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Overbearing Parents(continued)
Hi, this is a continuation from the overbearing parents question.
First, no, I'm not a religious person. Before I met him I was content to never go to church, and to be perfectly honest, I don't know whether or not I believe in god. This was the first thing that caused problems for us, and he did not want to date me at first, until he got to know me more. He knows how I feel about religion, and knows that I might not ever believe... it does not take over his entire life, but he was raised in a very old fashioned kind of way-no sex before marriage, always holding doors open for me, and other stuff that I can't think of right now :)
He also knows that I don't agree in no sex before marriage, because I believe that you need to know that your compatable with someone in EVERY aspect of your lives before commiting yourself to them for your entire life. We've talked about all of this stuff, and settled on it for now.
The only thing we haven't talked about is the family thing. I can see this being a very touchy subject, and, really, we haven't been dating very long (only a few months)
As for the house thing, he's saving for the down payment. He really does have everything set for that- his sister in law is a realtor, and his mother works with people who have him hooked up with good people to get him financing and all that good junk. And, if he can't afford to buy, he is going to be renting, at least by the end of summer.
I can definatly see him going to his parents when it comes to decisions, especially who he marries. This scares me because I really am not a very "pure" person. I have no idea what they think of me really, his father said I seem sweet, but that doesn't mean a whole lot. His parents probably see me as a bad influence who isn't good enough for their son.
It also doesn't help that this is his first serious relationship, and doesn't really know how to handle it. He's a bit clueless when it comes to the opposite sex.
I really am afraid that what you've said is true. That this is how it will be, even after he moves out. But, there is also the chance that things will change. I need to at least talk to him about this first.
Thanks for the advice.
-selectopaque
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Things might look up for you after he gets his own house. He will be out from under parents watchful eye. Unless of course he moves next door to them (please no!).
I wouldn't give up on the relationship just yet. Just beware ya know. Talking is always good and you'll be doing a lot of it. Maybe he will enjoy the freedom once he moves out and will learn to make decissions on his own.
If his dad thinks you're sweet that is something at least. If he didn't like you I expect you would know it.
I sure do wish you good luck with this. Give it a little longer, just don't waste a lot of years on it or anything. :)
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