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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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okay well i was friends with someone online for a few months and we got really close - we told each other like everything and stuff. I showed her like one pic maybe and my face wasn't showing that well and I'm not really comfortable showing pics online anyway because I knew that she saved them on her computer. Well, we grew apart, and then a month after we did I found out that she was even bisexual. the problem is.. she ims me every once in a while and asks for my pic, saying that she has all these pics of her friends saved. am i wrong for not wanting to give it, or feeling that im only imed so she could see my pic?

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If you aren't comfortable showing your picture online then by all means don't. Just tell her that.If she continues to im you and you want to be friends go ahead.


I've always been told that I am a talented actor. Lately though, I have been restricted from acting by my parents. This is due to my average and not superior grades. I've been trying for nearly 7 months to get the great grades my parents require so that I can do the thing I love most. I just can't get focused enough, I come home and just forget to do my homework after my chores. I am smart, and know that I am capable of good grades, I just can't get my brains together. I would like to go to a study group, but my parents won't let me do that either. How can I get back in my honor roll tactics, and into theatre acting again? (link)
You were on the honor role before so you really know what needs to be done! Lot's of studying.

I don't know how you can "just forget" to do your homework. Have your parents remmind you.
Come on now if you can remember lines for acting you can surely remember to do your homework! :)


ok me and my bf broke up because he found that i was talking to another boy but that boy really dont mean nothing to me i love my bf so much. anyway he took me back but i no he dont trust me! what can i say to him to get him to belive me? plese help me im so sorry i didnt mean for none of this tohappen
shaiina (link)
I think he has no business telling you that you can't talk to other boy's. That is just stupid.
He sounds to possessive to me. I wouldn't let him get started with this kind of behavior.If you do he will next get mad if you happen to look at another guy. I say break up with him and find someone else, but do what you want.Be prepared for more controlling behavior out of him though.


My mum and dad have had one of those 'loveless' relationships and now they have separated but theyre still living together. From what Ive been told my mum only married my dad because she was 31 and wanted to have kids. They were together for ages before they married.
My dad didnt treat my mum that good and when it came to bringing us up he left it down to her. He would never really look after us.
Anyways my mum told me that she started seeing her 'highschool sweetheart'. I dont know if theyre actually together together. I kinda had my suspitions before.
My mum asked if I would like to meet him. I said I didnt know. I told my boyfriend about the situation and he said why did u say that for, you shouldn't see him. My brother said the same thing.
I love both my parents a lot. My mum hasnt been happy for a very long time. Now she seems alot happier and that makes me feel happy. From what Ive heard he's nice guy. But I feel that if I see him or am nice to him then im gonna be kinda betraying my dad who knows nothing about it. Im really confused.
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The thing is that there are two sides to every story.You have mom's so now you need to get dad's. Even though the whole thing is really between them.

I don't think it's a good idea to meet mom's boyfriend. She just wants someone's approval and I don't think that's your job. Also if you like the guy and she dumps him in a couple of months.... There you go getting hurt again. Better to leave it alone.

No matter what happen's just remember you aren't the one betraying anyone. Don't get stuck in the middle. If you meet this guy then you may also have to lie to your dad about THAT and that wouldn't be cool either.Happier or not your parents aren't divorced yet. So don't let either one of them try and make you take sides. :)


i want to know my friend's username so i can ask her a questain on this and she can not talk to me at school beucase there is not time in between classes is there a way i can find out her user name? (link)
Can you call her and ask her? That would be the easiest way.


ive got my exams in less than two months and i feel like ive learnt nothing in the last two years. i must have.. but we were given practice papers in maths and i couldnt do hardly any of it.what am i going to do??and im not telling my mom so dont suggest that please. please reply soon. xxxx (link)
You have 2 months to study. Find yourself a friend to study with. Ask each other questions etc. If you can't find someone maybe your teacher will help you find someone. Good luck.:)


Today I was standing in a grassy area when my friend ran at me and knocked me over. I hit the back of my head very hard on the ground and my whole head started aching. I had to lie on the ground for about ten minutes because I couldn't get up. My friend walked me home to make sure I was okay and I felt better. Now I have started to feel sick, my head hurts a lot and I feel very weak and tired. I have had concussion before but my vision was distorted and I actually threw up that time. Is this just normal because I knocked my head or have I got concussion or something? (link)
You really need to get it checked by a doctor.
Head injuries are nothing to mess with. If mom isn't home call her and let her know what is going on.


ok so my friend is 15 and her and her bf had sex but the condom broke. well she got this short period for march. it lasted a day and a half she said. shes been eating alot and peeing alot now too. does it sound like shes pregnant? im going with her to planned parenthood tomrrow..but what does it sound like to you guys?? (link)
I think you are panicing about nothing.
However, if she's determined to be sexually active she need's to get on the pill while she's at planned parenthood. Provided she isn't pregnant already. Tell her to make sure bf still uses a condom though, preganacy isn't the only thing to worry about. Good luck to her.


ok there's this guy who i'm really good friends with (i'm 17, he's 16). he's kinda like a lil bro figure to me, but lately things have been getting more non-brotherish. we both like each other, and both know it, but we also know that nothing can develop since i'm leaving for college in the summer and he's still a sophomore (his parents made him stay back in like preschool). we've made out a couple times and i just can't stop thinking about him. my only problem - should i keep this going if we know it's not going anywhere? we agreed not to go out or anything, but i mean, should we be like friends with benefits or would that ruin our friendship? thanks so much in advance! i rate :) (link)
Forget the benefit's part. Go out now and when you're home from college. Agree that you will also date others. If it's meant to be then it will last. Unless you meet someone in college who you think is your future hubby or something just date without getting tied down.:)



What would you do if the guy you used to have a crush on that had already moved away, and you didn't think you had feelings for him anymore called your house at 10 pm and asked for you. But you trult thought you didn't have feelings for him because you already had a boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend are in love. I can't stop thinking about what I am going to tell Michael tomorrow(my old crush) when he calls! I don't want to hurt his feelings because my grandma said he was about to cry. I don't want to not pick up because thats mean. There's nothing lft to do but the wrong thing and I don't want to do that either! (link)
I see no reason for you not to talk to him.He surely doesn't think you are waiting years for him to come back and visit for a date. That's not realistic. But, no reason not to date more than one guy either.Talk to him, that isn't cheating or anything either. Be friends.:)


i am 13/f and i have a boyfriend even though i'm not really supposed to. anyways my little sister who is 10 found out and now she is threatning meand i don't know what to do.i don't want to break up with him. i tryied talking to her but that made it worse! what do i do? (link)
Well you can go tell your mom and beat her to it.
Mom probably meant that you cant date until your older.Since you aren't going out on the town every night she probably won't mind. Don't even call him your boyfriend, just say he's a friend.
Then let the little blackmailer blab all she want's.:)


My best friend and I got in fight like a month ago and it awas the stupidest fight ever I cant even remember what it was... well we kinda lost communication cause she just started ignoring me(and what sucks is we hang out with the same ppl so I will be standing next to her but we wont talk) and then like last week i was aim and we started apoligizing and got everything worked out... but at school its like we still arent friends cause i will be standing right next to her and we wont say one word... it feels really awkard... but i miss her so much and I dont know what to do I mean Ive told her how much I miss talking to her... I feel like Ive been replaced... I just want my best friend back and I dont know how to do it? I have cried so much just because of the fact that i cant talk to her and tell her everything anymore... it hurts me so much at school to be standing next to her and not talk... i cant really tell anyone how im feeling cause I just want to cry... I am trying to make my self realize that were just not bestfriends anymore but its way too hard... i need advice do I need to make myself realize were just not the same or do i gotta do something and get My BF back and if so HOW???
PLEASE HELP!!!
SIGNED:I WANT MY BF BACK! (link)
Ask her over to your house or something. You are both feeling awkward in person. You know she want's to be friends again according to aim conversation. Someone just has to make the first move. Make it and I bet you will back as friends before the day is over.:)


New bf states he had unsatisfactory sex life with prior gf due to sex only once or twice a month. I have had to initiate all sex with him and wonder if I turn him on at all or what. Him persuing me would be reassuring. I have hinted and flat out said I would like him to be more aggressive. What do I do? (link)
If you have told him that and he still doesn't initiate it I would find someone else. It takes two and if he's letting you do all the work then maybe he has a problem.


What do I do when I am trying to get over a guy that I am not sure ever loved me but dated another girl across the country while dating me and I try to ignore and try to not show that I still have feelings for him but I know I still do and he has been in all my dreams lately? What does it mean? How could I get him back and keep him from lieing and cheating on me if I did want him? Do my dreams mean anything?
(I am 13 female)











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I suppose you could tell him about it and see what he says.

If this other girl was across the country he couln't have "dated" her much right. She is probably just a friend. He can be friends with other girls.So, technically that isn't cheating.


Weird question, but okay.. do you find it normal to like someone alot that you've never met? I think that its normal to an extent- like a celeb.. but what do you think? (link)
No it's not really wierd.
I think we like the idea of them anyway, as in celebs. If we actually met them though we would probably not like them nearly as well.

That's why I really don't know if i'd want to meet a famous celeb that I liked. I'd hate to be disappointed!

If it is someone that you meet online, well they to can be real diffrent in person.You get an idea of what they are like thought wise. You just don't get the other personality quirks.Some of them are not good. They could write very well for instance and be just painfully shy and hardly talk in real world. :)


Can anyone explain to me why when I put my headphones on after I take a shower, why my ears would bother me that night or later that day? I think it's because of the wetness in my ear, but please answer anyway! Thanks. (link)
That's a good guess and what I thought too.
Moister in your ears. Make sure they are dried good and maybe keep hair out from under headphones as best you can until it dries :)


Spring's here- not the best weather but it's here! What's the best tips on keeping a healthy garden [don't tell me about fertilizers!] and making it prospere to it's best? I usually have little tomato plants, zuchini, cucumbers, etc etc and I tried corn but it didn't work so well. I have a nice amount of space so if you know of anything that's easy and grows well please list. Thanks! (link)
Man, I can't wait for fresh tomatoes!

Radishes are pretty easy
Bell pepper
Green beans
peas
potatoes
onion's
turnips
pinto beans


What if someone said something offensive about you and you had a disablity, and ur friends and family didnt do much to defend you? I have the right to be mad right? I have the right to be mad at my family for not defending me right? what should i do? (link)
You certainly have the right to be mad.
How old are you? It may be time to stick up for yourself a little. Friends and family may not alway's be there to defend you.
Did the offender know of your disability? I ask because not all are obvious and you didn't say.
Is offender someone who know's you or a stranger?

There are people in the world who are really insensitive and they aren't all that way on purpose. You might want to ask fam/friend's why thay didn't say anything.

If you think the answers to the questions I asked will help me give youo a better answer, drop the answers in my inbox and i'll try again.:)


Are girls scared of erections? I mean if you're making out and they feel one, would they be freaked out? (link)
Some would be I suppose. Not necessarily of the erection but maybe scared of what you may want to do with it! You will have to explain to them maybe that it is normal and that you aren't going to force them into something they aren't comfortable with.:)


Heylo everyone,
i'm going on hols tomorrow (yay) but my lil bro always goes through my stuff!!! i'm gonna be on my period so i dont want him looking through my suitcase like he always does and finding the pads. so where can i hide them? i've had the idea of like rolling them up in my socks but i think they might be too thick or it might damage the pad or curl it up and make it hard to wear? (link)
Ask for mom's advice. See if she has something with a lock on it for you to use, or maybe can get you something.:)




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