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ok. I almost lost my home yesterday because of a huge flood. and i was to call my "best friend" on the phone. and this is the conversation.
me: hey
her:hey I heard about the flood
me: yeah, they might not let us back in our houses for 2-3 months.I'm basicly homeless.
her:oh well I have 2 friends over and I don't want to be rude
me: *scoffs* yeah ok bye
her:bye
....there were only two friends of mine that said "hey well if you need a place to live you can come here" if my "friend" was actually my friend why did she blow me off in my time of need?
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maYBE he parents wouldnt understand about you stayin there for a while maybe her life at home isnt that great find out facts before you get to mad at her
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Wow. Wow, wow, wow, wow. If one of my friends EVER did that to me in my time of need I would kick their ass.
She did it because she's an insensative bitch.
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. . . because she had two friends over and didn't want to be rude?
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sounds to me like your "friend" is a little bitchy (no effence or anything) just i guess talk to her or something.. or ignore her if she calls you and be like oh yeah well i have to go or something.. hope i helped
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First of all, I am sorry about your house.
Now there could be more than one reason your friend acted the way she did, so before you make any assumptions it is best that you talk with him/her. If you don't know what to say try one of these:
"Hey, I wanted to let you know when you ignored me yesterday, it really hurt, especially since I am going through some hard times right now."
or
"Hey what was up with you yesterday when I called you with a problem and you didn't even seem to care?"
If you talk to your friend, it will clear things up, and then at least you will know what is going on!
I hope everything with your house & your firend works out okay!
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That is horrible. Ive found that in a time of need..whether its a physical need ..like a place to go..or an emotional need..maybe something happened and your affected emotionally..when your in a time of need you see who your true friends are. I'm confident that if this was me..i would have 4 or more people offer me a place to go..because i have really awesome friends.
Maybe your friend was rude like that because
1.she isnt good with people or comforting them..
2.isnt emotional
3. just a bad friend?
I would be very angry myself..i mean its one thing if she said "im soo sorry..thats horrible! i have to go..but i'll definately call you later"
but that convo? man..this is just me..but i would say to her "what you said on the phone hurt me..gave me the impression you didnt care" because i would want an explanation for that. So if you want one too, talk to her about it.
I hope everything works out with your home..!
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There are three possible reasons:
1) She had no idea what to do.
Maybe she wanted to help you but she didn't know how. Maybe she doesn't have room in her house and she's embarassed. Either way, she was a little lost.
2) She really is a bad friend.
No explanation needed.
3) She's not good in a crisis.
When there's an emergency, some people panic, some call 911, and some pretend it isn't happening. She could be the third option.
The best thing to do is discuss it with her, subtly. Not everyone has room for an extra person in their house, and you can't expect them to. You said you already had two offers, so don't linger over this.
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Thats terrible. I am not sure i would classify them as friends anymore if i were in your shoes. The only excuse i can think of is if for some reason they were not able to invite you to stay with them (like if they had roommates or lived in their parents place). But all of this still does not excuse that phone conversation one bit. Sometimes people have very different definitions of friendship and one tends to find out the hard way (I have been through my share of let downs). Anyway maybe you should use this experience to sort out your real friends from your acquaintances.
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You could be at the same time taking this far. I understand that you wanted her to say sorry, and ask you where you will stay and offer a home for you, but maybe either she was just bored or she really just doesn't care. I guess I think she should have at least showed some sympathy or offer you a shelter. But maybe you could tell her that you felt she didn't care when she was told about you being homeless. Now, shes probably going to say, "don't make a big deal of this." Assure her that you aren't trying to make this a big deal, but you being homeless was definetly a big deal, and you are just confused with her thoughts and actions with you when something has happened. Or you could even ask a friend to ask her about it, but just make sure that this doesn't turn into something huge and causes you guys to stop being friends.
-TheTeenGirl
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