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MY friend is nice, but everyone talks shit about her, it's so aggreivating to listen to people talk about her in study hall. It's awful. I've said stuff to them before, but that jsut makes them talk about her more. I want to tell her, because she has a right to know, and last time I mentioned someone said something she kind of wanted to know what they said. When I did tell her, she started crying and was upset. People who make my friends cry.....they make me get all....dSFHSZXFNDFN. What should I do? Tell her when people talk about her, or keep quiet and tell her no one is? (link)
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I think maybe it would be best not to say anything. It is terrible that some people have nothing better to do with their time isn't it?
The thing is, if you told her it would only hurt her feelings...no sense in doing that. Don't lie to her if she brings it up, just don't go out of your way to let her know.
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After reading this, I know that I will get a few comments telling me that my younger sisters' life is like Tracey's life in the movie Thirteen.
I want to give background by saying that I am now 14, and my sister is 13. When I was 12, I was really in love with guys, and I had a boyfriend and stuck with him, but I did only hang out with about 2 or 3 guys, but I was young, when there was no kissing, or raging hormones. I had my first peck on the lips with my boyfriend, but went no further because I was way too young.
When I reached 13, and my sister was 12, I noticed that her behavior with boys was much different than mine. She had got a boyfriend that had gotten high all the time and was nasty.
Now, my dad didn't like this at all, but he had no control over it because of his divorce with my mom, so after he was gone, our family lost its control.
After a while, she stopped dating the guy and dated this new guy she met, I knew nothing about him. But soon, I found out that she had made out with him already. 12 year old girl. Soon, we began to see where the influence was coming from, one her friends she met, a girl that had a nasty behavior with guys.
My mom didn't seem to want to stop this, she was busy living her own life, as I was angry, and telling her how horrible shes been towards her kids, my dad was on her case about it too.
My sister has the worst attitude ever, always telling my mom to shut up and ordering her around. I didn't take her crap, if she dared to order me around, I'd just tell her to shove it, of course my mom would defend her.
Shes now 13, and my mom knows that shes tried her first cigarette. She spreads rumors, lies and has caused so much pain in our family.
So, I guess what I'm trying to ask is, that nobody wants to see their younger sister spend her life this way, my mom is still doing nothing about this, my dad still has no control, and I want something done about it. Would anyone know a possible way that I could fix this, or should I watch her pay the price of her own actions?
[NOTE: I can't talk to my mom, nobody could even guess how many battles of just trying to talk to her I've been with her, and there must be more shes doing because a friend told me that theres a lot of things shes been doing that I don't know about, I've asked her and she won't tell me.]
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I think you should talk to your dad about it. He can go to court and fight for custody. I think the fact that he has a daughter who is being allowed to run amok would be cause enough to get custody. Even though it would mean making your mom look bad (that may be why he hasn't done it so far). You need to let him know that some things you have to fight for even if it hurts others. I wish you luck. :)
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Well, there's this girl at school named Garrison. I can't keep her out of MY FREAKING HEAD! I was sleepless for two fucking nights just thinking about her face, and I can't stand it. I want to ask her out, but I'm too nervous. Please help. (link)
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Lets see. You'll really just have to muster up the courage to go and talk to her. She has a neat name. That's a subject you might talk about. Ask her if shes named after someone or something like that. Then if she doesn't get snotty with you or anything I think it will be safe for you to ask her out. Good luck. :)
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Me and my bf have been going out 4 three months he just found out something bad about a family member and its been making him really angry. I understand how he feels but he takes all of his anger out on me! Last nite he was being such a jerk we almost broke up he tells me he loves me all the time but idk if its true. im only 14 but how can i talk to him without bringing up anything thats going to hurt him? (link)
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First of all you have to tell him how you feel about him taking it out on you. Have you noticed that people tend to treat strangers better than those they love? I think its because they know those that love them won't desert them even if they are rude. That doesn't make it right...but that's how it goes a lot of the time. So, if he says he loves you believe it. Just let him talk to you about his problems, but let him know that you don't want it taken out on you. Hopefully it will all blow over pretty soon.
You talk to him as you always have. I don't think you can say anything to hurt him. If so then let him talk it out. :)
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It was my birthday and all on May 17 and that's when this guy I used to like started paying attention to me again. We would sometimes look but that would be once or twice a week. Since my birthday, I've recieved more than eight looks from this guy. Well, anyway I told myself that I should move onto another guy because I deserve love and he's not the right one to give it to me. I mean he flirts with other girls in front of my face. I also acknowledged some things that I have been in denial about. Why has he waited to now to pay me any attention? IS IT MIND GAMES? Or is he being serious. Spring Fling is tomorrow. (link)
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You can only find out how he feels if you talk to him and find out. If your absolutely sure he isn't the one for you though, don't waste your time getting hurt. :)
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ok, im really streesed alright i dont knwo whats wrong with me i mean guys like me but i never liek them back.. and like there this guy kyle ive liked and i stop when i see him but i get this mad feeling some what when hes flirting with thiso ne girl and i need a boy or somthing my friend destiny got hers n im jelious i want one! omg its dumb what is my problem (link)
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Not dumb. If you like Kyle go talk to him and get his attention before someone else gets him first. If he don't work out then find another one. There are lots of nice guys out there you just need to talk to them and get to know them. Sooner or later one of them is going to want to date you. Hopefully one you like a lot! :)
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I have a friend, David, and i like him more than a friend. Well, in design and technology, i asked my other friend Laura, why guys like me, and she said, ask a guy. So i asked David and he goes "Ummm...you wouldnt want to know...you will get embarrassed". But i kept asking him to tell me and he goes "No". Then he told one of my friends about what I asked him, and she said "Are you sure theyre looking at your face?" and David goes "Yeah, are you sure theyre looking at your face?" and he keeps using my friend as an excuse. But i know that there is something else. Is it possible that he likes me more than a friend? (link)
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I take it you must have nice breasts. Guys love them for some strange reason. I don't know if he likes you or not, you'll have to ask him that. At least you don't have to worry about how to get their attention! They probably didn't know how to tell you without embarrassing themselves. I think you should talk to David and find out what he feels. :)
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Ok, when I was 8 both my parents died in a car crash. I've been in and out of foster homes ever since. Most of them were assholes and abusive and then the last family I was with, before this one, just took off in the middle of the night and left me there. I took care of myself for about 3 months before someone found finally found me. when they finally found me I weighed 65lbs. and they said I was lucky to be a live. Now I wish I had just died then. That was when I was 10. I spent 2 years recovering and then I was put in another home. I ran away from there because they were assholes who enjoyed watching people get hurt. I'm now 15 and I'm not sure of anything anymore. I can't get close to people. I'm afraid to keep living. I really just want to give up. I've had thoughts of suicide before but never like this. I feel like there is nothing left. The people I'm with now are just like all the rest and I can't do it anymore. I don't want to keep living like this. I don't want to keep living at all. But I'm scared to go through with it I'm so confused and afraid and screwed up I don't know to do about anything.
My question is does anyone know how I can make things better? I've tried drugs, drinking, cutting, burning anything to take away all the confusion and nothing helps. If anyone has any ideas of how I can make things please let me know I really need help. I don't know what to do anymore. All I can think of is suicide and I know that's wrong but I'm just lost right now. Please if anyone has any ideas of how i can make things better help me. (link)
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You certainly don't want to kill yourself. Things will get better. Sounds like you have had a rough time of it. You need to talk to the foster care people and tell them how you are feeling. They should be able to get you some counselling. Do they hook you up with a social worker to talk to? If so, keep him/her up to date on how you are being treated. If they don't have one for you then call social services yourself and complain if they give you major problems. Or tell a teacher. Don't give up. Get tough and fight back. :)
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me and my boyfriend recently broke up and my other guy friend says that the best way to "get over" a relationship is to rebound date. personally i don't think that's right because its leading the other person on, making them think that you like them when all you are doing is making the ex jealous or making yourself think about the ex. then my other guy friend (the one from above) calls me up and asks if i want to do something this weekend, and i say yeah because he is my friend. but later on during our conversation, he suddenly whispers really fast that i should go for the rebound dating. i know what he wants, but do you think that rebound dating is the best way to "get over" a previous relationship? thanks in advance.
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You aren't necessarily using the person. Well, kinda but not in a bad way. A rebound is just getting right back into dating immediatley after breaking up with someone. You could easily Date that person for a long time. It's sort of like when you fall off a horse you get right back on. Does that make sense? :)
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i have been going out w/ this dude for about 2-3 weeks.. he is REALLY REALLY into me.. but im not that into him.. i just went out w/ him so he wud stop bein soo sad.. and mad.. i wanna break up w/ him..but all his friends (that r gurls, which is ALOT!)said they wud jump me.. im sure they wud to..b/c he's really popular.. and he has ALOT of ppl on his side!! wut shud i do?? shud i break up w/ him? and how? or shud i not break up w/ him??
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You just tell him it isn't working out. Don't ever be pressured into dating anyone. If anyone threatens you tell you parents and teachers. :)
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okay i dont know how to put this but how do i bring up to my boyfriend that i want to make out with him besides just saying wanna make out? like i dont wanna pressure him into it but i dont wanna move so slow and it seems like he wants to..please help (link)
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I haven't heard of to many boys who aren't in to making out. Maybe he isn't ready yet. When he is you'll know it. Give him time. :)
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i have been dating my boyfriend for 9 years. we are going to get married in july. i went to visit my brother at camp pendleton and i met one of his friends. we really were into each other. nothing happened sexually but we both wanted it to happen. now i can't stop thinking about him and my brother says that he keeps asking about me. i have n o sexual intrest in my boyfriend anymore. but i felt this way before i met this guy. he cheated on me three times. he hasn't done anything in the past 3 1/2 years. but i don't feel anything towards him. what should i do??? (link)
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If you don't have any sexual interest in the guy it wouldn't be fair to either of you if you got married. You both deserve someone who you love in all ways. Break it off with the boyfriend if you don't love him. Then, your free to date whoever you want to date. :)
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Hi, this is a continuation from the overbearing parents question.
First, no, I'm not a religious person. Before I met him I was content to never go to church, and to be perfectly honest, I don't know whether or not I believe in god. This was the first thing that caused problems for us, and he did not want to date me at first, until he got to know me more. He knows how I feel about religion, and knows that I might not ever believe... it does not take over his entire life, but he was raised in a very old fashioned kind of way-no sex before marriage, always holding doors open for me, and other stuff that I can't think of right now :)
He also knows that I don't agree in no sex before marriage, because I believe that you need to know that your compatable with someone in EVERY aspect of your lives before commiting yourself to them for your entire life. We've talked about all of this stuff, and settled on it for now.
The only thing we haven't talked about is the family thing. I can see this being a very touchy subject, and, really, we haven't been dating very long (only a few months)
As for the house thing, he's saving for the down payment. He really does have everything set for that- his sister in law is a realtor, and his mother works with people who have him hooked up with good people to get him financing and all that good junk. And, if he can't afford to buy, he is going to be renting, at least by the end of summer.
I can definatly see him going to his parents when it comes to decisions, especially who he marries. This scares me because I really am not a very "pure" person. I have no idea what they think of me really, his father said I seem sweet, but that doesn't mean a whole lot. His parents probably see me as a bad influence who isn't good enough for their son.
It also doesn't help that this is his first serious relationship, and doesn't really know how to handle it. He's a bit clueless when it comes to the opposite sex.
I really am afraid that what you've said is true. That this is how it will be, even after he moves out. But, there is also the chance that things will change. I need to at least talk to him about this first.
Thanks for the advice.
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Things might look up for you after he gets his own house. He will be out from under parents watchful eye. Unless of course he moves next door to them (please no!).
I wouldn't give up on the relationship just yet. Just beware ya know. Talking is always good and you'll be doing a lot of it. Maybe he will enjoy the freedom once he moves out and will learn to make decissions on his own.
If his dad thinks you're sweet that is something at least. If he didn't like you I expect you would know it.
I sure do wish you good luck with this. Give it a little longer, just don't waste a lot of years on it or anything. :)
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this summer im moving from PA to Chicago. i need some tips to help myself get through this. like how to handle this kind of a change. thx a lot! (link)
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You have to look at it as the first of many adventures you will have in your life. You will be meeting new people, seeing new places and making new friends. You also get to keep all the old ones. Hope that helps some. :)
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ok so 2 of my best friends are mad at me because i keep hanging out with my best guy friend. The one friend told my friend melanie that i always talk about him and the only person i ever hang out with is him and i dont care about anything else but him. And that's not true. Am i doing anything wrong by spending so much time with him? (link)
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They will one day get boyfriends and do the same thing. Of course you want to spend most of your time with him, that's the whole idea of dating. I do think you need to spend some alone time with your girlfriends though. Explain your feelings to them and then go hang out for a couple of hours. :)
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There's this guy named Jeff and sometimes, he is soo nice and funny to me..but other times, he always tells me that I'm ugly..he says it in a "just kidding" voice but idk if he is being serious or if he really is just kidding. It hurts my feelings. What can I do? (link)
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You let him know that it hurts your feelings. Simple as that. If he continues then don't hang out with him anymore. :)
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I think im in love with my best friend. I have been since 7th grade (im in 8th grade now)and I thought I was over him. But then, everytime I see him I fall in love all over again. DO you think I should tell him how I feel? I am 5'6 and he is about 5'1. Im probably 40 pouds heavier...It is possible for a guy to like a girl that is bigger than them? PlEaSe HelP me out!! I RaTe FiVeS!! ~*~mAdDiE~*~
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I think it won't hurt to tell him. Guys like girls for many reasons and I don't think your being bigger than him will matter too much. :)
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ive liked this guy for a while .. but one of my friends has liked him for two years. even though me and her arent that close id still feel bad for making a move or anything even though he acts like he likes me too. i dont want to hurt her but i dont want to not have him either. what do i do? (link)
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I think you go for it. Unless she is actively dating him he is up fro grabs. So, if you like him let him no before someone else beats you to it. You can't steal something she doesn't have. :)
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i have this reallllly good guy friend and he likes me a lot. i feel bad denying him everytime he asks me to go on a date or anything but it just would feel wierd for me. he says im leading him on because i flirt too much but thats the way i am with all guys. i kinda cant help it. do i give him a chance or stick with the no? how can i stop flirting with him when i dont want him? (link)
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Some people are just flirty people. Maybe you're one of those. Nothing wrong with it but it may be sending him mixed signals. :)
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I met up again with a boy I had been talking to online for a while an hadn't seen in a bit. He was totally ecstatic to see me! He gave me the best hug of my life and all. But ever since, our conversations have been duller and there are more gaps. He told me before we met that he was starting to really have a serious crush on me, and I felt so happy because I had liked him for a while. But I can't tell if I did anything wrong or anything. Is he losing interest in me? How can I tell if his crush is growing, shrinking, or not progressing? (link)
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I'm gonna guess it's going to taper off and die. I don't think you did anything wrong, I think maybe he thought you didn't hit it off very good.
I would definitely discuss it with him next time you get the chance...there could be valid reasons, just be prepared just in case okay?
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