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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also.

I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.

If you have a question that you would like to keep private, you can email me and I'll get back to you as soon as possible.

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Anyone know any good ones? Not just googled but nice recipies that have worked for you?

I'm not a big fan of vegetables so I rarely eat stir-fry or if I do I adapt the recipe to include vegetables I do like. This recipe I found online but substitued different vegetables. It tastes great the way I prepare it and I'm sure it does so also prepared in the original recipe. I copied the original recipe for you to try.

INGREDIENTS
-1 pound boneless, skinless chicken breasts, cut into 1-inch cubes
-1 teaspoon sugar
-1/2 teaspoon red pepper flakes
-1/2 teaspoon ground Szechwan pepper
-Wide rice-stick noodles
-1 teaspoon sesame oil
-2 cloves garlic, minced
-1 tablespoon minced gingerroot
-1/4 cup sliced thinly green onions
-3/4 cup chicken stock
-3 tablespoons soy sauce, or more to taste
-2 tablespoons hoisin sauce
-1 tablespoon cornstarch
-2 tablespoons dry sherry
-3 tablespoons peanut or vegetable oil
-1/2 cup chopped yellow onions
-1 carrot, thinly sliced
-1/2 red bell pepper, cut into 1-inch pieces
-1 small zucchini, cut in 1/2 lengthwise then into 1-inch pieces
-1 stalk celery, cut into 1/2-inch slices
-1 bunch baby bok choy, bottoms trimmed, rinsed well, and cut on the diagonal
-3 ounces shiitake or button mushrooms, thinly sliced
-1/2 cup roasted chopped cashews
-1/2 cup mung bean sprouts
-2 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro

PREPARATION
In a bowl, toss the chicken with the sugar, red pepper flakes, and Szechwan pepper. Let sit.
To make the rice noodles, place 1/4 pound of rice stick noodles in a bowl, cover with boiling water and let stand until softened. Drain, cover, and set aside until ready to serve.

To make the seasoning blend, in a blender or small food processor, combine the sesame oil, garlic cloves, ginger, and 2 tablespoons of the green onions, and puree on high speed.

To make the cooking sauce, in a small bowl, combine the chicken stock, soy and hoisin sauces. In another small bowl, dissolve the cornstarch in the sherry. Set aside.

Heat 2 tablespoons of the peanut oil to smoking in a wok or very large skillet over high heat. Add the pureed seasoning blend and cook for 15 seconds. Add chicken and stir-fry until mostly opaque, but not cooked through all the way, about 2 minutes. Remove to a plate. Add the remaining tablespoon of oil, then the onions, carrots, bell pepper, zucchini, and celery, and cook, stir-frying for 30 seconds. Add the bok choy and mushrooms and cook for 1 minute. Add the reserved cooking sauce and return the chicken to the wok. Stir and toss until the sauce glazes the food and the chicken is cooked through, about 2 minutes. Remove from the heat and whisk in the cornstarch mixture. Return to the heat and return to a boil. Cook, stirring, until thickened, about 1 minute.

Remove from the heat and stir in the remaining 2 tablespoons of green onions, the cashews, bean sprouts, and cilantro. Adjust seasoning to taste, with additional soy sauce, if desired.

Serve immediately over blanched rice noodles.

Hope you enjoy.


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what do you do when your friends don't like your boyfriend? please help me!!!!!!!

Why don't they like your boyfriend? Do they see something that you're not seeing? Talk to your friends and find out the reason why they don't like him. If their reasons don't convince you, simply tell them that while you appreciate their concern, it is your life.

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On April 2ed I got my ears pierced for a second time (second holes) well they still haven't healed yet. The girl said when she was done 6 weeks but its been about 4 months. My first holes healed kinda slow too but not this slow. Do you think there is something wrong? Or maybe there is a way to speed it up.
P.S. I didn't use any solution to clean it after I got it done other than peroxide it every few days, if that helps.

Try using Neosporin or another antibiotic cream. Do you turn the earrings daily? My ears tend to heal slowly when I get them pierced but I've found not using peroxide (It seems to dry them out.), making sure to use antibiotic cream, and turning the earring several times daily all help them heal faster.

After 4 months, they should be healed so you might want to get them checked.

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really weird problem - really need help. been with my bf for about 10 weeks.. everything is fine except the kissing. ever since we started going out hes know i've got a problem with it - i don't even know what it is myself but I just hate it! im really nervous and want to kiss him but... don't... at the same time! i get really worked up over it... once he got annoyed but he tries to be understanding... i really want to talk about it but what is there to say? what should i do??

It's better to wait until you're comfortable with it before trying kissing. Just tell your boyfriend that for now kissing isn't really your thing and ask tell him you'd prefer waiting until you're ready. If he's a good guy, and it seems he is since you said he's trying to be understanding, he'll wait until you're ready and not push the issue.

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i like this girl but she is one year younger than me and she is just my friend what should i do

Age has nothing to do with how you feel about someone. Go ahead and ask her out on a date. It's possible she likes you too and is just waiting for you to make the first move.

Good luck.

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I want to get my boyfriend a gift thing when i go on vacation but i dont know what to get him. Anyone have any suggestions... by the way im going to the southern carribean, (aruba, barbados, puerto rico, dominca)

Maybe a funky picture frame with a pic of you on the beach.

Don't forget to send him a note or card while on vacation so he knows you're thinking of him.

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i want to get a digital camera. Im 14 and I dont need it for taking pics. of the world or anything like that. Just of my friends, vacations etc. What number of mega pixels should i get? Anyone have a good digital camera they really like? let me know. thanks!

My father-in-law has a Konica Minolta DiMAGE E323 Digital Camera. He uses it for taking pictures of family get-togethers and different scenery they see on trips. It's fairly small, small enough to put in your pocket. It's 3.2 megapixel, has optional zoom, has autofocus, allows you to change the size of your pics, has built-in flash, and can even be used to record short video clips. With a 128 mb memory card, it holds about 48 high resolution pics and around 1164 low resolution pics. It runs $126-199.

The quality of pics with this camera is great. We used it for our wedding pictures.

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im in desperate need of AIM for my axim x50v. ill rate HIGH. PLEASE!!!!!!!

Unless you're running a different operating system than Windows, you should be able to use the typical download. Just go to the site below and click download now.
http://www.aim.com/

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well me and my boyfriend had sex and that night i was bleeding really bad and it wouldnt stop. i had to tell my dad i had my period because the blood got all in my sheets. is that normal because i dont think it is because it didnt happen to any of my friends. what happened. why did that happen?

I'm assuming you lost your virginity and that's where the blood came from. It's is normal to bleed some but if the flow is heavy and doesn't stop within an hour or so, I would go to the doctor to get checked out.

Virgins have a small piece of tissue in their vaginas that protects it. When this tissue is broken when you have sex, it sometimes bleeds or causes a little pain.

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my best friend said shes gunna run away tomorrow. i said i'd always be there for her and i will. im planning on keeping her at my house and she said she wants to go to her boyfriends house some of the days. and thats fine with me. should i let her for a little while? or should i just say no u cannot come to my house. well...i kinda believe her but she kinda doesnt do what she says shes gunna do. soo what do I do?!
will rate 5's

Simply remind her that you're there for her if she needs you and leave it at that. Hiding her at your house, while a very generous offer, may end up getting you in trouble so I would think about it before saying yes come on over.

You might take a look at the following link. It has information on runaways and offers crisis intervention. You can give the number to your friend. It's toll free and completely confidential. 1-800-RUNAWAY.

http://www.nrscrisisline.org/kids_help.asp

I hope this helps.

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does limewire & bearshare give you viruses??

Any downloading program can give you a virus. Some people seem to find it fun to attach viruses to the files. These viruses are often hidden in seemingly innocent files.

To protect yourself, do not download any programs (files that end in .exe) or if you do, make sure to scan them with your anti-virus before opening.

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does anyone know when the new tony yayo cd is coming out?

It's supposed to be released August 30th from what I've saw online.

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does anyone know how to make really good smokey eyes like how they have it in the magazines and stuff?

Using varying shades of the same color (usually three) and smudging the eye shadow with your finger are the key. Blues, greys, browns and greens usually work best but you can use whatever color you choose.

Start with the lightest shade and highlight to your brow, then take the middle shade and apply to the ridge of your eye socket. Apply the darkest shade to your eyelid. With your fingertip gently smear the shadow out away from your inner eye. Line upper and lower lid with the darkest shade. Mascara in a separating, curling formula will finish the look.

I hope this helps.

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ok for some reason on my xanga site everytime i write the word a** it changes into a link (a pron link) i dont know why it does it i delete the site and it goes back.. and then in another entry i wrote the word movie and it changed into a theater link and i dont know why this is happening.. does anyone know if it is from my computer or is because of my layout or what can i do to stop it.. someone please help me!! thanks

It sounds like you either have a virus or some spyware. Run a full system scan with your anti-virus. Follow up by running a scan with Spybot(www.safer-networking.org/en/index.html) and then running a scan with Ad Aware (www.download.com/3000-2144-10045910.html). If it finds any infection with these programs, it will offer you the option of repairing them. Both programs are free.

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Ok, I apoligize in advance if this is really long.

But, i have this friend. We've been really close since elementary school. I really enjoy spending time with her. But when the topic about money comes up, it just makes me ache inside. I don't show it. Okay, so my family doesn't have the kind of money like her family does. Most of the time she just shoves it in my face, i don't really know if she does it on purpose or it just comes naturally.. but it's really starting to make me extremley upset. For example, we're supposed to hang out, and then shes going shopping. I sort of had the option to go with her, but i don't have any money to buy anything. And truth be told, i don't want to watch her shop, that makes it worse. I just want her to realize that theres more things to do than shop & spend money. She has everything i've always wanted. I don't know how to explain this to her, nor i don't even know what to say to her. Any advice on what i should say? Or what i should do?

Thanks Much.

Sincerley, Unhappy.

Just tell your friend that your current financial status makes it difficult to do things such as shopping and let her know that talking about money makes you uncomfortable. A true friend will back off the issue rather than make you uncomfortable.

Try finding activities that you can do together without costing a lot of money. Pool your money together once a week to rent a movie and have a girl's night. Pop some popcorn, watch a "girl movie", and gossip about guys all night long.

See if she likes some of your clothes and if she does, maybe set up a weekly swap of one item.

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I've never had a boyfriend and I'm 15. I know that it's ok and that I don't need a boyfriend to make me happy, but I really want one. I see how happy my friends are with their relationships and I just want to feel that special feeling, you know? I don't wanna sound conceited but i don't think looks are the main problem. My friends tell me that I'm not flirtatious and outgoing like them. Its just that I feel awkward being flirtatious and always question myself like omg he doesnt like me and stuff. How do I become more flirtatious and outgoing to get a boyfriend? thanks so much

First off, you doing something you're not comfortable with (flirting, etc) will show. Not all guys want a flirty woman, or that's what my husband said when I asked him to get a guy's opinion.

Look around to find a guy that you really think would be compatible with you. Try to find a common interest so you'll have something to talk about with him. Write down what you might say so you can collect your thoughts. That way you're not stuck wondering what to say.

When you talk to a guy, lean in a little. Body language often lets people know how you feel without you saying it. You leaning in says I'm interested in you or what you're saying. Keep eye contact. Don't stare 24/7 but when your eyes meet, hold the look for a minute before looking away. Looking someone in the eye shows confidence. Making similar gestures from time to time (If he puts his hand on his hip, you do also.) shows attraction.

Being curious about him and asking questions shows you're interested in him and want to know more. Touching him occasionally will also show interest.

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I have been on my period for a year and a half. And my boobs are still pretty small. Does anyone have any idea when they think my boobs will actually start growing? cuz i need to kno. If you are helpful. I will RATE YOU HIGH! PROMISE!!!!!

Some women just naturally have smaller boobs. I know the general conception is that guys like big boobs, but I've actually found that some prefer the smaller ones. I've been in the situation before of being told mine were too big. You can imagine my surprise.

You didn't give your age but I'm assuming you're in your early teens. I wouldn't worry too much about your boobs. Your body is still developing and your breasts just may be a little behind.

There are some supplements on the market that are supposed to make your boobs grow but I've found they're often expensive and don't work quite as well, if any, as advertised. I have a friend who spent $300 on some pills to make her A cups bigger only to have them stay the same size.

For now, until you know whether or not you're going to hit a growth spurt, I would try a push-up bra or a lightly padded bra. They will help lift and shape your chest. Exercises that tone the chest muscle may also help the area look a little bigger. This site has a few chest exercises that you might try.
http://www.womenfitness.net/programs/strength/exercises.htm#CHEST

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okay i'm going out with this one guy and he's got a lot of friends but i guess i never knew how many people didn't really like him but then i went out with him a time before too and he's like the best boyfriend you could ever ask for i mean he likes me for who i am and stuff and a lot of the other guys that like me just want me because i'm "hot" but whatever..and like there's 4 guys that just piss me off because they like me (not to be conceited or anything) but they just get mad at me because i'm going out with him and they want to beat him up because he's going out with me..and i don't even like the guys that like me besides my boyfriend..so if they beat him up i'd like them less anyways..i don't know why they want to beat them up and i always have to stick up for my boyfriend (i mean i want to lol) but what do i say to them to not beat him up?! please help me!! =( i'll rate high if its a good answer!!

Tell them that their "he-man" tactics will only make you like them less. If they're truly interested, they'll quickly change their ways when they realize that beating up your boyfriend or even threatening to isn't going to help their cause any. You may still have to deal with them liking you, but at least they'll try nicer tactics and you won't have to deal with protecting your boyfriend from them.

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ok well theres this boy and me and him have been messin around basically for a year. We went out and i lost my virginity to him but then later on down the road it didnt work out. I still love him ALOT and we still chill all the time but i want to be more then just friends with him..idk what to do. I mean he tells me that we need to chill more and stuff but im wondering if its just to get something, or if he really wants to chill...please help!

The only way to find out is to tell him before-hand that there will be no more sex for a while. If he seriously wants to be with you, sex will not be a requirement.

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my g/f gets angry sometimes about little dumb things like what movie we go see and she gets real angry and abusive.she likes to throw things and hit me but i dont hit her back i just hold her until she cools off.but it gets tiring and sometimes it hurts.but i dont want to break up with her because i love her.what should i do?

It seems like your girlfriend has some anger issues. Sit down and talk to your girlfriend about her anger and what it's doing to your relationship. Try not to sound accusing since this might set her off again. Just tell her you're concerned about her and you don't want to see your relationship end over something that can be fixed.

If she agrees that she has a problem, be supportive of her and help her find healthy outlets for anger (exercise, writing, etc). If she doesn't think she has a problem, then you have to make a choice of whether you can put up with her anger and abuse for the sake of your love.

Another option is to talk to your girlfriend's parents so they can help her get help either through counseling or anger management classes.

The following links are for sites that explain anger and techniques to help control it. I would suggest reading it so you can get an idea of what's going on with your girlfriend as well as come up with some ideas of how to help her. The second site does offer to sell books and tapes on anger, but it also provides free information as well as a message board on anger management.

http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/anger.html
http://www.angermgmt.com/measure.html
http://www.anger-management-techniques.org/
http://stress.about.com/od/anger/

I hope this helps you.

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