda embarassing because im so wet down there already. I soak through jeans sometimes. And It's highly embarassing. Anything i can do?!
dont be embarrassed. this is a good thing. it will make sex more pleasurable for him and will show him how much u like him.
go for it ur young and horny and he will love it
good luck xxx

Q:
Before sex, im going to start to take off his pants and stuff and get him hard and then im going to stop and change the subject completely for a few minutes.
Just to make him want me more, is that a good idea? Or what?
I need some help

thank you
ooohhh no no no no dont change the subject. keep the subject but delay the sex. have you ever thought of dirty talk? telling him whats about to happen will make him want you more!
go for it
good luck
xx

Q: why do people enjoy giving head? just the thought is gross. first of all, i think it's gross if i had to suck someone's fingers, but sucking someones cock, that just seems gross. no i'm not young, and i'm not immature, but it's kind of repulsive thinking of people getting on their knees and sucking on someones private area when god knows where it's been and then having cum go into your mouth. um ew! i don't get it. why do people enjoy it? and if you have done it, how gross really is it? is it as gross as it seems?
it isnt so much as gross as it seems. but it just depends on how clean ur guy is... my guy washes his penis and so giving head is often good... however it is sensible to consider "where its been" before sucking!
hope this was useful
ttfn

Q: I always sweat under my armpits. now i know everyone does but my sweat always seems to go through my clothes and it's really embarrasing. i also put on a lot of deodorant every day. what should i do?
use ur deo and put some talcum powder on too. this works for me and is cheap :D
hope this helped
anniex

Q: Sorry if this is long..

13/f
Ok so i went out with this guy who was 2 years older than me. Im 13 and he is 15. But in fedruary ill be 14 so we'll be one year apart. Anyways when i went out with him he kept asking if id do anything more than make out with him and i said no because im 13 and thats too young for me. I said in the future i would. but after a while we broke up and we both agreed to it because we wernt seeing eachother a lot and we went to different schools so it was hard. So we were over. And he got new girlfriends and i got new boyfriends but he kept telling me that he still had feelings for me and always would. And i didnt know what to really say about it because i was kinda mad at him for some reason so i would never respond. Well one day i wanted to get him jealous because i was so mad at him, so i knew he wanted to do "stuff" with me ( more than making out ) so i told him one day when i was babysitting there was this guy there that was soposed to go out but his plans got cancelled so he was stuck home and i didnt have a ride home so i stayed there, and i told him that while the baby was sleeping we were in his room fooling around and i gave him head. Then he was really jealous and admited it so my plan worked and i was very happy. But on New years eve he was over because his cousin mom is friends with my mom but anyways while he was over we were like all over eachother and laughing and having a good time and also we were sharing drinks and stuff. And when he was about to leave he hugged me for a long time and then we kissed ( we didnt make out ) and another thing when i first kissed him which was a while ago.. sometime last year he didnt know that he was my first kiss and im afraid to tell him because i dont want him to be my first everthing. So my question is should i tell him or just keep it to myself because i feel like he might be really mad that iv been lieing to him. what do i do. and im sorry this is so long i just really really need advice soon :[

thank you so much :]
i think that you should just tell him the truth. tell him just as you have told us. if he understands then he is worth it if not then you shouldnt need to worry about him again. you may think you really like him but telling him the truth will let you know if he likes you enough to do stuff with him.
good luck
hope this helped

Q: f/17
so liked this guy.
he used me as a rebound girl
went back to his ex
is now dumping his currnet g/f (his ex)
and tells me that using me was the biggest mistake of his life and that he wants to hang out with me again to hopefully lead to a relationship,
what should i do?
go back to him because i just got over him and now he tells me hes sorry.
ahhhh
i would use him too... upset him, give him a taste of his own medicine.

however, if you really like the guy tell him that you will take no shit from him and maybe try and have a relationship with him. I mean, he is human afterall we all make mistakes. Just make him wait a bit, see how much he really wants to go out with u. he could be just using you because he know he can get you.

give him a chance but dont dive in to it head first

good luck xxx

Q: How do I tell my very very very best guy friend that I love him?

He has a girlfriend. But hes the only person who acts like they actually care and tells me he loves me and says Im amazing. Ive said "I love you." A lot, but.. how can I explain to him that its more than just I love you. How can I say he means more to me than the world?
-when he says i love you... look confused and say, well i love you too but you have a girlfriend.

-ask him who he thinks he might be goin out with if he wasnt with his gf (worked for me ;-))

You just need to ask him questions every now and then, not explicit ones like "DO YOU REALLY LOVE ME?" or "YOU ARE TOTALLY AMAZING"
be a bit sly and clever about it, you can get information about his feelings by asking neutral questions like, hows things with u and your gf?
Once you have enough info, say that you think hed be better off with someone better suited to him!

Or see if hes jelous when you tell him that u really like "this guy"... then you will know if he really does like you in that way

love is used in so many different contexts its hard to know what kind of love he means, until you find that out you can then make it so that he knows you feel the same way!

if you want any more help just email me or talk to me on msn

pixies_are_fun@hotmail.com

i know its long but i hope it helped xxx

Q: ok so i really like this girl. but there is a problem, she is my friends ex. everytime im with her it feels right. we kiss and hold hands. but somedays she acts all weird, like we dont have a "thing". does it sound like she is using me to you?
She's probably just insecure. In my experience girls are more scared of commitment than boys! Thats not how the media presents it but i know we are terrified!
She could be "using" you, but what has she got to "use" you for?
It's probably just that she thinks its special too but she wont admit it.
All the advice i can give you is dont get too attached because you dont know to what extent she is scared of committment. Just move at her pace.
Hope this helped
xxx

Q: OK well im tired of having sex its so over rated. its boredom for the price of pregnancy or worst. Lately i have been making poor choice's this one guy I have had sexual encounters with and he doesnt have any condom's and I have trouble saying no because's I have these urges how can I get past them so I can be safe?
ooh its hard!!! Just think about the screaming baby at the end of it... thats usually a big turn-off!

Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months now. he means everything to me and vise versa. we have been having sex for a few months now but it got out of control. every time we saw each other we would have sex and we didnt want it to start taking over our realationship and having it be all about sex, so we decided to take a little break until our 1 year anniversary. but when ever we are together he wants to fool around. dont get me wrong, i dont mind, i love being close to him but then sometimes hes like i really wish we had a condom. or later that night he will be pissed that we fooled around again. how can i find out what he really trully wants?
you need to hang out in a place where you can't fool around. Or when hes wanting to fool around remind him about how pissed he got last time. It is really hard to bring it up but its something you need to talk about, when hes fooling around with you, you need to stop it and ask him what he wants!
Good Luck hun
xxx

Q: Only one way to say it: I AM SUPER SHY!!! when someone i don't know comse up to me and says hi (kid or adult) if they older than me, I freeze up. If they are younger, i don't. I guess thats because I'm older......
Even older people (people in their 60's) make me shy, really shy.
Some things though, like the cashier at a resturaunt, im not shy at all. I doin't get it.
NOw, to the question:
Are there any ways I can help myself be less shy around new friends/people?
You need to get this idea out of your head that you are shy. The more you think you are shy, the more you will be shy... its a self-fulfilling prophesy. Convince yourself your confident and that they are people just like you. Just try to pretend you are the same age as them, or older. If you imagine they are younger then you will feel more confident when takling to them.
Force yourself to do it, it will pay off!
Good Luck hun
xxx

Q: I swear my mother is really hurtful I can't take her anymore. I feel so offended by what she does. WHy can't she just leave me alone. I hate her. I just feel really annoyed by her and I don't even have anyone to talk to
Everyone goes through stages of hating their mam. Its perfectly normal since you live with her, living with sumone 24/7 can make you both want to kill each other.
You don't need to talk to her, it will probably just make her annoy you more from her response (ive been in the same situation). What you really need to do is get out and socialise with friends, or visit other members of the family. You need space and time away from her... it would probably benefit you both!
good luck xx

Q: My girlfriend's birthday is comming up. I'd like to get her a book that she would like, she reads a lot. She likes to read novels, the mushy love story kind. Does anyone recommend any that they have actually read? I'm not too great when it comes to this. Or should I just ask her which one she would like? I did want it to be a surprise, but if that's the best way to go about it, I'll try it.
If you look in book shops there are plenty of "trashy novels". I bought a set of them from WHSmiths once n they were really good! Good Luck mate... shes a lucky lass, my boyfriend doesnt have a clue about presents but i think thats a perfect idea!
xxx

Q: okay, i have a rather small mouth. i mean its not completely tiny but its not huge. so heres my concern, giving a boy oral sex. i'm afraid i wont ever be able to because of my small mouth. do you think that since i have a small mouth i could hurt he penis and like not be able to give oral sex. and how would i know before hand if i would hurt the penis. please help. thanks so much
It is practically impossible for your mouth to be too small for oral sex, infact i would say a smaller mouth would be more pleasurable.
Plus the fact eve if it was, oral sex isn't all about sticking it in your mouth, using lots of tongue is good too (apparently)
Don't Worry, i have a small tongue but i haven't had any complaints yet
Good Luck
AnniieXxXx

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