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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
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:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
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ok. well their is this guy we went out and i wanted to get something for him for christmas but i dont know what,can u help me with that?
and also im going to a dance and i'm dancing this one guy whos my friend and he asked me and the guy who used to be my bf. what should i do???????????
HELP
Um, so you're going to get your ex a christmas presnet? Okay...hmmm, just bake him his favorite holiday cookies. They love food...haha I love food!!
So you're bff asked you to the dance? Your grammar structuring is confusing.
Anywhos, would you hug him or kiss him? By saying yes, you're giving him hopes of going out with you and if you do go out with him, it will wreck your friendship so if you want to keep it, I advise that you either say no or ephasize to him that you guys are only going as friends.
I'm a junior in hs, and i have really good guy friends. i would never cross the line with my group of friends since it would make everything compilcated and a huge mess, plus i know them too well to like thme in that way, but i met this guy outside the group who's recently started hanging out withthe smae group of guys as me and of course i happene to like him...i avoid football nights, going to games with the group now just so i wouldnt have to be around him...i dont know what to do. everytime we hang out together with the guys...i screw things up. i'm either in the girly mode overdoing the flirting with anyone and eveyone or one of the guys cause i'm overcompensating, and tryin to cover up the fact i like him, or i'm trying to be normal with everyone resulting in my other friends ditching us, trying to be the great wingmans they are...ahh this whole thing is drving me crazy since i'm a really different in diff. situations. its not like i'm not being myself, its just i have different sides to me. when i'm with guys, i'm a guy. once a blue moon when i'm out with girls, i act girly and flirt with guys (that i dont know anyways), i dont want him to think that i dont like him or that i'm just flirting with everyone, but i get super social when i'm awkward.
Wow, I have to say--we're alike. Haha I have one too many guy friends and not enough girl friends and it's hard when you just want to be friends with the guy friends you have just to have your crush join the group of guy friends to complicate things.
Well, this is the major result--guys talk too so if you like him, don't cover it up and don't hold it back. Just flirt with this guy and if he doesn't like you in that way..well that's the kinks in life. But anywhos, flirt just a little with him. Like smile at him, look at him (not in a stalkerish way), ask him to give u a hug or lend u his jacket if it's cold (Hint: it doesn't have to me XD), rest your head on his shoulder and what not. BUt don't go in to "Oh my gosh, so like erm, yeah" mode. haha.
When one of your guy friends say "Ohh you like him: or something like that, don't say "No" because it will get to your crush and it'll just mess it up. So just say "Your point?" or "So what?" or just nonchalantlly reply and make it a vague reply--make sure it doesnt say yes or no.
So you know, we're girls and we have to have crushes00even the most tomboyish ones00 like me =D haha. So chillax. It's alright for your guy friends to suspect it. be cool around them and maybe even suggest this guy to go and watch a movie with you...hey, it's 2006--girls can ask guys out!! HAha good luck!
does any1 have any recommended linkin park songs??
thanks xxx
Runaway, Numb, Crawling, Breaking the Habit, Somewhere I belong....all of their songs are uber awesome and you should basically look at Meteora and Hybrid Theory
The songs are all awesome
there's this guy and he's in 7th grade and i'm in 9th and it's bad to date a guy younger in my culture/religion..and i don't like him or anything but everytime i'm around him my heart pressure goes up and i'm all flirty and everything...i don't know wat to do...like he's cool and were friends but i don't know wat do??
I don't know what your culture/religion is. Heh. Anywhos, I guess it's okay. I mean I have friends that have boyfriends in a grade lower than them.
Maybe you're all flirty because you feel superior being in grade levels higher than him and you feel like he'll go out with you since you're in 9th grade and come on, what 7th grade guy doesn't wanna go out with a 9th grade girl? Haha.
Or maybe you aren't flirting. Since he's younger than you, you think he's cute...in the age difference way--like a little bro and you're just having fun.
But anyways, just stay friends with him because yeah, people are going to get on your nerves if the word that you're going out with a sevie spreads out. It would seem kind of desperate. Just think of him as your little bor, okay?
Good luc k=]
okay well ive been going through a lot. in school, and out. i dont know how to get the stuff in school to stop because i just really dont need it, especially because of what has happened outside of school. well, in school me and my friends dont really talk anymore and i dont know how to getr them to just stop talkin trash and leave me alone because outside of school one of my aunts just died and my grandfather isnt doing well either, and my grandmother isnt either. i really need help on how to end this in school drama. im just sick of it.
Find new friends. They aren't your friends. Just ignore them completely because if you react to their actions, they'll just have mroe fun with talking trash about you. If you ignore them, they'll look like the complete morons and they'll get tired after a while. If they don't stop anytime soon, go to the counslor and you don't do anything bad to them or anything that would backfire on you. They'll surely get in trouble. As for your relatives, be optimistic and pray or hope if you're an athiest ...well anywhos hope that they'll get better because pessimistic thoughts will just result in bad results. So think positive. I know, it sounds corny.
Hope your relatives get better =]
why do I still get pimples even when I wash my face atleast three times a day, use acne stuff called benzaclin and differin, and use acne moistuizer. its not like my acne is really bad or anything, but I have a few zits on my forehead and its annoying because they dont go away quick, and when they do, I just get another zit. What can I do to make it so I have no zits on my face.. is there any wash or like pore clearing facial thing I can do by myself?
Okay, a lot of things can cause you to breka out including excessive washing your face. You're drying it out which causes you to break out more so keep it hydrated with a simple moisturizer like Neutrogena that won't clog pores. Wash it only TWICE a day. I wash my face in the morning with Cetaphil and at night I use a Neutrogena Acne product and Neutrogena Toner and it's working out great for me.
Another thing is you should avoid junk foods that are oily and fatty like choco, mayo, fast foods, pizza, fries, candy, and sweets of any sort. Eat a lot of veggies, fruits, and drink lots of water and green tea. Haha, yes, green tea is uber fantabulous for your whole body in and out.
Also, tkae a shower or at least wash your hair every day and keep it out of your face, don't touch your face, and don't pop them because it will cause your face to break out more and leave scars.
Let me guess, you go to the dermo right? I hated Benzaclin and Differin because they dried/irritated my skin horribly and made it so rough and horrible feeling. So I just stopped going and washed my face with Cetaphil until it was all smoother and softer.
One thing you can do is put green tea on your face. It really helps to keep your pores small and smooth your skin while helping with the acne. Just mix in organic green tea with water, cool it down to room temp, and splash it on your face for a short period of time.
im 14/f. adn i was wondering if its bad that i dont have my period yet. Im pretty developed. Like i have breasts, and hair on my pussy. all of my friends have their periods. and i felt like there was something wrong with me. is it normal??
Some people don't get them until their 18. If you do sports or something very stressful, that would be why. So don't fret. ENJOY it. Seriously...
okay!
My Boyfriend and I just had sex, and he cummed in me! so i freaked out and i didnt know what to do ! So i thought that maybe if i put a tampon in it will suck it up haha ! yeah i know stupid right ? Well do you think it will work or am i most deff. goin to be preg. ? Please help me!?
Um, when you have unprotected sex, there is always a chance of you being pregnant and no tampons won't work. I say go to a clinic right away or if you want to wait it out and see if you're pregnant before spazzing out, take an EPT test in a week then the week after and so on for a month...but I say go to the clinic right now if you don't want to be pregnant.
okay so..this is probably going to be long. sorry!. but anyways umm one day at school i was walking and then this guy was walking with his friend (btw were all in the same grade(11th) as far as i know) so i was walking by them and the guy pushed his friend into me..?( i dont know why) and then again today i was walking to my bus and this other friend of the guy just came up to me and like hugged me, his friend was like im cold then he hugged me.( came out of nowhere, theyre really random) i dont know why i dont even know the guy and his friends. it seems to me that theyre like picking on me =[ and i dont know why. i hate being picked on this has never happened to me or are they just kidding around? but why would they joke around i dont even know their names and who they are. do they seem like theyre picking on me or because one of the guys friend like me or the guy likes me? but i mean i dont know why they would like(crush on me) me im average looking im not pretty and tall. im just average an average looking girl, average height, im quiet, not TOO quiet, people say that im really nice =] i dont know why theyre doing this they dont know me. please help cause i dont know what random thing theyre going to do next. i dont wanna be embarassed i mean i dont wanna tell my parents or my counselor about this cuz it will cause drama and i hate being in dramas. please please help me!! theyre so immature cause were in 11th grade. what do you think. are they picking on me?? i know theyre not teasing me cuz they dont call me names.
Either they're joking around or the one that hugged you likes you.
I know that sometimes me and my friends just push each other around and that causes either one of us to crash into another person which may I add it quite funny.
Then there was this really random guy that hugged me but he was friends with one of my friends so erm yeah. But seems like this guy might like you considering that he hugged you. If they were trying to pick on you, they'd embaress you more.
But really, to have a random guy hug you is kinda weird. and I speak form experience so the next time they come into contact with you, just nochalantly ask "Do I know you?" and just walk away.
Oh yeah, don't stress out about it too much =]
whats a love handle?
Those flabby areas of fat on the sides of the abdomen are often referred to as "love handles." When the fat extends all around the abdomen, it's sometimes called a "spare tire." No matter what you call it, it's fat.
or
"Love handles" is a colloquial or slang term for a layer of fat that is deposited around a person's midsection, especially visible on the sides
13/f
i love to straighten my hair. but then whenever its cold and raing outside, my hair gets all frizzy and curly. it looks like crap. is there anything i can do/use to stop that and still keep my haiir straight even though its raining?
thanksss. =]
Okay, well to first tame the frizz, get an anti frizz shampoo and use Fructis Sleek and Shine Anti Frizz serum.
Okay, so use Frutis products because ti's awesome and it smeels good and ti's really good for taming frizz.
So when your hair is dry, apply the serum onto your hair and comb it through with your fingers. Then apply Garnier Fructis Style onto your hair and straighten it. and that should hold it.
Also if it's raining, pull your hair into a pony tail with a loos scrunchy, put it under a big hoodie and run insdie a building.
Haha but me with naturally straight hair think that people with curly hair is awesome and if they use really crappy straightners or damage their hair too much with straightening it, it looks kinda weird because it seems like your hair moves in chunks instead of flowing. So don't over straighten your hair (like don't striaghten it everyday) Give your hair some rest by keep it curly and conditioned with enough moisture.
Good luck =]
Okay I'm 14 years old..I have this really good guy friend and we were talking on the phone one night and i was like yea im going to the mall next weekend and hes like ohh i live on the way to that mall you should pick me up and i was like okay and i thought it would be fun and not ackward because we were just friends at the time..well now were going out and we are still planning on going. Since im only 14 obviously my mom is driving me hehe..and so yea im scared that the ride there is going to be really super ackward..any ways to make it not so ackward because the mall is like 1/2 hour away..thanks so much!! HeArT yA!!
Get some music that you both enjoy and just sing like a bunch of idiots or ranmble about what happened in school and whatever and advise your bf that it might be awkward. And tell your mom not to interrogate him!
I just started a new school this year,and I started dressing "preppy"/casual, and made lots of new friends with my outgoing personality and all. Well, on the other hand, my best friend (from a different school) is into the goth/emo scene, and for a little while a few months ago I was too. Now I'm back into it again, and when I changed my myspace to totally death-looking emo pics and changed my pop music to death metal, I'm getting so many more responses than I thought. And from the "preppy" people, they're not liking it too much and keep asking what's wrong with me and asking 'what happened?!'-and my other friends, including my best, love it. I want to start dressing that way, but I'm way too afraid of what the student population thinks of me. Any suggestions on what I should do about this whole thing?
Hey, it's your life and your body. Do whatever you want with it. But you're still going to be the same you. If your friend don't like you anymore, then regard it as them only liking you for what you wear and not who you are. Just be whatever you want to be and don't let anyone be a hindrance to it.
If peole ask what happened and such none sense, ask them what's wrong with the way I am? And if people criticize you, say "Well, I'm not the one liking people for what they wear." and point out to them that you're still the same person inside and that what you wear is your choice. Or just get a new group of friends who will respect your choices and not put you down.
I'm going through the same thing. I guess I was in the emo/punk scene for 3 years and I changed my look to punkish/casual/classy thing. Then my friend was like why are you dressing like that? And started to criticize me and I found new friends and it works out a whole lot better.
15/f. okay so i really like this guy and i can't tell if he likes me. because sometimes it seems like he is really flirting with me but then sometimes he does the same to other girls. for example my school is doing a play and Tim asked me if i was going to do it. i told him no i don't think so and he was like "noooo! come on you should do it!" then he said stuff like we can hang out every afternoon! and it will be fun i promise! so i finally agreed to go to the meeting and he was very excited. i thought that this was so sweet and that he just did this because he wanted to spend more time with me. but then i found out that he also convinced another girl to do the play too. i know for a fact that he doesn't like this other girl any more than a friend. so does this mean that is just how he thinks of me also?
and again last night we were talking on AIM and he IMed me saying that his other friend who is a girl told himt that she heard a rumor that me and tim were dating! and tim told me about this and we kinda joked about it and wondered who started this.
what can i do to make sure he really does like me? and how can i make sure that he knows that i like him too without actually telling him that?
One word. FLIRT. haha. just hug him at random times saying you're having a bad day or when you guys are going down the hall say you're cold and link arms with him or make it an excuse to have him ledn you his jacket. Bet that he can't pick you up for $5 so that he will pick you up (Ha, this worked for me!)
At the play meeting, sit next to him and lean on him and rest your head on his shoulder or just put your legs on his playfully (and if he doesn't like it, DONT)
Invite him to go see movies with you and your friends or go to bowl or whatever and in the end, ask him if he wants to see a movie with you --alone
14/f
Okay, well, I have two firends, let's call them Peggy and Patty (haha idk). And anwyays, we've been pretty close, you know having sleepovers and what not. Well, Peggy and Patty have been very close for pretty much their whole lifes. It was about like,maybe two years ago, when I became close to BOTH of them, when all 3 of us started hanging out. We went to Washington DC for a class trip, and they were int he room with me. I've bene friends wth Peggy for 5 years now. Well, anwyays, lately, since they do basketball together, and even before b-bal season started,they've been having sooo many sleepovers just about everyday, going places together, etc. IT's like they're glued to eachtoher. THey claim that they dn't invite me because they 'dont think my parents will let me'. Now, my parents are prety strict, and sometimes are weird and won't let me go places just because. I'm feeling so left out, and I'm a jealous person in the first place. I don't have any other close firends other than them..so I don't knwo what to do...PLEASE HELP :(
Being in a group of odd number of people is always hard to get along to. Since they're pretty close, tell them that you're feeling a little left out sometimes.
But you have to understand that at your age, everyone's moving on with their friends so Peggy might just be moving on. Why don't you invite Peggy over to your house and talk about the first time you guys met together or even recreate the event in which you guys met. It's a really neat idea. Invite Peggy over for sleepovers and remind her of the good friendship you guys have. Then invite Patty seperately and get to know her better. Just invite them to seperate sleepovers and get to know them both. Show what a terrific friend you are. And for your explanation as to only one of them was invited -- your parents would only let you invite only one person over
Yeah, and if that doesn't work out, make new friends. You three aren't going to be friends for life so why not make other friends in case? Use this time to go out and make new friends. It's not that hard so good luck!
Naturally, my hair is kind of curly. Not completely, just a little. Anyways, I have a Corioliss Straightener (it's 100% ceramic), and I'm not getting hte results that I want. The other day, I spent a good hour striaghtening my hair, and since it was raining outside a bit, it got all curly and looked like total crap. I want it to be pin straight. Any ideas would be appreciated, thanks.
Why don't you use Frutice Friz control thing. It's in a small circular bottle and it's clear. I don't know the exact name of it. But when your hair is dry, comb the liquid through your hair and then straighten it and apply a little mousse [sp?] to it. Or if it's a rainy day, tie it back, put a hoodie on and stay away from outside
i have alot more friends then i have guy friends. i have like only 2 guy friends and we're not even that close and like 50 friends. i feel like all nervous around guys, especially if i think they're cute :] but does anyone know how to not be nervous around them cause like i wanna be friends with more guys. thanks!
Hmmm...exact opposite. I just get along much better with guys because I know that there's going to me a lot less drama and I'm just a tomboy.
Talk to the guys in your class. Don't be grossed otu at every single thing they saay or do. Just laugh it off or just roll your eyes in a playful way. Think of them as one of your girl friends but just don't start the whole make up business or the femal anatomy. Talk to them about that new TV show or a sports game or whatever. Just talk to them, have a good self confidence level and you're good to go. There is really no way to train a girl to be friends with guys and they have to just get themselves comfortable around guys. I have a lot of guy friends because of my personality and sometimes I even get nervous around guys that I really like. But in the end, you just have to be yourself, have some fun and that will help you get guy friends I guess.
I love my cat a lot. I spoil her. I spend so much money on her, including on food, treats, toys, and little cat furniture (like beds and such). But almost every time I feed my cat food, she eats a little of it, then starts kicking the bowl with her front paw, and scratching the carpet, trying to cover up the bowl (even trying to put stuff in it like a sock that was next to it, or her toys). I have no idea why she is doing this! I sometimes tried to stop her, but in a way I also think she has a good reason for doing it.. so I am not sure if I should anyway. What is my cat doing?? And what should I do?? Thanks in advance!
there are 2 reasons that I can think of.
My dog scratched the bowl with his paw because he didn't want to eat out of it. When me or my mom would put the foodon the ground or in our hands and feed it to him that way, he'd eat it.
Another reason would be that your cat doesn't like that brand of food or the flavor of the food that you get her. My mom had to try several foods in order to find one that suited my dog. So try to buy small different flavors and different brands.
before answering,this question is not based on personality,so please don't answer..."if he has a nice personality"
i know this may seem like a wierd question,but i'm just curious,so thanks for taking the time.
do girls like classical or rock musicians?
and i'm confused,cause i hear girls say that they love musicians,but
1)is it based on skill.exp:the better the guitaring is.the more the girl likes the guy?
does skill affect?or do girls just don't care if he is a sucky guitarist or a pro,they will still like the guitarist as long as he plays guitar??
2)is it also based on looks,?or do girls love great drummers and vocals even through they don't look good? so which one would a girl choose? a kickass drummer with average looks or a sucky drummer with model looks?
thanks for answering,anyways,if you girls like any other type of guys besides musicians....like bikers,car racers or skaters...just feel free to say what talent you would love in a guy.although i hear that most girls are not really into guys that race,but more to guys that are musically or sports inclined,it that true???(this question is not based on looks or personality)
thanks a lot for reading.
Okay, me being a girl..
I haveto agree that most girls fall for guys who are in rock bands rather than marching band or strings or what not. Girls at my school loves guys who can play a guitar, bass, drum, or jsut sing as long as they have the certain type of style like the emo hair style thing without the emo style clothes if you get what I'm saying. PErsonally..me being in strings, I like guys in the band (like marching band) that play major roles like a drum major (conductors of the hwole thing). Most girls don't actually. Heh. Other girls prefer sporty, fun but mature guys and others prefer bad guys like skaters that always gets in trouble for stupid pranks but not major ones. I know that girls don't really like druggies. Sooo basically nowadays people at my school fall for guys who are in a good band (even if they can't play for their lives), skates, gets in minor troubles for stupid pranks, sporty and fun but mature, and basically for just being out there and is really confident but not cocky.
well in my school there is a lot of immature guys there and guys who don't want to talk to me or won't even say hi. how do i get a guy??
plz help me
Um, not the best question asked with insufficient questions but whatever.
MAybe you're looking at wrong guys. I'm sure that there are more than one type of guys. Infact there are several types of guys and you should get aquainted with every one of them. Not all guys are immature and some are fun to hang out with and I only say this because I have one too many guy friends. Just be friendly to them. Don't snap at them or dress like a slut. Don't try to draw so much attention to yourself like screaming, laughing really loudly, jumping up and down, etc. Have self confidence in yourself and if they won't talk to you, their loss. You don't need to linger on them. Move on to new set of guys and if they're friednly, stick with them while looking around for more.
Key thing is for you to just go with the flow with them. If they're getting perverted, don't snap at them. Just laugh and roll you eyes in a joking way once in a while. Be comfortable with yourself so you don't put on an act around each guy. There are many guys in each school and not all of them are immature and rude so just keep on looking and you'll find a guy.
Good luck =]