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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Well i am 13 and i huffed once. i was with my best friend (not friends anymore) and she decided it would be cool.. i thought it would be fine because i was with a "good friend". well i told my closest frined whom i consider a sister and now she is upset with me. what can i do so she wont be upset with me. (she also knows i USE to cut which upset her too) i dont want to lose my "sister" because we are really close.. what can i do?? help plz i rate (link)
Your friend is right to be concerned. You are damaging your brain cells kid.
She is upset because you have kind of a history of this type of self destructive behavior.She doesn't want to lose her friend.You need to stop doing things because "friends" tell you it's okay.
If you want this good friend back you need to have a talk with her. You need to assure her you won't do any such thing again.She will probably be distrustful of you for awhile but if stay away from the bad influences...I think she will come around eventually.


Hi, I'm currently a freshman in my second semester in college and unfortunately I find myself struggling in my Chemistry II course. Right now my current grade is a 66% (a C- or lower grade at the end of the semester is failing). I work my butt off in that class but I find myself not being able to grasp the concepts so well where there are so many equations that come in different forms and it just doesn't make sense to me. My question is whether or not you think I should drop the class and retake it this summer or fall or do you think I should keep trying?

Also, what I'm studying for is Pre-Pharmacy and I was wondering if anyone knew how selective pharmacy schools are in selecting their scholars? How strict are their guidelines?

Thanks! (link)
You'll have to take it sooner or later so I think i'd stick with it.Maybe find someone who's good at it to help you study and maybe get a better grasp of the subject. Your instructer might be able to help you find someone to help.

I don't know the guidelines for schools. Your best bet there will probably be to contact those that you're interested in and see if they can send you some pre enrollment guideline material.

Good luck with your chem class :}


ok.. well mayy 22nd is this crossfade concert that REALLY want to go to. im 13 (f) lol and my mom wont let me go because of the place that its in. its called toads place its in new haven connecticut (kinda ghetto but not really} and i need to convince her to let me go, because she doesnt understand how much that i really want to, their my fav band and blah blah blah.. so what im asking is how can i convince her to let me go? thanks for the help! ashley (link)
I'm gonna be the bad guy and side with mom on this one. After having gone to a few concerts myself I can tell you they are no place for 13 year olds to be.

It is not the band and it's not the location.It is the crowd. An example: My daughter is 27 and went to a concert last summer. The crowd rushed the stage and a friend of hers fell and almost got trampled to death. She got her arm injured and she is a big girl! A 13 year old would just be in to much danger.I am sorry.:{



hi, i asked a question like 3 days ago and the answers i was getting were...you've got a yeast infection.
my questions is...what exactly is a yeast infection?!
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Only a doctor can tell you for sure.
A yeast infection develops in places where moisture encourages fungal growth.Could be insied your mouth (babies get this a lot) or in the vaginal area.It can even grow between fingers and toes.It does not mean you aren't clean....can happen to anyone.

If in you mouth it leaves white patches that can come off with eating or toothbrushing, but it comes back.

between fingers and toes it causes rash maybe small blisters.

vaginal yeast infection causes itching, redness, swelling and white discharge.

Hope that helps.Probably know more than you wanted to now!


I was wondering if you could help me I have not been feeling well since jan-05 it all started with a cold that turned into a sinus infection, I went to the doctor and he gave me a antibiotic which seemed to clear it up but I now seem to have a internal shaking in my body that will not go away, I have been for all kinds of tests bloodwork, mri on my head halter monitor chest x-ray and all are normal, I stopped drinking caffiene products thinking that this may be the problem it seemed to work a little but the shaking came back, then I got another sinus infection and the shaking got worse, I was given avelox and that seemed to help but after 2 and half weeks of taking that the shaking came back, all the doctors have said that it may be anxiety but I have never felt this way before. the shaking is not visible but I can feel it all the time, I seem to sleep ok but after a hour or so after waking up it all starts again, I hope that you could help me with this it is driving me crazy, I generally feel good except for the constant feeling. of shaking... PLEASE HELP
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We really can't help you much with medical issues other than telling to to see a doctor.
If your current doctor isn't finding the answers for you then see a diffrent one.Keep going to diffrent ones until you find one with the answers.


I have been having a problem with staying erect lately I dont seem to have any problem getting it up but when its time for intercourse it seems to go down I still feel excited but the equipment does not want to corporate. any suggestions please help (link)
If it continues you need to see a doctor to find out why. Could be as simple as a medication you are taking, or could be caused by diabetes or some other medical conditon. It could simply be anxiety. If it keep's on though, you will feel much better finding out why.


im 13/f and have been gettin discharge for more then a year...buti havent gotten my period yet..is this normal? (link)
You are normal.


im 13/f and i need to earn money, and need to know how, besides babysitting (link)
Not to many more choices.You can mow lawns,or maybe help an older neighbor with chores around the house.


A few months ago, i had a really bad cold sore at the corner of my mouth. And it finally went away 2-3 weeks later. Now i have another one in the SAME exact spot. Is it possible it could be something else and not a cold sore? (Like an STD. Ive never given oral, but theres been contact outside of my mouth.) (link)
It's just a cold sore.
You, with a cold sore can give the bf herpes though while you have it. So keep his penis away from your cold sore. They usually last 7-10 days.


so last month my bf fingered me and i gave him a handjob..he cummed and i wasnt sure if he had some on his fingers then fingered me...anyways i got my period the LAST day of february and i was totally relieved. well i havent got my period for this month...but i havent done ANYTHING what so ever this month...so yea i dont know whats up? could i be pregnant? (link)
Not real likely. Probably just going throuogh a growth spell. It could happen just that way thouogh.So use caution in the future.


Im 21 female. I feel trapped. I love my fiance and all but sometimes I feel the urge to run away. Far away. Away from everything including the only person that's ever loved or cared about me... him. I just want to be free. He says it's a hippie spell. The feeling of wanting to leave never stays away for long. What should I do? (link)
If your having wander lust better to do it now than to wait until you a married with children.
Get it out of your system. Maybe fiance could go with you if you feel inclined to invite him.


im really worried about my best friend she sleeps with anyone and anything that moves last week she slept with 5 different guys than last night at a party she slept with 3 guys gave head to 1 and let that guys brother go down on her and hooked up with my close mate now she saying she wont hang around me unless i change im out of ideas of things to do. (link)
You are very right to be concerned. Please don't change just to remain friends with her.
She is putting herself at risk for Aid's, any number of STD'S and preganancy. Any of which have deadly or life altering consequenecs.Not to mention she is the very definition of a slut. All these boy's who are going out with her now will never respect her or go out with her for any other reason other than to have sex with her.
You could tell her mother about it I suppose if she is really young.You didn't mention your age.


Alright I was asked out by this guy i really like but the problem is that my friend likes him too. What should i do? Should i breack up with the guy and keep my friendship togheter, not that my friend won't be my friend anymore, or should i stay together with him and tell my friend that she will get over it?
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Go out with him. You are the one he asked. Your friend will be upset at first but she wasn't dating him she just liked him. Same as you did.
What makes you think that her wants are more important than yours? They are not. So date him and have fun. Your friend will get over it.Same as you would have if it had gone the other way.


Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two months now and the guy hasnt even tried to kiss me. Like im sorry if i sound bad for saying this but i have needs! So I was wondering what are some ways i can turn my boyfriend on so that he'll wanna make out with me, or at least kiss me? (link)
Well you just go grab him by the face and give him a big smooch! If he doesn't warm up after that he just may not be ready for all that yet.


ok so i like a boy ALOT! and he likes me ALOT! but we aren't bf and gf...when ever he asks me to dance or skate at friends parties...something inside me says NO! i don't know what to do..and I DID tell him how i feel! PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
You just must not be ready for the whole bf/gf thing yet.Don't worry you will be.


I have very vivide dreams where I can feel everything is this normal? (link)
Sure.


Okay i used to be REALLY good at school, but now my last report card i got four C's and one D. Wich is really bad for me! i got ONE A and that was in gym! I'm trying to get into The School Of Proforming Arts (a highschool) and you need amazing Grades to get there! How do i get good grades with still being able to hang out with my friends enough? (link)
You'll have to decide what you want more.The school or the fun. A school like that one takes a lot of dedication. That's why their standards are so high and why your grades need to be high.They don't just take anyone.Good luck:}


Okay so I have been dating this guy Max for 7 months. Well his ex girlfriend Chanet still likes him. Max isn't the smartest guy so after school he goes to this thing where he studies for the proficincy. Well so does Chantel. Apparently yesterday Chantel and Max didn't go to the proficiency and they went ot this girl Heathers house. Well Chantel is bi and Heather and her use to date. Well Heathers little sister Stephanie is a friend of mine and she had some other people I know over at her house. She told me today in 3rd that she went up stairs to where Chantel and Max were hanging out and that they were freak dancing and the music was really loud and that Chantel said Max and her made out. Of course Stephanie told me but this was 3rd period. So I naturally started freaking out. Then my next class is lunch. And the WHOLE junior class knows what happened! So I see Max at lunch and he tried to touch me and I moved away because I am soo disgusted with him and the situation. So then I go with my friend to go get a water and when we come back he is gone. Like 12 people came up to me and told me again what Max and Chantel did. I was so overwhelmed that I think I made myself sick. I haven't talked to Max for the rest of the day. What do you think really happened? Max told Stephanie that nothing happened but everyone says he did. Please help me. I am so confused. Please

-understandeably confused (link)
Well everyone probably wasn't there. So they actually know just as much about it as you do.
Maybe Stephanie was jealous and made the whole thing up. I guess you need to talk to the boyfriend and get his side of the story before you decide who to believe.


my close friends ex gf is always tryin to make me jealous once i was about to over there and kick her ass. she always tryin to make me jealous any advice i can get to make her stop. i cant start anything with her because my guy friend will be mad at me 4 mess with her.plz help! (link)
Sounds like she's doing a fairly good job of it! Don't let her know she is getting to you.She will just get worse. Totally ignore her.


Oh My GOd! My sister is so annoying, She Wears my clothes, wakes me up at 5:00 on the weekends, hits me, puts fake worms in my bed, Steals my C-D's, and my parents do NOTHING about it! HELP! (link)
I'm feeling a little silly so here's what i'd do.
Get a trunk or something with a lock on it.Put your favorite clothes and your cd's in there.
Hit her back. Put real worms in her bed. And laugh when she tattles on you.
Really, tell your mom that you really wish she'd do something about her before you totally go off on her. You need to have a long talk with the parents. And if they won't punish her then ask them just what they expect you to do to make her stop.




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