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did i do anything wrong?
ok so 2 of my best friends are mad at me because i keep hanging out with my best guy friend. The one friend told my friend melanie that i always talk about him and the only person i ever hang out with is him and i dont care about anything else but him. And that's not true. Am i doing anything wrong by spending so much time with him?
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your freinds are jelous of your having a boyfreind. and they are hurt because you dont have as much time to spend w/ them.
hope i helped. o_o
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They will one day get boyfriends and do the same thing. Of course you want to spend most of your time with him, that's the whole idea of dating. I do think you need to spend some alone time with your girlfriends though. Explain your feelings to them and then go hang out for a couple of hours. :)
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I understand that your friends may be feeling a little hurt right now because you don't seem to be paying as much attention to them as you normally do.
You can talk to them. You can tell them how much you care about them, that you value their friendship, and try to talk a little more about them. And maybe you should spend some more time with them. Maybe you should designate a specific day or night of the week where it's "girls only." Then your friends can see just how much you care about them, because you are designating a specific time...just for them.
However, I would like to state that you are doing nothing wrong. I think that you know that all ready. You can be friends with whoever you want to be friends with, and you can spend as much time with them as you want. Your friends need to learn to share. If you had to spend all your time with them, wouldn't you be neglecting your other friend? Is that fair?
No. People need to realize that their friends have lives too. Just because we can't spend all our time with them doesn't mean that we don't love them. And just because we spend more time with one friend more than the other, doesn't mean that we don't care. For example...
I am rarely able to see or talk to my friends now-a-days. A lot of that has to do with the fact that I am an adult. I have a job, bills, and things that I really need to do. Just today I went to a friends house to watch a movie. After the movie was over we talked for a little while and I went home. I would have loved to have been able to stay longer, but I had to go home to prepare for an interview that I have tomorrow. Guess what? My friend understood. His feelings weren't hurt.
And when it comes to other friends...Some of my girlfriends have special guy friends. I've noticed that when the two of them are getting along well, I don't hear from them as often. It doesn't mean that they aren't my friend or they don't care about me. If they don't call for a while, or I don't get to see them very often, no big deal. They have a life too. I have to share.
Okay, I'm done ranting now...Sorry this so long :P
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hey well i think that if they were real friends they wouldnt get mad at you because i mean you can have all the friends you want but your not doing anything wrong you just like to hang out with him alot i do that sometimes too!or maybe you should just tell your friends that you like to hang out with him and if they have a problem then ohh well! its okay everything will be fine! hope it works out
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Maby you should start spending less time with him and more time with your friends. It's probably hurting their fealings you're not spending as much time with them as with your guy friend.
Hope I helped!
Cat
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