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My mum and dad have had one of those 'loveless' relationships and now they have separated but theyre still living together. From what Ive been told my mum only married my dad because she was 31 and wanted to have kids. They were together for ages before they married.
My dad didnt treat my mum that good and when it came to bringing us up he left it down to her. He would never really look after us.
Anyways my mum told me that she started seeing her 'highschool sweetheart'. I dont know if theyre actually together together. I kinda had my suspitions before.
My mum asked if I would like to meet him. I said I didnt know. I told my boyfriend about the situation and he said why did u say that for, you shouldn't see him. My brother said the same thing.
I love both my parents a lot. My mum hasnt been happy for a very long time. Now she seems alot happier and that makes me feel happy. From what Ive heard he's nice guy. But I feel that if I see him or am nice to him then im gonna be kinda betraying my dad who knows nothing about it. Im really confused.
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I think it would be wise for you to <b>not</b> see your mom's high school sweetheart right now. If your father finds out, he may see it as a form of betrayal to him. Your father and mother are still married, so therefor even though they don't act like a couple, legally they are. Since you love both of your parents, you need to explain to your mother that you are happy that she is happy, but you are not comfortable with meeting her partner until her and your father have finalized their seperation and have moved into seperate dwellings.
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If your father betrayed you, that'd would make me want to see my mothers boyfriend more... but that's me.
Don't make things difficult, just go and meet the guy. Don't bother talking to your dad about it, he'll get jealous. You should meet the man that makes your mom so happy. But if you need time to heal, that's fine.
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No, you would not be betraying your dad if you met this man, but perhaps you should have a talk with your mom first. Explain to her how you feel, and maybe you two can agree to tell your dad what is going on, so that you don't feel as though you are betraying him.You can also explain to your dad you love him very much, and still spend an equal amount of time with him as well.
Whatever happens, you should not feel guilty about "betraying" anyone; that should be an issue between your mom and dad.
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No, dear, you are not betraying your dad or your brother. Your mother and father are not together, from what you've said they should never have been together in the first place, although I am glad they created you and your brother. Support your mum, if someone gives you grief over it just tell them that if your dad wants you to meet his new girlfriend, you'll be happy to meet her too. Your mum is moving on with her life and she wants you to be a part of it. It is very important to be open minded about a parent's new love interest. And if she is happy, you should be happy for her. Your brother and father can deal with the changes on theit own. Luck and Love!
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You're NOT going to be betraying your dad - not even your mother is doing that, she doesn't have to tell him anything now that they're divorced. You can always meet this guy on the grounds that you can leave whenever you want to. You can like this guy AND your dad - just like you can have more than one friend. Your father will always be exactly that, your father, and no-one is going to replace him or expect to be able to. You should try and persuade your mother to tell your father what's going on, so you don't feel stuck in the middle - say you'll only meet this new guy if your father is told what's going on. Don't listen to your brother or boyfriend - I see NO reason for you to not meet this guy, and besides, this is all about how YOU feel, not them. If they're good people then they'll support your decision no matter what. If they don't like it, say you're just checking the guy out to make sure that your mother is dating a creep or something.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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The thing is that there are two sides to every story.You have mom's so now you need to get dad's. Even though the whole thing is really between them.
I don't think it's a good idea to meet mom's boyfriend. She just wants someone's approval and I don't think that's your job. Also if you like the guy and she dumps him in a couple of months.... There you go getting hurt again. Better to leave it alone.
No matter what happen's just remember you aren't the one betraying anyone. Don't get stuck in the middle. If you meet this guy then you may also have to lie to your dad about THAT and that wouldn't be cool either.Happier or not your parents aren't divorced yet. So don't let either one of them try and make you take sides. :)
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I dont blame you for being confused. I dont think its betraying your dad..i mean your mom is the one who is having a fling behind his back. Shes happy though..so dont worry about it..its up to your mom to worry about going behind yourdads back. I would feel happy for my mom too if my dad didnt treat her right and she was happy. So i say give him a chance and meet him.. everyone feels different about these kinds of things..but you seem to feel happy for your mom..so why not bmeet the guy whos making her so happy! :) I bet hes a nice guy and would give you kids a lot of attention and love.
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