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BOYFRIEND HELP
What would you do if the guy you used to have a crush on that had already moved away, and you didn't think you had feelings for him anymore called your house at 10 pm and asked for you. But you trult thought you didn't have feelings for him because you already had a boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend are in love. I can't stop thinking about what I am going to tell Michael tomorrow(my old crush) when he calls! I don't want to hurt his feelings because my grandma said he was about to cry. I don't want to not pick up because thats mean. There's nothing lft to do but the wrong thing and I don't want to do that either!
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OK, just because you love your boyfriend, doens't mean you can't have feelings for someone else. It's a bit like how you can have more than one friend at once.
Michael could have called you because he wanted to chat - it might not have been anything relationship-related. I think you should tell your boyfriend that Michael called you - be all 'hey, guess who called last night?' - so that you don't feel guilty about talking to him.
Sometimes you have to do what's best for YOU, whether that seems morally right or wrong. Hurting Michael's feelings may be wrong, but it may also be the lesser of two evils, so to speak - hurting his feelings temporarily as opposed to cheating on your boyfriend and hurting both of their feelings for a very long time. Pick up the phone and talk to him - explain that you have a boyfriend if he is asking you out or something, but really...that shouldn't be too much of a problem considering he lives such a long way away. You two couldn't, practically, go out anyway. You have to ask yourself what you would rather do - go out with someone because you pity them and don't want to hurt your feelings, or stay with the guy you love and wonder what could have happened with Michael.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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I see no reason for you not to talk to him.He surely doesn't think you are waiting years for him to come back and visit for a date. That's not realistic. But, no reason not to date more than one guy either.Talk to him, that isn't cheating or anything either. Be friends.:)
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Be honest with him. Tell him you have a bf that you really care about. It is OK to soften the blow by telling him you cared about him but now you have someone else in your life. It is hard, but any story, lie, deception or even just being nice to the point where he thinks you are still interested will only cause him and you more pain later on. It takes courage to be honest sometimes but even though it might hurt him a little now, it saves you both more heartache.
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